Man Alive

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Ted Bunch, is the Chief Development Officer of A Call to Men. He is a leading voice on male socialization, the intersection of masculinity and violence, and healthy, respectful manhood. Ted is the co-author of The Book of Dares: 100 Ways For Boys to be Kind, Bold and Brave. The book has been called "a direct answer to parents' cries for building healthy masculinity, respect, and emotional literacy in their sons."

Many men did not grow up feeling safe to reveal all parts of themselves. They are then tempted to hide their hopes, fears, desires and emotions.

The Man Box is now understood as a way to view the limiting persona and characteristics many men have been trained to emulate. Whether its parents, teachers, media, or the culture, the message has been clear for many generations: In order to be manly, you have to be strong and tough. You can't fall apart, need help or ask for it.

Thankfully times are changing. You are likely seeing and hearing more organizations and people talking about the importance of welcoming men's vulnerability. Today's conversation is an important one to support men to be free from cultural limitations, creating more safety and well-being for all. We discussed:

• How being socialized into cultures of sexism hurts everyone, including men
• Ways to welcome your kids emotions and authenticity
• What it will take to decrease the astronomical rate of men's anxiety, depression and suicide
• The importance of speaking up rather than staying silent
• The Book of Dares and integrating A Call to Men's principles into communities

When you're done with this episode, I highly recommend watching my TEDx talk called: What 1,000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women. It's important that you're supported in your vulnerability and this talk is a great first step. Men and women have expressed how helpful this was for them to hear!

Connect with Ted Website: https://www.acalltomen.org/

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Today's Man Alive podcast guests, Dominick Quartuccio and Bryan Stace, are the founders of the Great Man Within Podcast and community. Each has their own story of resisting men's groups, but fast forward a few years and each has found incredible support, strength and freedom as they've joined communities of men.

Many men have "shoot the shit over beers" relationships, or "hang out and play sports" relationships with other men in their lives. And it's common, when men first hear about men's groups, to think "hell no, I don't want any of that emotional shit," or "No way am I going to 'open up' about my struggles or secrets with other men."

Whether it's a men's group, or hanging out with men in a way that goes beyond shooting the shit, time with men is vital to your well-being and success as a man.

In this conversation we talked about:

• The sense of emptiness or deadness men, who are doing everything they thought they should, often feel
• Why taking the lone-wolf path is slower and less effective than being part of a community of men
• The power of seeing another man express emotions and realizing you're not the only one who feels that way
• Why men resist joining communities of men
• The role of competition in both men's success AND unhappiness

Connect with Dominick and Bryan Website: https://www.thegreatmanmastermind.com/your-guide

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, former NFL athlete Anthony Trucks, helps people make SHIFT happen! He sees possibilities where others see limitations. He boldly and humbly walks his talk. Anthony had an incredibly challenging childhood and has created a 7-figure business, helping people achieve their goals, while continuing to prioritize his kids and having a positive impact on the world. The roots of success are deeper than most people realize. If you're attempting to be more successful by managing your actions, but haven't looked at who you are and why you do what you do, today's episode with Anthony Trucks is for you. He lays out the path to success and achieving your goals. In this conversation we talked about:

• Recognizing who you actually are as the door to success, joy and fulfillment
• What it takes to make consistent and sustainable shifts in your life
• How to up-level your identity, rather than settle for its limitations
• The uniqueness of the SHIFT method's everyday doable actions
• Anthony's personal journey walking his talk and applying the SHIFT Method to parenting

Connect with Anthony Website: https://anthonytrucks.com/

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

• What has created success and happiness in Larry's 24-year relationship with his wife
• How to cultivate patience and the ability to be calm and clear, rather than explode with your kids
• What men can do to shift from complaining and frustration to empowerment and clarity
• How to communicate in a way that allows your spouse and kids to open up and trust you with deeply personal stuff
• Common pitfalls dads stumble into on the parenting journey

• What happiness actually is and how to have more of it
• How to escape "man box culture" and its painful limitations
• Realistic optimism -- what it is and why it allows you to be happier
• How to tune into more positive emotions so you can feel better for longer
• Men who bring their emotions to the workplace and are respected for it

Erectile dysfunction is something many men experience but few men talk about. In this episode you'll learn about a natural support for getting help with ED.

The holidays are a time of year when life can be more challenging than ever. How can men find support and get through these hard times, coming out even stronger and more empowered? Today's podcast guest Kenny Mammerella-D'Cruz talks about tools he has created to help get men through the holidays and other hard times.

It often takes a major crisis for a man to be willing to ask for or get help. Today's Man Alive podcast guest helps men through challenges and to find the surprising possibilities that open up on the other side, including more passion, power and inspiration.

There is a painful dynamic that can happen between men and women where a woman becomes resentful, bitchy or mean and a man feels like he can't do anything right. In today's podcast Melanie Curtin and I explore why this happens and what a man can do to end this dynamic!

Tantra is a powerful and ancient practice that brings consciousness to your life as a whole as well as your sex life. Tantric teachings help you become a better person and a better lover. Learn the gateways to a woman's pleasure and expand your own pleasure and intimacy.