In this episode, we are chatting about something we can all relate to at one point or another and that is breakups. I'm interviewing Amalia Miralrío who is a therapist in private practice based out of Detroit, Michigan and serving Michigan and Pennsylvania virtually. She specializes in helping women, queer, and trans individuals overcome the belief that they have to be perfect to be lovable after a breakup. Breakups can have a huge impact on your mental health, self-esteem, and day-to-day life. Learn how to get through these difficult times and manage your mental health.

“I absolutely believe you can get to a place of seeing the end of the relationship as a misalignment of values, as something that wasn't compatible and it's not about one person not being good enough for the other person.” - Amalia Miralrío

 

Timestamps

2:34 - The two parts in a breakup and in the healing process 4:23 - Melanie’s breakup from a nine-year relationship and the importance of having a support system 7:30 - Overcoming the shame that you may feel after a breakup plus tips on how to take care of yourself 9:15 - How to get through emotional landmines 12:58 - Tips to help you heal and let go of the lost dreams/fantasies 16:18 - What is Sunk Cost Fallacy and how it hinders you from moving on 19:50 - How to take advantage of being alone/free and grow 24:58 - Ways to boost your self-esteem after getting dumped 29:07 - How Melanie rebuilt her self-love and confidence after her breakup 31:35 - Why people break up over money 34:13 - When is the best time to start dating again 38:01 - The importance of knowing your attachment style for future dating/relationship

Resources

• The Runaway Bride
• Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
• The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships by Diane Poole Heller
• How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Mental and Financial Health in a Relationship: An Interview with Ginger Dean of Loving Me After We

Connect with Amalia

• amitydetroitcounseling.com
• Instagram

Connect with Melanie

• mentalhealthandwealth.com
• melanielockert.com
• Instagram
• Contact: [email protected]

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