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  • How a Man Should Lead and Protect His Home | MMC53

     

    In this episode of the Manlihood Mancast, Josh Hatcher talks about what it means to be a Gatekeeper.

    Men have a special role in their families that they often neglect. There are outside forces that influence your families – and what comes into your home needs to go through you. You are the keeper of the gate – the man who determines what influences are allowed to pass through.

    Media / Mindsets /.Mouths / Math  - As the Gatekeeper in your home - all of these things have to get by you. It’s up to you to draw lines, keep the riff raff out, and to protect your family from harmful influences on the outside, and from harmful attitudes and behaviours on the inside.

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    14 min
  • A Question of When | MMC52

    In this episode of the Manlihood Mancast, Josh Hatcher talks about the question of WHEN.

    It’s really a question of when.

    When to be vulnerable / when to be tough.

    If you’ve listened to my other podcasts, you know I’m not a fan of the word vulnerable. I prefer authenticity. But that’s another episode, and you can go listen to it yourself.

    For the sake of clarity - let’s use the use the word vulnerable.


    When should you be vulnerable, and show your weaknesses, and how does that contrast to when you should steel your resolve and show your strength?

    I think it’s important to have a trusted circle of people who see and know your struggles and your vulnerabilities. Even men need a friend they can cry with on a very rare occasion. You don’t have to trust EVERYBODY. But you should be working on building the kind of relationships that support your vulnerabilities.  Think about a Danish Shield Wall on the battlefield. They’re all pretty exposed from behind, but they work together to fend off attackers.

    Sometimes, you have to suck it up. You have to put the emotion and the weakness on the shelf, and face the battles head on.



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    13 min
  • No More Mr. Nice Guy | MMC51

    In this episode of the Manlihood Mancast, Josh Hatcher talks about the difference between Nice and Kind.

    There is a difference between being "nice" and being "kind."

    I'd rather be "kind" than be "nice."

    Kindness is intentional and outward. It takes courage to be kind. It takes action and it doesn't always do what everyone else wants.

    Niceness is passive, and receptive. It doesn't take effort, and it doesn't require action. It doesn't rock the boat.

    They may seem like subtle differences, but the mindset between being "nice" and being "kind" are very different.

    People frequently describe me as a “nice guy.”


    But I don’t think they understand the difference.

    You don’t have to be a pushover.
    You don’t have to keep your mouth shut when someone needs to hear the truth.
    You don’t have to always be agreeable and compliant.

    It’s okay to stand up for yourself, and others. It’s okay to fight for what’s right.

    It’s also okay to treat people with kindness, and respect, and to go out of your way to smile and show love to people. This does not indicate weakness, or submission.

    Finding this balance, I believe is the key that unlocks many many things.

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    9 min
  • Things You Need to Know About Being a Dad | MMC50

     

    In this episode of the Manlihood Mancast, Josh Hatcher tells us what you need to know about being a dad.

    Got kids? Listen, to father a child is simple. Anyone with the right equipment can impregnate a woman.


    But that does not mean that fatherhood is simple. There’s a few things you need to know about being a dad.

    1. This matters. A lot. 

    https://thefatherlessgeneration.wordpress.com/statistics/

    2. Don’t just BE there, BE INVOLVED

    3. Discipline equals freedom

    4. This is hard.

    5. But it’s worth it.

    6. If you wait till you’re ready, you never will.

    7. You have to choose.

     

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    Want more posts on Fatherhood?
    Welcome to Daddyhood Part 1
    Welcome to Daddyhood Part 2
    Welcome to Daddyhood Part 3

    Welcome to Daddyhood Part 4

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    19 min
  • Masculinity is Wild | MMC49
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    In this episode of the Manlihood Mancast, Josh Hatcher talks about what it means to be WILD.
    To be wild, to hear the heartbeat of nature, to feel the rush of adrenal strength, to drink from the fresh air and howl at the moon – these are things that are embedded into men.
    The Call
    Men are wild, mighty, and fierce. Yet our culture wraps silky ropes around our necks, and shaves our faces, and trims our nails. The wildman isn’t quite socially acceptable. It’s not okay to have dirt under your fingernails, or to kill your own dinner.
    We don’t have to reject civilization entirely, there is a time and a place for manners and polite conversation and neckties and cologne.
    But I believe that all men, even the dandier, fluffier ones, have a call – drums beating in the distance – that beckons them into the wild.
    “But especially he loved to run in the dim twilight of the summer midnights, listening to the subdued and sleepy murmurs of the forest, reading signs and sounds as a man may read a book, and seeking for the mysterious something that called — called, waking or sleeping, at all times, for him to come.”
    ― Jack London, The Call of the Wild
    Fury. Sometimes, yes. Wild fury and righteous anger stirs up in the hearts of men. Driving them to action, to battle, to fight. Hopefully, it’s tempered with the code, with the order. Fury must be kept in check, and be used to propel justice, to free the oppressed, to protect.
    Tests of Strength. From the time boys are young, they enter contests, either alone or with their brothers, and their fathers – to see how strong they are. Wrestling, weightlifting, arm-wrestling, “bloody knuckles,” Chinese hot-hands, even thumb wrestling. This wild behavior may seem reminiscent of goats butting their heads against each other, or bears mawing at each other’s necks…. But it’s a part of who we are. We don’t necessarily outgrow it. And that rough and tumble tug-of-war helps shape us, helps bond us together, and helps remind us who we want on our side if there is a time to fight.
    The call of the wild pushes men to success. It drives men to be refreshed in nature. As long as we wrap it up in silk and lace and soap, it will still be there.
    “He was mastered by the sheer surging of life, the tidal wave of being, the perfect joy of each separate muscle, joint, and sinew in that it was everything that was not death, that it was aglow and rampant, expressing itself in movement, flying exultantly under the stars.”
    ― Jack London, The Call of the Wild
    “There is an ecstasy that marks the summit of life, and beyond which life cannot rise. And such is the paradox of living, this ecstasy comes when one is most alive, and it comes as a complete forgetfulness that one is alive.
    This ecstasy, this forgetfulness of living, comes to the artist, caught up and out of himself in a sheet of flame; it comes to the soldier, war-mad in a stricken field and refusing quarter; and it came to Buck, leading the pack, sounding the old wolf-cry, straining after the food that was alive and that fled swiftly before him through the moonlight.”
    ― Jack London, The Call of the Wild
    The Fire
    Something else that we’ve lost when our culture became civilized and pushed out the wild men – the fire.
    Today, we gather around the television and let people tell us stories, with the imagination already painted for us. Or we pretend to gather in virtual communities – typing with our thumbs and sending each other cat videos and poop emojis.
    But in the WILD – men gathered around a fire at the end of the evening. The fire cooked the food from the hunt. It kept the predators away. It kept the tribe warm.
    But more importantly than that, it united them. It gave them communion with each other, with the stories of their ancestors.
    They laughed, sang, and told stories while the little ones fell asleep in daddy’s lap.
    Generations later, we brought the fire from the outside to the inside, in stone hearths. Our tribes
    19 min
  • How to Find a Good Woman | MMC48

    A good woman is hard to find.  Or is she?

    In this episode of the Manlihood Mancast, Josh Hatcher talks about ten things you need to know about getting a good woman.

    1. Start by making yourself a better man
    2. Be satisfied in who you are without her
    3. Know what you want - Make a list
    4. Once a cheater, always a cheater
    5. Don’t date crazy
    6. Consider the source
    7. Intentionally and deliberately get to know her
    8. Guard your heart
    9. Be careful with commitment
    10. Friendship first

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      22 min
    11. How should a man get his Validation? | MMC47
      Josh read the poem "Validation" and talks about what it means to seek validation and honor from external sources versus an internal source.
      Validation
      Young man. Old man.
      Listen.
      You want validation.
      To have a rubber stamp on your forehead to confirm what you think is true.
      Ink on paper, in your skin. Knowing nods. Framed sheepskin. Lifted pickups.
      Listen, son.
      Listen.
      No man is an island. No man is a rock.
      I understand you want the whole to acknowledge you. To recognize you. To give you honor, even in the slightest.
      But no man can give you
      What must come from you.
      Father's fears cut deep.
      Mother's tears burn hot.
      Family ties that bind can be a blessing, or can hang heavy like a millstone.
      To the depths.
      To the depths.
      Listen, son.
      I'll tell you what you need to hear.
      Even if it is not what you want to hear.
      No words can impart what your own lips are due.
      Honor is sometimes bestowed upon a man. Like an olive wreath, a medal pinned chest-high,
      A “good job” or “atta-boy” thrown in for good measure.
      But that honor is cheap. Those who have received it know its worth.
      Often those with a shoulder pat, or a trophy case know the truth.
      The trinkets, the shiny silver badges, the lipstick marks on their cheek, are not the honor itself.
      Son. Your honor, your validation flows from a spring inside you.
      It bubbles over, born in determination…
      building pressure from discipline..
      By the time it even sees sky, enough to glint in the sun and catch an eye, it has been guided along underground tunnels of consistency and persistence.
      Then, it flows out. Gets noticed. Gets recognized.
      “I just want someone to notice… to tell me I am what I am.”
      Son. Maybe you are not who you are, yet.
      All I can say is that if you want honor, you must recognize its source is in you.
      Clear the muddied well. Clean the paths of discipline. And do not stop.
      Say it.
      Out loud.
      So that your own ears can hear.
      “I am a man. I am enough. I am good.
      I will train myself. I will persist. I will be a victor.”
      Son. That is all the validation that you need.
      10 min
    13. When Should a Man Be a Follower? | Lion or Lamb Part 4 | MMC45
      Episode 45: Lion or Lamb - Part 4 - How and When to Follow
      We’ve often been told that men need to be the alpha. And this of course, relates to the idea that we need to be the most aggressive wolf (or lion) in the pack (or pride).
      They tell us to show now mercy, to build and demonstrate strength. To strive to lead at all costs.
      I don’t buy into the whole “alpha male” nonsense.
      What are we, animals?
      No. We are men! And men come in different strokes and sizes.
      If the whole pack of wolves was alpha… You know the pack would die right?
      There are different roles in the pack.
      And we are supposed to be better then the animals…. And they already know that everyone can’t be alpha!
      Sometimes, we need to live aggressively. Sometimes we need to lead the pack. But sometimes, we need to follow, to obey, to submit. To show compassion, to show mercy, to show love.
      Honestly, I think what we need more on this planet is more men that know when to lead, and when to follow.
      I think what we need in this world are men who don’t think of themselves higher than they are. Men who have the strength to fight and conquer, but the self-control to know when not to.
      Men who know when to lead and when to follow.
      http://www.manlihood.com/lion-or-lamb-how-and-when-to-follow/
      2 min
    14. Gentleman Doesn't Mean Pansy | Lion or Lamb Part 3 | MMC44
      Episode 44: Lion or Lamb: Part 3 - Gentleman Doesn’t Mean Pansy
      The word PANSY is often used to describe a weak man - but let’s make sure not to equate that title with the title of gentleman.
      My grandmother always told me that a pansy was actually a tough flower. It could stand against the cold, and grow in pretty adverse conditions… it still though has a reputation for being “girly” – and the flower’s name has been embedded culturally to imply weakness or a lack of masculinity.
      This civility does not erase the wild, passionate strength that lies in a man’s heart. A gentleman can hold his own in a bout of fisticuffs or fencing. He can heft a child on to his shoulders, pick up his bride to carry her over the threshhold, and defend the tender things he holds dear with ferocity and strength.
      My thoughts on this are two-fold.
      1. Just because you wear a tie to work, or drive a minivan, or eat kale – does not exempt you from the wilder side of manhood. Make sure that you know how to defend yourself and the things and people you love. Make sure you keep your physical body strong and ready to perform.
      2. Inversely, just because you are a strong and brave, do not neglect the tender touches needed in civilized life. Say Please and Thank you. Snuggle with your children. Read poetry. These things do not affect your ability to be manly. In fact, I believe they enhance them.
      http://www.manlihood.com/lion-or-lamb-gentleman-doesnt-mean-pansy/
      2 min

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