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Episode 33: Valentine's Day Massacre: How Not to Screw Up Your Romance Part 2

As we approach Valentine’s Day - let’s look at how we can prevent a Valentine’s Day Massacre.

How can we avoid the carnage of a bad romance? Sorry Lady Gaga, a bad romance is NOT a good thing…

Don’t be selfish.

Yes - you do have to take care of yourself. Yes - I know you have needs, too. But don’t let that be an excuse to neglect the person you are supposed to care about most.

In every area of your relationship - approach it with the goal of pleasing and meeting the needs of your partner first.

You may have to remind yourself, “It’s not about me. It’s not about me.”

If you BOTH do this - you’ll find that your relationship is running on all cylinders.

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Episode 32: Valentine's Day Massacre: How Not to Screw Up Your Romance Part 1

As we embrace the Holiday of St. Valentine’s Day, we are surrounded with pink hearts and cupid’s arrows, and chocolate - but the truth is - romance isn’t always so sweet and frilly. Real love takes hard work, and we’ve seen many times when the romance around us looks more like the St. Valentine’s Day Massacre than it does a Hallmark Movie.

Don’t screw it up! There are so many pitfalls that can murder your love story. Let’s start with the biggest one. DON’T CHEAT.

You would think that would be simple right? Then why do 22% of men, and 14 percent of women cheat on their significant other? Why do ⅓ of all marriages have an incident of infidelity?

Cheating starts long before the act. They start in your mind, when you start to think of someone else, and when you start to justify infidelity.

Want to prevent it? Start with correcting those errant thoughts when they pop in your head. Start by putting safeguards in place that prevent you from being in a position where anything COULD happen.

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Episode 31: ManCrush Monday - William Henry Harrison "Tippecanoe"

It’s Monday! That means it’s time to highlight a hero that exemplifies manly virtues - it’s MAN CRUSH MONDAY. Today’s hero was homeschooled, until he dropped out of medical school and joined the army.

Will’s connections got him a decent rank right off the bat, and he started commanding a unit of men that were defending an outpost against a hostile enemy. He was appointed as a chief negotiator with that enemy, and secured a treaty that ensured his country would maintain their land.

The skilled warrior and diplomat met his match in Anna, and at age 22, they tied the knot. Her father asked, “How do you plan to support my daughter?” And the young Will answered, “By my sword and right arm!”

That pledge proved to be true, as Will focused on diplomacy for several years, until a new enemy emerged. On the brink of the War of 1812, while his young nation was moving west, he fought off a surprise attack by the Shawnee, along the river that would give him his nickname, “Tippecanoe”

Eventually, he’d be elected president, an honor that suited both his diplomatic skills, and his ferocity on the battlefield.

Unfortunately, he died of pneumonia a month after taking office.

For his commitment to provide for his family, to honor his country, and to master both the art of war, and the art of peace, we give William Henry “Tippecanoe” Harrison our nod as this week’s Man Crush Monday

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Episode 30: Work: The Forgotten Virtue - Make a Time to Rest

Work is a virtue. And perhaps it’s one that has been forgotten. Certainly if we compare the attitudes of our grandfathers and great-grandfathers about work to the mindsets of our peers and our children, we’ll see a degradation of the values that once defined hard working men.

Part of the reason that people hate their jobs and hate their work, and are not as productive as they should be – is that they don’t make good use of their time outside of work. You may have to hustle and work two jobs from time to time – you may have a job that requires more overtime than you can handle – but you have to make time to rest. You have to make time to breathe, stretch, connect with friends and family, recharge spiritually.

If you don’t – then you’ll resent your job for keeping you from it. (Misplaced resentment, at that!)

Get yourself in check, get a good night’s sleep, and spend a little time once a week with the people and the things you love.

This post was originally published in March of 2015. Read the full post here:

https://www.manlihood.com/work-a-forgotten-virtue-make-a-time-for-rest/

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Episode 29 -- Work: The Forgotten Virtue - Your Work Matters

Work is a virtue. And perhaps it’s one that has been forgotten. Certainly if we compare the attitudes of our grandfathers and great-grandfathers about work to the mindsets of our peers and our children, we’ll see a degradation of the values that once defined hard working men.

Men, your work matters.

It matters what you do – and how hard you work. Even if you are working at a fast food drivethru – your work matters.

We need to treat our jobs as though they matter! Why?

People are depending on us to do our job. The toilet you scrub, the widgets you make, the burgers you make, the papers you write – they matter to someone. I know your boss might be a prick, and you might not feel valued. But you’ve got to make your own validation. Find your value, and the value in your work on your own – and recognize that someone is counting on your doing your job to the best of your ability.

You are depending on your income! Your job is paying you, and it’s providing for your needs and the needs of your family. That matters. If you treat it like it doesn’t matter – you might lose it. Your income matters, and so by default, the way you earn that income matters.

Men, even if your job is just a stepping stone – even if it’s a J-O-B on your way to a career – even if you HATE it – it matters. So treat it like it matters!

Remember – how it feels is not as important as what the truth is. So your feelings might tell you how much you hate your job. Counter those feelings with the truth – that your job matters.

This post was originally published in March of 2015. Read the full post here:

https://www.manlihood.com/work-a-forgotten-virtue-your-work-matters/

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If you want to be a better man - check out our website - Manlihood.com - for blogs, videos, and more from our Manlihood Team. Men, you can also join our private facebook group- Manlihood ManCave -where you can meet up with a band of brothers who will challenge you and help you on your journey of manhood.

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Our Manly theme music is from Austin Stirling and also from Mark Kroos.

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Episode 28 - Work: The Forgotten Virtue - Work Smarter Not Harder

Work is a virtue. And perhaps it’s one that has been forgotten. Certainly if we compare the attitudes of our grandfathers and great-grandfathers about work to the mindsets of our peers and our children, we’ll see a degradation of the values that once defined hard working men.

When I graduated, an older gentleman from my church hired me to work for his sawmill and stone quarry. He didn’t really need to work anymore, but working kept him entertained, and it gave him a chance to help me out, by giving me work to do. We made white pine shingles, and pulled out irregular flagstone out of a quarry on the hill.

I’d also do whatever odd jobs he needed, including carpentry work on his house, and landscaping.

One day, he noticed me shovelling a pile of dirt to the wrong spot –  he told me – “Never shovel the same pile of $%@! twice.”

Which being translated, means- if you are going to move something, put it in the right place the first time – rather than needing to move it twice.

That and the adage “Work Smarter, Not Harder” have stuck with me over the years. I realize that working hard is good – but it is important to stop and think about how the job can be simplified and done efficiently.

Mostly, it means that if we take some time to make lists, draw diagrams, think through the process, we can save ourselves a ton of heavy lifting!

Efficiency is a science – and I believe that the root of it is in the plan. Taking the time to think about the process, and plan out the moving parts saves a multitude of work.

This post was originally published in March of 2015. Read the full post here:

https://www.manlihood.com/work-a-forgotten-virtue-work-smarter-not-harder/.

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Episode 27 -  Work: The Forgotten Virtue - You Pick What You Plant

Work is a virtue. And perhaps it’s one that has been forgotten. Certainly if we compare the attitudes of our grandfathers and great-grandfathers about work to the mindsets of our peers and our children, we’ll see a degradation of the values that once defined hard working men.

There is an ancient principle that has been lost in time. “Whatever you sow, that you will also reap.”

To translate – “You PICK what you PLANT.”

This is true in every area of life – if you plant good seeds in your relationship with your wife, you’ll pick good fruit.  If you plant tomatoes, you’ll pick tomatoes!

The same is true in your work. If you invest your energy and your time into your job, you’ll receive the reward of a paycheck.

But beyond that – if you go over and above – you’ll get it back. It might seem hard to imagine if your boss is sucky. I tend to think that it works universally. If you go over and above and do the best job possible – it will in time pay off. Even if it’s not directly from your employer.

If you plant seeds of griping, complaining, gossipping, and half-assing – what kind of fruit do you think you will pick? Chances are good that it might be unemployment!

It’s a principle that will prove true across the board in your life. Keep in mind, that good seed takes time, and nurturing to grow!

This post was originally published in March of 2015. Read the full post here:

http://www.manlihood.com/work-a-forgotten-virtue-you-pick-what-you-plant/

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Episode 26 - Man Crush Monday - Whose Land is it?

Woodrow loved his mother. What little boy didn’t? But things weren’t always rosy at home. During his youth, his sister was burned to death, after her clothes caught fire during a family argument.

But his mother? He was just 14 when his mom was taken off to be institutionalized. Woodrow didn’t know that her dementia was caused by Hutingdon’s Disease, and that it would eventually cripple and kill her. Dad was off in Texas working to repay his debts, leaving Woodrow and his siblings to beg for food and work odd jobs just to get by.

When he befriended a black shoe-shine boy with a harmonica, he realized that George could teach him a lesson or two about how to get by on the streets, and so he bought his own harmonica, and sang for his supper. His dad would have had an issue with his choice of friends, though, I’m sure. In fact, a year before young Woodrow was born, his father, a member of the KKK had been involved with the lynching of a black man.

Woodrow dropped out of school, and opted for homeschool, spending his time busking for cash on the streets, and reading at the local library.

But this was Oklahoma, and the Dust Bowl was looming. As Woodrow entered adulthood, his home was engulfed in drought and poverty, and he was swept up in the Oklahoma migration to California - Grapes of Wrath style.

In the face of such poverty, it’s no wonder he was drawn to the ideas of communism. Which promises equality for all men, even if historically, it doesn’t always deliver.

Eventually Woodrow’s musical skills would land him a job playing hillbilly music on the radio. But his communist sympathies would eventually get him fired.

That didn’t stop him though, from loving America, even if his views were different than most. He travelled the country, playing folk songs, and eventually settled in with the artistic community in New York City. Where he penned a patriotic song that would echo for years to come - resonating with friends on both sides of the aisle.

“This Land is Your Land. This Land is My Land” is still sung these days, and it’s both a sentimental picture of America’s beauty, and a stinging statement about poverty.

For telling stories, writing songs, and surviving in the face of some of our nation’s hardest times - today’s Man Crush Monday is Woodrow - Woody Guthrie.

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Episode 25: Watch your mouth!

Men, The words you speak have power – and they affect what happens in your life!

Passive people don’t bother controlling their mouths. They let their mouths control THEM. These are the kinds of words that come out of the mouth of passive men.

1. Gossip- Talking about someone else’s business – whether it is true or not is gossip. Bottom line is – if it’s not your business – then you should not be talking about it!

2. Anger- There is a time and a place for anger. It’s a valid emotion, and there are proper ways to express it. But more often than not - we should just shut up, rather than snap at people we love.

3. Criticism- We hate it when people tell us how to do our job – but we’re often full of criticism toward others. We ride our kids about their grades, their appearance, their chores. We gripe about our wives, we complain about our jobs and or bosses, and our employees. Their work and effort is never enough. When you die – your family will remember the words you have spoken. Do you want them to remember all the times you told them how to stack the plates? Or do you want them to remember how good you made them feel when they did something right?

The truth is we need to replace these words with the kind of words that make a positive difference! Let’s offer words that resolve conflicts, that encourage people, and build them up. Make it a point to think before you speak!

This post was originally published in February of 2015. Read the full post here:

http://www.manlihood.com/the-perils-of-passivity-watch-your-mouth/

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Episode 24: What you think – you ARE

Your mind is a powerful thing. I’m not talking about Uri Gellar spoon bending stuff. I’m talking about the fact that what you think about affects your actions and your behaviors. What we need is mind-control – more accurately – self-control.

If you think about something, you’ll be drawn to it. That hot girl at work? Fantasize about her, and you’ll be drawn to her. That cigarette? That donut? Yeah.

Thoughts pop into our head, and then we chose to reject them, or entertain them.

“Sit down and stay awhile! Have a cup of coffee!”

I guess what we need to do is treat some of our thoughts like door to door salesmen. If someone comes to your door and asks if he can come inside and throw some dirt on your floor to demonstrate his vaccuum cleaner – you would probably tell him “No thanks! See you later!”

And yet – if a friend stopped by with a meatloaf and wanted to visit – we’d say “Come on in!”

We need to stop being PASSIVE about what thoughts can take residence in our head.

Here’s a good checklist.

Is it true?

Is it honorable?

Is it just?

Is it pure?

Is it caring?

Is it commendable?

Is it good?

Is it worth sharing?

A PASSIVE mind let’s itself be raped and abused by thoughts that don’t belong there.

Do your thoughts say harsh and cruel things about yourself? Do they say harsh and cruel things about others? Are they full of anger and spite? Are they full of illicit sex? Are they selfish?

If so – chances are good that whatever you LET in your head will eventually come OUT in your life.

Don’t let those kinds of thoughts settle in. Kick them out. Replace them with GOOD thoughts.

This post was originally published in February of 2015. Read the full post here: http://www.manlihood.com/the-perils-of-passivity-what-you-think-you-are/