Moving For Smarties

Mariette Frey breaks down how to decide whether to move furniture or sell it before a long-distance relocation, using the example of Kate’s move from Chicago to New York City. The episode weighs cash, time, and urban moving logistics so listeners can avoid spending more to transport belongings than they are worth.

Chapters

00:00 The move-it-or-sell-it question: Kate’s Chicago-to-NYC move
01:43 Why moving containers get complicated in dense cities
02:35 Four-hour loading windows, permits, and urban moving pressure
04:00 Compare the full cost: cash, time, and logistics
04:27 A rule of thumb for deciding what to keep or sell
04:56 Next episode: how waiting six months can save thousands

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Moving For Smarties helps you decide whether to relocate, and how to do it well. Host Mariette Frey of Mariette's On The Move teaches the FRED Framework (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through step-by-step playlists you can binge like a class.

Two kinds of episodes:
• Coaching episodes: the tools and frameworks to make a values-aligned move.
• Interview episodes: real conversations with first-time buyers, repeat movers, and industry experts about the human side of moving.

Want more support? Join The Smart Move Society, our free community, or explore 1:1 coaching.

The Smart Move Society (free): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about
Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching
Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/
Favorites: https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/
Interviews from Seasons 1-3: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4C6SC0wEeY_EV4QBx5P6zA

Your moving money might already be in your life. It's just trapped inside your debt.

In Episode 5, Kate has $20,000 in student loans, plus credit card debt and a car payment. She knows what her move to New York City will cost. Now she needs to pay for it without sinking deeper into debt. Enter the debt snowball.

In this episode:
• The 5-step debt snowball, explained simply
• How Kate sold what she didn't need to get her first win
• Why paying off debt before you move lowers your costs, protects you if your income dips, and helps your credit when you apply to rent or buy
• Why linking your payoff to your dream keeps you going
• When to target your highest-interest debt first instead

Your challenge: Pick your smallest debt. Plan it. Attack it.

Chapters:
0:00 Your move money is trapped in your debt
0:32 The debt snowball in 5 steps
1:02 How Kate got her first win
1:32 Why paying off debt matters before you move
1:57 Link it to your dream (BUDget = BUDding)
2:28 Your challenge, plus the high-interest option
2:54 Next episode: sell your stuff or haul it?

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Moving For Smarties helps you decide whether to relocate, and how to do it well. Host Mariette Frey of Mariette's On The Move teaches the FRED Framework (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through step-by-step playlists you can binge like a class.

Two kinds of episodes:
• Coaching episodes: the tools and frameworks to make a values-aligned move.
• Interview episodes: real conversations with first-time buyers, repeat movers, and industry experts about the human side of moving.

Want more support? Join The Smart Move Society, our free community, or explore 1:1 coaching.

The Smart Move Society (free): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about
Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching
Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/
Favorites: https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/
Interviews from Seasons 1-3: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4C6SC0wEeY_EV4QBx5P6zA

Mariette Frey explains why big-city moving quotes often leave out substantial costs, drawing on her experience living in New York, San Francisco, and Chicago. She breaks down four hidden-fee categories - movers, cities, buildings, and landlords - and shares a practical checklist for avoiding surprise charges and protecting yourself from moving scams.

00:00 Why big-city moving quotes miss the real cost
01:34 Mover access fees: shuttles, long carries, and stairs
03:01 City costs: Manhattan tolls and parking permits
04:26 High-rise building deposits and move-day rules
06:05 Landlord fees, broker costs, and rent fine print
07:30 Hostage loads and protections for interstate moves
08:26 How to verify a mover and spot a broker
08:45 The five checks to make before booking a move
10:13 Ask what isn’t on the quote

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Moving For Smarties helps you decide whether to relocate, and how to do it well. Host Mariette Frey of Mariette's On The Move teaches the FRED Framework (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through step-by-step playlists you can binge like a class.

Two kinds of episodes:
• Coaching episodes: the tools and frameworks to make a values-aligned move.
• Interview episodes: real conversations with first-time buyers, repeat movers, and industry experts about the human side of moving.

Want more support? Join The Smart Move Society, our free community, or explore 1:1 coaching.

The Smart Move Society (free): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about
Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching
Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/
Favorites: https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/
Interviews from Seasons 1-3: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4C6SC0wEeY_EV4QBx5P6zA

Ready to explore a new city—but not sure where to start? In this episode of Moving for Smarties, Mariette Frey shares 5 websites to help you research places to live, compare cost of living, assess neighborhoods, and check whether a city might even offer incentives to move there. This is research, not a commitment: gather the information first, then use it to make a more grounded decision.

In this episode:

- Find potential cities that fit your priorities

- Compare cost of living and the salary you may need

- Use city statistics thoughtfully—and treat online forums as one - perspective, not the whole story

- Check neighborhood walkability, bikeability, and transit access

- Compare neighborhoods and look for possible relocation incentives

- Apply the research to Kate’s Chicago-to-New-York move

Resources mentioned:

Livability.com

BestPlaces.net

City-Data.com

WalkScore.com

AreaVibes.com

MakeMyMove.com

Chapters:

00:00 Research your dream city—no commitment required

00:30 Five city-research sites to explore

00:54 Livability.com: discover cities that fit your priorities

01:50 BestPlaces.net: compare cost of living and salary

03:12 City-Data.com: use statistics, approach forums carefully

04:11 WalkScore.com: check walkability, biking, and transit

05:09 AreaVibes.com: compare neighborhoods

05:36 Bonus: MakeMyMove.com relocation incentives

06:33 A step-by-step workflow for using the sites

07:27 Match neighborhoods to your lifestyle

07:49 Kate’s example: Chelsea costs and car savings

08:49 Compare other neighborhoods and expenses

09:18 Keep the research exploratory

09:45 Join the Smart Move Society

Subscribe for more practical relocation guidance, and join the free Smart Move Society at movingforsmarties.com.

Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/

The Smart Move Society (free community): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about

Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching

Favorites: https://https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/

Interviews from Seasons 1-3 on YouTube: / @mariettesonthemove

Moving For Smarties, hosted by Mariette Frey of Mariette’s On The Move, started as an interview-driven podcast exploring the real stories behind relocation, reinvention, and life transitions. Across 60+ conversations with first-time homebuyers, repeat movers, industry experts, and everyday people navigating major life changes, this show opens the curtain on what moving is really like—from the joyful and exciting to the unexpected, chaotic, and downright overwhelming.

Both shows work together:

• (The old) Mariette’s On The Move = Interviews and real conversations about lived experiences.

• (The new) Moving For Smarties = the coaching, tools, and frameworks to help you make a values-aligned move.

Whether you’re preparing for a move, considering a major life shift, or simply love hearing the behind-the-scenes stories of people rebuilding their lives, you’re in the right place.

For deeper support, join The Smart Move Society, a community that offers group coaching, 1:1 coaching options, workshops, and city-focused guidance to help you relocate with confidence. Find it on our website.

Have a topic you'd like me to discuss? Send me a text here!

Moving For Smarties helps you decide whether to relocate, and how to do it well. Host Mariette Frey of Mariette's On The Move teaches the FRED Framework (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through step-by-step playlists you can binge like a class.

Two kinds of episodes:
• Coaching episodes: the tools and frameworks to make a values-aligned move.
• Interview episodes: real conversations with first-time buyers, repeat movers, and industry experts about the human side of moving.

Want more support? Join The Smart Move Society, our free community, or explore 1:1 coaching.

The Smart Move Society (free): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about
Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching
Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/
Favorites: https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/
Interviews from Seasons 1-3: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4C6SC0wEeY_EV4QBx5P6zA

This is the Moving For Smarties YouTube Channel Finances Playlist, Episode 2

This episode emphasizes the importance of understanding your financial baseline to make informed decisions about your future. Mariette Frey guides listeners through a practical exercise to assess debts, savings, income, and tax rates, highlighting how knowing your numbers can reduce overwhelm and improve financial confidence.

I give a shout out to my financial advisor, Matthew Personette from Edelman Financial Engines in Oakbrook Terrace, IL. Call their office to set up an appointment with him! www.EdelmanFinancialEngines.com

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the importance of knowing your financial baseline

02:18 The impact of state and city taxes on your paycheck

04:01 Surprising local taxes in New York City and other states

06:04 Questions to reflect on your financial motivations

07:23 The importance of a financial safety net

08:13 Next steps: researching and planning for moving

Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/

The Smart Move Society (free community): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about

Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching

Favorites: https://https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/

Interviews from Seasons 1-3 on YouTube:   / @mariettesonthemove  

Moving For Smarties, hosted by Mariette Frey of Mariette’s On The Move, started as an interview-driven podcast exploring the real stories behind relocation, reinvention, and life transitions. Across 60+ conversations with first-time homebuyers, repeat movers, industry experts, and everyday people navigating major life changes, this show opens the curtain on what moving is really like—from the joyful and exciting to the unexpected, chaotic, and downright overwhelming.

Have a topic you'd like me to discuss? Send me a text here!

Moving For Smarties helps you decide whether to relocate, and how to do it well. Host Mariette Frey of Mariette's On The Move teaches the FRED Framework (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through step-by-step playlists you can binge like a class.

Two kinds of episodes:
• Coaching episodes: the tools and frameworks to make a values-aligned move.
• Interview episodes: real conversations with first-time buyers, repeat movers, and industry experts about the human side of moving.

Want more support? Join The Smart Move Society, our free community, or explore 1:1 coaching.

The Smart Move Society (free): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about
Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching
Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/
Favorites: https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/
Interviews from Seasons 1-3: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4C6SC0wEeY_EV4QBx5P6zA

YouTube's Moving For Smarties Channel, Episode 1 of the Finances p

This episode introduces Kate, a 20-something Broadway hopeful in Chicago who is deciding whether to move to New York City now or wait until her finances are stronger. Using Kate’s situation to show why money is often less about raw dollars and more about clarity, timing, and the long-term cost of a move. Across this introduction to the Finances playlist, you get the roadmap for the full nine-episode module and the key idea behind it: build a financial foundation before you pack a single box.

Key topics

In this episode, Mariette frames money as a hidden reason relocations fail, not because people never have enough, but because they lack clarity. Kate’s situation is introduced as the central case study: she lives in Chicago, dreams of Broadway in New York, and is facing a move with student loans, credit card debt, and a car payment. Mariette compares Kate’s current Chicago rent of $2,300 a month with a Chelsea studio that could run about $4,800 to $5,700 a month, showing how the rent gap can become roughly $40,000 a year.

The episode introduces the idea of a proof of concept move: Kate could downsize into a Chicago studio, sell extra belongings, and test whether she can handle a smaller space before committing to New York.

Mariette explains that paying down debt can improve credit, strengthen housing negotiations, and create a safety net if a new job or move does not work out.

The difference between price and cost is highlighted: a move may seem inexpensive upfront, but the wrong city or wrong financial foundation can create years of hidden cost.

00:00 - Kate’s big move question: go now or wait

00:29 - Student debt, credit cards, and a rent reality check

00:54 - Chicago rent versus a Chelsea studio

01:19 - Why downsizing first can test the move

01:46 - Proof of concept: living like future you now

02:12 - Debt as a hidden anchor and safety net issue

02:41 - Waiting six to ten months could save thousands

03:11 - What the next episode will cover: your financial baseline

03:41 - Meet Cooper and the community invitation

04:10 - Smart Move Society and what happens next

The Finances playlist is positioned as the second pillar of the Fred Framework, following the Dreams playlist.

Mariette previews the full nine-episode arc, from financial baseline and market research to hidden costs, debt snowball strategy, move logistics, and a final before-and-after game plan.

The core message repeats throughout: your past does not predict your future, and small decisions today can help future you thrive.

Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/

The Smart Move Society (free community): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about

Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching

Favorites: https://https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/

Interviews from Seasons 1-3 on YouTube: / @mariettesonthemove

Moving For Smarties, hosted by Mariette Frey of Mariette’s On The Move, started as an interview-driven podcast exploring the real stories behind relocation, reinvention, and life transitions. Across 60+ conversations with first-time homebuyers, repeat movers, industry experts, and everyday people navigating major life changes, this show opens the curtain on what moving is really like—from the joyful and exciting to the unexpected, chaotic, and downright overwhelming.

In the first 60 episodes, the show dives into the human side of moving: identity shifts, decision-making, financial realities, emotional resilience, community building, and the brave moment when someone decides, “It’s time to go.” These episodes are long-form, honest, and full of lived experience you won’t find in a checklist.

Moving forward, we're excited to bring you the more educational, structured, step-by-step side of relocation, and changing our name to Moving For Smarties. This show is bu

Have a topic you'd like me to discuss? Send me a text here!

Moving For Smarties helps you decide whether to relocate, and how to do it well. Host Mariette Frey of Mariette's On The Move teaches the FRED Framework (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through step-by-step playlists you can binge like a class.

Two kinds of episodes:
• Coaching episodes: the tools and frameworks to make a values-aligned move.
• Interview episodes: real conversations with first-time buyers, repeat movers, and industry experts about the human side of moving.

Want more support? Join The Smart Move Society, our free community, or explore 1:1 coaching.

The Smart Move Society (free): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about
Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching
Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/
Favorites: https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/
Interviews from Seasons 1-3: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4C6SC0wEeY_EV4QBx5P6zA

Welcome to Moving For Smarties, the podcast for people who are asking one of life’s biggest questions: should I stay or should I go? Should I pack, pause or pivot based on the FRED Framework where we start with Dreams Part 1, then reverse engineer you into the finances, robustness (mental and physical strength), ecosystem (what you had in your last community and what you'd like in your new community) and go back to dreams (to see if it's still the dream!).

If you haven't checked out the Dreams Pt 1 playlist, I'd encourage you to go through those videos first but if you have already gotten VERY clear on the dream by going through the Moving For Smarties workbook that you got by jumping on my mailer at movingforsmarties.com, dive into the finances playlist!

In the Finances playlist, we'll explore the financial considerations of relocating, emphasizing the importance of understanding both the price and the long-term cost of moving decisions. She introduces Kate, a fictional character, to illustrate how to evaluate moving options and financial readiness.

0:00 Why money can make or break a move

0:25 Price vs. cost: Shelby Sapp's sales lesson

1:05 Welcome to the Finances playlist

1:40 Meet Kate, our guide through this playlist

2:15 What's coming in the next 9 episodes

3:35 Your past doesn't predict your future, plus meet Cooper

Here's more about your host:

Mariette Frey, is a relocation coach, relocation strategist, certified life coach. This channel helps you make smarter, calmer, more confident decisions about moving to a new city, moving out of state, or starting over somewhere new.

In this episode we quote my favorite sales trainer,  @Shelbysappyt  Connect with her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/shelby.sapp?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&stkn=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==

Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/

The Smart Move Society (free community): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about

Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching

Favorites: https://https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/

Interviews from Seasons 1-3 on YouTube: / @mariettesonthemove

Moving For Smarties, hosted by Mariette Frey of Mariette’s On The Move, started as an interview-driven podcast exploring the real stories behind relocation, reinvention, and life transitions. Across 60+ conversations with first-time homebuyers, repeat movers, industry experts, and everyday people navigating major life changes, this show opens the curtain on what moving is really like—from the joyful and exciting to the unexpected, chaotic, and downright overwhelming.

In the first 60 episodes, the show dives into the human side of moving: identity shifts, decision-making, financial realities, emotional resilience, community building, and the brave moment when someone decides, “It’s time to go.” These episodes are long-form, honest, and full of lived experience you won’t find in a checklist.

Moving forward, we're excited to bring you the more educational, structured, step-by-step side of relocation, and changing our name to Moving For Smarties. This show is built as a bingeable class on YouTube and we're making it available everywhere you listen as well. We take the full FRED Framework journey (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through curated playlist paths that guide your decision-making from the ground up.

Have a topic you'd like me to discuss? Send me a text here!

Moving For Smarties helps you decide whether to relocate, and how to do it well. Host Mariette Frey of Mariette's On The Move teaches the FRED Framework (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through step-by-step playlists you can binge like a class.

Two kinds of episodes:
• Coaching episodes: the tools and frameworks to make a values-aligned move.
• Interview episodes: real conversations with first-time buyers, repeat movers, and industry experts about the human side of moving.

Want more support? Join The Smart Move Society, our free community, or explore 1:1 coaching.

The Smart Move Society (free): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about
Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching
Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/
Favorites: https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/
Interviews from Seasons 1-3: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4C6SC0wEeY_EV4QBx5P6zA

Mariette Frey closes out the first Dreams playlist with a practical courage check for anyone considering a move, a major life change, or a bigger version of themselves. She turns vague dreaming into four reality tests to help you figure out whether a dream is ready to become a plan.The episode focuses on time horizons, allies, researching a potential new city, and how to understand fear. Mariette’s aim: help you take small, thoughtful steps toward clarity—without rushing into a big commitment.

00:00 — Celebrating the courage of exploring your dreams

00:51 — Why testing turns a dream into a plan

01:17 — Test 1: Map your 5- and 10-year horizons

02:40 — Test 2: Identify 10 real allies

03:35 — Finding a moving buddy

04:30 — Test 3: Try a city before committing

05:43 — Test 4: What fear might be telling you

06:37 — Choose one small action for this week

07:30 — Find support in the Smart Move Society

08:15 — Write your “I am becoming” statement

09:25 — What comes next: finances, robustness, and community

10:46 — How exploring can show you that you don’t need to move

11:16 — The goal: clarity, not chaos

11:43 — More dream-building resources

12:58 — Share feedback and keep exploring

13:27 — Encourage someone else to dream

14:21 — Closing message and community invitation

Find Laura Sinclair at www.lauramakesmoves.com, Laura's been on the podcast a few times!

Check out FurnishedFinder.com for midterm rentals. Katie Lyon's episode aired on this podcast on 3/6/24, check that one out too!

Moving For Smarties, hosted by Mariette Frey of Mariette’s On The Move, started as an interview-driven podcast exploring the real stories behind relocation, reinvention, and life transitions. Across 60+ conversations with first-time homebuyers, repeat movers, industry experts, and everyday people navigating major life changes, this show opens the curtain on what moving is really like—from the joyful and exciting to the unexpected, chaotic, and downright overwhelming.

In the first 60 episodes, the show dives into the human side of moving: identity shifts, decision-making, financial realities, emotional resilience, community building, and the brave moment when someone decides, “It’s time to go.” These episodes are long-form, honest, and full of lived experience you won’t find in a checklist.

Moving forward, we're excited to bring you the more educational, structured, step-by-step side of relocation, and changing our name to Moving For Smarties. This show is built as a bingeable class on YouTube and we're making it available everywhere you listen as well. We take the full FRED Framework journey (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through curated playlist paths that guide your decision-making from the ground up.

Both shows work together:

• (The old) Mariette’s On The Move = real conversations and lived experiences.

• (The new) Moving For Smarties = the coaching, tools, and frameworks to help you make a values-aligned move.

Whether you’re preparing for a move, considering a major life shift, or simply love hearing the behind-the-scenes stories of people rebuilding their lives, you’re in the right place.

For deeper support, join The Smart Move Society, a community that offers group coaching, 1:1 coaching options, workshops, and city-focused guidance to help you relocate with confidence. Find it on our website.

Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/

The Smart Move Society (free community): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about

Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching

Favorites: https://https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/

Have a topic you'd like me to discuss? Send me a text here!

Moving For Smarties helps you decide whether to relocate, and how to do it well. Host Mariette Frey of Mariette's On The Move teaches the FRED Framework (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through step-by-step playlists you can binge like a class.

Two kinds of episodes:
• Coaching episodes: the tools and frameworks to make a values-aligned move.
• Interview episodes: real conversations with first-time buyers, repeat movers, and industry experts about the human side of moving.

Want more support? Join The Smart Move Society, our free community, or explore 1:1 coaching.

The Smart Move Society (free): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about
Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching
Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/
Favorites: https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/
Interviews from Seasons 1-3: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4C6SC0wEeY_EV4QBx5P6zA

In this episode, Mariette Frey guides listeners through a reflective exercise to clarify their dreams and identify the mental barriers that may be holding them back. She emphasizes the importance of understanding your identity, giving yourself permission to dream, and challenging limiting stories to create a path toward personal growth.

Dreams Part 1 Reflection Exercise:

1. What story are you telling yourself about yourself?

2. Are you the hero of that story, or is it full of doubt?

3. What evidence do you have that the opposite of that story might be true?

4. If you gave yourself full, unconditional permission to dream, what identity would you step into?

5. What does your future self look like — not just physically, but in posture, energy, and presence?

6. How does your future self act on a daily basis?

7. What habits, routines, or choices anchor that version of you?

8. What is stopping you from becoming that version of yourself right now?

9. Is that obstacle really true, or is it an assumption you’ve been carrying?

Bonus question:

What are you trying to prove, and who are you trying to prove it to?

Resources Mentioned:

- You Make Sense with Sarah Baldwin — “The Formula for Growth: Why Discomfort is Required for Your Expansion” episode:

https://www.youtube.com/ ⁨@youmakesense⁩ 

- Finding Freedom with Peter Crone: https://www.youtube.com/ ⁨@PeterCroneOfficial⁩ 

Chapters

00:00 Welcome Back to Dreams Part 1

01:05 Why These Questions Matter

02:10 Your Identity Has Different Parts

03:20 Discomfort Is the Compass

03:52 Question 1: What Story Are You Telling Yourself?

05:14 Question 2: What Identity Would You Step Into?

06:42 Question 3: What Does Future You Look Like?

07:28 Question 4: How Does Future You Act Daily?

09:37 Question 5: What Is Stopping You Right Now?

11:04 Is That True, or Just an Assumption?

12:39 Pivoting Is Growth, Not Failure

13:20 Bonus Question: What Are You Trying to Prove?

14:08 Stay in the What, Not the How

14:53 What’s Coming in the Final Dreams Episode

15:45 Meet Cooper + Smart Move Society Invitation

Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/

Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching

Favorites: https://https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/

Interviews from Seasons 1-3 on YouTube: / @mariettesonthemove

Moving For Smarties, hosted by Mariette Frey of Mariette’s On The Move, started as an interview-driven podcast exploring the real stories behind relocation, reinvention, and life transitions. Across 60+ conversations with first-time homebuyers, repeat movers, industry experts, and everyday people navigating major life changes, this show opens the curtain on what moving is really like—from the joyful and exciting to the unexpected, chaotic, and downright overwhelming.

In the first 60 episodes, the show dives into the human side of moving: identity shifts, decision-making, financial realities, emotional resilience, community building, and the brave moment when someone decides, “It’s time to go.” These episodes are long-form, honest, and full of lived experience you won’t find in a checklist.

Moving forward, we're excited to bring you the more educational, structured, step-by-step side of relocation, and changing our name to Moving For Smarties. This show is built as a bingeable class on YouTube and we're making it available everywhere you listen as well. We take the full FRED Framework journey (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through curated playlist paths that guide your decision-making from the ground up.

Both shows work together:

• (The old) Mariette’s On The Move = re

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Moving For Smarties helps you decide whether to relocate, and how to do it well. Host Mariette Frey of Mariette's On The Move teaches the FRED Framework (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through step-by-step playlists you can binge like a class.

Two kinds of episodes:
• Coaching episodes: the tools and frameworks to make a values-aligned move.
• Interview episodes: real conversations with first-time buyers, repeat movers, and industry experts about the human side of moving.

Want more support? Join The Smart Move Society, our free community, or explore 1:1 coaching.

The Smart Move Society (free): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about
Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching
Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/
Favorites: https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/
Interviews from Seasons 1-3: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4C6SC0wEeY_EV4QBx5P6zA

This episode encourages listeners to release old dreams with gratitude and embrace new paths aligned with their true purpose. Mariette shares her personal journey of pursuing her dreams, the detours she took, and how evolving passions can lead to fulfillment.

Great Exercise:

Write down a detour from your life and ask: What did it teach me? What skills did I gain from it? And what dream can I release with gratitude so I can move forward?

I mentioned my friend Ang Barnard in this podcast, please follow her! Here's her website: https://www.angbarnard.com/podcast and you can find her podcast there!

I also mentioned Silk & Sonder. You can check them out here! https://www.silkandsonder.com/

Chapters:

00:00 When ambition feels heavy instead of exciting

00:53 Welcome to Episode 4 of the Dreams Playlist

01:15 The childhood dream I buried under practicality

02:27 The Los Angeles trip that reignited my acting dream

03:39 Switching my major to keep the dream alive

04:38 Taking acting classes while working a 9-to-5

05:46 The layoff that gave me space to explore acting

06:55 Getting on set for Chicago Fire, Chicago PD, and auditions

07:44 Realizing the acting dream wasn’t what I imagined

08:29 How the dream evolved instead of disappeared

09:07 The dream that feels heavy may need to evolve

09:50 Your coaching exercise: what did the detour teach you?

10:38 Releasing an old dream is not giving up

11:08 What’s coming next: questions to sharpen your dream

11:50 Smart Moves Society and final sign-off

Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/

Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching

Favorites: https://https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites

Instagram: @mariettesonthemove

LinkedIn: / mariettefrey

Interviews from Seasons 1-3 on YouTube: / @mariettesonthemove

Moving For Smarties, hosted by Mariette Frey of Mariette’s On The Move, started as an interview-driven podcast exploring the real stories behind relocation, reinvention, and life transitions. Across 60+ conversations with first-time homebuyers, repeat movers, industry experts, and everyday people navigating major life changes, this show opens the curtain on what moving is really like—from the joyful and exciting to the unexpected, chaotic, and downright overwhelming.

In the first 60 episodes, the show dives into the human side of moving: identity shifts, decision-making, financial realities, emotional resilience, community building, and the brave moment when someone decides, “It’s time to go.” These episodes are long-form, honest, and full of lived experience you won’t find in a checklist.

Moving forward, we're excited to bring you the more educational, structured, step-by-step side of relocation, and changing our name to Moving For Smarties. This show is built as a bingeable class on YouTube and we're making it available everywhere you listen as well. We take the full FRED Framework journey (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through curated playlist paths that guide your decision-making from the ground up.

Both shows work together:

• (The old) Mariette’s On The Move = real conversations and lived experiences.

• (The new) Moving For Smarties = the coaching, tools, and frameworks to help you make a values-aligned move.

Whether you’re preparing for a move, considering a major life shift, or simply love hearing the behind-the-scenes stories of people rebuilding their lives, you’re in the right place.

For deeper support, join The Smart Move Society, a community that offers group coaching, 1:1 coaching options, workshops, and city-focused guidance to help you relocate with confidence. Find it on our website.

Thank you for stopping by!

Have a topic you'd like me to discuss? Send me a text here!

Moving For Smarties helps you decide whether to relocate, and how to do it well. Host Mariette Frey of Mariette's On The Move teaches the FRED Framework (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through step-by-step playlists you can binge like a class.

Two kinds of episodes:
• Coaching episodes: the tools and frameworks to make a values-aligned move.
• Interview episodes: real conversations with first-time buyers, repeat movers, and industry experts about the human side of moving.

Want more support? Join The Smart Move Society, our free community, or explore 1:1 coaching.

The Smart Move Society (free): https://www.skool.com/the-smart-move-society-7447/about
Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching
Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/
Favorites: https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/
Interviews from Seasons 1-3: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4C6SC0wEeY_EV4QBx5P6zA