Marriage, Motherhood & the Messy Middle; What happens when the therapist gets real

I’ve always been the go-to person at work—the one colleagues turn to for leadership and solutions. In my personal life, I’m the one who takes charge—planning events, managing big projects, and handling responsibilities with ease. I say yes, not because I’m a people-pleaser, but because I’m good at it. But when it comes to asking for help or showing vulnerability? I hesitate.

Why is that?

In this episode, I’m challenging the myth of the “Superwoman” who has to do it all alone. I’ll explore:

• Why strong, self-sufficient women like us often avoid asking for help.
• How childhood messages, birth order, or life experiences taught us to believe others couldn’t be relied on.
• The mindset shift required to see vulnerability not as weakness but as an act of trust in ourselves and others.
• How leaning on your partner or support network can actually deepen connection without threatening your independence.

I’ll also share my own journey of learning to trust—both in myself and in others—and how cultivating safety in my body made vulnerability feel possible. You’ll hear practical tips to start relying on others while staying true to your strength and resilience.

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• Stop sabotaging connection and start creating the love you truly want. Discover how to break free from control patterns and embrace vulnerability in your relationship.
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• LinkedIn: Carrie Cohen Marriage Coach

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Are you putting your marriage on pause while raising your kids, waiting for the "perfect time" to reconnect with your partner? In this episode, we unpack why delaying the care and nurturing of your marriage might be more harmful than you think.

Discover how prioritizing your relationship now—even amidst the chaos of parenting—can create a stronger, healthier bond that benefits your entire family. You'll walk away with practical tips to deepen your connection, foster emotional and physical intimacy, and model the kind of loving partnership you want your kids to see.

Ready to take the next step?

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• Take this free assessment to identify the blocks in your marriage

Tune in and start building a marriage that thrives—even in the busiest seasons of life.

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Are date nights, communication exercises, and scheduled intimacy leaving you feeling more disconnected than ever in your marriage? You’re not alone—and it’s not your fault.

In this episode, I uncover why traditional marriage advice often backfires for strong, high-achieving women. We’ll dive deep into the real reasons you’re pulling away and why strategies like love languages and “just talk it out” miss the mark.

Instead, I’ll show you what actually works to create lasting connection, starting with the one thing no one’s telling you: your nervous system is key.

💡 What you’ll learn:

• Why traditional advice addresses symptoms, not root causes.
• How stress and achievement patterns block vulnerability and love.
• Practical steps to build nervous system safety and shift from forced to authentic intimacy.
• Small daily actions that make a big difference in how you connect with your partner.

If you’re ready to stop checking boxes and start feeling seen, heard, and loved in your marriage, this episode is for you.

🎧 Listen now and start shifting patterns in your relationship today!

Resources Mentioned:

• Free Body Awareness Guide
• Connection Tracking Worksheet
• Recommended Reading for Building Deep Emotional Connection

For women out there, who tried everything only to feel like you must be broken
My work is absolutely for you!

Right now I have two options:

👉🏻My 7 day self paced program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/Get-Out-of-Your-Head
👉🏻My 4 month deep dive group program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/BodyWise
👉🏻Wanna find out what's blocking you from receiving love? Take this free quiz to find out: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/assessments/2148315973

Thank you for listening to Marriage Motherhood & The Messy Middle; When the therapist gets real!

• If this resonates with you please consider subscribing to this podcast so that you never miss an episode. And feel free to leave a rating if you feel called to do so.
• Follow me on IG at https://instagram.com/carriecohencoaching
• Check out my website to learn more about me, my approach and what I offer www.carriecohencoaching.com

On today's episode, I'm tackling a topic that hits close to home for so many of us, but one we rarely feel safe discussing: what happens when we don't feel attracted to our partner anymore? I'm diving deep into this uncomfortable truth that I've seen come up again and again in my work with couples.

I'm sharing:

• Why that fluctuating attraction you're experiencing is completely normal (and why we need to stop letting Hollywood make us feel guilty about it)
• What I've discovered about the fascinating connection between self-criticism and how we perceive our partner's attractiveness
• My tried-and-tested method for figuring out if it's really about attraction or if something deeper is going on
• The exact steps I use with my clients to help them reconnect with their partner's essence
• My honest perspective on what sustainable attraction actually looks like in long-term relationships

This episode is perfect for you if you've ever:

• Found yourself nitpicking your partner's appearance more than usual
• Felt like the worst partner ever because "the spark" isn't what it used to be
• Laid awake at night wondering if there's something wrong with you or your relationship
• Worried about whether your relationship can survive these changing feelings

I'm breaking down all my insights about the myth of constant attraction and sharing the tools I've developed to help you build a deeper, more authentic connection. Plus, I'll explain why these feelings often have way more to do with what's happening in your inner world than your partner's outer appearance.

Whether you're in the thick of struggling with attraction right now or want to protect your relationship against future challenges, I'm bringing you the honest conversation and practical guidance I wish someone had given me years ago.


For women out there, who tried everything only to feel like you must be broken
My work is absolutely for you!

Right now I have two options:

👉🏻My 7 day self paced program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/Get-Out-of-Your-Head
👉🏻My 4 month deep dive group program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/BodyWise
👉🏻Wanna find out what's blocking you from receiving love? Take this free quiz to find out: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/assessments/2148315973

Thank you for listening to Marriage Motherhood & The Messy Middle; When the therapist gets real!

• If this resonates with you please consider subscribing to this podcast so that you never miss an episode. And feel free to leave a rating if you feel called to do so.
• Follow me on IG at https://instagram.com/carriecohencoaching
• Check out my website to learn more about me, my approach and what I offer www.carriecohencoaching.com

Is your need for perfection quietly destroying your relationship? In this eye-opening episode, I'm diving deep into the hidden connection between perfectionism, anxiety, and the health of your marriage. If you've ever felt exhausted trying to maintain the "perfect" relationship or found yourself constantly critiquing your partner (or yourself), this conversation is for you.

Together, we'll explore:

• The surprising way perfectionism creates an anxiety cycle in relationships (and why trying harder actually makes it worse)
• How your childhood experiences might be driving your need for perfection today
• The real reason you feel emotionally disconnected despite "doing everything right"
• Practical strategies for breaking free from perfectionist patterns without losing your standards

You'll discover why that constant need to "fix" everything might actually be breaking down your connection, and more importantly, how to create a relationship that thrives on authenticity rather than perfection.

Whether you're the perfectionist in your relationship or living with one, this episode offers transformative insights into building a stronger, more genuine connection. It's time to trade perfectionism for something better: real, lasting intimacy.

Don't let the pursuit of perfection stand in the way of your happiness. Join me for an honest conversation about letting go of impossible standards and embracing a more fulfilling way to love.

Ready to stop blocking love and start embracing it? Let's dive in.


For women out there, who tried everything only to feel like you must be broken
My work is absolutely for you!

Right now I have two options:

👉🏻My 7 day self paced program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/Get-Out-of-Your-Head
👉🏻My 4 month deep dive group program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/BodyWise
👉🏻Wanna find out what's blocking you from receiving love? Take this free quiz to find out: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/assessments/2148315973

Thank you for listening to Marriage Motherhood & The Messy Middle; When the therapist gets real!

• If this resonates with you please consider subscribing to this podcast so that you never miss an episode. And feel free to leave a rating if you feel called to do so.
• Follow me on IG at https://instagram.com/carriecohencoaching
• Check out my website to learn more about me, my approach and what I offer www.carriecohencoaching.com

In this powerful follow-up episode, I'm taking you on a deep dive into the root causes of relationship anxiety. Ever wondered why you push away the very love you're desperate to keep? Or why past relationships seem to haunt your present connections? This episode unravels these mysteries and more.

I'll guide you through:

• The hidden impact of childhood experiences on your adult relationships (and why those patterns keep repeating)
• The fascinating world of attachment styles and how they secretly drive your relationship behaviors
• Real-world examples of how external stressors like finances and health concerns can trigger relationship anxiety
• The sneaky thought patterns that keep you stuck in an anxiety cycle
• Why self-compassion might be the missing piece in your relationship puzzle

You won't want to miss this episode if you've ever:

• Found yourself sabotaging relationships when things get "too good"
• Noticed patterns of pushing people away or becoming overly clingy
• Struggled to trust partners due to past betrayals
• Felt overwhelmed by intrusive thoughts about your relationship
• Wondered why you keep attracting the same type of partners

Through real stories and practical insights, I'll help you understand not just what's happening in your anxious mind, but WHY it's happening. This understanding is your first step toward breaking free from patterns that block authentic connection.

This is more than just another relationship talk – it's your guide to understanding the deeper "why" behind your relationship fears, and the beginning of your journey toward genuine, anxiety-free love.

Ready to stop blocking love and start embracing it? Let's dive in.


For women out there, who tried everything only to feel like you must be broken
My work is absolutely for you!

Right now I have two options:

👉🏻My 7 day self paced program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/Get-Out-of-Your-Head
👉🏻My 4 month deep dive group program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/BodyWise
👉🏻Wanna find out what's blocking you from receiving love? Take this free quiz to find out: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/assessments/2148315973

Thank you for listening to Marriage Motherhood & The Messy Middle; When the therapist gets real!

• If this resonates with you please consider subscribing to this podcast so that you never miss an episode. And feel free to leave a rating if you feel called to do so.
• Follow me on IG at https://instagram.com/carriecohencoaching
• Check out my website to learn more about me, my approach and what I offer www.carriecohencoaching.com

Have you ever felt your heart race when your partner takes too long to text back? Or found yourself overthinking every little interaction in your relationship? I want you to know that you're not alone. In today's episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on relationship anxiety—a common yet rarely discussed challenge that I've seen affect countless couples.

I'll be guiding you through:

• What relationship anxiety really looks like (beyond the obvious worry)
• The telltale signs you might be experiencing it
• How anxiety can secretly impact both your mental and physical well-being
• The importance of recognizing these patterns in your relationships

Through real-world examples and practical insights, I'll help you understand why those nagging doubts creep in and what they mean for your relationship. Whether you're currently struggling with relationship anxiety or want to better understand a loved one who is, I'm here to offer a compassionate look at the complex emotions that can arise when we open our hearts to love.

Don't let relationship anxiety hold you back from experiencing genuine connection. Join me for an honest conversation about the hidden struggles of love and the first steps toward healing.

For women out there, who tried everything only to feel like you must be broken
My work is absolutely for you!

Right now I have two options:

👉🏻My 7 day self paced program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/Get-Out-of-Your-Head
👉🏻My 4 month deep dive group program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/BodyWise
👉🏻Wanna find out what's blocking you from receiving love? Take this free quiz to find out: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/assessments/2148315973

Thank you for listening to Marriage Motherhood & The Messy Middle; When the therapist gets real!

• If this resonates with you please consider subscribing to this podcast so that you never miss an episode. And feel free to leave a rating if you feel called to do so.
• Follow me on IG at https://instagram.com/carriecohencoaching
• Check out my website to learn more about me, my approach and what I offer www.carriecohencoaching.com

Are you a driven, goal-oriented, Type A woman who's paired with a laid-back, go-with-the-flow Type B partner? If so, you're not alone! In this episode, I dive deep into the challenges of navigating a relationship where ambition meets relaxation—and how to make it work.

As a Type A woman, you thrive on getting things done, staying on top of everything, and leading the charge. But when you're married to someone who moves at a different pace, frustration can build. You might find yourself nagging, micromanaging, or feeling like you have to do it all. Meanwhile, your partner’s easygoing nature can seem like a lack of effort—but it’s not!

Here’s the truth: Your Type B partner has strengths that balance your drive, and learning to appreciate those strengths is key to building a healthy, happy relationship.

In this episode, I share:

• The Struggles of Type A Meets Type B: Why independence and control often clash with a more relaxed approach to life.
• How to Embrace Personality Differences: Tips on recognizing your partner’s strengths and how they can complement your own.
• The Importance of Communication: Why weekly family meetings can reduce nagging and create accountability.
• Seeing Life as a Video, Not a Picture: How to shift your mindset from perfection to enjoying the flow of life and love.
• Leading Without Overpowering: Redefining what leadership in a relationship looks like, and why it's okay to excel in certain areas while your partner shines in others.

If you've ever found yourself questioning your partner’s laid-back approach or feeling like you have to do it all, this episode is for you.

💥 Ready to stop the frustration and start embracing your partner’s strengths? Tune in now!

For women out there, who tried everything only to feel like you must be broken
My work is absolutely for you!

Right now I have two options:
👉🏻My 7 day self paced program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/Get-Out-of-Your-Head
👉🏻My 4 month deep dive group program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/BodyWise

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Thank you for listening to Marriage Motherhood & The Messy Middle; When the therapist gets real!

• If this resonates with you please consider subscribing to this podcast so that you never miss an episode. And feel free to leave a rating if you feel called to do so.
• Follow me on IG at https://instagram.com/carriecohencoaching
• Check out my website to learn more about me, my approach and what I offer www.carriecohencoaching.com

Hey there! In this episode, I'm diving deep into a topic that's close to my heart and probably yours too. Have you ever found yourself stuck in a loop of overthinking, analyzing your partner's every move, or feeling constantly on edge in your relationship? Trust me, I've been there, and I want to show you how our minds can become our own worst enemies in love.

Here's what I'll be unpacking for you:

• I'll explain the hypervigilant mind and why your brain might be on high alert 24/7
• We'll explore how your body responds to threats that aren't even real (and why it feels so intense)
• I'll break down why those anxious thoughts feel so darn convincing, even when they're not based in reality
• We'll discuss why simply "thinking positive" isn't enough to break the cycle
• And most importantly, I'll share practical techniques I've learned to rewire both your brain and body for healthier relationships

Join me as I uncover the sneaky ways anxiety creeps into your marriage and share powerful strategies I've discovered to break free from the overthinking trap. I want to help you create a more peaceful mind and a stronger connection with your partner.

Whether you're dealing with past trauma, chronic anxiety, or you just can't seem to get out of your own head, I promise you'll walk away with valuable insights to transform your relationship from the inside out.

Let's work on this together – your calmer mind and stronger marriage are waiting!


Get out of your head, into your body and feel the love that's present in your marriage: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/BodyWise

Thank you for listening to Marriage Motherhood & The Messy Middle; When the therapist gets real!

• If this resonates with you please consider subscribing to this podcast so that you never miss an episode. And feel free to leave a rating if you feel called to do so.
• Follow me on IG at https://instagram.com/carriecohencoaching
• Check out my website to learn more about me, my approach and what I offer www.carriecohencoaching.com

In this episode, I’m getting real about the high cost of being a strong, independent woman in love. As a high-achieving woman myself, I know how it feels to take charge, handle everything, and wear that independence as a badge of honor. But here’s the thing: that fierce independence might be the very thing standing in the way of deeper connection.

Why We Struggle to Let Love In

Let’s face it—being successful and independent can sometimes create emotional walls that make it hard to let someone else in. We’re so used to handling it all that asking for or accepting help feels foreign, even weak. In this episode, I break down:

• The struggle with vulnerability: How letting someone care for you doesn’t mean losing control—it means inviting more love and connection into your life.
• Why love languages matter: Understanding that what you view as independence may be rejecting your partner’s bid for connection.

The Hidden Cost of Always Being in Control

If you’re always in “do it all” mode, it’s easy to push your partner away without even realizing it. I’ll be sharing how my own desire for control created emotional distance and what I did to change it. Here’s what we’ll cover:

• Why self-sufficiency leads to isolation: How our need to manage everything creates emotional distance from our partners.
• The importance of interdependence: How accepting even small gestures—like letting your partner open a door or carry the load—can strengthen your bond.

The Shift from Independence to Intimacy

I know firsthand how scary it can be to let go of control and lean into interdependence. But true intimacy requires letting someone in, and I’ll show you how to do it without sacrificing your sense of strength or independence. We’ll explore:

• Rebuilding emotional safety: Simple ways to start reconnecting emotionally with your partner.
• Letting go of rigid routines: Why discipline and structure may be getting in the way of spontaneity and connection in your relationship.

If you’ve ever felt like your independence is blocking love, this episode is for you. Let’s learn how to balance success with vulnerability and build deeper, more fulfilling relationships.

Tune in now—this one’s going to hit home!



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Thank you for listening to Marriage Motherhood & The Messy Middle; When the therapist gets real!

• If this resonates with you please consider subscribing to this podcast so that you never miss an episode. And feel free to leave a rating if you feel called to do so.
• Follow me on IG at https://instagram.com/carriecohencoaching
• Check out my website to learn more about me, my approach and what I offer www.carriecohencoaching.com