Say the Word: The Art of Command in Married D/s-M

What if one of the most erotic, connective, and transformational tools in your marriage wasn’t physical—it was verbal?

In this powerful episode of Marriage’s Sexiest Secret Podcast, Mr. Fox (husDOM.com) and LK (subMrs.com) dive deep into the art of giving and receiving commands in a committed, monogamous D/s-M relationship. Designed specifically for married Dominant/submissive couples, this episode explores how intentional commands can shape emotional intimacy, erotic polarity, daily structure, and mutual trust inside a Dominant-led marriage.

Commands in a married D/s dynamic aren't about control for control's sake—they're about leadership, structure, communication, and connection. For the Dominant husband, they are a way to confidently lead and build safety, while reinforcing his role as protector, guide, and lover. For the submissive wife, they offer a chance to surrender, express devotion, and be held in her feminine energy through obedience and presence.

You’ll learn:

• The psychology behind commanding and obeying in a married D/s-M dynamic
• How to integrate verbal and non-verbal commands into everyday life and scenes
• Rituals and routines that reinforce polarity between husband and wife
• How commands enhance emotional and erotic intimacy through structure
• Ways to introduce this practice respectfully, even in vanilla-leaning marriages
• Real examples from a real married couple practicing monogamous D/s daily

Whether you’re a new husDOM learning to step into your authority, or a subMrs craving clear direction and safety to surrender into, this episode is your guide to building deeper power exchange, erotic communication, and lasting emotional connection within your marriage.

Perfect for married couples exploring:

• Dominance and submission in marriage
• Monogamous D/s dynamics
• Leading and surrendering with trust
• Building daily rituals and erotic commands
• Husbands who want to lead erotically and emotionally
• Wives who long to feel seen, led, and safe in surrender

Ready to strengthen your marriage, increase your intimacy, and fuel your polarity?
Join Mr. Fox and LK as they pull back the curtain on what makes commands in a married D/s relationship one of the sexiest, most transformative forms of communication between a husband and wife.

🎧 Listen now—and discover how a single word, spoken with intention, can reshape your entire relationship.

"Lupercalia: The Secret to an Untamed Valentine’s Day"

Do you want to know a secret? A sexy little secret that can ignite the passion in your marriage? In this episode of Marriage is Sexy's Secret, we take you down the rabbit hole of Lupercalia—the ancient Roman festival of fertility, love, and primal connection.

Join Little Kaninchen and special guest Rianne as they explore the sensual history of Lupercalia and its modern-day twist for Valentine's Day. From erotic storytelling and symbolic gifts to playful roleplay and intimate rituals, we reveal how you can infuse this lost tradition into your marriage for deeper intimacy, respect, and excitement.

Discover how ancient symbols, sensual music, and personalized rituals can transform your Valentine's celebration into an unforgettable experience. Whether you're looking to spice up your love life or reconnect on a deeper level, this episode will give you ideas, inspiration, and the confidence to embrace desire, romance, and playfulness.

Are you ready to make your Valentine's Day a little more untamed?

🎧 Tune in now and step into the world of sensual secrets, erotic traditions, and marital magic!

Today’s Voyeurs Glimpse:

Today’s Voyeurs Glimpse ..You know you want a peek inside! Wink ..Wink…  We have VERY SPECIAL GUESTS TODAY! 

Our SEXY resident workshop elf, Rianne, and her Sex Machine & Sir, the Greek GOD, Sir Erebus, are our GUESTs on the podcast today.  We will be talking to them both about their couples workshop and their personal review of THE SEX MACHINE  … AKA THE FUCK MACHINE.  

Maybe you don’t even know what one is, or maybe you have seen them and want to learn more about them.  Either way, our guests today have done a lot of research on the topic and also own, use, and LOVE their fuck machine.

 Rianne has been subMrs sex toy review consultant for many years now.  The podcast episode is an introduction to her and her Dominant husband and a deep dive into the pros and cons of owning and operating a sex machine.
 
 The couple had recently facilitated a virtual couples video presentation reviewing their sex machine and what they have learned along their personal journey.  Whether you are interested in the same brand fuck machine or possibly a different but similar product, you will be interested in learning about their personal experience with their toys.

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(LK)Intimacy Coaching Advertisement 

LK here your resident intimacy coach & martial influencer. Just wanted to remind everyone that I offer life, energy coaching, with my main focus being intimacy for individuals and couples. I mentor coach our start up method of D|s-M, walking you through how to begin a D|s-M dynamic. . I offer sessions for situational clarity, meaning helping you get through any situation in your intimate journey, vanilla or twisted. I can help you find answers to Even the ultimate question if D|S-M is for you and your partner! You can find more information at SecretIntimacyCoach.com or sign up for a session. You have direct access to me through subMrs.com Discord Community. Hope to Chat Soon! 

And as in today's preview or voyeurs glimpse we talk about the art of impact play. This is not a how to but an introduction to what is impact way and why do we like it. According to lifestyle experts, for the last year or two, the most popular clarity wellness method out there has all been about the whys and the five why's. Well, it's always been about the whys here in our community wink wink on subMrs, and husDOM February's communities theme is a dozen red roses. Not meaning your run-of-the-mill red roses you get on Valentine's Day. Not that us subMrs. mind getting real dozen or two roses on that special romantic holiday.

 The dozen red roses that we're focusing on in February are the rosy red spots on your skin after some impact play. We will be having our couples doing a coming up rosy exercise and challenge all month. So let's get planning.

This podcast episode covers a high level view of BDSM Impact Play.
 

Ok, voyeurs, You Cheshire CATS… Here is your peek inside today's podcast….

Welcum to The Year of the Tiger 2022

A new year is always encompassed by setting New Years Resolutions. This year let's make sure we include Marital Resolutions! Like having sex with the lights on!

In this podcast episode… We will talk about gaining control in your intimacy. A better bedroom perspective and getting rid of those hang-ups that keep your sex in the dark, literally!

Speaking of subMrs,  our January theme is “Putting Best Foot Forward” in the new year. Our Mentor Chat topic is…. bastinado…

Why?

Because this month has INTERNATIONAL FETISH MONTH in it, we thought Falanga, or falaka or what it is known best as is bastinado, foot torture! This act is comprised of repetitive, blunt trauma to the soles of the feet.

On subMrs we always mix pleasure with pain.. so we will explore foot torture and pleasure in “Foot/Toe” play.

Marriage's Sexiest Secret 

Ok, voyeurs here is your SCARY glimpse! (Evil Laugh Sound). 
We are in that time of year, Halloween, Autumn where the veil is thin between the living and the dead!

Our communities themes were “ Beggars & Screamers”. 
We learned a lot about begging and encouraged others to let out their screams of enjoyment. 

Tonight, we talk to couples about their Fears,  What’s holding you back from grabbing that flogger or kneeling in submission,

 What are you scared of? 

We want to relieve your fears and remove some of the MIND FUCK  that D/s gives you! 

Ok, voyeurs here is your SCARY glimpse! (Evil Laugh Sound). 
We are in that time of year, Halloween, Autumn where the veil is thin between the living and the dead!

Our communities themes were “ Beggars & Screamers”. 
We learned a lot about begging and encouraged others to let out their screams of enjoyment. 

Tonight, we talk to couples about their Fears,  What’s holding you back from grabbing that flogger or kneeling in submission,

 What are you scared of? 

We want to relieve your fears and remove some of the MIND FUCK  that D/s gives you! 

Today we talk a bit about building a married dominance and submission scene.

We examine the erotic art of scening in our communities this month, our theme is scening September why scening September? Well, September is actually pleasure your mate month and my thought was how do couples pleasure each other in this thing we do? Well, scening Of course. Today our episode we’ll be talking through the subMrs Eyes.

In this podcast episode, we have a little phrase, la petite mort, the female's little death. 

And you asked me what does that means? It's an expression in France that means the brief loss or weakening of the consciousness, and in modern usage refers specifically to the sensation of post-orgasmic that's likened to death.

This episode of Marriage's Sexiest Secret talks all about female orgasms. It begins with an in-depth discussion about what is actually happening to the woman's body during a female orgasm. 

This episode dives deep into BDSM training and control of the female orgasm.  Mr Fox and lk also share a lot of their personal experience with orgasm training.

April is the month to begin your outdoor gardens. We refer to our dynamic many times as our “Secret Garden”. Our garden is our place to create and grow our “Garden of Eden”. The place where we grow all types of our relationship intimacies.

You can create “The Secret Garden” in a few steps. Those of you that know the secret already and practice it, we also wanted to make sure you are “Tending to Your Gardens”. Read the article, cum to our Secret Garden Live Video Chat, and listen to our Podcast, learn about Our “Secret Garden” and how to grow your own!