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We are excited and humbled to have as our first guests, Steve and Debbie Wilson from Marriage Matters Now.

This is part 1 of 3 of our conversation with Steve and Debbie.

We love a good back story and in this episode, we hear how Steve and Debbie met and the early years of their relationship.

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Visit marriagemattersnow.org to learn more about their ministry and to purchase copies of their books or to see where they are having one of their amazing conferences. 

Thank you for joining us on our marriage journey. 

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DJ and Nicole

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Anything can become an idol including our marriages. When we place anything or anyone above God and Jesus, it becomes an idol.

In this episode, we discuss the importance of keeping the Lord first in our marriage so we do not allow our marriage to become a god with a little g. It's a struggle more often than not to keep not only our marriage but other things from taking precedence in our relationship with God through His son Jesus Christ.

Exodus 20:3-6 ESV
3   “You shall have no other gods before me. 4   “You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. 5   You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the Lord your God am a jealous God,  visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generation of those who hate me, 6  but showing steadfast love to thousands of those who love me and keep my commandments.

Luke 14:26-27 ESV
26   “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters,  yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. 27   Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple. 

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Thank you to all our listeners! We apologize for the delay in posting episodes, but the last couple of months have been busy with us transitioning back to our home state and celebrating the holidays. 

This episode is a recap of 2023 and what we are preparing for in 2024. 

James 4:13-17 ESV
13  Come now, you who say,  “Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit”— 14  yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes. 15  Instead you ought to say,  “If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that.” 16  As it is, you boast in your arrogance.  All such boasting is evil. 17   So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.

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 This is part 2 from Episode 14

The continued discussion about household roles. How we have performed the duties in the past. And how we see where there could have been improvement since that time. Seeing how God is using lessons today to make our relationship better for the future.

1John 3:18
Dear children, Let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.

Philippians 2:3-4
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourself, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interest of the others. 

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A frank discussion about household roles. How we have performed the duties in the past. And how we see where there could have been improvement since that time. Seeing how God is using lessons today to make our relationship better for the future.

1John 3:18
Dear children, Let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.

Philippians 2:3-4
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourself, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interest of the others.

Thank you for joining us on our marriage journey. 

If you have questions or comments feel free to email us at [email protected].

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DJ and Nicole

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Marriage requires maintenance. One of our favorite ways of maintaining our marriage in recent years has been attending marriage conferences.  Not that anything was drastically wrong in our marriage, but these events helped us recenter our marriage.  Join us as we discuss how marriage conferences have helped us in our marriage journey. 

Here is a short list of marriage conference resources that we are aware of but do your own research and find one that may be close to you or fits your schedule and your budget.  These conferences come in various durations and destinations. 

Family Life's  Weekend to Remember ( https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/ )
Focus on the Family's maariage events ( https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/events/ )
Steve and Debbie Wilson from Marriage Matters Now
 ( https://www.marriagemattersnow.org/ )
 The Great Marriage Getaway ( https://www.infoforfamilies.com/great-marriage-getaway )
 WinShape Marriage ( https://marriage.winshape.org/ )

Hebrews 13:4 ESV
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

1 Thessalonians 5:11 ESV
Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.

Proverbs 12:15 ESV
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.

Proverbs 11:14 ESV
Where there is no guidance, a people falls,  but in an abundance of counselors, there is safety.

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The only thing constant in life is change. This is a true statement based on our experiences. This includes career changes. Join us as we discuss how God was faithful through our career changes during our marriage. 

Joseph in the book of Genesis. Moses starting in the book of Exodus. Gideon in the book of Judges, and Nehemiah among others. Let's not forget the original twelve disciples of the Lord Jesus.  

 As you read the Bible, you will discover that many people had career changes in their lives as well. God used them for His glory (Romans 8:28). Whether it's a career change to a different vocation or the call to full-time ministry, God has a purpose for you as He did for those in the Bible. 

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Finances are often the source of conflict within a marriage. No, we are not debt free nor do we feel qualified to provide financial advice. This is a discussion about what we have learned during our marriage as it pertains to money and finances. Lord willing, we will be out of debt one day and we are taking steps towards that goal.

For better-suited financial advice check out the following resources:
 Crown Financial Ministries www.crown.org

Ramsey Solutions led by Dave Ramsey www.ramseysolutions.com

(Note: We are not sponsored by either organization nor do we officially endorse them. We did want to provide you with examples of financial resources to possibly help you with your financial management. Ask around in your local church family for other resources. )

Hebrews 13:5 ESV
Keep your life  free from the love of money, and  be content with what you have, for he has said,  “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

1 Timothy 6:10 ESV
For the love of money is a root of  all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.

Malachi 3:8-10 ESV
8  Will man rob God? Yet you are robbing me.  But you say, ‘How have we robbed you?’  In your tithes and contributions. 9   You are cursed with a curse, for you are robbing me, the whole nation of you. 10   Bring the full tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. And thereby put me to the test, says the Lord of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour down for you a blessing until there is no more need.

Deuteronomy 8:18 ESV
You shall remember the Lord your God, for it is he who gives you power to get wealth,  that he may confirm his covenant that he swore to your fathers, as it is this day.

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In part 1, Nicole presented some "rules of engagement" that she had come across during one of her studies. On this episode, Nicole and DJ will answer 4 questions. Listen to their responses. Then you and your spouse try to answer the same questions. Think of it as an exercise in communication.


Knowing their thoughts,  he (Jesus) said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself is laid waste, and no city or house divided against itself will stand.  Matthew 12:25

 Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one  fails to obtain the grace of God; that no  “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled;  Hebrews 12:14-15

Therefore,  confess your sins to one another and pray for one another,  that you may be healed.  The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.
James 5:16
 

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Every married couple has disagreements from time to time. How you argue or resolve disagreements will impact your relationship in some way or fashion. The husband has his point of view and the wife has her point of view. Often times we see view the same situation differently. In part one Nicole explains the  "rules of engagement" and in part two there will be questions that both she and DJ will answer.


  And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God,  by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.  Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.  Be kind to one another, tenderhearted,  forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.  Ephesians 4:30-32

“So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets."  Matthew 7:12

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;   it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things,  endures all things.  1 Corinthians 13:4-7  

Thank you for joining us on our marriage journey. 

If you have questions or comments feel free to email us at [email protected].

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Take care and God bless. 

DJ and Nicole