Communication. This is one of the most common tips given when it comes to marriage advice. In this episode, Lara discusses a few different ways we communicate with each other, particularly when our medical spouse shares good news with us.

"It is a beautiful feeling. If you've ever had that kind of support in your life, than you know what I'm talking about. When someone is really excited for you and the work that you are doing, and they are supportive of you." -Lara McElderry

In this episode, Lara discusses four thoughts for a more thoughtful holiday season. As you listen, consider what you are thinking, why you are thinking it, and why you believe what you do. Hope these thoughts help make your Christmas a more enjoyable holiday this year!

"As people in relationships with physicians, we are multitasking. We have a lot going on, particularly if you're running your family and your household, as well. You're pulling off this holiday, and I just want to give you the option to consider a 'no'. Sometimes, a 'no' means more of 'yes' to the things that you really want to do." -Lara McElderry

In this episode, Lara discusses the Married to Doctors Membership. This membership is built off of the Me, Marriage, and Medicine course that Lara has done in the past. This group coaching format is easier, cost effective, and long-term for physician partners.

This is THE membership to provide you with resources and support, which will help you find connections, get down-to-earth advice, and have support during your medical journey.

"Those of you that come and be part of this group are going to find camaraderie, fellowship, support. You're going to feel heard and understood. You're also going to have more tools so you can feel empowered and so that you don't have to feel like a victim to the life that is being thrown at you, right? I don't want you to live in this state of mind where your life is always predicated on medicine." -Lara McElderry

In this episode, Lara talks with Wenny Lin about career resilience when married to a doctor. They discuss how to keep your career going throughout the medical journey. Wenny has some stellar wisdom to share on this topic.

"Hey, maybe you have to take a pay cut because you've moved to a cheaper place to live. Maybe you have to take a less prestigious position now because you're the default parent. But these are all temporary. And that for every temporary challenge there could be new opportunities that arise. So I think that its good to go back to the big picture. What's important to you and what you're doing and what you have control over to achieve your goals." -Wenny Lin

Lara discusses five common thinking traps that people fall into. This episode will help you discover the power of the pause to help you through difficult situations. Utilizing these tips will help you become more in tune with your thoughts and thinking patterns so you can show up as the person you want to be in life. Don't get stuck in these common thinking traps!

"I always like to say that when I encourage you to be curious, I don't want you to play dumb, like you have no idea ever. But, I do want you to show up with genuine curiosity. Like, 'Hey I know you love me, so why did you say that?'" -Lara McElderry

We all have the desire to feel seen and heard by our partners. In this episode, Lara speaks with Dr. Wally Goddard about bids for connection in marriages and relationships and how we can learn to correctly interpret those. Enjoy this replay from one of the first episodes recorded on Married to Doctors!

"More often than we realize, we're making bids for connection with the people we care about. We're saying essentially, 'I'd like you to be part of my life.' And unaware that a bid has been made we often turn away, we're distracted, or we turn against. We say, 'I don't have time for that.'" -Dr. Wally Goddard

This episode is all about puppy training! Lara shares how six simple puppy rules can apply to relationships and relationships with ourselves.

"Because I'm a marriage coach, and I talk about this stuff a lot, it's always on my mind. And I thought, Oh isn't interesting, how the same things I'm learning about puppy training go right a long with a marriage." -Lara McElderry

In this episode, Lara talks with Kristi and Blade Hargiss as their life has been turned upside down since Blade was diagnosed with cancer during his fourth year of medical school. We discuss how they are getting though this as a couple, a family, and a medical student.

"I remember when he first came home and he said that there was potential for cancer, it was like 95 plus percent chance that he would have it, but they didn't have the full report back. I felt like I had been hit with a bucket of ice. Among everything else that we had on our plates, this was just like, are you kidding me? More? How are we supposed to handle this?" -Kristi Hargiss

In this episode, Lara discusses the Me, Marriage, and Medicine course starting this October and what to expect.  She also explores the topic of anger.

"Is this really anger? Or maybe this is more resentful? Maybe what I really feel is guilt, ashamed, grief, fear, entitlement, victimization, fatigue, injustice, anxiety, hurt, or offended. Can you see how all of things fall under anger? But they actually mean different things." -Lara McElderry

In this episode, Lara discusses how we can be kind to ourselves. She looks at this topic through the lens of parenting and your physical appearance, but it can be applied to every situation.

"And I also hope that you can love yourself. Not in an egotistical way, but in a way where you are speaking kindly to yourself. You know we want others to love us, to love our hair, to love our parenting. But, many time they do love us and they give us those compliments, and we're the ones that can't accept it because we haven't been kind to ourselves." -Lara McElderry