Episode Notes

In this episode Lara will be talking with Jordyn Hagar, a physician spouse and author of the book“At Least You’ll Be Married to a Doctor: Managing Your Intimate Relationship Through Medical School”.  Lara and Jordyn will be discussing how we can get rid of feelings of being stuck or not having control of our lives by focusing on the things we do have control over.  

About Jordyn

Jordyn Paradis Hagar is a licensed clinical social worker and has practiced therapy with children, adolescents, and families for the past fifteen years.  She also teaches in the social work department at Providence College.  As the spouse of a physician, she has combined her experiences of the medical training process with her mental health background in her book, “At Least You’ll Be Married to a Doctor: Managing Your Intimate Relationship Through Medical School”.  She currently lives with her husband and two daughters in Rhode Island.

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Episode Notes

In this episode Lara will be talking with Dr. Nelly Farnoody-Zahiri, a world-renowned clinical psychologist who specializes in working with children and families. Lara and Dr. Nelly will be discussing how we can foster peace in our homes despite our busy schedules as doctor spouses and how we can help our children find peace in their own lives by helping them avoid over-scheduling and unnecessary perfectionism.

About Dr. Nelly

Dr. Nelly Farnoody-Zahiri is a keynote speaker and a world-renowned clinical psychologist who specializes in working with children and families. Her expertise are in the area of Mindfulness, Eastern & Western Integration, Cross-Cultural Psychology, Attachment Parenting, Conscious & Peace Learning Parenting.  She's the author and founder of the International Center For Peace Learning Parenting and the popular MomTalk LA TV Show at Andisheh TV (www.Andisheh.tv.)  Her mission for MomTalk is discovering opportunities to help build more connections amongst likeMinded Communities to Support Higher Consciousness & PeaceLearning...Cultivating Higher Levels of Integration and Peace, Locally & Globally!

Books Mentioned in Episode

How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julie Lythcott-Haims

The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by Jessica Lahey

Episode Notes

In this episode Lara will be talking with Travis Hornsby, founder of Student Loan Planner, a financial coaching company that specializes in helping physicians manage their student loans.  Travis was a bond trader when he met his physician wife and was shocked at the complicated and often murky process she had to go through to repay her student loans.  Lara and Travis will be discussing why physician student loans are so different than regular student loans, and the option of using Public Service Loan Forgiveness (PSLF). 

About Travis

Travis Hornsby founded Student Loan Planner after helping his physician fiancée navigate ridiculously complex student loan repayment decisions. To date, he’s consulted on over $200 million in student debt personally, more than anyone else in the country. He is a Chartered Financial Analyst and brings his background as a former bond trader trading billions of dollars. 

 

Episode Notes

In this episode, Lara will be talking with Jess Hyer, author of the blog The Mrs. Behind the M.D.  Lara and Jess will be discussing the challenges that sometimes arise when your spouse has to work long hours and how owning your independence and trusting in your capabilities can help you avoid feeling like you are missing out on important things because of your spouse's career. 

About Jess

Jess Hyer writes about the unique circumstances and challenges of being married to a doctor at her blog, The Mrs. behind the M.D.  Her goal is to help women survive and thrive as a doctor's wife.  Come visit to learn tips, hear fresh ideas, or just take comfort in knowing you aren’t alone in this crazy journey.  Her family currently lives in Southern California where her husband is completing his anesthesia residency.  She is also a busy mother to three children and enjoys going to the beach, cycling, eating chocolate chip cookie dough and taking naps as a hobby. 

In this episode, Lara will be talking with Melody Warnick, author of the book "This Is Where You Belong: Finding Home Wherever You Are"(Viking, 2016), an eminently practical guide to improving, investing in, and coming to love the place where you live.  Melody and Lara will be discussing the extra challenges that come from having to move for medical school and residency and how we can learn to feel more rooted in our homes, even if we know we'll only be there for a short time.

First, Lara will be talking with Vanessa Zamora, a scrub tech who was living in California with her two teenage daughters when she fell in love with a fourth-year medical student.  Her husband matched to a program in Washington state, and Vanessa moved with him while her daughters decided to stay in California.  Next, you'll hear from Nashira Pearl, a music teacher who underwent some major culture shock when her husband's match took her from a small town in the midwest to Brooklyn, NY.

In this episode, Lara will be interviewing Chris McGilvery, the founder and Executive Director of the non-profit organization Give More HUGS.  Chris will be sharing his story of how he came to discover his passion for helping underprivileged students while his wife was in medical school and how the organization has evolved into what it is today, despite the several moves he had to make in order to support his wife as a physician.

In this episode, Lara will be talking with Sara Walker, a doctor wife and graduate student who hopes that by sharing her experiences of dealing with post-partum depression and anxiety during her husband's medical training while inspire other medical spouses to consistently give themselves the care they need and deserve. Post-Partum depression is not to be taken lightly. We encourage anyone suffering from symptoms of depression to seek professional help.

Though a majority of U.S. medical school graduates this year will end up matching to a residency program, each year there are always a small percentage of students who unfortunately do not match. In this episode, Lara will be talking with Will and Julie, a husband and wife who experienced the stress of not matching when Will finished medical school in 2013.  Will and Julie will be sharing how they were able to move on and continue Will's medical career despite the setback of not matching the first time.

In the medical profession, saving a life always comes first. Sometimes that priority can unintentionally take over your personal life--no matter how bad you may want your spouse to be at an event or be there to support you, there are times when they need to stay at the hospital to help a patient.  In this episode, Lara talks with marriage and family intern Sarah Epstein to get some advice on how we can better communicate with our spouses to keep our marriages strong during the medical journey.