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On this week's episode, your expert dating coaches, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss if physical appearance should really be the determining factor in your dating life. Stop basing your expectations on movies and understand what real-life dating is all about. To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast

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In this enlightening episode of the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath dive deep into the core reasons and behaviors that make a relationship happy for a lifetime. Rabbi Bernath passionately argues that trust is the bedrock of any lasting relationship, though it’s not always identifiable at the start. Trust must be built over time through small, consistent acts that demonstrate reliability and integrity.

Aleeza brings a unique perspective, suggesting that kindness, while important, could be replaced by another crucial element. She highlights the importance of giving, noting that love flourishes when partners engage in selfless acts, leading to a deeper understanding and connection. Both Aleeza and Rabbi Bernath agree that curiosity is essential for continuous growth and learning in a relationship, as staying curious about each other fosters a dynamic and evolving bond.

Join Aleeza and Rabbi Bernath as they explore these foundational elements of a happy, lifelong partnership. They invite you to share your thoughts on what you think the root of trust is by sending a voice note on their socials or dropping a message on their website.

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Tune in for a mix of wisdom, wit, and practical advice that will help you navigate the journey of love and relationships.

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Get ready for another exciting episode of "Matchmaker Matchmaker," featuring Netflix's own Aleeza Ben Shalom and the dynamic "Love Rabbi," Rabbi Yisroel Bernath! This week, they dive into the intriguing question: "What's the difference between a good guy and a kind guy?"

Aleeza and Rabbi Bernath reveal that a good guy isn't just nice—he's also fun, engaging, and genuinely interested in getting to know people. In contrast, a kind guy is simply polite and agreeable, but may lack that engaging spark.

Don't miss the video version of this insightful discussion at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videos. Got a burning question for a future episode? Submit it at www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/PodcastWatch 

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In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom welcome back Janine to share another wild and unexpected tale from her dating adventures. This time, Janine recounts a bizarre experience with a man she met online who made an unbelievable claim about having a glass eye, only to later reveal it was a joke. The trio talks about the importance of honesty and humor in the dating world, exploring where the line should be drawn.

Key Takeaways:
The Importance of Honesty: Trust is crucial in any relationship. Janine's story shows how a lack of honesty can quickly become a deal-breaker.
Understanding Humor in Dating: Humor can be a great ice-breaker, but it's important to know where to draw the line. Jokes that are misleading or confusing can harm a budding relationship
.Communication is Key: Clear and open communication helps avoid misunderstandings. Janine's experience highlights how miscommunication can lead to awkward and uncomfortable situations.
Red Flags and Gut Feelings: Trust your instincts. Janine noticed several "orange flags" but was willing to overlook them until the glass eye incident. Recognizing and acting on red flags can save time and emotional energy.

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In this week's episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom are joined by a regular listener Janine, who shares a humorous and perplexing dating experiences that highlight the complexities of modern relationships. The trio explores the boundaries of friendship between men and women, the importance of clear communication, and the persistence often found in romantic pursuits.

Key Points:
Crazy Dating Stories: Janine shares her personal experiences with a longtime friend who repeatedly tries to turn their friendship into a romantic relationship, despite her clear rejections.
Clear Communication: The episode emphasizes the importance of direct communication in dating, illustrated by Janine's bold approach of telling her friend she would "vomit" if he flirted with her.
Persistence vs. Stalking: The discussion delves into the fine line between being persistent and becoming a stalker, with insights on when men should recognize and respect a clear 'no'.
Friend Zone Dynamics: They examine whether men and women can truly have platonic friendships, especially when one party has romantic feelings, concluding that it often leads to misunderstandings and complications.

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In this episode, Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom discuss a listener's question about how to inspire couples to get engaged and married quicker, reflecting on personal experiences and cultural trends. The discussion the topic of marriage timelines and societal perceptions of marriage. They also talk about the challenges and benefits of marriage, emphasizing the importance of positive messaging and community support.

Key Points:
Current Trends in Marriage: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom talk about how getting married has become less popular, with many people focusing on careers and personal goals first.
Being Positive Role Models: They emphasize the need for married couples to share the good parts of their marriages openly. This can help inspire others to see marriage as a positive and worthwhile step.
Balancing Challenges and Benefits: The discussion covers both the challenges and the benefits of marriage, including practical perks like tax breaks and the personal growth that comes from having a life partner.
Changing the Conversation: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom plan to create and spread positive messages about marriage to counter the negative ones often seen in media. They believe this can help change how people think about getting married.

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In this episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath talk about a listener's question about the unique challenges of dating as a middle-aged Jew in the rural South. Rachel, a listener from Virginia, shares her experience of connecting with another Jewish divorcee from North Carolina and the complexities of their new relationship. 

Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss the pressures of long-distance relationships, the difficulty of finding Jewish partners in small communities, and the importance of giving potential relationships a fair chance despite geographical and social hurdles. They also invite Rachel and her match to share their journey on the podcast.

Key Points:
Long-Distance Relationship Dynamics: The hosts talk about the intensity and challenges that come with long-distance dating, including managing communication and expectations.
Scarcity of Jewish Partners in Small Towns: Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath explore the pressure of dating within a limited Jewish community and the fear of settling due to a lack of options.
Importance of Real Connections: They stress the need to tell the difference between feeling forced into a relationship due to limited options and recognizing a genuine connection.
Giving Relationships a Fair Chance: The hosts suggest a "five date challenge" to allow time for a real connection to develop before making a final decision and highlight the potential blessings in having fewer dating options.

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In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom tackle a big question from a listener named Shoshana, who has been single for ten years and is struggling to understand why finding a life partner is so hard. The discussion looks at both the spiritual and practical sides of finding a match, exploring the balance between divine intervention and free will. 

Rabbi Yisroel Bernath emphasizes that the challenge of finding a soulmate is part of God's plan and talks about how time and effort in relationships are crucial for their longevity and success.

Key Points:
Divine Intervention and Free Will: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath explains that while God is involved in matchmaking, humans also have free will, which means the process requires their active participation and decision-making.

The Importance of Effort: Both hosts agree that the difficulty in finding a partner is intentional, designed to make individuals value and work hard for their relationships, ensuring they are cherished and maintained.

Multiple Potential Soulmates: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom discuss the idea that there isn't just one perfect soulmate for each person; several individuals could potentially fulfill that role, which can alleviate some pressure and open more possibilities.

Practical Advice and Hope: The episode concludes with practical advice, such as Aleeza Ben Shalom's "Mystery in Your History" course, which helps individuals re-evaluate past connections, and a hopeful message encouraging patience and perseverance in the journey to find a life partner.

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In this episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath answer a question from Judith, a widow in her 50s. Judith notices that many divorced men she meets blame their failed marriages on their ex-wives' emotional issues, which they say come from being raised by Holocaust survivors. The episode looks into whether this is a real pattern or just an excuse. 

Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath also talk about how the Holocaust affects later generations. They give Judith and others advice on dating.

Key Points:
Recurring Theme in Divorce Reasons: Judith sees that many divorced men say their ex-wives are emotionally unavailable because of their Holocaust survivor parents.
Holocaust's Lingering Impact: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath explains how the trauma from the Holocaust can affect the children of survivors, shaping their emotional and relationship issues.
Pattern Recognition and Self-Reflection: Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath suggest that Judith think about why she sees this pattern and how her own background might play a role.
Advice for Change: They recommend that Judith try dating outside her usual community to find someone who is emotionally available and a good match.

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Join us for another episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker where your hosts, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath dive into a heartfelt query from Yosef, who is facing the challenge of unrequited love with a friend. The episode explores the delicate balance of maintaining a friendship while dealing with romantic feelings that aren't reciprocated.

Key Points:
Respecting the Friend's Decision: Aleeza Ben Shalom stresses the importance of respecting the friend's feelings and decision to remain just friends, highlighting how essential it is to honor these boundaries.

Timing for Reapproaching: Aleeza Ben Shalom advises waiting at least six months before considering to express feelings again, suggesting a gentle approach to see if the dynamics might have changed, without applying pressure.

The Importance of Moving On: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath emphasizes the necessity for Yosef to focus on moving forward, recommending that he explore other romantic possibilities instead of waiting for his friend’s feelings to change.

Taking Time for Self-Reflection: Both hosts agree on the benefits of Yosef taking some time away from the friendship if needed, to mitigate emotional pain and to make space for new, reciprocative relationships.

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