Join us for another episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker where your hosts, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath dive into a heartfelt query from Yosef, who is facing the challenge of unrequited love with a friend. The episode explores the delicate balance of maintaining a friendship while dealing with romantic feelings that aren't reciprocated.

Key Points:
Respecting the Friend's Decision: Aleeza Ben Shalom stresses the importance of respecting the friend's feelings and decision to remain just friends, highlighting how essential it is to honor these boundaries.

Timing for Reapproaching: Aleeza Ben Shalom advises waiting at least six months before considering to express feelings again, suggesting a gentle approach to see if the dynamics might have changed, without applying pressure.

The Importance of Moving On: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath emphasizes the necessity for Yosef to focus on moving forward, recommending that he explore other romantic possibilities instead of waiting for his friend’s feelings to change.

Taking Time for Self-Reflection: Both hosts agree on the benefits of Yosef taking some time away from the friendship if needed, to mitigate emotional pain and to make space for new, reciprocative relationships.

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In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath respond to a listener who is struggling with self-criticism after a past relationship. They discuss the importance of forgiving oneself and using mistakes as learning opportunities for better future relationships. The conversation offers practical advice on personal growth and emotional recovery post-breakup.

Key Points:
Normalizing Mistakes: Aleeza points out that making mistakes is a common part of all human interactions. She likens it to how children stumble when learning to walk, illustrating that errors are essential for personal development.
Timing of Conversations: Aleeza Ben Shalom shares a personal tip about managing emotions during conflicts. She advises waiting until you're calm to discuss sensitive topics to ensure the conversation is constructive.
Shared Responsibility: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath highlights that problems in relationships are usually not one-sided. Recognizing that both partners may contribute to issues can alleviate unnecessary self-blame.
Constructive Reflection: They offer advice on how to reflect on past errors effectively, which includes stopping negative behaviors, expressing regret, clearly stating intentions for change, and making plans for improvement.

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In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss the challenges people face when dating after a divorce. They offer advice on dealing with public perception, the best time to share your divorce history, and learning from past relationships to improve future ones. This conversation provides practical tips for those looking to find love again.

Key Points:
Stigma Around Divorce: Aleeza Ben Shalom explains that being divorced is more accepted today than before. She suggests that having been married shows you're serious about relationships, which can be a plus when dating again.
When to Share About Divorce: Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath talk about the right time to tell someone you're dating that you've been divorced. They emphasize being honest and confident about your past.L

earning from the Past: It's important to reflect on previous relationships and understand what you can do better. Knowing what went wrong helps you prepare for a better relationship next time.

Owning Your Story: Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath encourage taking responsibility for your part in a past relationship ending. They say this shows maturity and can make you more attractive to potential partners.

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This week, your hosts tackle the listener's question about the meaning and implications of requesting a "phone break" in a relationship. Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss various scenarios and motives behind such a request, providing insights into communication dynamics in modern relationships. 

In this episode, they cover:
Understanding the Request: Exploring what a "phone break" could signify, whether it's a need for space, a sign of feeling overwhelmed, or a desire to shift the mode of communication.

Assessing Relationship Intensity: How frequent and intense communication can lead to one partner feeling smothered, prompting the need for a break.

Positive vs. Negative Implications: Discussing when a phone break might be healthy and necessary for personal processing, versus when it might signal deeper issues within the relationship.

Navigating the Break: Strategies for effectively communicating about the break, setting clear expectations and timelines, and ensuring both partners are on the same page to maintain relationship health.

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Welcome to another episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast where your hosts, Jewish dating experts Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath, discuss this week's listeners' question: 'What do you do when a girl doesn't want you But you know, she loves you?'

 They break down emotional dilemmas, historical perspectives on marriage, and the practical aspects needed beyond love to build a sustainable relationship.

Key Points Discussed:
Discussion on why love might not be sufficient for marriage, emphasizing compatibility and shared life paths.
Exploring how the concept of marrying solely for love is a relatively modern development, contrasting with historical reasons such as financial or social advantages.
The importance of aligning on life goals, values, and personal habits is discussed as essential alongside love for a healthy marriage.
Evaluating whether love itself can sustain a marriage and what other elements are crucial for a lasting partnership.

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Welcome back to another episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker Podcast. On this week's episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss the complexities of physical attraction in dating and relationships. They go into the question of what to do when someone attempts to set you up with a person who is considered a great match, but you don't find them physically attractive. 

Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath explore the nuances of this situation and provide insights on how to approach it.

Key Points:
The Importance of Physical Attraction: Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the significance of physical attraction in relationships, acknowledging its role while also exploring its limitations.
Handling "Hard No" Situations: The hosts provide advice on how to navigate situations where there is an immediate lack of physical attraction and when it's appropriate to decline a potential match outright.
Giving It a Chance: Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath share anecdotes and examples of instances where initial lack of physical attraction evolved after giving the relationship a chance, emphasizing the value of getting to know someone beyond their appearance.
Patience and Decision-Making: The episode concludes with a blessing for patience and wisdom, underscoring the importance of taking time to make the right decision after a few dates and allowing both the heart and mind to align.

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Join us this week on "Matchmaker Matchmaker" as Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss trust in relationships. They explore the time it takes to establish trust, the link between commitment and the growth of trust, and the impact of personal insecurities and past traumas on trust-building. Throughout the episode, they share practical perspectives, stressing the importance of open communication to navigate challenges related to trust. Tune in to unravel the layers of trust and its pivotal role in the journey of love and commitment.

Key Points:
Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath emphasize the time it takes to develop trust, highlighting that true trust often takes years to develop, as supported by research findings.
Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the correlation between commitment and the growth of trust, emphasizing that trust evolves with the level of commitment within the relationship.
The impact of personal insecurities and past traumas on the timeline for establishing trust is addressed, with the hosts stressing the importance of open communication to navigate these challenges.
Throughout the episode, practical perspectives are shared, shedding light on the significance of consistency, reliability, vulnerability, and personal integrity in building trust within relationships.

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Welcome back to another episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, where Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss whether women fall in love faster than men. They challenge this common assumption, sharing personal stories and emphasizing the importance of clear communication in relationships. The hosts also touch on the role of matchmakers in guiding relationship milestones and share insights into surprise proposals.

Key Points:
Challenging Traditional Assumptions: Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath question the belief that women fall in love faster than men, offering personal stories that challenge this idea.
Redefining Love: The hosts advocate for a more intentional and proactive approach to emotional connection, emphasizing growth and mutual understanding over the terminology of "falling in love."
The Role of Communication: Stressing the importance of open communication in relationships, the hosts share personal stories to highlight understanding each other's perspectives and preferences
.Proposal Insights: Rabbi and Aleeza discuss surprise proposals, emphasizing the significance of understanding individual preferences and the potential role of matchmakers in guiding relationship milestones.

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Join us today on the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast as Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the common doubts and challenges individuals face in finding the right partner. They explore the importance of asking the right questions and reframing the search for love. The conversation also goes into the significance of non-negotiables in relationships and the varied importance of specific traits in different individuals' search for a partner.Key Points:Aleeza and Rabbi emphasize the need to reframe one's mindset from "Is there something wrong with me?" to more proactive inquiries when searching for a partner.The speakers discuss the concept of non-negotiables in relationships, highlighting the difference between essential traits and desirable bonuses in a potential partner.They share insights into recognizing the existence of desired traits in others and the common experiences of individuals who struggle to find someone who embodies the qualities they seek.The discussion also touches on the role of humor and compatibility in relationships, shedding light on the varied importance of specific traits in different individuals' search for a partner.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast

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In this episode, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the common scenario of being mistaken for being married and how to respond to such assumptions. They share playful and humorous ways to handle these situations, emphasizing the importance of using humor to break the ice and creating relational opportunities. relationship status.Key Points:Using Humor: Aleeza and Rabbi advocate for responding to assumptions about being married with playful and humorous remarks, utilizing humor to diffuse tension and create a lighthearted interaction.Relational Opportunities: The hosts emphasize the abundance of relational opportunities in everyday life, from nonverbal interactions to casual conversations, highlighting the potential for unexpected connections in daily encounters.Embracing Playfulness: They encourage listeners to embrace humor and playfulness in responding to assumptions, viewing such moments as opportunities for engagement and connection.Positive Responses: Aleeza and Rabbi stress the importance of responding in a way that promotes positivity and opens the door to potential connections, emphasizing the value of seizing relational opportunities in various interactions.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast

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