What if the most important thing you could optimize isn't your business, but your joy?
In this episode, Dr. Stephanie Wigner sits down with human performance coach Nicole Tormey, who helps some of the most driven teams in business perform at the highest level by doing something radical: less. Nicole shares why she takes a full month off every year and what she tells her clients before she goes, the story of flying to Bali with no plan and spending seven uncomfortable days learning to stop performing her own vacation, and the weekly check-in her teams refuse to give up.
Together, Steph and Nicole get to the question every high achiever eventually faces: when you ask "what is enough," are you really asking "am I enough?" And underneath it all, the thing we forget while chasing every goal: a life you actually enjoy is the whole point.
In this episode:
The energy audit question Nicole asks before letting anyone add a new habitWhy feeling "behind on your optimization" is the warning sign, not the motivationExactly what Nicole tells clients before taking her month off every yearThe morning question that reconnected her to what she actually wantsSteph's day-by-day calendar boundaries for winning back white spaceThe difference between asking "what is enough" and "am I enough"Joy isn't the reward for hitting the goal. It's the reason the goal was worth hitting.
Chapters:
01:05 Nicole's Path to Human Performance02:43 Pouring Into a Team, Not Just a Business03:55 The Friday Nervous System Check-In06:17 The One Call the Team Refused to Cut07:28 Stop Adding: The Energy Audit10:13 When Is Enough Enough?11:43 The Real Question: Are YOU Enough?12:47 Judgment and Curiosity Can't Share Space14:31 Self-Worth and the Addiction to Performing17:58 Permission to Not Have It Figured Out19:49 The Non-Negotiable Month Off21:13 Nicole's Bali Reset24:38 Creating White Space25:39 Steph's Calendar Boundaries26:15 Joy Unattached to an Outcome
Connect with Nicole:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_tormey