In today's episode of the Men After God podcast, host Luke Sorensen takes a deep dive into the realities of trauma, shame, and identity through a biblical lens. He unpacks the hidden lies men often believe about themselves and shows how unresolved shame can quietly damage both mental health and relationships.

Luke highlights the freedom that comes through confession, community, and the healing love of God, reminding men that their identity is not defined by past failures but by their position in Christ. This conversation offers practical encouragement for those ready to reject destructive lies and embrace their true calling as sons of God.

🧭 Key Takeaways

• Trauma is often not discussed openly, especially among men.
• Unresolved shame can lead to depression, addiction, and suicide.
• Shame is not an emotion; it is the root of many negative emotions.
• Guilt says 'I made a mistake,' while shame says 'I am the mistake.'
• Men often believe lies about their identity based on their actions.
• The opinions of others can shape our self-perception and identity.
• Confession and community are vital in overcoming shame.
• You are not beyond repair; God loves you as you are.
• Your identity in Christ is not defined by your past actions.
• Freedom in Christ allows us to live without the burden of shame.

🕐 Time Stamps

3:21 Understanding Shame and Its Impact
 6:20 The Lies Men Believe About Their Identity
 21:18 The Role of Shame in Personal Identity
 18:34 The Power of Words and Affirmation
 21:49 Breaking the Cycle of Negative Communication
 24:48 Renewing the Mind: The Power of Scripture
 27:01 Overcoming Shame: You Are Not Beyond Repair
 32:45 The Transformation of Peter: From Shame to Purpose
 39:06 Living in Freedom: Embracing Your Identity in Christ

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In this Monday Bible Study episode of the Men After God podcast, Adrian Ferrari unpacks the themes of wisdom, caution, and the fear of the Lord as essential foundations of biblical manhood. Drawing from Proverbs 14, Adrian highlights the contrast between wise and foolish behavior, showing how godly men are called to lead with both humility and strength.

This conversation challenges men to make thoughtful decisions, understand personal triggers, and live authentically in alignment with God’s will. By learning to fear the Lord, men can guard their steps, avoid destructive patterns, and build a life marked by integrity, discernment, and lasting influence.

If you want to grow in wisdom and lead your home with humility and strength, this episode will equip and encourage you to walk closely with God.

🧭 Key Takeaways:

• Fear God, live wise, and don't fake it.
• The wise are cautious and avoid danger.
• A wise man slows down and counts the cost.
• A godly man fears missing someone, not something.
• God is not impressed with your righteous rants.
• A wise man knows his triggers and surrenders them to God.
• Without God, our flesh wins.
• The fear of the Lord is a life-giving fountain.
• You can't fake the fruit of wisdom.
• Reverence for God is strength submitted.

🕐 Time Stamps

8:33 The Importance of Caution and Decision-Making
 15:33 Understanding the Fear of the Lord
 21:33 Living with Wisdom and Strength

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In this Monday Bible Study episode of the Men After God podcast, Adrian Ferrari walks through Proverbs 14 to unpack the critical themes of pride, leadership, and the spiritual presence of men in the home. With biblical clarity and practical insight, Adrian challenges men to be builders—not breakers—within their families.

This powerful study emphasizes the destructive nature of unchecked pride and the essential role of humility and accountability in spiritual leadership. Adrian encourages listeners to examine how their words, actions, and attitudes impact their families and to commit to cultivating a Christ-centered home marked by wisdom, love, and integrity.

Whether you're a husband, father, or future leader, this episode will inspire you to step up, lean into God’s guidance, and lead your home with purpose and presence.

🧭 Key Takeaways:

• Pride can hinder spiritual growth and leadership.
• Every person has the choice to build or break their home.
• Spiritual presence is crucial for effective leadership in the family.
• Humility is essential for receiving God's guidance.
• Discipleship requires accountability and community support.
• Messiness in life often indicates meaningful engagement.
• God values faithful builders over perfect homes.
• Listening to God's word is vital for personal growth.
• Men should actively seek to lead their families spiritually.
• Action steps include prayer, scripture reading, and seeking accountability.

🕐 Time Stamps
 3:12 Building vs. Breaking: The Role of Leadership in the Home
 6:30 The Importance of Spiritual Presence and Leadership
 11:15 The Dangers of Pride and the Need for Humility
 18:27 Navigating Messiness in Leadership and Life
 26:28 Action Steps for Spiritual Growth and Accountability

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In this deeply honest episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen confront the often-ignored topic of male trauma and the coping mechanisms men use to mask their pain. From emotional shutdown to explosive behavior, they unpack how trauma distorts spiritual growth—and how the gospel offers a path to real healing.

Through biblical insight and real-life application, Dustin and Luke explore the spiritual consequences of unresolved pain and the need for repentance and inner healing. This conversation calls men to acknowledge their brokenness, reject shame, and embrace the restorative power of Christ.

With practical advice for both ministry leaders and everyday men, this episode equips listeners to break free from cycles of dysfunction and walk in emotional wholeness and spiritual strength.

🧭 Key Takeaways:

Men often use coping mechanisms to avoid dealing with trauma.

• Coping mechanisms can manifest as addictions or disobedience.
•  Men often use coping mechanisms to avoid dealing with trauma.
• Understanding one's past is crucial for emotional healing.
• Spiritual truths can guide men in overcoming their struggles.
• Repentance begins with recognizing the need for change.
• Coping mechanisms can strain relationships with loved ones.
• The gospel offers hope and healing for emotional wounds.
• Ministry leaders play a vital role in supporting men.
• Asking questions can help uncover underlying issues.
• Transformation requires both acceptance and action.

🕐 Time Stamps

5:48 Spiritual Insights on Coping and Sin
 12:33 Identifying and Confronting Coping Mechanisms
 18:21 The Journey of Repentance and Transformation
 23:19 The Beauty of Brokenness and Healing
 24:30 Understanding Addictions and Coping Mechanisms
 27:30 Embracing Emotional Injuries and Healing
 33:25 The Role of Ministry Leaders in Healing
 39:36 The Gospel's Power in Transformation

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This is a throwback episode of the Men After God podcast from May of 2024. In this episode Dustin interviews Dr. Bradley White, a men's pastor, about the topic of pornography. They discuss their personal experiences with pornography and the impact it has had on their lives. Dr. White shares his journey of addiction and how he found freedom through accountability and the support of his wife.

🧭 Key Takeaways:

✔️ "Pornography addiction is the silent epidemic of the church." -Brad

✔️ "Sin grows best in the dark." -Brad

✔️ "Pornography offers you this illusion of love, but really it's just selling you lust." -Brad

✔️ "When you're engaged in pornography, there's no way that you are fully engaged in your life." -Brad

🕐 Time Stamps

1:54 The Difficult Subject of Pornography
 9:32 Personal Stories and Family Life
 10:51 The Journey of Overcoming Pornography Addiction
 21:24 The Power of Admission and Accountability
 32:32 Being Fully Known: Finding Freedom and Healing
 41:53 The Impact of Pornography on Emotional Intimacy in Relationships
 45:39 Pursuing Christ and Removing the Sin of Pornography

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In this powerful episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen tackle a misunderstood emotion: anger. Often viewed as the problem, anger is actually a signal—one that points to deeper, often unaddressed emotional wounds, especially in men shaped by trauma, shame, and silence.

Dustin and Luke explore how coping mechanisms like anger, withdrawal, or addiction are often used to mask deeper spiritual and emotional pain. Through a biblical lens, they discuss how understanding the root causes of anger can lead to true healing, repentance, and freedom in Christ.

This conversation encourages men to confront what’s beneath the outburst, equipping listeners—and leaders—to move beyond behavior management into heart transformation. If you’ve struggled with emotional control, or you’re ministering to men who are, this episode offers truth, hope, and practical tools.

🧭 Key Takeaways:

✔️ Men often use coping mechanisms to avoid dealing with trauma.

✔️ Coping mechanisms can manifest as addictions or disobedience.

✔️ Repentance begins with recognizing the need for change.

✔️ Transformation requires both acceptance and action.

✔️ The gospel offers hope and healing for emotional wounds.

🕐 Time Stamps

:30 Understanding Trauma and Coping Mechanisms
 5:48 Spiritual Insights on Coping and Sin
 12:43 Identifying and Confronting Coping Mechanisms
 18:21 The Journey of Repentance and Transformation
 23:19 The Beauty of Brokenness and Healing
 24:30 Understanding Addictions and Coping Mechanisms
 27:30 Embracing Emotional Injuries and Healing
 32:55 The Role of Ministry Leaders in Healing
 39:06 The Gospel's Power in Transformation

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In this Monday Bible Study episode of the Men After God podcast, Pastor Aaron McBride walks through Proverbs 13:13–25, offering a powerful look at God’s blueprint for building a legacy that lasts beyond your lifetime. This passage speaks directly to fathers, leaders, and men of faith who are seeking to live with long-term purpose and integrity.

Aaron explores key themes like discipline, wise instruction, inheritance, and spiritual influence—all vital for any man who desires to leave a lasting impact. This episode challenges listeners to consider how their daily decisions are laying the foundation for what they pass on to their children, families, and communities.

Whether you're a young man just beginning your journey or a seasoned father wanting to finish strong, this study will encourage and equip you to live today with tomorrow in mind—and to build a legacy rooted in God's wisdom.

🧭 Key Takeaways:

✔️ God’s Word offers a clear pattern for legacy

✔️ God’s Commands aren’t chains, they are guardrails

✔️ Wise instruction benefits generations, not just individuals

✔️ Your legacy is built one decision at a time

✔️ Righteous living leaves an inheritance far beyond money

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In this powerful and deeply personal episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen take on one of the most pressing yet often overlooked topics among men: trauma. From hidden emotional wounds to past grief, this episode explores how trauma affects men’s minds, hearts, and spiritual lives—and how true healing begins not with denial, but with Jesus.

Dustin and Luke unpack how trauma shows up in men's behavior, communication, and relationships. Drawing from biblical wisdom, real-life experiences, and neuroscience, they offer practical and spiritual insights for men—and those who lead them. They discuss the importance of emotional availability, the role of grief and lament, and how the Gospel offers hope for even the deepest wounds.

This episode is for every man who’s carrying unspoken pain, and for every leader, pastor, or friend seeking to understand how to walk with men through the journey of spiritual and emotional healing.

🧭 Key Takeaways:

✔️ Trauma isn’t just emotional—it affects the whole person

✔️ The Gospel doesn’t ignore your pain—it redeems it

✔️ Grief is a necessary part of healing

✔️ Men need emotional safety and spiritual truth

✔️Ministry leaders must lead with empathy and understanding

🕐 Time Stamps:

2:51 Understanding Trauma: Definitions and Perspectives
10:19 The Impact of Trauma on Personal Growth
14:55 Emotional Responses and Healing
21:54 The Role of Grief and Witnessing in Healing
32:23 Biblical Insights on Brokenness and Healing
32:37 Understanding Trauma and the Heart
37:05 The Neuroscience of Emotional Responses
45:41 De-escalation Techniques in Conflict
52:11 Healing Through the Gospel and Acknowledging Trauma

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In this Monday Bible study episode of the Men After God podcast, Pastor Aaron McBride walks through Proverbs 13:1–12, focusing on the theme “Slow Growth, Strong Roots.” Drawing from Solomon’s wisdom, Aaron unpacks how steady, godly growth produces lasting fruit in the life of a righteous man.

This study emphasizes the importance of discipline, delayed gratification, and spiritual endurance, showing how God often works through long seasons of quiet faithfulness. Pastor Aaron challenges listeners to pursue wisdom over impulse, to remain rooted in biblical truth, and to trust in God’s timing—even when growth feels slow or unseen.

If you're feeling impatient in your spiritual journey or discouraged by a lack of visible progress, this episode will encourage you to stay the course. Deep roots take time—but they build a life that can weather any storm.

🧭 Key Takeaways:

✔️ The value of listening to correction (v.1)
✔️ Choosing diligence over shortcuts (v.4)
✔️ The connection between hope, heartache, and spiritual maturity (v.12)
✔️ Why slow spiritual growth builds strong foundations
✔️ How to stay rooted in wisdom and walk in long-term obedience

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In this episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen explore what it means to be faithful in every season of life. They unpack the often-used phrase “bloom where you’re planted” and dig deep into its biblical implications for spiritual growth, emotional maturity, and godly contentment.

Whether you're walking through a season of waiting, uncertainty, or transition, this conversation brings both encouragement and practical insight. Dustin and Luke share how to combat stagnation with faithfulness, how to embrace God’s sovereignty even when life doesn’t make sense, and how to cultivate inner peace when your outer world feels chaotic.

If you’ve ever struggled with feeling stuck, restless, or unsure of your place, this episode offers real talk and biblical truth to help you root yourself in God’s purpose and presence—right where you are.

🧭 Key Takeaways:

✔️ Growing through hard seasons

✔️ Finding peace through perspective

✔️ The difference between stagnation and surrender

✔️ Trusting God’s plan when life feels uncertain

✔️ The power of faithful living in ordinary places

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