Men on Show

Dan Glyde is a transformational coach specialising in men’s mental strength and emotional resilience. Through his unique Power Shift method and the Positive Masculinity approach (A New Way for Men to Thrive) Dan guides men in taking control of their lives. He works with those who feel stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected, helping them gain clarity, build confidence, and find purpose. By addressing relationship challenges, self-doubt, and life’s pressures, Dan equips men with the tools they need to thrive and live with calm confidence, connection, and direction.

Reach out here:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/danglydecoach/

https://danglydecoach.co.uk/

Key Points of this episode:

• What inspired him in his early years.
• How his desire to "love everyone" was knocked out of him.
• What he was told about his preferred thinking style in his early years - Hint: - not healthy!
• His thoughts on bullying and how it has changed.
• Why and how he got into media.
• His thoughts on current media and why he left.
• How he "woke up" and realised his inner life was not healthy- as a "man" was trained to do.

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Phil is a senior accredited counsellor, psychotherapist, supervisor and trainer specialising in working with boys and men who have experienced recent and/or historic abuse. Since 2004 Phil has worked therapeutically with males affected by rape, sexual abuse, sexual violence and sexual exploitation. Phil experienced sexual exploitation as a child, and rape as a young adult. He is an experienced public speaker and has trained thousands of professionals across the country on male sexual abuse/exploitation addressing how masculinity can play a part and help boys and men deal with abuse .Phil released hisfirst book addressing the sexual abuse of boys and men in 2023. 
 

• The real "Phil Mitchell" (no Eastenders in sight!)
• His early life growing up
• The challenges as coming out as gay.
• How the school dealt with the bullying.
• How society accepts gay men now, but not men!
• His parents reactions when they were finally told.
• The discrepencies between male and female sex offenders sentences.
• His experience of grooming and abuse.....
• .....and the gaslighting.
• The shocking treatment by the police after he reported rape.
• How the right kind of masculinity can be used to overcome abuse.
• His work as a counsellor.
• How our perception of gender affects our perception of risk.
• Can we get more men into counselling? Or should we?
• The problems with some counselling approaches.
• How the media affects the perception of men today.
• A message of encouragement to men and boys.

Reach out to Phil here:
 
https://www.counsellingwithphil.co.uk
Twitter:philmitchell83

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John Sidebotham BEM FCILT, Programme Manager – Mental Health & Wellbeing, Route Services, Network Rail to give him his full title!

 He is a wellbeing leader – Equity, Diversity & Inclusion Champion - Mentor – Coach - Author.
 
John has worked in the transport sector throughout his career, starting with coach operator and holiday provider, Shearings, before consultancy, Centro (now Transport for West Midlands) and Network Rail.
 
He sees kindness and compassion, coupled with diversity and inclusion, vital to success, enabling fresh ideas to be brought in to challenge existing thinking, creating innovation and opportunity.
 
His passion for wellbeing was ignited through a journey through clinical depression. He is firmly of the belief that where we celebrate difference and uniqueness in a caring environment, where ideas can be shared without judgement in a safe listening environment, then this drives safety, performance, and innovation, whilst keeping us all as well as possible. An environment where we can flourish
 
 Amongst other things he hosts a daily wellbeing call each weekday, open to the railway industry
 
 One of John’s favourite quotes is: “Educating children to have more compassion is the single most important thing we can do to transform the world.” Dalai Lama & Archbishop Desmond Tutu, from their book, “The Book of Joy.” He believes this to be vital for our adult lives too, whether at work or in our home lives.

 Key Points of the Show:

• Who inspired him.
• The mindset that he uses to be productive.
• The event that had a massive effect on his life.
• His grief process and how it played out.
• Mens mental health, how it really works.
• Bullying in the workplace, and how it can happen anywhere.
• The amazing work John is doing for well being.

Reach out on Linked In HERE

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Anton Noble is an Urban Youth Specialist in Gang culture and Youth violence. He has his own ‘lived experience’ in gangs, and having broken free from his past himself is now acknowledged as one of the UK’s leading Mentors working with young people caught up in gangs, serious youth violence and exploitation Now having over 5 years of experience as an Outreach Worker and qualified youth mentor, Anton is also a motivational and transformational speaker, advisor, mediator and Gang Exit Strategist. He won the Most Inspirational Male Role Model of the Year in Northamptonshire 2019 and featured in the Channel 4 documentary ‘Britain’s Young Drug Runners’, which won a best documentary award in 2019.

Anton’s purpose and drive comes from his passionate desire to share the love, grace and mercy which he has himself received and to and give this away to the young people he meets with, so it might instigate change in them as well. Anton leads the GYM (Guiding Young Minds) team in the Midlands. 

Key points of the episode:

• His early upbringing and what he thought was "normal" in his house, was not.
• How his parents divorce affected him and his siblings.
• His entry and the reason for it into gang culture.
• What gang culture was like for him.
• How easy (or not) it is to get out of gangs.
• How he got out and why.
• Transitional moments - " I don't belong, but I can't leave"
• How some people can see something in you that you can't.
• "Hurt people hurt people"
• His organisation and the work he does.
• A wonderful short, inspiring conclusion.

Reach out to Anton www.guidingyoungminds.org
24 Hour Helpline: 

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From Scott's website:

Scott Mair, is an expert in paternal mental health and parenting. Navigating the uncharted waters of fatherhood, Scott provides invaluable insights into the often overlooked intersection of paternal mental health and effective parenting. He seamlessly combines professional expertise with a compassionate approach, drawing from his own lived experiences and the evidence base to offer a comprehensive guide for fathers facing the challenges of parenthood and those seeking to support them.

At the forefront of change, Scott works at a national and local level, advocating for greater father inclusivity and emphasising the vital role fathers play in family dynamics. His initiatives include the successful establishment of fathers’ support networks, leveraging his military background as an Infantry soldier to create a specialised network for fathers on the frontline. Scott extends his consultancy services to health organisations and the corporate sector.

Key Points of the Episode:

• Busting the myth of men not talking.
• How he puts a positive spin on his past in the present.
• HIs time in the military and the adjustment on leaving.
• How parenthood can be isolating, and solutions he offers.
• How Family Solutions came about, and what it offers.
• Understanding the Fathers Journey.
• Permission to be the "Dad you want to be rather than the Dad society says you "should" be.
• His work with special educational needs people.
• How an "unspoken expectation" about Dads may make it harder to engage.
• Stats: 1 in 9 people are stay at home dads, 16% of solo parents are Dads.
• Burnout and parental guilt.
• His work with local authorities and city councils.
• Different pressures on Mums and Dads in relationships that have split up.
• How some Dads feel the system is against them.
• How 15 or 20 minutes of quality time can do a lot - and the thinking outside the box to achieve it.
• What's next.... and an encouraging message.

Reach out - Search "Scott Mair, Fatherhood Solutions"

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Shocka is a Tedx speaker and a talented music rap artist. Here we chat to him about his life and career.

Key points of the episode:

• A close misunderstanding of football :)
• How he grew up in a stigmatised area of London, and the tension between the police and the people that lived on the estate.
• How he thought it was "normal"
• How he used to want to be a footballer.
• How much talent is in Tottenham, and the depth of the lyrics.
• How pain births creativity - including in music.
• How rap was "woken up" and birthed in him.
• The twists and turns of his career story.
• His difficulties with mental health on occasion.
• How to get started in a practical sense with self love.
• Forgiveness for self and others. Celebrating small wins.

Reach out on Insta on @shocka_artist
https://www.instagram.com/shocka_artist

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Jonathan Macdonald is a fascinating, dyslexic, neurodiverse and brilliant man, whos passion is creating an education revolution for girls aged 11-18.

Here he chats with Andrew about many aspects of his life, his knowledge, passions and how he got to this point.

Key Points of the Episode

• A philosophical perspective on his early life experiences.
• Reflections on his relationship with his brother.
• How it was as a mixed race child with white (adoptive) parents.
• His counter experience of "racism" as a mixed race person that experienced white privilege!
• His thoughts on education for neurodivergent people.
• ... and the application of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) to help (fascinating).
• His stroke recovery and how he did it as a dyslexic.
• His core positive beliefs...
• ....and a positive message for all.

Reack out on https://potency.world/

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Josh Munns is originally from London but hemoved up to the East Midlands to change his life around and get the support and help he needed in my battle with addiction. 

He is currently volunteering his  services through cutting hair for the service users in some drop in centres, he is also on a course at the minute doing a Level 2 youth course to become a youth worker.

He has an amazing story to share to those who are wanting to make a change in their life’s and to just share to those so that they can see there is hope out there. 

Key points of the show:

• His life as a kid. And how his parents relationship affected him.
• How his Dad's problems caused him to grow up very quickly.
• How he had hardly anyone to talk to.
• How he felt he had missed out on the "fun" stuff like alcohol, weed and gambling.
• The progression from cocaine to crack and heroin.
• The beginning of how he turned his life around.
• How gambling is marketed as very "male" and "macho"
• How it becomes addictive.
• Advice for carers for people with a gambling addiction.
• His podcast which shares lived experience.
• The importance to him of giving back.

Podcast Spotify/Apple/Amazon - "Recovery Talks 27/7"

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Dr Andy Hamilton is a research associate with the Taking Boys Seriously (TBS) project at Ulster University. TBS is a longitudinal action research initiative spanning over 18 years. The research works alongside adolescent boys and the educational ecosystem that surrounds them to transform experiences and outcomes in education, particularly for those young men faced with compounded educational disadvantage.
 
 Andy’s background is in informal education. His doctoral research investigated the multiple ways in which youth workers approach peacebuilding with young people in Northern Ireland and stemmed from over a decade of experience as a practitioner and trustee in the youth sector.
 
 His current role with Taking Boys Seriously brings together multiple research interests including equity and equality in education, gender and masculinities, participatory action research, youth in contested societies, and applied social and political theory. It also continues to inform his own practice as a volunteer youth worker with young people in north Belfast.
 
 More information on Taking Boys Seriously including a suite of research articles and the TBS principles for working in a gender-conscious relational way with boys and young men, can be accessed via our website:

www.ulster.ac.uk/tbs

Written evidence from TBS research that has recently been published by the UK Parliament Education Committee for their Inquiry into boys' engagement and attainment in education is also available from this link:

https://committees.parliament.uk/writtenevidence/130387/pdf/

Key points of the show:

• His experience in growing up in Northern Ireland.
• Good relationships with his family growing up.
• How he did not know what he wanted to do while growing up.
• (and one word from a confidante changed that)
• How at one point he truly believed he was out of his depth! #impostersyndrome
• Why calling men "Toxic" as in Toxic Masculinity is ultimately not helpful, and a useful reframe.
• How the relationship with their educators really affects boys.
• How the relationship to their own masculinity is not explored, and should be.
• "Local Educational Ecosystems" that encourage boys to thrive.
• How more and more people are taking boys education more seriously.
• Why there is nothing intrinsically "wrong" with these boys, but the system needs to change.
• How boys AND girls need their advocates.
• Wise and final words

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Rob Wells is a former Military Police officer and security professional as well as a published author, international speaker and writer. He is also a survivor of female perpetrated domestic abuse.

Ribert has delivered talks to a diverse range of audiences, including domestic abuse frontline agencies, Military Welfare Units, Government Councils, the Army, Royal Navy, Royal Air Force and the Royal Marines. His expertise has been also sought by civilian police, the Ministry of Defence and the National Health Service.

His story has been featured in multiple national and international newspapers and magazines, with appearances on radio shows in both the UK and USA. Robert was invited by the Durban government in South Africa to present on domestic abuse.

Robert is available for national and international engagements, including training courses, conference speeches, business consultations, and media interviews on the subject of domestic abuse.

Reach out to him on: 07853 621303
[email protected]

Key Points of the Show:

• What most stands out for him as a child. (And how the 70's and 80's were better!)
• How he was the last of 5 kids, and what he was told about it.
• How he could not choose between army and police.
• What life was like in military training (legalised bullying)
• How there was zero mental healthcare here.
• Why military included the best 12 years of his life.
• Why he got into campaigining about domestic abuse.
• How domestic abuse affected him, and the innocent mistake that drew him in.
• The time he could actually speak about it.
• Why domestic abuse is hard to spot, even though the red flags are there in full view.
• How on one occasion he was treated worse by the police than the abuse itself.
• How depression set in when he was trying to turn it into a positive.
• His take on modern masculinity - what it takes to be a "gentleman"
• Some final wise words.

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