Welcome to a series of videos that will introduce you to a simple model of men’s psychology that draws on some of the growing body of research on men.

There’s more than meets the eye with men, just as there is with women. Men are driven at the core by instincts the same as women—masculine instincts.

However, just like women, they have emotions of very similar types and style. The expression is different because emoting is in some part, governed by the instincts.

Finally, the intellect and mature executive functions are also just like those of women (we have identical IQ potential - and “EQ” potential.) Yet the masculine instincts also influence that, and our communication and behavior.

This synthesis of the old and new, the rigorous and the elegant, and most important of all, an attempt at “unification of the psychologies” is the aim of Masculine Psychology, as we start to discuss in this first video.

It’s Masculine Psychology (originally, MMP), which is available in videos delivered one day at a time, for the full 5+ hours of the course (available to paid subscribers only)…

Upgraded Members get full access to the full program and many others from Men’s Psychology right away without waiting for lesson-by-lesson:

SUMMARY:

The transcript discusses the attributes of the Greek gods Apollo and Artemis, focusing on their roles as "sun gods" and the concept of precision in their actions, particularly regarding Apollo's keen intellect and skill. The speaker relates the phrase "you killed it," often used to compliment someone's performance, to Apollo's precision—suggesting that this god represents excellence in intellectual pursuits.

The conversation shifts to the ancient understanding of diseases, which were thought to be caused by the arrows of Apollo and Artemis. By praying to Apollo, the Greeks believed they could stop epidemics, leading to the association of Apollo with healing through his son, Asclepius, the god of medicine.

The myth of Apollo and Daphne is explored next. In this tale, Apollo unsuccessfully pursues the nymph Daphne, who is determined to remain chaste. Her transformation into a laurel tree is framed as a punishment for Apollo’s inappropriate pursuit of a lower-class nymph, akin to modern situations like those involving public figures and private indiscretions.

The discussion humorously highlights a character named Leucippus, who disguises himself to gain Daphne's affection, emphasizing themes of desire and desperation in romantic pursuits. Overall, the transcript weaves together mythology, cultural commentary on masculinity, and the implications of desire and class in relationships, using Apollo as a central figure in these narratives.

Welcome to a series of audios that will introduce you to a simple model of men’s psychology that draws on some of the growing body of research on men.

There’s more than meets the eye with men, just as there is with women. Men are driven at the core by instincts the same as women—masculine instincts.

However, just like women, they have emotions of very similar types and style. The expression is different because emoting is in some part, governed by the instincts.

Finally, the intellect and mature executive functions are also just like those of women (we have identical IQ potential - and “EQ” potential.) Yet the masculine instincts also influence that, and our communication and behavior.

This synthesis of the old and new, the rigorous and the elegant, and most important of all, an attempt at “unification of the psychologies” is the aim of Masculine Psychology, as we start to discuss in this first video.

It’s Masculine Psychology (originally, MMP), which is available in videos delivered one day at a time, for the full 5+ hours of the course (available to paid subscribers only)…

Upgraded Members get full access to the full program and many others from Men’s Psychology right away without waiting for lesson-by-lesson:

SUMMARY:

The transcript discusses the theme of achieving significant life goals as part of a hero's journey, highlighting the preparation and purification required before attaining a transformative "boon," such as the elixir of life or immortality. The conversation shifts to personal experiences of achievement, specifically mentioning individuals who have reached notable milestones like graduating or attaining the rank of Eagle Scout—a prestigious honor in scouting.

One participant named Tim shares his journey to achieving Eagle Scout, emphasizing the rigorous training and time constraints involved, as well as the familial legacy behind his motivation. He notes that only a small percentage of scouts achieve this rank, making it a valued accomplishment, often compared to military honors like the Purple Heart.

The discussion also touches on the potential temptation to remain in the state of achievement and bliss after obtaining such a life goal, referencing those who, instead of returning to their ordinary lives to share their gained wisdom, may want to indulge in the newfound freedom and enjoyment without the responsibility it entails. This reflects the broader narrative of the hero's journey, where the return to share the boon can often be met with reluctance.

Welcome to a series of videos that will introduce you to a simple model of men’s psychology that draws on some of the growing body of research on men.

There’s more than meets the eye with men, just as there is with women. Men are driven at the core by instincts the same as women—masculine instincts.

However, just like women, they have emotions of very similar types and style. The expression is different because emoting is in some part, governed by the instincts.

Finally, the intellect and mature executive functions are also just like those of women (we have identical IQ potential - and “EQ” potential.) Yet the masculine instincts also influence that, and our communication and behavior.

This synthesis of the old and new, the rigorous and the elegant, and most important of all, an attempt at “unification of the psychologies” is the aim of Masculine Psychology, as we start to discuss in this first video.

It’s Masculine Psychology (originally, MMP), which is available in videos delivered one day at a time, for the full 5+ hours of the course (available to paid subscribers only)…

Upgraded Members get full access to the full program and many others from Men’s Psychology right away without waiting for lesson-by-lesson:

SUMMARY:

Dr. Paul presents a structured overview of Erik Erikson's stages of development, discussing the psychological growth process as it relates to specific age ranges and the virtues that emerge from successfully navigating each stage. Key points include:

1. **Erikson's Stages**: The speaker emphasizes Erikson's framework which identifies critical stages of emotional and psychological development throughout life, marking specific ages alongside the central conflicts that individuals face.

2. **First Stage: Trust vs. Mistrust (0-1 year)**: The first stage focuses on the development of trust through early caregiving experiences. A lack of trust may be traced back to negative early parenting.

3. **Second Stage: Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt (2-3 years)**: In this stage, toddlers learn to assert their independence while having a secure base with their caregiver. Positive experiences foster autonomy, while negative ones may lead to feelings of shame and doubt about their abilities.

4. **Third Stage: Initiative vs. Guilt (4-6 years)**: During preschool years, children begin to assert control and take initiative in their activities. A successful navigation of this stage leads to a sense of initiative, whereas guilt may arise from overly controlling environments.

5. **Virtues Developed**: The speaker describes the virtues cultivated through each of these stages. For the first stage, the resulting virtue is **hope**; for the second stage, it is **willpower** or the sense of self-efficacy (the belief that one can perform tasks independently).

6. **Masculinity and Help-Seeking Behavior**: The speaker notes the challenges men face in asking for help, connecting societal expectations of masculinity to underreporting of emotional struggles, such as depression. They suggest a need for approaches that effectively reach men regarding emotional and mental health issues.

Overall, the discussion synthesizes Erikson’s theory with contemporary reflections on emotional growth, masculinity, and the importance of navigating early developmental stages successfully to foster psychological resilience and well-being.

Welcome to a series of videos that will introduce you to a simple model of men’s psychology that draws on some of the growing body of research on men.

There’s more than meets the eye with men, just as there is with women. Men are driven at the core by instincts the same as women—masculine instincts.

However, just like women, they have emotions of very similar types and style. The expression is different because emoting is in some part, governed by the instincts.

Finally, the intellect and mature executive functions are also just like those of women (we have identical IQ potential - and “EQ” potential.) Yet the masculine instincts also influence that, and our communication and behavior.

This synthesis of the old and new, the rigorous and the elegant, and most important of all, an attempt at “unification of the psychologies” is the aim of Masculine Psychology, as we start to discuss in this first video.

It’s Masculine Psychology (originally, MMP), which is available in videos delivered one day at a time, for the full 5+ hours of the course (available to paid subscribers only)…

Upgraded Members get full access to the full program and many others from Men’s Psychology right away without waiting for lesson-by-lesson:

SUMMARY:

In this passage, Dr. Paul reflects on personal transformation and the moments of realization that lead individuals to make significant changes in their lives. Key points include:

1. **Deciding to Quit**: The speaker begins with the theme of recognizing when it's time to leave a relationship or a demanding profession. They share a personal story about quitting a surgical residency that often required extensive hours, highlighting the toll it took on their health and well-being.

2. **A Moment of Clarity**: A specific moment is described when the speaker felt compelled to reassess their life. Waking up to a depressing video juxtaposed with their lonely living situation prompted an epiphany about the direction of their life, leading to the decision to pursue a new path.

3. **Crossing the First Threshold**: The concept of the "crossing of the first threshold" is introduced, symbolizing the point at which an individual leaves their comfort zone and embarks on a new adventure. This is likened to the act of getting on a bus or plane, representing a commitment to entering unknown territories.

4. **Belly of the Whale**: The "belly of the whale" is described as a metaphor for complete immersion in the new experience, indicating a readiness for transformation and personal growth. At this stage, the speaker notes that individuals often burn bridges to signify their commitment to change.

5. **Initiation and Challenges**: The speaker references Joseph Campbell's model of the hero's journey, particularly the initiation phase, which includes a series of challenges or trials. These tests must be overcome to facilitate personal transformation, and it is common to face failures along the way.

6. **Meeting with the Goddess**: The mention of “meeting with the goddess” refers to a pivotal moment in the hero's journey, where the individual experiences profound love or support, symbolizing the importance of relationship and connection during transformational processes.

Overall, the discussion emphasizes the journey of self-discovery and the courage required to move from familiar environments into transformative experiences, highlighting the stages of change and growth in the hero’s journey.

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This conversation delves into the psychological concept of splitting as an immature defense mechanism, its origins in childhood, and its implications in adult relationships. Dr. Paul and Jeremy explore how attachment styles influence splitting, the role of triangulation in interpersonal dynamics, and the importance of effective communication in navigating relationships. They also discuss strategies for overcoming splitting through compromise and collaboration, emphasizing the need for curiosity and mutual understanding in fostering healthy connections.

In the discussion, Jeremy Fox discusses the concept of "splitting" as a primitive ego defense mechanism, drawing on the theories of notable psychoanalysts Melanie Klein and Otto Kernberg. They explain that splitting is an immature defense mechanism that develops early in childhood. It occurs when the ego, which mediates between the unconscious desires of the id and the moral constraints of the superego, cannot reconcile conflicting feelings about a person. Instead of seeing the complexities of individuals, splitting leads to all-or-nothing thinking, where a person is viewed as either entirely good or entirely bad.

Dr. Paul elaborates on how this mechanism is especially prominent in borderline personality disorder (BPD), where relationships may fluctuate between idealization and vilification, often due to early attachment experiences. They highlight that children often idealize their parents, which can lead to cognitive dissonance if the parents exhibit poor behavior. This lack of nuance in perception can cause significant issues in adult relationships, as individuals with a splitting defense may struggle to see others in shades of gray and may quickly shift their views of others.

The discussion also touches on the connection between attachment styles and the development of splitting in adulthood, indicating that insecure or anxious attachment can contribute to this kind of black-and-white thinking. Dr. Paul expresses an interest in integrating various theories, including those of Klein and attachment theory, to better understand the underlying mechanisms behind splitting.

In this discussion, Dr Paul explains the concept of "splitting," a primitive ego defense mechanism described by psychoanalysts Melanie Klein and Otto Kernberg. Splitting occurs when the ego struggles to integrate the conflicting aspects of relationships, leading to an all-or-nothing perspective—where individuals are seen as either entirely good or entirely bad. This defense mechanism develops early in childhood, particularly in relation to attachment figures, such as parents.

Klein posits that children idealize their parents as a coping strategy, which prevents them from acknowledging negative traits. This idealization can create significant emotional dissonance when a parent exhibits harmful behaviors, ultimately causing the child to vacillate between viewing the parent as a loving figure and as a villain. The discussion notes that splitting not only manifests as black-and-white thinking but also influences emotions like idealization and vilification of others.

Furthermore, Jeremy raises a question about the relationship between attachment styles—such as poor or anxious attachment—and the emergence of splitting in adulthood. Dr Paul acknowledges this connection, indicating that early attachment experiences can set the stage for adult splitting behaviors.

Overall, the conversation delves into the psychological underpinnings of splitting in the context of child development and adult interpersonal relationships.

Takeaways

Takeaways

Splitting is an immature defense mechanism learned in childhood.

Attachment styles, particularly avoidant and anxious, influence splitting behavior.

Triangulation is a complex interplay of splitting and projection.

Effective communication is crucial in navigating relationships and avoiding splitting.

Compromise and collaboration are essential superpowers against splitting.

Mentalization helps individuals understand their own and others' behaviors.

Recognizing the good and bad in others is key to overcoming splitting.

Curiosity about others' perspectives can mitigate splitting tendencies.

Healthy relationships require ongoing negotiation and communication.

Understanding the dynamics of narcissism can help in recognizing splitting behavior.

Titles

The Psychology of Splitting: Understanding Ego Defenses

Attachment Styles and Their Impact on Relationships

Sound bites

"Splitting is an immature defense."

"Splitting occurs in the infant."

"Mentalization is observing ego."

Chapters

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Splitting as an Ego Defense Mechanism

03:02 Attachment Styles and Their Impact on Splitting

06:07 The Role of Mentalization in Ego Development

08:55 Triangulation and Its Connection to Splitting

12:06 The Dynamics of Narcissism and Splitting

15:02 The Boundary Function in Ego Defenses

17:56 The Impact of Splitting on Relationships

20:59 Gossip, Reputation, and Social Dynamics

23:59 The Consequences of Splitting in Communities

39:49 Survival and Growth in Modern Society

40:18 The Evolution of Personality Disorders

41:17 Superpowers Against Narcissism

42:17 Building Mature Romantic Partnerships

44:44 Curiosity as a Foundation for Relationships

49:23 The Dynamics of Compromise

53:30 Collaboration: The Power of Co-Laboring

58:16 The Importance of Action in Relationships

01:01:21 Balancing Idealization and Practicality

01:03:41 The Four C's of Healthy Partnerships

01:08:26 Mindfulness and Ego Defense in Relationships

I’ve been told by a mentor tonight that I haven’t been clear about one of the things I offer people, probably the crown jewel of my life.

The best version of it is not digital in my view. It’s in 16 lengthy, paperback books:

The entire work (5000+ web articles) is available as a footnoted, research study-referenced, cross-linked Wiki as Romantipedia.com, free to paid members of any of our Substacks automatically, and you can get a preview of how the site works, here:

A great deal of individuals have told me what you also see in the social media headlines about how frustrating dating apps are, or how many people are traumatized by divorce, how men vote red and women vote blue (which I’ve been talking about in the media for 20 years.) How there seems to be no answer to finding happiness in love or happiness in general (which always has roots in having love in your life.)

“Matchmakers” have been around since the beginning of time, but there has never been a science to it. You had to rely on the intuitive skills and experience of the matchmaker if you lucked out, and that’s only if you lived in a time of history and a culture that supported their work.

Guess what? Western culture today does not at all support their work, and there still is no one scientific theory explaining how to find and keep love “soup to nuts,” meeting someone new, and leading to a solid marriage (not divorcing, no way, never an option.)

Gottman is the master of marriage, especially “on the rocks.” Evolutionary psychology has not figured out a unified theory (of itself) or practical applications that can be taught to and applied to people (or accepted by everyone as valid.)

There are attachment theory specialists and trauma experts, while the new emerging body of knowledge on “narcissistic abuse” and how to spot and avoid narcissists in your romantic life hold crucial new knowledge about what to AVOID.

But nobody tells you what the answer is to do it RIGHT—to find happiness through love and romance—the Holy Grail of psychology.

Because we now know through the Harvard Study that the key to human happiness is “having a high number of friendships,” and the synonym for “friendship” is “love.”

And where the highest form of love is in romantic love.

Forces are at work that seek to kill love between two people. So it is no surprise that almost all that you find in academic or clinical work is centered on the mood and healing of the individual, that most of what you find about relationships is how to avoid abusive people (not to find kind people). All of this is because they don’t know what to tell you about how to find good people who are a match for you in love (as the matchmakers through all time only intuitively and experientially knew how to do if you were lucky enough to find a gifted one, in the right culture that supported doing so.)

I’ve been 30 years in psychiatry practice, and while I don’t have David Buss’s cellphone number, I’ve studied extensively about how evolutionary psychology applies to human courtship, specifically in only the first of three stages or phases: sexual attraction. This was solidified for me 20 years ago by directly studying— in person, and examining with a scientific eye—the dating coaches of the world. Some of them were teaching some things that had some scientific merit and could be aligned with psychoanalytic principles. Others had bunk to offer, that sunk their entire enterprises.

The second and third phases of courtship are also common sense, and were readily available in the traditional clinical education available to me and all my medical colleagues for decades: emotional attraction (friendship, as in boyfriend/girlfriend), and intellectual attraction (which is partnership and commitment, hopefully for life, which the works of John Gottman partially address, but don’t take into account the former phases and steps, and the unavoidable existence of masculine and feminine instincts well-known to both the evolutionary psychologists and to Jungian Psychologists that long-predate them in the evolution of theory on this matter (pun intended.)

Because my traditional psychoanalytic training informed me on how to understand the 2nd and 3rd phases, I believe I have decoded human courtship in my own unique way (many can develop their own way, but mine now covers first meeting in the “meet-cute” all the way through marriage or unfortunately divorce and rebirth.)

The whole system can be tunneled down into, in depth, and using literary examples from the Ancient Greek myths, through Shakespeare, and into modern cinema to illustrate human behaviors that parallel the science principles referenced to hundreds of research studies.

However, it can be simplified into just three phases, each comprising three steps, to master courtship and find love that lasts a lifetime.

It is available in a wiki online to anyone who becomes a paid member of any of our substacks at:

https://romantipedia.com

…and also in my favorite version, which is a set of 16 soft or hardcover books (the softcover are the best since they are 5×8 in and fit in a small backpack or purse, here on amazon, as the Romantic Dynamics series:

The entire work (5000+ web articles) is available as a footnoted, research study-referenced, cross-linked Wiki as Romantipedia.com, free to paid members of any of our Substacks automatically, and you can get a preview of how the site works, here:

Welcome to a series of videos that will introduce you to a simple model of men’s psychology that draws on some of the growing body of research on men.

Paid Members get the full courses on the Apple App Store app:

There’s more than meets the eye with men, just as there is with women. Men are driven at the core by instincts the same as women—masculine instincts.

However, just like women, they have emotions of very similar types and style. The expression is different because emoting is in some part, governed by the instincts.

Finally, the intellect and mature executive functions are also just like those of women (we have identical IQ potential - and “EQ” potential.) Yet the masculine instincts also influence that, and our communication and behavior.

This synthesis of the old and new, the rigorous and the elegant, and most important of all, an attempt at “unification of the psychologies” is the aim of Masculine Psychology, as we start to discuss in this first video.

It’s Masculine Psychology (originally, MMP), which is available in videos delivered one day at a time, for the full 5+ hours of the course (available to paid subscribers only)…

Upgraded Members get full access to the full program and many others from Men’s Psychology right away without waiting for lesson-by-lesson:

SUMMARY:

Dr Paul explores the relationship between spiritual traditions, psychological maturity, and character development, emphasizing the use of storytelling within major religions as a means of instruction. Key points include:

1. **Character Instruction in Religions**: The speaker posits that the world's major religions serve as guides for character development, using stories and parables instead of straightforward instructions. This narrative approach is preferred because it resonates more deeply with psychological growth.

2. **Symbolism in Religious Narratives**: Using the example of the Garden of Eden, the speaker questions the notion that knowledge is inherently bad. They interpret the story as a metaphor for the transition from childhood ignorance (representing bliss and lack of responsibility) to adult awareness of life's complexities, including the necessity of work and the duality of good and evil in the world.

3. **Spiritual and Psychological Growth**: The speaker connects spiritual maturity with psychological maturity, noting that the term "psyche," used in psychology, is synonymous with soul or spirit. They emphasize that psychological development parallels spiritual growth, suggesting that understanding oneself is essential for spiritual enlightenment.

4. **Cautions Against Literal Interpretations**: The speaker warns that interpreting religious stories too literally can lead to misunderstandings, advocating for a more symbolic interpretation that recognizes their deeper meanings and lessons.

5. **Upcoming Topics**: The speaker notes a transition to discussing psychosocial development models, specifically Eric Erikson's stages of development, indicating a shift towards a more structured, left-brained analysis of maturation.

Overall, the discussion shifts between spiritual insights and psychological theories, highlighting how both realms contribute to a comprehensive understanding of human growth and character development.

Paid Members get the full courses on the Apple App Store app:

Welcome to a series of videos that will introduce you to a simple model of men’s psychology that draws on some of the growing body of research on men.

There’s more than meets the eye with men, just as there is with women. Men are driven at the core by instincts the same as women—masculine instincts.

However, just like women, they have emotions of very similar types and style. The expression is different because emoting is in some part, governed by the instincts.

Finally, the intellect and mature executive functions are also just like those of women (we have identical IQ potential - and “EQ” potential.) Yet the masculine instincts also influence that, and our communication and behavior.

This synthesis of the old and new, the rigorous and the elegant, and most important of all, an attempt at “unification of the psychologies” is the aim of Masculine Psychology, as we start to discuss in this first video.

It’s Masculine Psychology (originally, MMP), which is available in videos delivered one day at a time, for the full 5+ hours of the course (available to paid subscribers only)…

Upgraded Members get full access to the full program and many others from Men’s Psychology right away without waiting for lesson-by-lesson:

SUMMARY:

Dr. Paul addresses how to handle conflict with overpowering individuals—particularly those who exhibit immaturity and aggression—drawing on analogies and practical strategies. Key points include:

1. **Handling Aggression**: The speaker compares dealing with an aggressive person to disarming a child with a loaded gun. They suggest using distraction techniques to diffuse tension, such as redirecting the person's focus toward a common issue or task, which can prevent direct confrontation.

2. **Using Distraction as a Tool**: In a workplace scenario, the speaker recommends highlighting problems (like poor performance metrics) as a way to engage the aggressive individual in a cooperative discussion rather than escalating the conflict. This approach serves to redirect their energy and attention positively.

3. **Sword and Shield Metaphor**: The speaker elaborates on conflict management strategies by comparing fighting with a sword (aggression) versus using a shield (defensive, boundary-setting approach). They emphasize that while engaging in battle can be exhausting, maintaining boundaries and saying "no" can tire out an aggressor, limiting damage during conflicts and conserving energy.

4. **Assertiveness and Boundaries**: By continuously asserting boundaries—saying "no" or using more assertive apologies (referred to as "sorry, number two")—the individual can protect themselves from unnecessary conflicts until the right moment to respond is available.

5. **Addressing Harassment**: The speaker briefly shares a personal anecdote about a man facing sexual harassment at work, underscoring the importance of communicating about such issues. The man felt isolated and ashamed to seek help, highlighting the need for open dialogue about harassment, regardless of gender.

Overall, the discussion focuses on the importance of effective conflict resolution strategies through distraction and boundary setting, allowing individuals to manage aggressive behaviors without escalating tensions unnecessarily.

Welcome to a series of videos that will introduce you to a simple model of men’s psychology that draws on some of the growing body of research on men.

There’s more than meets the eye with men, just as there is with women. Men are driven at the core by instincts the same as women—masculine instincts.

However, just like women, they have emotions of very similar types and style. The expression is different because emoting is in some part, governed by the instincts.

Finally, the intellect and mature executive functions are also just like those of women (we have identical IQ potential - and “EQ” potential.) Yet the masculine instincts also influence that, and our communication and behavior.

This synthesis of the old and new, the rigorous and the elegant, and most important of all, an attempt at “unification of the psychologies” is the aim of Masculine Psychology, as we start to discuss in this first video.

It’s Masculine Psychology (originally, MMP), which is available in videos delivered one day at a time, for the full 5+ hours of the course (available to paid subscribers only)…

Upgraded Members get full access to the full program and many others from Men’s Psychology right away without waiting for lesson-by-lesson:

SUMMARY:

Dr. Paul discusses the nuances of communication and confidence in social interactions, particularly in the context of dating. Key points include:

1. **Courage vs. Foolhardiness**: The speaker distinguishes between erratic, impulsive behavior (e.g., blurting out whatever comes to mind) and genuine courage. They argue that simply saying whatever is on one’s mind, especially on a date, is foolish and undermines the mystery of the interaction.

2. **Masculinity and Confidence**: There's a differentiation made between masculine attributes, associated with confidence and fatherliness, and feminine attributes, connected to well-being and motherliness. The speaker notes that these traits are not strictly gender-specific.

3. **Facing Fear**: The speaker emphasizes the importance of facing fears thoughtfully rather than adopting a defeatist attitude. True courage requires facing challenges rather than avoiding them.

4. **Setting Boundaries**: The speaker explains that individuals have the right to express their feelings honestly in a diplomatic manner, particularly in uncomfortable situations, such as a bad date. They highlight that it's acceptable to say "no" or to excuse oneself without feeling guilty.

5. **Two Types of Apologies**: The speaker contrasts two kinds of apologies: one that is weak and childlike ("I'm sorry") and another that is assertive and mature. This mature apology acknowledges one's needs while respecting the other person’s feelings, such as saying, “I’m sorry, but I need to go home now.”

6. **Social Appropriateness**: The speaker discusses how expressing one's boundaries and saying no can be seen as a form of "killing" in a metaphorical sense—acknowledging the socially appropriate ways to assert oneself without being hurtful.

Overall, the dialogue emphasizes the importance of confidence, the ability to communicate boundaries effectively, and the distinction between immature and mature expressions of emotion in interpersonal relationships.

Welcome to a series of videos that will introduce you to a simple model of men’s psychology that draws on some of the growing body of research on men.

There’s more than meets the eye with men, just as there is with women. Men are driven at the core by instincts the same as women—masculine instincts.

However, just like women, they have emotions of very similar types and style. The expression is different because emoting is in some part, governed by the instincts.

Finally, the intellect and mature executive functions are also just like those of women (we have identical IQ potential - and “EQ” potential.) Yet the masculine instincts also influence that, and our communication and behavior.

This synthesis of the old and new, the rigorous and the elegant, and most important of all, an attempt at “unification of the psychologies” is the aim of Masculine Psychology, as we start to discuss in this first video.

It’s Masculine Psychology (originally, MMP), which is available in videos delivered one day at a time, for the full 5+ hours of the course (available to paid subscribers only)…

Upgraded Members get full access to the full program and many others from Men’s Psychology right away without waiting for lesson-by-lesson:

SUMMARY

Dr. Paul discusses the relationship between money, power, and personal freedom, challenging common perceptions about wealth and morality. Key points include:

1. **Power and Money**: The speaker suggests that increased financial success leads to greater freedom and power. However, they note that many associate power and wealth with negative connotations, citing phrases like "money is the root of all evil."

2. **Correcting Misconceptions**: The speaker clarifies that it is the "love of money" or an addiction to it that leads to negative outcomes, not money itself. They argue that money can enable individuals to do good for others and support their loved ones.

3. **Personal Reflection**: The speaker shares a personal anecdote about their father's negative beliefs regarding money and wealth, which contributed to their family's impoverished status. This inherited mindset about the morality of wealth was framed as a damaging legacy.

4. **Cultural References**: The speaker introduces Odysseus, a symbol of adventure and masculinity, as an archetype representing personal growth and exploration. They connect Odysseus to the idea of maturity and the potential for men to venture out into the world.

5. **Generational Legacy**: The speaker reflects on the struggles of previous generations, drawing parallels between the myth of Sisyphus—who is condemned to futile labor—and the working-class fathers who sacrificed for their children to have opportunities. These paternal figures worked hard to provide their children with the freedom to pursue their dreams.

Overall, the discussion aims to reframe the understanding of wealth and power, emphasizing that they can be tools for good when approached with a mature mindset. It underscores the importance of overcoming inherited negative beliefs about money and embracing its potential to foster personal freedom and adventure.