Message in the Middle: Midlife Women, Reinvention & Personal Growth

Today, I have a returning guest that some of you might remember, her name is Shiloh Minor. We’re diving deep into how resentment, growth, and personal development can impact our relationships.  As a reminder, Shiloh helps women create soul-satisfying marriages without couples therapy through her proven Real-Love Method. 

Conversation Highlights:

Shiloh's Journey: 

• A recap of how Shiloh entered this area of focus through her own relationship healing and how she has been supporting others in restoring their relationships for years.

An exploration of Common Reasons for Resentment in Relationships:

• Sacrifices made in personal life and career.
• Partner's relationship with children.
• Career choices 
• Societal/Family expectations.

The Impact of Growing at Different Paces:

• Impact on spouse, family, and friends.

The Role of Guilt in Relationships:

• Root causes for guilt 
• Guilt's influence within relationships.
• How to work through and beyond the guilt

Connect with Shiloh through these links:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shiloh.minor
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shilohthelovecoach/
Website: www.shilohminor.com

Grab a Freebie from Shiloh through this link:
https://marriagewithpassion.com/leadmagnet---5-sabotages

Check out Shiloh's first episode on Message in the Middle:
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1938384/11875015

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Marianne is joined by the hilarious and insightful Marie Thom. Marie is a self-described big knickers wearer, frantic chin plucker, gin lover, and muffin-top fighter who worships at the altar of the incontinence liner. Beyond her humorous self-description, Marie is the brilliant mind behind the popular Facebook page, Midlife Dramas in Pyjamas, and a published writer in Good Housekeeping, Best, and Menopause Life Magazine.

Marie’s journey started with a simple goal: to make women laugh and feel less alone during the tumultuous ride of menopause. What began as a funny blog on Facebook has evolved into a supportive community and a platform for Marie to speak out about midlife and menopause. 

Episode Highlights:

• Marie’s Backstory: Discover what inspired Marie to start her blog and Facebook group, Midlife Dramas in Pyjamas. Learn about her mission to bring laughter and connection to women navigating menopause.
• Finding Comedy in Menopause: Marie talks about the importance of humor in dealing with the challenges of midlife and menopause, and how it helps to build a supportive community.
• The Importance of a Cheerleading Squad: Explore why having a tribe is essential for women, especially during midlife, and how it can make a significant difference in one's journey.
• Collaboration and Community: Marie shares insights into her work with Sarah Stenton and Yvonne Vincent, and the impact of these collaborations on her work and community.
•  Feeling Invisible in Midlife: Discuss the concept of invisibility that many women feel during midlife and why it’s crucial to push back against it.
• Taking the Leap in Midlife: Marie talks about the brave steps she has taken in midlife, from dancing to getting published and speaking at Pause Live in London.

Resources Mentioned:

• Midlife Dramas in Pyjamas Facebook Page
• Marie Thom's Articles on Good Housekeeping
• Pause Live in London

Connect with Marie Thom:

• Facebook: Midlife Dramas in Pyjamas
• Instagram: @MidlifeDramasinPyjamas
• Twitter: @MidlifeDramas

Other episodes mentioned:

• https://www.buzzsprout.com/1938384/15012177
• https://www.buzzsprout.com/1938384/14751927

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• Website:  Message In The Middle with Marianne
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• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marianne-demello-smith-678b9966
• Email:  Contact | Message In The Middle with Marianne

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In our previous episode, Corby Furrows introduced us to the basics of EFT or Tapping. If you’re still skeptical about its validity or think it might be too "woo woo," pull up a chair for my conversation with Dr. Jill Wener, a board-certified Medical Internist and EFT practitioner, who will help us look at the effectiveness of Tapping.

Key Topics:

• Dr. Jill Wener’s journey with EFT and its role in her work
• The scientific basis of EFT and how it works
• Research and data supporting EFT’s effectiveness
• Studies showing brain activity changes due to EFT
• Comparing EFT with traditional therapies like CBT
• Dr. Wener’s key takeaway for listeners

Links & Resources:

Dr. Jill Wener is not just an EFT expert. She’s a trauma specialist, anti-racism educator, DEI consultant, and Co-Founder of Conscious Anti-Racism, LLC. Dr. Wener has co-created CME-accredited Conscious Anti-Racism training programs, hosts the Conscious Anti-Racism podcast, and is the co-author of the best-selling book Conscious Anti-Racism. Additionally, she has developed CME-accredited EFT and meditation courses.

You can find Jill here:

• LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/jillwenermd/
• Instagram: @jillwenerMD
• Free EFT Resource: Create Your Own Tapping Sequence

Additional Resources mentioned:

• Tapping and Menopause Online Course: Harnessing Your Power Series
• EFT/Tapping research:   
  •  https://www.petastapleton.com/
  • https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/
• Previous episode on EFT Tapping with Corby Furrows:         https://www.buzzsprout.com/1938384/15047135

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• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marianne-demello-smith-678b9966
• Email:  Contact | Message In The Middle with Marianne

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Joining host Marianne today is Corby Furrow, a Transformational Catalyst and the founder of Radiant Core Solutions.  Corby empowers women by helping them heal triggers, eliminate anxieties, and discover their true selves.

Discussion Points:

1. The Backstory of Tapping:
   • Corby shares how she went from being an HR executive to an executive coach and why tapping became instrumental in her own life journey.
2. Understanding EFT/Tapping:
   • Level setting on what EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) or tapping is.
3. Practical Application:
   • How tapping is used to address emotional and psychological issues and what types of issues it's effective for.
4. Logistics of Tapping:
   • How long it typically takes to learn tapping techniques.
   • Can individuals effectively practice tapping on their own?
   • Typical duration of tapping sessions.
   • Expectations on the timeline for seeing results from tapping practices.
5. Success Stories:
   • Corby shares where she has seen the most success with tapping.
6. Getting Started:
   • Suggestions and tips for listeners interested in trying tapping.

Connect with Corby:  www.radiantcoresolutions.com

Donna Eden Energy Routine Mentioned in the episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Di5Ua44iuXc

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• Email:  Contact | Message In The Middle with Marianne

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Today on Message in the Middle we’re going to delve into the science behind happiness and discuss rediscovering our dreams, embracing radical responsibility, and taking actionable steps towards increased happiness and confidence.  Joining me for this conversation is Dr. Wendy O’Connor, a Stanford-trained positive psychologist and success coach for female entrepreneurs.

Topics Explored:

1. The Science of Happiness:
   • What it is and why Dr. O'Connor decided to focus on the science of happiness and positive psychology.
2. Living a Flourishing Life:
   • What does it really mean to live a flourishing, happy life? 
   • Where does the choice to flourish fit in?
   • Understanding the concept of living a flourishing, happy life and the importance of choice.
3. Rediscovering Our Dreams:
   • Why do so many of us lose track of our dreams?
   • Rediscovering dreams and giving ourselves permission to imagine again.
4. Defining Positive Psychology Model P.E.R.M.A:
   • Defining change and exploring the positive psychology model P.E.R.M.A.
5. Embracing Radical Responsibility:
   • Embracing radical responsibility for personal growth and happiness.
6. Increasing Happiness Levels:
   • What small steps we can take to start increasing our happiness level.
7. Mastering Confidence:
   • What small steps we can take to increase our confidence.
8. Key Takeaways:
   • Dr. O'Connor tells us what she hopes listeners will take away as her primary message.  

Dr. Wendy O'Connor's Links:
Dr. Wendy O’Connor’s Website
Twitter
Instagram

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Today I’m bringing you a unique combination of lighthearted comedy coupled with relevant and relatable messages focused on middle age.  Joining me is Sarah Stenton, a woman in her fifties, menopausal, and on a good day, someone who can pass for a happy, confident woman. On a bad day, well that’s another story. Sarah is also a writer, a speaker, a natural comedian, and an educator.

Discussion Points:

1. Sarah’s writings and how they are all about trying to fight back against menopause and middle age madness by using laughter and real-life stories to bring light to the topics and challenges so many of us face.
2. Sarah shares her personal journey and how it led her to write a blog and a book focused on tackling menopause with humor and authenticity.
3.  Exploring why Sarah decided to talk about stuff like chin hairs, unexpected farting, hair thinning, fat rolls, and leaking bladders.
4. Sarah's move to an in person stand- up act she calls the “Meno tours” where she invites in groups of mostly women to talk about and laugh at the challenges of menopause in a fun and humorous way.
5. Sarah and Marianne talk about pushing past nerves and imposter syndrome and just doing the thing.
6. Sarah shares a bit of her witty poetry.

Don’t forget to check out Sarah’s blog on Facebook or grab a copy of her book Middle Age Madness.

https://middleagemadness.blog/
https://www.facebook.com/middleagemadness

If you liked this episode, you might also like this one with Sarah's friend Yvonne Vincent (Growing Old Disgracefully) https://www.buzzsprout.com/1938384/14751927

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• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marianne-demello-smith-678b9966
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Today on Message In the Middle Marianne talks with Claudine Francois, a Board-Certified Functional Medicine & Holistic Health Practitioner.  In this episode we:

Exploring Functional Medicine:

• Marianne acknowledges previous episodes on functional medicine which provide foundational information.
  • https://www.messageinthemiddle.com/finding-root-cause-healing-opportunities-through-functional-medicine-a-conversation-with-becca-kyle/
  • https://www.messageinthemiddle.com/are-you-tired-of-chronic-fatigue-hot-flashes-weight-gain-or-heavy-periods-you-could-be-dealing-with-a-hormonalgut-imbalance/
• Addressing the persistent curiosity about functional medicine, Marianne seeks clarity on how and when to incorporate it into one's health journey.

Diving into Differences:

• Marianne queries Claudine on the fundamental disparities between functional medicine and traditional western medicine.

Navigating Testing:

• Delving into the importance of testing in functional medicine, Marianne seeks Claudine's recommendations for entry-level tests and their significance.

Beyond Basic Hormone Tests:

• Claudine sheds light on why conventional hormone tests may not provide comprehensive insights into one's health.

Deeper Understanding of Thyroid Testing:

• Exploring the limitations of typical thyroid tests, Claudine explains the benefits of alternative testing methods for a more thorough understanding.

Unveiling the Brain-Gut Connection:

• Marianne and Claudine discuss the intricate relationship between the brain and gut health, highlighting its significance in functional medicine.

Decoding Supplements:

• Claudine provides insight into the truth about supplements, offering clarity on their role in supporting holistic health and how to get started with the "right" ones.

Claudine can be found at:

• Website: www.ingoodcleantaste.com
• IG: https://www.instagram.com/ingoodcleantaste/
• FB: https://www.facebook.com/ingoodcleantaste/
• YouTube Show Channel: https://bit.ly/3CtoElj
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/claudine-francois-6314461/
• Email: [email protected]
• https://transform.ingoodcleantaste.com/radiant-living

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This week on Message in the Middle we're delving into empowering women to break free from diet culture and thrive beyond size. Joining us is triple board- certified Dr. Michelle Tubman, a distinguished physician specializing in emergency and obesity medicine, and the host of Thrive Beyond Size Podcast. Dr. Tubman is also the owner of Wayza Health coaching, where she guides clients of all sizes toward health, happiness, and peace around food.

Interview Highlights:

• Personal Journey and Professional Evolution:
  • Dr. Tubman shares her journey and motivations for expanding her work to include coaching people who struggle with their relationship with food and their body.
• Challenging Diet Industry Narratives:
  • We discuss the damaging messaging promoted by the diet industry and whether bigger bodies are inherently unhealthy.
• Embracing Personal Transition:
  • Dr. Tubman reflects on her transition away from the pursuit of weight loss and its challenges.
• Demystifying Intuitive Eating:
  • Dr. Tubman shares some of the complexities of intuitive eating.
  • Common misconceptions about intuitive eating are explored to provide clarity.
• Advocating for Weight Neutral Self-care:
  • Dr. Tubman elaborates on the concept and its significance in fostering holistic well-being.
• Self- Discovery Prompts:
  • Exploring the prompt, "If weight didn’t matter, what would your life look like?" and its transformative potential.
  • Exploring the prompt, "Does it nourish you or deplete you?"
• Combatting Self-Fat Shaming:
  • The detrimental effects of self-fat shaming on mental health are discussed.

Connect with Dr. Michelle Tubman:
https://www.thrivebeyondsize.com/
https://wayzahealth.com/
https://www.facebook.com/wayzahealth/
https://www.instagram.com/wayzahealth/?hl=en

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In today's solo episode, host Marianne takes a heartfelt journey down memory lane, reflecting on the special bond between cousins who are also best friends. She shares personal childhood memories of summers spent with her cousin at her grandmother's beach house and the unique experiences they shared. Marianne highlights the deep, lifelong connection formed by cousins who grow up navigating childhood together, filled with laughter, mischief, and cherished memories.

Life often gets in the way, making it difficult to maintain these treasured relationships, but Marianne urges listeners to reconnect with their cousin best friends. She explains how these friendships provide support and understanding during times of joy and adversity and how they can be rekindled to bring back the warmth and comfort of the past.

If you had a cousin best friend growing up, Marianne encourages you to reach out and reconnect. Share a text, phone call, or coffee date to catch up and reminisce about those good old days. And if you didn't have that experience but have the chance to foster such relationships for your own children or grandchildren, do so—it’s a bond that lasts a lifetime.

Join Marianne as she explores the unique and irreplaceable connection with cousin best friends and the joy that can be found in reconnecting and nurturing these meaningful relationships.

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Today we’re looking at life beyond booze. Joining me for this conversation is Sarah Rusbatch, author of the acclaimed book “Beyond Booze: How to Create a Life You Love Alcohol-Free.” Sarah is not only an author but also a Health and Wellbeing, Grey Area Drinking and Menopause coach. She's a keynote speaker and the force behind a thriving online community, that provides solace and understanding for women worldwide. Sarah’s mission is to empower as many women as possible to discover their happiest, most fulfilling lives, free from the constraints of alcohol.

Conversation Highlights:

1. Sarah's Personal Journey: Sarah shares her inspiring personal journey that led her stop drinking and to this impactful work.
2. Defining Grey Area Drinking: Sarah clarifies what we mean by 'grey area drinker' for everyone tuning in.
3. Attitude Towards Drinking: Sarah discusses her nuanced perspective on alcohol consumption.
4. Impact on Middle Age: Exploring the effects of drinking on crucial aspects like sleep quality and weight management as we age.
5. Socializing Without Alcohol: Tips and insights on enjoying social interactions without the need for alcohol.
6. Starting an Alcohol-Free life: Sarah offers gentle strategies for starting an alcohol-free lifestyle without intimidation.
7. Surprising Book Responses: Sarah reveals the most surprising reactions & realizations she's received as a result of this work and her book.

Remember to check out all of Sarah's valuable resources at the link below and that your journey to a fulfilling life beyond booze can start here!

https://sarahrusbatch.com/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/342319476897067/

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