Mettle Mentality

A determined, fun and optimistic person, Col. Retired Merryl Tengesdal Served in the US Navy and Retired in the US Air Force. She is the 1st African American Woman to ever pilot the plane that soars at 70,000 ft, at that height, it takes some real mettle. 0:00-2:14 Intro 2:14 Introducing Colonel Merryl Tengesdal 1994 Commissioned into the US Navy. Nothing she can't fly, she stated confidently. 6:48 Talking about her path to being the first and only African American Woman to fly the the United States Air Force's U-2 spy plane which is used for specialized high-altitude reconnaissance missions. She talks about moving from NY to CA for an open Pilot slot after being pressured to join in an open slot. 13:46 She talks about challenges of commissioning in the 90's. People being closed minded. How change was not readily accepted. "Change is going to happen no matter what. That is why we have so much training, so we can handle the change" 17:12 Merryl talks about being a child of divorce, focusing on things she can control. Doing sports to help her through it. How it felt to be a latch key kid. 18:12 Back to flight school dealing with people who don't really care for your presence. You can't control how people feel-you just control how you respond. Speaks of the support system of others in the same situation. 22:22 Talks about having a trainer they referred to as "the screamer". She felt like quitting, later developed a mentor/mentee relationship. Struggle with self-doubt, mentor says, there will have to be a point in time where people have to finally say, you're here because you're just that damn good. Don't be your own obstacle. 26:40 Non Profit Ad Kirstie Ennis Foundation an all service based 100% profits goes to help other non-profits check it out here https://kirstieennisfoundation.com/ 28:26 Preston asks Merryl where she got her grit. She talks about feeling like giving up, but did not want to be a quitter. "I will not quit. I just go do it." Martial Arts helps to get frustration out. What can I do to make this better, dig deep, suck it up. Then get back in there back to the grind. Figure a different way to make this happen. 31:55 Merryl talks about having kids, whining and wanting to give up, she teaches them to take a deep breath and think of a different way to approach it. Seeing the pride in their eyes when they figure it out. 33:40 Merryl talks about the art of persevering, getting through no matter what. Get dressed, get a routine, set your mind on how you can succeed during this time. 34:30 Preston, how do we motivate others when we don't feel okay ourselves. We don't need to have it all together to help others. 35:07 Merryl talks about Hot Mess, Dumpster Fire or Chernobyl. Normal right now most people are operating at Hot Mess. 37:20 Preston talks about being in college class, professor said, "80% of success is being present." More than just showing up, but actually being present. 39:06 Preston asks about UFO's- Have you ever been above a shooting star? Merryl has... Merryl talks about being in the U2 plane and how you have to be a special kind of person, it's not for everyone. 45:10 Landing procedures. "Landing is where you make your money, that separates the good pilots from the bad ones." 48:13 Merryl's 30 second message, be focused, compassionate and kind.

Jason Beim is a life coach and owner and founder of Jump Above Boundaries. He describes himself as an Average Joe that just wants others to learn from his mistakes. This may be one of the biggest understatements of all time. Jason is an extraordinary individual that has an powerful message and wants to help you reach your peak potential in life. To learn more about Jason and how he can help you become the greatest version of yourself click here: https://www.instagram.com/jumpaboveboundaries/?hl=en or here: https://linktr.ee/jumpaboveboundaries

6:00- Jason Telling His Story of Suffering, Failing, overcoming and repeating

10:33- Quick Fix Weight Loss Surgery and Why would you not want to live at your highest optimal performance.

11:39- Preston talking about feeling similar to Jason.

12:27-12:29 When you find the power of your WHY you are unstoppable!

13:33- Jason talking about how it felt to not be accepted and trying to buy acceptance. Deep rooted insecurity that no one likes me for me. Being accepted was my first form of drug. - Jason

15:15- 15:32 Preston relates to Jason and shares how he belonged to the moment and belonged to whoever would accept him, how he lived a life of self-betrayal and never honored who he was, because he didn’t know who he was.

16:08- Jason talking about Ego, and finally getting comfortable in his own skin and mentions the book, “Ego is the enemy” by Ryan Holiday.

17:49- “Your Ego is your friend when you don’t know who you are” Preston

18:35- Preston and Jason talking about how it is scary to be authentic these days and how we compare other’s destination to our journey, the destination we see is a mirage. The journey of finding a process that allows us to thrive, that works for us.

20:50- Jason talking about stacking up tiny wins, doing what you do not want to do.

22:10- Jason talking about falling off the wagon and then using that for a springboard to negativity.

23:49- Jason talking about his process that he found that works for him, breaking things down into bite-size pieces and talks about S.M.A.R.T. Goals: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Timely (initially originated by George T. Doran 1981)

29:29- Talking what Jason values most: Discipline.

31:10- Dominate, Integrity, Self-Accountability, Conquer and Overcome, Internal Motivation, Pride, Leadership of yourself and others, Improve always, Never Quit, Embrace the Suck.

34:18- The willingness to be uncomfortable…. yes

34:28- Kirstie Ennis Foundation  check out https://kirstieennisfoundation.com

36:15- Jason talking about Embracing the suck

37:50 -Jason talking about accountability partners and teams, Internal and External Board of Directors.

49:17- Preston comparing this to addiction recovery program, having a sponsor and going to group meetings.

40:58- Jason talking about most influential people for him. “My family was there for me when I wasn’t there for myself.”

44:28- Jason talking about how we find out what we value most. Jason and Preston Back and forth Embracing the Suck.

53:41- Jason talking about, “How do you use your anger as rocket fuel.”

55:33- Jason talking about what winning is to him.

54:32- Preston talks about the book, Deliberate Discomfort by Jason Van Camp.

59:20- Jason talking about having a never quit mindset.

1:01:06- Jason talking about what he would say to someone who is suicidal.

Do not suffer in silence. Do not make a permanent decision to a temporary problem.

After learning of a coworker taking his own life, I felt compelled to open myself up and share with you my story in a more vulnerable way than I ever have publicly. You will never understand how difficult this was for me to share. But, I will not stand by as I see more and more of my brothers and sisters in arms end their own lives. If sharing my complete story helps just one single person have hope and fight just one more day, then I accept whatever consequences come. I also speak about hate, anger, love, having empathy and compassion, racial inequality, addiction and suicide. If you’re hurting right now and would like to talk with me without any judgement, please send me an email or social media direct message. Let’s talk. I will make myself available to you. [email protected]

Lucas Foster is currently ranked 20th in the world in the snowboard half-pipe, a member of the US Ski and Snowboard team and 2022 Winter Olympics hopeful.

He and Preston talk about how having a holistic approach to your health is beneficial to us mentally, physically and spiritually.

They discuss the importance of having a resilient mentality and the similarities of resilience between professional athletes and members of the military; how these principles are universally true to not only professional athletes and Service Members but to our regular lives.

They discuss how we can use this Covid-19 quarantine time as an opportunity for growth and how stillness will be the key to our success and help us readjust our priorities.

He also addresses perfectionism and how being perfect is really just being authentic, how your mistakes are your classroom and how embracing adversity offers the greatest opportunity for personal growth.

Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle

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David Salazar is first a Husband, a Father and an Entrepreneur. For many years David has worked as a Personal Development Coach for adults with disabilities. Join us in this two part episode as we learn from David about loving yourself and dancing through the storms of life.

David Salazar is first a Husband, a Father and an Entrepreneur. For many years David has worked as a Personal Development Coach for adults with disabilities. Join us in this two part episode as we learn from David about loving yourself and dancing through the storms of life.

Are you allowing yourself to fully live the human experience? Can you look in the mirror and honestly say that you belong to yourself? Are you listening to and believing the lies that shame has convinced you are part of your identity? 

Learn how to be better better than you were yesterday in this interview with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife aka “The Mormon Sex Therapist”. Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a Relationship and Sexuality Coach as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor. She has a PhD. in Counseling Psychology.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Preston Ewell about

You can learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife on her website http://www.finlayson-fife.com/

Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle

Be sure to follow The Mettle Mentality Podcast on social media  for posts to inspire and uplift your mentality. 

https://www.instagram.com/mettlementality/

https://www.facebook.com/mettlementality/

https://twitter.com/mettlementality

Want to connect with like-minded individuals working to becoming better versions of themselves? Join our Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/mettlementalitygroup/

As always, If you find value in the show please leave a review and RATE us 5 Stars on Apple Podcasts.  But, more importantly share this podcast with someone you know who would benefit from the messages from the guests on each episode.

On this episode Preston has a conversation with Alan Lazaros. Alan is the Co-Host of The Hyper Conscious Podcast, a Personal Development coach, a Peak Performance coach, a Business coach, a Life Style Design Coach, a Former Corporate Superstar, and a Motivational Speaker. Alan speaks of finding your reason to fight for yourself as well as the power of your “Why”. This is an incredibly powerful conversation. So much so, that Preston shares openly for the first time on the show, about his struggles of living a life of addiction for 17 years, how he was able to find recovery and more about how Mettle Mentality came to be. 

Follow Alan on Social Media @alazaros88 

Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle

Be sure to follow The Mettle Mentality Podcast on social media for posts to inspire and uplift your mentality.

https://www.instagram.com/mettlementality/

https://www.facebook.com/mettlementality/

https://twitter.com/mettlementality

Want to connect with like-minded individuals working to becoming better versions of themselves? Join our Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/mettlementalitygroup/

As always, If you find value in the show please leave a review and RATE us 5 Stars on Apple Podcasts.  But, more importantly share this podcast with someone you know who would benefit from the messages from the guests on each episode.

Richard Bell is a compassionate individual with some true American Grit. He is also a Vietnam-era Navy Pilot, former Division 1 basketball player for the University of Oklahoma, member of the AM300 Solutions Board, US Ski and Snowboard Military Advisory Board Member, and true Entrepreneur. 

In this interview he shares the importance of having compassion for others and positive results of never quitting. He also shares some incredible stories of some close calls from his time as a pilot in the Navy.

Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle

Be sure to follow The Mettle Mentality Podcast on social media  for posts to inspire and uplift your mentality.

https://www.instagram.com/mettlementality/

https://www.facebook.com/mettlementality/

https://twitter.com/mettlementality

Want to connect with like-minded individuals working to becoming better versions of themselves? Join our Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/mettlementalitygroup/

As always, If you find value in the show please leave a review and RATE us 5 Stars on Apple Podcasts.  But, more importantly share this podcast with someone you know who would benefit from the messages from the guests on each episode.