Michael Mante Podcast

What Are the Five Love Languages?

"The 5 Love Languages" was first published in 1992. Before writing the book, Chapman began to notice patterns in couples he was counseling. He realized that the couples were misunderstanding each other's needs.

That led him to come up with five love languages, or ways that people in relationships express love. They are:

Words of affirmation

Quality time

Physical touch

Acts of service

Receiving gifts

What's Your Love Language™?

For couples, singles, teens, and children.

Take this quiz to discover your primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to better connect with your loved ones.

When you are finished, you may print, share, or save your results for future reference - they will not be saved automatically.

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/couples/

"I highly recommend the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It's a wonderful tool in helping decode what makes your spouse (and children) feel most loved."

If you cant control your emotions, No woman will submit to you.

"A Woman Will Test You To See If You Are What You Say You Are." - Minister Farrakhan

Recognizing your emotions and learning to manage them is one of the most important skills you can have. In fact, people who are good at noticing how they feel and can calm themselves down or adjust their behavior are more likely to do well in life, have healthy relationships, and manage difficulties and setbacks.

by Thibaut Meurisse (Author), Kerry J Donovan (Editor)

Understanding how negative feelings and emotions work is the first step. Then we must learn how to reprogram those emotions and turn them around. A happier life is possible if you follow the steps.

Why are there not enough women leaders?

We found that three barriers keep women from leadership positions: gender stereotypes, social and institutional factors, and individual mindsets.

Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

by Sheryl Sandberg

Lean In is all about maximizing your career. In parts, it’s about how we all do things that sabotage our own opportunities

and in others, it’s directly targeted at women, such as how they approach juggling the demands of family and work at the same time.

Zozibini Tunzi blew everyone away with her quote on the importance of teaching young women leadership, and to “take up leadership spaces,”

In Miss Universe 2019's final round, all three finalists were asked the question, 

"What is the most important thing we should be teaching young girls today?" 

Zozibini Tunzi's winning answer was, "The most important thing we should be teaching young girls today is leadership." "Nothing is [as] important as taking up space in society and cementing yourself,"

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie defines feminism as a man or a woman who says, 

“Yes, there’s a problem with gender as it is today, and we must fix it, we must do better.”

by Sheryl Sandberg  (Author)

“The role of the father can and will determine a child’s success and happiness” From our fathers we learn so many things about character, integrity, honesty, and life itself.

Did you grow up without your father? Have you been living with a hole in your heart that echoes feelings of abandonment and not being good enough? Well, I have 10 lessons from my father ( The Late Ernest Mante Snr) that I want to share with you. You can learn a lesson or two.

Children want to make their fathers proud, and an involved father promotes inner growth and strength. Studies have shown that when fathers are affectionate and supportive, it greatly affects a child's cognitive and social development. It also instills an overall sense of well-being and self-confidence.

Happy Father’s Day

What do The Four Agreements - 

In The Four Agreements, don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.

1: Be Impeccable With Your Word.

Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate, and to humble.” Think of the power we wield and the impact we can make if we become more intentional about encouraging our sponsored children. The right words make all the difference.

2: Don't Take Anything Personally.

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3: Don't Make Assumptions.

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4: Always Do Your Best.

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

by Don Miguel Ruiz  (Author)

THE SECRET is

Likes attract likes.

You are what you attract because like attracts likes. In other words, you always find yourself attracted to people with the same personality traits as you. If you are a pleasant person, you will attract happy people.

Only You Can Change Your Life - No one is coming to save you.

The key to all change comes from you. 

Wanting the change is not enough, you have to take action. Reading this book is just one step in a lifelong journey. You will have to take each and every step because no one else will. 

Obama’s excellent advice: Focus on what you want to do, not what you want to be

“Worry less about what you want to be, and think more about what you want to do. Because this town is full of people who want to be a congressman or want to be a senator or want to be president.

And if that’s your focus, if that’s your moral compass, then you’re consistently going to be making decisions solely on the basis of how do I get, for me, what I want.

If you think in terms of what do I want to do? ‘I want to solve climate change or ‘I want to employ disadvantaged youth’ or ‘I want to fix a broken healthcare system’, then even if you don’t get to the place you wanted to be or the office you wanted, during that entire time you’re going to be working on stuff that’s real and getting stuff done…

Do great things.”

The question to ask yourself is not “What can I get?”

The question that will propel you the furthest and offer the most meaningful and satisfying course of action is “What can I give?”

The 80/20 Principle: The Secret to Achieving More with Less

Richard Koch

The 80/20 rule, also known as the Pareto Principle, is attributed to the Italian economist, Vilfredo Pareto. In one of his papers, Pareto noted that about 80% of the land in Italy belonged to approximately 20% of the country’s total population. In essence, the Pareto Principle infers that there’s an 80-to-20 relationship between effects and their causes.

80% of your success comes from 20% of your ideas.

80% of the public uses 20% of their computers' features.

80% of crimes are committed by 20% of criminals.

80% of the wealth is owned by 20% of the population.

The Inverse

20% of your wardrobe is worn 80% of the time.

20% of farmers produce 80% of the world's agriculture.

20% of your rug has 80% of the wear-and-tear.

20% of your phone apps get 80% usage.

20% of foods cause 80% of the weight gain.

20% of your TV channels are watched 80% of the time.

The 80/20 rule is a success principle that you can apply to any aspect of your life. By using the Pareto Principle, you focus on the 20 percent of items that help you achieve 80 percent of your success.

In The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg draws on extensive research to explore how habits develop into automatic behaviors that influence personal lives, businesses, and communities. He explains why unhealthy habits are notoriously difficult to break and provides a practical framework to help you understand and change any habit.

Charles Duhigg argues that habits are unconscious decisions you make without actually thinking about them. While you may assume that you’re continually making conscious decisions, Duhigg claims that more than 40% of your daily behaviors are driven by habits that you automatically engage in without conscious thought. Since your habits inform such a large part of how you think and what you do, they have an enormous impact on your health, productivity, relationships, and overall happiness.

What’s the difference between a good leader and a great leader? According to John Maxwell, leadership expert, best-selling author, and founder of the world-famous John Maxwell Group, the answer depends on what level of leadership ability a person reaches. In 5 Levels of Leadership, Maxwell outlines the various stages of leadership from least evolved to most evolved.

Level 1 – Position

A leader grants a particular person the right to lead. As a result, people follow them because they are directed to, not because they are influential.

Level 2 – Permission

The leader focuses on building and growing relationships with their employees. As a result, their team members give them free permission to lead.

Level 3 – Production

When a leader reaches Level Three, they focus on the increase of results. In turn, people follow them because they trust the person knows what they’re doing and will lead them in the right direction.

Level 4 – People Development

Those who reach Level Four are servant leaders who teach, mentor, and multiply other leaders. They obtain and maintain followers because people know they positively influence the lives of everyone around them.

Level 5 – Pinnacle

Level Five leaders—the rarest type of leader—are well-known for their accomplishments, how they’ve enriched the lives of others, and led their organizations to change the world for the better. These leaders have followers because of who they are, what they’ve done, and what they represent to people.

John Maxwell is a leadership expert who has written more than ten books on the subject, several of which are New York Times bestsellers.