Midlife Butterfly: Stop Self-Abandoning & People Pleasing by Healing Your Nervous System — Feel Alive Again

You've done the mindset work. You know your patterns. And your body still braces when someone says no.

In this episode, I share the moment my rejection wound was planted, how it turned into 35 years of people pleasing and self-abandonment, and what finally shifted it in my body. Even if your wound is not rejection, this is about moving your healing from your mind into your body.

🦋 You'll Discover:

1. How one sentence can turn into 35 years of people-pleasing.
2. Why mindset work alone was not enough.
3. What it feels like when a "no" doesn't shake your body anymore.
   
   

✨ Coming Home Question: 

Where in your body do you still brace when you imagine someone saying no to you, and what is that bracing protecting?

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

You've spent thousands on programs, coaches, and courses trying to figure yourself out. So why does it still feel like something's missing?

In this episode, I'm getting honest about what it's really costing you — in money, time, and especially energy — to keep collecting knowledge instead of integrating it. This one's for the woman who's done all the "work" and still feels stuck.

🦋 You'll Discover:

• The real numbers behind everything you've spent in personal development, and why the money isn't even the most expensive part.
• Why doing more inner work can make you feel exhausted and frustrated.
• The one alignment check — between what you think, feel, and do — that tells you whether you're integrating or just accumulating.

✨ Coming Home Question: 

What would it be to finally feel all the knowledge that you have already accumulated?

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

What if shifting your energy helps you keep producing, achieving, holding it all together from a place of vitality and not depletion?

This episode is about the difference between labour energy and life force energy, and what happens when you finally meet the part of you that's been frozen shut the longest: your pelvic floor.

🦋 You'll Discover:

• Why staying busy might be a sign you're living from labour energy instead of life force energy
• The wounds hiding underneath a pelvic floor that so many high-achieving women carry without ever knowing are there
• How to reconnect with the life force that’s within you. 

✨ Coming Home Question: 

If your pelvic floor could speak the truth it's been holding — what would it finally say?

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Have you ever ignored what your body was trying to tell you until it forced you to stop?

Ten days ago, Kena had a bicycle accident — and what followed wasn't a story about pushing through, but about finally, fully listening. This episode is a real-time lesson in nervous system healing, self-trust, and what it means to let your body lead.

🦋 You'll Discover:

• What it really looks like to let your body lead instead of your mind — even when your mind is trying to push and control in a real emergency
• The instinctive tools I leaned on to calm my nervous system in shock. The same things animals do without thinking, that we as humans forget
• Why healing with ease and a lot of compassion means allowing your body its own timing and rhythm, instead of rushing it back to "normal"

✨ Coming Home Question: 

If you stopped trying to control your body for just one day, and let it lead instead — what would it ask of you?

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head.

Consider this your weekly permission slip.

Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do the thing. That's it.

Feel alive again!

Share your experience with me on Instagram @midlifebutterfly 

The Leading From Pleasure 5-Week Journey, it's open for enrolment. We're starting in September 3rd. Save your spot now!  http://home.midlifebutterfly.ca/leading-from-pleasure

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Your body isn't betraying you in midlife — it's been trying to talk to you for years.

The tension, the tightness, the stuck feeling you can't quite name? It's not new. It's just finally loud enough to notice.

🦋 You'll Discover:

• Why the pain, tightness, or “stuckness” you're feeling isn't a midlife ‘treat’ — it's your nervous system finally being heard
• The real reason people-pleasing and self-abandonment are so hard to shift, even when you know better
• How to move your body out of fight-or-flight and into a state where pleasure, aliveness, and clarity actually become possible

✨ Coming Home Question: 

Where in your body have you been ignoring a whisper — until it had to become a scream?

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head.

Consider this your weekly permission slip.Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do the thing. That's it.

Feel alive again!

Share your experience with me on Instagram @midlifebutterfly 

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Why can't you rest, even when you finally lay down?

Rest isn't just sleep — it's a nervous system state. And most of us have forgotten how to actually let our bodies get there. 

🦋 You'll Discover:

• Why pushing through exhaustion instead of resting is actually a form of self-abandonment
• Why "the same rest routine every day" doesn't work for a woman's body — and what to do instead
• Three simple night habits that get your nervous system into real rest — not just hours in bed

✨ Coming Home Question: 

Where in your life are you still waiting for permission to rest — and what would it feel like to give it to yourself today?

👉🏼 Invitation to Free Workshop

I'm hosting Leading From Pleasure, a free workshop on August 19th, where you go into what it actually looks like to lead your life and your work from rest and pleasure instead of push and control. Sign up here: http://home.midlifebutterfly.ca/leading-from-pleasure

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Are you creating from devotion, or are you creating from need?

One question from my mentor cracked me wide open on a walk by the canal — and it's reshaping how I show up for my launch, my clients, and myself. 🦋 In this episode I'm sharing the real, unedited moment that shifted my relationship with money, service, and pleasure — and how Neuro-Epigenetic Breathing made the shift possible.

🦋 You'll Discover:

• The one question my mentor Sajeeva asked that struck me and reminded me, my relationship with money, service, and worth.
• Why the neediness of "I have to pay my bills" quietly hijacks your energy — even when the work itself is sacred.
• How Neuro-Epigenetic Breathing rewires your nervous system so you create and lead from pleasure instead of pressure.

✨ Coming Home Question: 

In your work, your relationships, your daily life — are you giving from devotion, or are you giving from neediness? And what would change if you let yourself find out?

Press play, beauty — this one's coming straight from my heart, mid-walk, no script, no polish. Just truth.

💜 Join Leading from Pleasure

Can you imagine what it would be like if the next level of your leadership came from pleasure and your life force?

This is a 5-week nervous system experience for coaches ready to lead with more magnetism, more ease, and more presence. And it's based in Neuro-Epigenetic Breathing (NEB), which works through three currents at once — sexual energy, biology, and spirituality — moving as one intelligence through the body.

All the details are here: http://home.midlifebutterfly.ca/leading-from-pleasure

The cohort starts September 3, enrolment is open until August 15.
5 spots for soul-alike leaders. 

Join the Free Workshop on August 5 at 12pm EDT. Sign up here!

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head. Consider this your weekly permission slip.

Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do the thing. That's it.

Feel alive again!

Share your experience with me on Instagram @midlifebutterfly 

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada