Midlife Butterfly: Stop Self-Abandoning & People Pleasing by Healing Your Nervous System — Feel Alive Again

In this solo episode we explore our relationship with uncertainty and why embracing the unknown is essential for personal growth and freedom. Trusting life's uncertainty requires integrating body, mind, and soul while releasing our need for control. 

And that’s the point. Midlife is your time to take the wheel, even if you only see a few kilometers ahead. It's about reclaiming your power, letting go of the noise, and coming back home to your body, mind, and soul

In This Episode, You’ll Hear

• Why everything is unknown—and why that’s where the magic lives
• Our bodies as messengers: understanding physical pain as emotional or spiritual signals
• A potent reminder that you are not your thoughts—you are the observer
• Integration of body, mind and soul builds natural trust in life's uncertainties
• The paradox of expectation + equanimity: setting the vision, then releasing the grip
• Daily opportunities for magic when we release control and embrace curiosity

Reflection Questions

1. Where in your life are you gripping for control—and what might shift if you softened your hold?

2. What story has been playing on repeat in your mind that you now realize isn’t even yours?

3. What would shift in your day if you trusted your body and intuition to guide you?

Let this episode land in your heart, beauty. And remember: life is a rollercoaster. But you’re not here to be tossed around—you’re here to enjoy the ride, laugh, cry, feel, and fly. 🦋💫

Want to go deeper with me? Join me for CLARITY, my 3-day event from July 22nd-24th at 3pm Eastern Time. If you're feeling stuck, foggy, or in transition, we'll explore who you are, what you want, and how to move forward with confidence. [http://midlifebutterfly.ca/clarity]

Love,
Kena 💜

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

If your body feels different… quieter, louder, or more demanding of your truth, this episode is for you.

In this deeply embodied conversation, I sit down with Luce Beaulieu to explore peri & menopause as a feminine awakening. We speak to the woman in midlife who is navigating change—divorce, identity shifts, spiritual awakening—and sensing that her body is no longer willing to tolerate disconnection.

We talk about pleasure as wisdom, breath as a gateway back into the body, and why libido doesn’t disappear in midlife, it transforms. This is a conversation about self-trust, about listening below the neck, and about reclaiming your power without force or performance.

If you’re on a healing journey, questioning who you’re becoming, or longing to feel at home in your body again, this episode will meet you gently, and remind you that nothing is wrong with you.

By the end, you’ll feel more connected, more informed, and more aligned with the woman you’re remembering to be.

✨ In This Episode, You’ll Learn

• How peri/menopause can become an initiation into midlife empowerment
• Why pleasure and breath are essential tools for healing and embodiment
• What happens when women stop outsourcing authority and trust their bodies
• The truth about libido shifts and feminine desire in midlife
• How reconnecting to womb wisdom supports clarity, boundaries, and joy

🦋 Reflection Questions

1. Where in my life is my body asking me to listen more deeply?
2. What would change if I trusted this phase instead of resisting it?
3. How might pleasure, presence, or breath become allies in my healing?

💜 Connect with Luce:

• Website: immergence.co
• Instagram: @immergence.co
• Join her Facebook group: Menopause is Your Superpower: Welcome to the Midlife Temple.

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Ever catch yourself rushing through the motions, waiting for the weekend, or wondering why life feels so...meh? In this raw and reflective episode, I open up about what it really means to live intentionally—not perfectly, but truthfully. I share the morning practices that changed my energy, how I broke free from autopilot, and why setting daily intentions has become my anchor. This one’s an invitation to slow down, breathe deeper, and remember: you’re not here to survive—you’re here to live.

Tune In If You’ve Ever Said:

• “I feel like life is just happening to me.”
• “I’m exhausted but I don’t know why.”
• “I want to live with more presence and peace… but how?”

🦋 In This Episode, You’ll Hear:

• Why intentional living is not just a morning routine—it’s a lifestyle shift
• How to break free from autopilot and stop surviving through your days
• A juicy morning practice to connect with your body and energy before the world gets loud
• What it really means to set an intention (hint: it’s more than journaling affirmations)
• The empowering truth about triggers, trauma, and your personal healing path

Reflection Questions:

1. Where in your life are you living by default instead of by design?
2. What is one simple action you can take today to live more intentionally?
3. What intention can you set tomorrow morning that honors your truth?

Feeling the pull to live with more alignment, intention, and grace in midlife?
Let’s talk. Book your free Empowered Strategy Call with me, and let’s explore your Butterfly Path together.
📩 DM me on Instagram @midlifebutterfly or email hello@ midlifebutterfly.ca.

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

In this juicy episode of Midlife Butterfly, we dive deep into the sacred difference between confidence and worthiness with my dear friend and podcast sister Dana Hunter Fradella. Dana is a powerhouse of joy, truth, and awakening, and this conversation will absolutely stir your soul. If you’ve ever wondered why success doesn’t always feel fulfilling, or why you’re still doubting yourself after doing all the things—this one’s for you.

In This Episode, You’ll Hear:

• The sneaky difference between confidence (external) and worthiness (internal)
• Why chasing achievement can leave you feeling empty
• How the patriarchy and perfectionism chip away at your self-worth
• A powerful metaphor that reframes the “broken woman” narrative
• Real, raw tools for reconnecting with your soul’s knowing—and reclaiming your worth

Reflection Questions:

1. Where have I been chasing confidence instead of cultivating worthiness?
2. What would I love—not just what do I want?
3. Am I willing to go to any lengths to remember who I truly am?

Connect with Dana:

• Instagram @Girls.Who.Recover 
• Email [email protected]
• Free Training: Create the Career You Crave
• Big Leap Breakthrough Call

🦋If you’re a Midlife Butterfly listener and you’re ready to take a big leap and know you want support, you can schedule your free 60-minute breakthrough call with Dana. Together, we’ll identify the leap you want to take, the biggest thing holding you back, and the best first steps to finally doing the thing you’ve always wanted to do. Book yours here for a limited time.

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

In this powerful solo episode, Kena Siu unravels a belief that many of us have carried for far too long: “Love hurts.” But what if that’s not true? What if what really hurts are the attachments, conditions, expectations, and the ways we abandon ourselves trying to be loved?

Midlife woman, if you’re walking through the sacred in-between—divorce, loss, reinvention, or awakening—this episode is your call to reclaim your sovereignty, rewrite your story, and return home to your truth.

In This Episode, You’ll Hear:

• Why “love doesn’t hurt” might be the truth that sets your heart free.
• The real reason heartbreak often feels unbearable—and what it’s actually pointing you to heal.
• How we unknowingly abandon ourselves in the name of being loved—and how to stop.
• The one simple shift that can help you love again—even after divorce or disappointment.
• What happens when you finally reclaim your emotional sovereignty (and stop waiting to be chosen).

Reflection Questions for the Midlife Butterfly:

1. In what ways have I abandoned my truth in exchange for love or acceptance?
2. What conditions have I placed on love—both given and received?
3. What would shift if I began to love myself like I’ve always longed to be loved?

If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Join my Facebook community, Midlife Butterfly, to share your thoughts and connect with others. For deeper work with these teachings, I have one-on-one coaching available – reach out at hello@ midlifebutterfly.ca or tag me @midlifebutterfly.

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

What if your struggles with money were never about discipline or intelligence, but about safety?

In this episode of The Midlife Butterfly, Kena sits down with Certified Money Coach and Somatic Practitioner Nadine Zumot to explore the deeper truth behind money wounds, self-worth, and nervous system regulation, especially for women navigating midlife transitions like divorce, reinvention, or awakening 

Together, they unpack how early childhood experiences, inherited family stories, and trauma shape our relationship with money far beyond spreadsheets and budgets. You’ll hear why money blocks aren’t flaws to fix, but protective patterns your body learned to survive, and how healing them requires compassion, embodiment, and nervous-system safety.

This is a grounded, honest conversation about overspending, underspending, overgiving, avoidance, and the invisible ways money controls our sense of worth. By the end, you’ll feel less broken ($), less ashamed, and more empowered to meet money as a companion—not a threat—and begin relating to it from trust, choice, and self-respect.

✨ In This Episode You’ll Learn

• How childhood experiences silently shape your adult money patterns
• Why money wounds are protective responses, not personal failures
• What happens when money becomes tied to self-worth and safety
• The truth about nervous system regulation and financial behavior
• How embodied, holistic money work creates lasting change

💜 Connect with Nadine:

• Follow Nadine on Instagram @nadinezumot
• Listen to Nadine’s Podcast Un-F*ck Your Money
• Join Nadine’s self-paced workshop: 5 Days of Money Magic

🦋 Reflection Questions for You:

1. Which of the four money blocks—overgiving, underspending, overspending, or avoidance—feels most familiar in your life right now?
2. What inherited money story are you finally ready to release and rewrite?
3. What would shift if money felt safe instead of charged?

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

In this soul-opening episode, I share a tender memory from my teenage years that planted the seed of a deep belief: I don’t belong. This story, small on the surface, but huge in impact, shaped how I showed up in life, relationships, and even my business. I unpack how that moment led me to become a lone wolf, to hide, to shrink… and how I’ve been gently unraveling that old truth to reclaim my worth, voice, and belonging. This one’s for the woman who’s ready to remember that she always belonged, and to finally belong to herself first.

I shared a powerful guided practice to connect with your inner child and whisper the words she always needed to hear.

Reflection Questions:

1. When was the first time you felt like you didn’t belong?
2. What story did you start telling yourself after that experience—and is it still running your life?
3. What would shift if you chose to belong to yourself first?

Join the Midlife Butterfly Facebook group [http://www.facebook.com/groups/midlifebutterfly] and check out my one-on-one six-week journey called the Butterfly Path [https://midlifebutterfly.ca/butterfly-path]. If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to reclaim your power, I'm here to support you!

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

There comes a moment in midlife when “being content” no longer feels like enough.
When the quiet question rises: Is this really my life… or is there more?

In this deeply honest conversation, Kena sits down with Raivon LeToyia to explore what happens when a woman answers her midlife awakening. Together, they unpack inner child healing, reparenting, feminine energy, and why manifestation is not about forcing outcomes — but about coming home to yourself.

Raivon shares her journey through divorce, people-pleasing, religious conditioning, and the courage it took to stop living as the “good girl” and start living as a whole woman. Kena weaves in her own lived experience of reinvention, embodiment, and trusting the soul’s timing.

This episode is for the woman who feels exhausted from control, disconnected from her body, and ready to soften into alignment. By the end, you’ll remember this truth: healing isn’t about fixing yourself, it’s about reclaiming your power and letting life meet you there.

✨ In This Episode You’ll Learn

• How inner child healing unlocks self-trust and emotional freedom
• Why feminine energy is about surrender, not weakness
• What happens when you stop manifesting from lack and start living from wholeness
• The truth about people-pleasing, control, and energetic burnout
• How healing your wounds naturally shifts your identity and attracts alignment

🦋 Reflection Questions

1. Where in my life am I choosing safety over truth, and what is it costing me?
2. What would change if I trusted my emotions as guidance instead of resisting them?
3. How might my life expand if I stopped trying to control and allowed myself to receive?

✨ You can find Raivon:

Website: https://www.energeticglowup.com

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheEnergeticGlowUp

Podcast: https://www.energeticglowup.com/listen-to-the-energetic-glow-up-podcast

Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theenergeticglowup/ 

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

In this solo episode, I’m sharing raw, real, and radiant reflections from the heart of a woman who’s living and breathing the sacred transitions of midlife. From my return to Montreal to the full rebranding of my blissness from The Wellbeing Project to Midlife Butterfly, this episode is a juicy blend of storytelling, lessons, and soulful reminders that you are not alone in your unraveling or your rising.

Whether you're in a cocooning season, dissolving an old identity, or just starting to spread your wings again — this one's for you, beautiful.

Here’s what I cover in this episode:

• Why I rebranded my entire blissness (biz) to Midlife Butterfly (and the divine click that led to it).
• The lesson I learned the hard way from ignoring my intuition at 3 a.m.
• How technical breakdowns turned into divine reconnections (yes, guac and wine included!).
• Why transitions feel extra wild during midlife — and how to ride the rollercoaster with grace.
• What it means to be in the cocooning, dissolving, emerging, or flying phase of your own life.
• A powerful reminder: emotions are neutral, and they're here to guide you.
• My client’s incredible transformation after six months of deep soul work.
• How to stop resisting what’s falling away and start trusting what’s being born.
• The deeper meaning of midlife as a series of sacred deaths and rebirths.
• How to build the strength to spread your wings — again and again.

This episode is a love note for the woman who’s navigating loss, change, and growth all at once — and knows deep down, she’s meant to rise from it all. You are the butterfly, my love.

Reflection Questions for You:

1. Which butterfly phase are you currently in — cocooning, dissolving, emerging, or flying?
2. Where in your life are you being called to listen to your inner voice more deeply?
3. What would it look like to trust your emotions as sacred messengers rather than problems to fix?

Check out the free Midlife Butterfly Guide [http://midlifebutterfly.ca/theguide] with five key practices that have helped me navigate major life transitions with more ease and alignment. Visit midlifebutterfly.ca or follow me on Instagram @KenaSiu.

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

What if your hormones weren’t betraying you… but guiding you?
What if the mood swings, fatigue, weight shifts, and emotional waves of midlife were invitations, not problems?

In this episode of The Midlife Butterfly, I sit down with Ashley Rocha, founder of Ladywell, to reframe hormones as the CEOs of your body — intelligent messengers designed to bring you back into flow, balance, and self-trust.

We explore what actually happens hormonally from puberty to perimenopause and beyond, why so many women feel dismissed or misunderstood, and how tracking your cycle becomes an act of radical self-respect. This conversation weaves science with soul — touching on intuition, libido, stress, identity shifts, and the quiet power of listening to your body instead of pushing through it.

By the end of this episode, you’ll feel more informed, more compassionate with yourself, and more connected to the woman you’re becoming: grounded, wise, and deeply in tune with her own rhythm.

✨ In This Episode You’ll Learn

• How hormones shape your mood, confidence, energy, and identity
• Why midlife symptoms aren’t personal failures but biological signals
• What happens when you track your cycle and honor your natural rhythm
• The truth about PMS, PMDD, and emotional sensitivity in women
• How to support hormonal balance through lifestyle, intuition, and care

🦋 Reflection Questions

1. Where have I been pushing through my body instead of listening to it?
2. What would change if I trusted my inner rhythm more than external expectations?
3. How might my life soften if I honored this season instead of resisting it?

Use code BUTTERFLY20 for 20% off all LadyWell supplements at  getladywell.com and follow @GetLadyWell on social media for ongoing education about hormonal health.

✨ Come breathe with me. Every first Friday of the month I offer a free live Neuroepigenetic Breathing session. It's 60 minutes, camera on, and not recorded. Save your spot here. 

💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and still feels something is missing. It's free, it's private, and it might be the most important thing you listen to this year — sign up here!

🦋 Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
Website: midlifebutterfly.ca

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada