You want to quit your job. Leave your relationship. Move somewhere warm. Start a business. Change your body. Blow up your life and start over.

And maybe you really do need a big change.

But before you make one, there's another question worth asking: What do you actually want to feel?

In this episode, Lori Lisai explores the underlying desires beneath those big midlife urges.

Human Design can help you sort through the desire, conditioning, and midlife chaos so you can make decisions from your own authority rather than reacting to what you think you're supposed to do.

In this episode:

• The question to ask before making a major midlife change

• Why "when I have X, I'll feel Y" can reveal what you're really seeking

• How Human Design authority can help you discern your next move

• Where conditioning may be influencing what you think you want

• How to experiment with one-degree pivots

• When a big change really may be necessary

The goal isn't to talk yourself out of what you want. Your desires matter. The goal is to understand what they're telling you so you can move toward the life you actually want, one decision at a time.

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What if the feeling you're having is real... but it doesn't necessarily mean you need to do something about it?

In Part 2 of this series on Human Design and emotional waves, Lori Lisai explores what happens when emotional energy intersects with perimenopause and menopause. Hormonal changes can heighten sensitivity, change our reactions, lower our tolerance for bullshit, and make it harder to recognize what is actually happening in our bodies.

Human Design doesn't explain your hormones, but it can give you a framework for understanding your body's patterns and your own decision-making process.

Lori digs into the difference between having a defined or undefined Solar Plexus, how emotional waves can amplify the meaning we attach to everyday situations, and why a mood doesn't always need to be fixed, explained, or turned into a decision.

Most importantly, she gives you a simple process for figuring out what the hell is actually going on:

• What are you experiencing physically in your body? • What meaning are you immediately giving that sensation? • Is this yours, or are you picking up someone else's energy? • If you have emotional authority, where are you on your wave? • Do you need to communicate right now, or do you need to wait?

You'll also hear practical examples of communicating your needs to the people you love, allowing yourself time before making big decisions, and recognizing when a recurring feeling deserves deeper attention.

Your body is communicating with you. The work is learning how to listen without immediately turning every sensation into a story.

If you're ready to understand your own Human Design and how it intersects with what's actually happening in your life, that's exactly the kind of work Lori does with women in private readings and coaching.

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You feel a certain way and that must mean something, right? Maybe not..exactly. Today, Lori dives into the difference between feelings and emotions, the four types of emotional waves and how to discern well enough to make the big decisions that come as a part of midlife.

The goal isn't to dismiss your emotions or convince yourself that what you're feeling isn't real. It's to develop enough awareness to separate the physical experience of emotion from the story your mind creates about it and, if you have an emotional wave, learn to recognize where you are within that wave.

Key Takeaways:

• The actual differences between emotions and feelings
• The four different emotional waves: Source, Tribal, Individual, and Collective
• Why knowing where you are on your emotional wave can change the way you approach big midlife decisions
• How to start tracking your emotional wave alongside your menstrual cycle, menopause symptoms, or other changes in your body

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Homework:

Pull up your Human Design chart and look at your Emotional Solar Plexus.

Is it defined or undefined?

If it's defined:

• Which emotional channels do you have?
• Do you have one wave or multiple waves?
• What does your emotional high feel like in your body?
• What does your low feel like?
• What thoughts tend to show up when you're at each point in the wave?

Start tracking it.

Bonus: track where you're at in your cycle and how your body feels alongside it.

Today, Lori honors Dolly Parton by exploring several pieces of Dolly's Human Design and what they can teach us as midlife women about energy, creativity, self-trust, identity, experimentation, and working with the limitations life gives us. Dolly was a Sacral Generator with the 3-60 channel of Mutation, and Lori explores the incredible creative force that can emerge when we learn to work with our own energy and cycles rather than constantly pushing ourselves to produce.

From Dolly's unapologetic approach to her appearance and persona to her willingness to experiment, learn, evolve, and become a role model through her lived experience, this episode is an invitation to look at your own Human Design differently.

Key Takeaways:

*How are you using your creative life force?

*How are you using your authority?

*How can limitations help your creativity?

*How Dolly's sense of humor helped her deflect criticism

*What Dolly teaches us about an undefined G center

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Who are you when the role you've spent years building your life around begins to change?

Midlife can bring a strange combination of grief, freedom, excitement, and uncertainty. Kids leave home. Careers shift. Relationships evolve. Our bodies change. And suddenly we're left asking a question we may not have had to ask in decades: Who am I now?

In this episode, Lori explores the identity shifts that come with midlife and the temptation to immediately fill the empty spaces with something new. Instead, she invites you to slow down, feel what's ending, get curious about what's emerging, and use Human Design as a tool for reconnecting with your own energy, authority, desires, and sense of self.

You don't have to have your next chapter figured out. You just have to be willing to meet the woman who's emerging.

Key Takeaways:

• What happens when the identity you've spent years building your life around starts to change?
• How can something be exactly what you wanted and still break your heart?
• Who might you discover when you're no longer defined by the roles you've been playing?
• What does your future self have to teach the woman you are today?
• Could not knowing actually be the beginning of something really good?
• What does Human Design have to do with figuring out who you are now?
• How the Pisces eclipse and Uranus square can help redefine your next chapter

Episodes Mentioned:

Episode 118: Feel the Feels: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-118-your-feelings-arent-the-problem-your/id1754592104?i=1000771756156

Episode 75: Momancholy/College Drop-off: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-75-momancholy-college-drop-off-support-for-midlife-moms/id1754592104?i=1000723408581

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Have you ever wanted to make a change in your life, but found yourself thinking about what your partner, kids, parents, friends, coworkers, or everyone else might think? Sometimes the thing standing between us and the life we want isn't a lack of desire. It's the expectations we've absorbed from the people around us and the ways we've learned to keep ourselves comfortable, acceptable, and easy to live with.

In this episode, Lori shares a six-part roadmap for becoming the woman you actually want to be, even while you're in relationship with other people. This isn't about blowing up your life or ignoring the people you love. It's about deciding that your desires matter, getting specific about the life you're creating, and learning how to take small, intentional steps toward it.

• A bucket list for doing AND being
• Are you letting someone else's expectations make your decisions for you?
• What does your future self already know how to do?
• The one-degree pivot: How tiny daily actions can begin changing your identity.
• What does your "wild woman" look, feel, smell, and move like? Lori has an exercise for that.
• Where to look in your Human Design for help

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Sometimes people really are assholes. 😂 And sometimes the thing that's pissing us off about someone else is pointing directly at something we haven't wanted to look at in ourselves.

As eclipse season stirs things up, Lori is diving into the messy, uncomfortable territory of projection, shadow work, accountability, and self-leadership. When someone projects their fears, feelings, or patterns onto us, how do we discern what actually belongs to them and what is ours to examine? And when we're triggered, how can we use the experience as information rather than immediately deciding who's right and who's wrong?

With the Leo solar eclipse as the backdrop, Lori explores the shadow and light of Leo energy: the desire to be seen, recognized, and special, but also the ways we can suppress our own visibility and resent people who confidently take up space. She connects this to Human Design Strategy and Authority and the practice of coming back to what you actually know to be true for yourself rather than getting swept up in someone else's story about you.

And because this is midlife, there's another layer. Sometimes the discomfort is a sign that the identity, relationships, roles, and expectations we've carried for years are no longer fitting. Midlife can crack us open enough to question what we actually want, what we're willing to carry, and who we're becoming.

This episode is an invitation to stop asking only, "Who's at fault?" and start asking, "What's mine here?" Because self-leadership doesn't mean accepting everyone else's projections as truth. It means learning to recognize what isn't yours, take responsibility for what is, and use even the uncomfortable moments as an opportunity for growth.

Key Takeaways:

• How do you tell the difference between someone else's projection and your own shadow?
• Your anger has a story. What might your trigger be trying to tell you?
• Leo has a shadow side. Where might it be showing up in your life?
• What does self-leadership actually require?
• How do you separate what you know from what you've been conditioned to believe?
• What if the conflict is part of the growth?
• How midlife is an opportunity for rebirth into the wild woman

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For most of our lives, we may have believed that confidence comes from fitting in, being liked, and earning approval. We learn to tone ourselves down, hide the parts of ourselves that seem "too much," and become who we think we're supposed to be. But what if that's exactly what's keeping us stuck? With the collective North Node's recent shift into Aquarius and the South Node into Leo, we're being invited to rethink what confidence really means and to consider whether our uniqueness is actually our greatest gift, not something to hide.

In this episode, Lori explores how the Aquarius-Leo nodal axis mirrors the journey from external validation to authentic self-expression. Through a hilarious story about an unforgettable middle school outfit, reflections on Human Design as the science of differentiation, and practical journal prompts, she shares why midlife may be the perfect time to stop shrinking yourself and start letting your freak flag fly. You'll leave with a new perspective on confidence, individuality, and how embracing your authentic design can become your greatest contribution to the world.

• How to ditch confidence built on other people's approval
• The connection between the Aquarius North Node and embracing your individuality.
• How Human Design reveals your special sauce.
• Why midlife is the perfect season to peel back layers of conditioning.
• Four journal prompts to help you reconnect with your authentic self.
• How to stop waiting for permission and start becoming the main character of your own life.

Episode mentioned: 98. Your North Node Placement: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-98-your-north-node-placement-a-midlife-life-raft/id1754592104?i=1000745713942

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Have you caught yourself asking, "What's wrong with me?"

It's one of the most common questions I hear from women in midlife. We compare ourselves to the woman we were ten or twenty years ago and assume that because we feel different—physically, emotionally, mentally—something must be wrong.

But what if that's the wrong question?

In this episode, I invite you to consider a different question. Instead of viewing midlife as a loss, what if it's a renovation? We'll explore why trying to get back to your "old self" may actually be keeping you stuck, and how Human Design can help you understand the woman you're becoming instead of mourning the one you've outgrown.

• The hidden assumption behind asking, "What's wrong with me?"

• Why your younger self may not be the version you actually want back.

• A simple mindset shift that changes how you experience midlife.

• What your body might be trying to tell you through the changes you're experiencing.

• How Human Design can reveal where you're forcing life instead of flowing with it.

• The practical insight you'll gain from understanding your unique energetic blueprint.

If this episode resonated with you, share it with another woman who's been wondering if something is wrong with her. She may just need a different question.

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We all have moments when life knocks us flat. Midlife is full of them—career disappointments, relationship struggles, health changes, financial stress, empty nests, and dreams that didn't unfold the way we imagined.

Feeling your feelings is healthy. It's necessary. (See episode 118)

But what happens when processing turns into mental loops you can't get out of? When self-compassion slips into self-pity? When being right about your circumstances starts costing you your peace?

In this episode, I'm exploring the fine line between honoring your emotions and getting stuck in the story. We'll talk about why curiosity is one of the fastest ways back to your power, how Human Design can help you reconnect with your inner wisdom, and why sometimes the most transformative thing you can ask isn't "Why me?" but "What now?"

If you've been feeling stuck lately, this episode is an invitation to stop reliving the same chapter and start writing the next one.

• The subtle shift that tells you you've moved from healing into self-pity.

• Why being "right" about your situation may be keeping you stuck.

• The simple question that can change your perspective in an instant.

• How Human Design can help you find your next aligned step.

• Why your emotions deserve to be honored but not handed the keys to the kingdom.

• Why we genuinely all need someone to hold up a mirror from time to time.

• How a Human Design reading can help you see beyond the story you've been telling yourself.

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