Midlife Dating Podcast

Quick Update:

After being on hiatus for a little over a year for a variety of reasons, we're back.

There will be new content starting late August of 2024.

Highlights for this Episode:

The Glossary term is: Orbiting, where someone keeps popping up on your social media radar, waiting to make a move for a date.

In the Retro/Etiquette Segment – We listen in on how the US Navy demonstrates to their officers the right and wrong way to handle a Dinner Invitation. From Blondes Prefer Gentlemen. 1965 US Navy Instructional Film.

Paul reviews the book: Dating Essentials for Men by Dr. Robert Glover. Highpoints include recognizing the Bad Dater Cycle, Understanding the Relationship Pyramid, where you learn to identify the correct type of person to date. And the significance of being a good ender and effectively ending relationships if they are the wrong type.

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Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected]

50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Dating Essentials for Men: The Only Dating Guide You Will Ever Need by Dr. Robert Glover   Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/Dating-Essentials-Men-Only-Guide/dp/B09C3FQ948/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1611579163&sr=8-2

Highlights for this episode:

The Glossary term is: The Maybe Date

In the Potpourri Segment, Paul offers listeners an excellent refresher on the highly effective 3-1-1 Rule. This straightforward and efficient three-step process not only helps you filter out the flakes and texting buddies but also saves you precious time, enabling you to swiftly move off the dating apps to a meet up date with someone who truly interests you.

Paul reviews the movie About Time. A heartwarming romantic comedy that will leave you feeling uplifted and inspired. With its poignant messages about the importance of cherishing every moment and what can happen when you get a do-over chance to approach dating situations with confidence.

In the Retro/Etiquette Segment – We listen in on how the US Navy recommends their officers conduct themselves with their dates at a dance or party. From How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film.

Episode Links:

About Time Official Movie Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OIFdWk83no

Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected]

50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Highlights for this episode:

The Glossary term is: Serendipidating 

In the Retro/Etiquette Segment: We listen in on how the US Navy recommends their officers conduct themselves with their dates in a small gathering. From How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film. 

Paul reviews the book: Find a Husband After 35 Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School by Rachel Greenwald, published in 2004. She has a 15-step, easily executable plan of action to market yourself to find better quality, datable, relationship-intentioned men. While written for women, men can easily apply most of Rachel’s advice. 

Episode Links:

Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected] 

50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/ 

Find a Husband After 35 Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School by Rachel Greenwald. Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/Find-Husband-After-35-Business/dp/0345466268/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1680099504&sr=8-1

Highlights for this episode:

The Glossary term for this episode is: Ghostbusting.

Paul reviews the movie Big Stone Gap, released in 2014. This movie looks into dating and romance in the late 1970s. It demonstrates the typical outcome of what can easily happen when men try to use logic to pursue romance.

In the Retro Segment, How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film guides men on approaching a movie date.

In the Potpourri Segment, Dating Truths Part 6. Emerging Truths from repeating patterns that Paul identified when he started dating again in his early 50s. Today he reviews Truths 25-30, including the confusion between Chemistry and Infatuation, Fast and Furious Dating, and why One and Done dates will be your most common experience.

Episode Links:

Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected]

50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Big Stone Gap Official Movie Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wx7Q9mSLrfY

How 1970s VCR dating paved the way for Tinder and Hinge:  https://www.vox.com/22262353/great-expectations-history-video-dating-vcr-apps

Highlights for this episode:

The Glossary term for this episode is: Bromance

Paul reviews the movie Swingers, released in 1996. This movie gives us a look into dating in the 1990s, how damaging holding on to your ex and being unable to put them behind you can be, and how dance lessons can come in very handy.

In the Retro Segment, How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film. Restaurant date.

In the Potpourri Segment, Dating Truths Part 5. These truths emerged from repeating patterns and behaviors Paul began to pick up on when he started dating again in his early 50s. Today we look at Truths 21-24, which include, Your type is no longer your Type, You only get one chance, The one who gets to the meet up date first wins, and Beware of the all-or-nothing attitude.

Episode Links:

Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected]

50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Swingers Official Movie Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zHT2zOnutCA

Swingers Answering Machine Meltdown Scene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DU3Pk6oDNRU

Swingers Swing Dance Scene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G3Ec9Wqn-ms

Cupid’s Coach Episode 51 – Dating & The Money Trap

Courtney Ryan: Which Guy Would Women Choose (Would you Rather…) 

Midlife Dating Podcast EP 19 – Dating Truths Part 4

Highlights for this episode:

Have you ever gone on a meetup date only to find out their colorful online charisma is nowhere to be found when you meet them in person? This is known as the Cyrano de Bergerac. It's the glossary term for this episode, and we'll take a closer look at this curious creature.

I'll be reviewing the movie Before We Go, released in 2015. This film demonstrates that even the worst of days can turn out to be the best of days. It also provides an excellent roadmap of how to proceed when things don't go as planned and how important it is to maintain a sense of humor.

In the Potpourri Segment, I'll cover "Dating Truths," Part 4. These truths emerged from repeating patterns and behaviors I began to pick up on when I started dating again in my early 50s. Today we take a look at Truths 16-20, which include, The Bigger Better Deal, The Candy Store Effect, and the outdated Three Strike Rule.

Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected]

50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Before We Go Trailer:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vNzaiGzPoUg

Definitely, Maybe role-playing clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GARQJHyaBD0

Have you been guilty of Professing? It's the glossary term for this episode, and it describes behavior that many of us have embraced at some point in our dating lives, that Hollywood has glamorized but turns out to be creepy in reality.

Following the glossary segment, Paul discusses some dating and relationship takeaways from the movie, All I Wish. Here we see that time can heal a rough start and change our attitude about relationships for the better.

In the Potpourri Segment, Paul reviews Dating Truths 11-15. Outlining the necessary skills one can quickly master by first putting maximum effort into their profile pictures and written profile. Also, why "One and Done" will be a regular part of your online dates as you endure the learning process.

Please contact Paul at the email address below If you have any dating topics you'd like covered or have questions or comments. Of course, we'll keep your identity confidential.

Questions and Contributions: [email protected]

50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Having problems getting past the first few dates, let alone the first meetup? Then, you could be guilty of "Projection." This glossary term describes how we may subconsciously project our past negative dating and relationship experiences onto our new dates.

Following the glossary segment, Paul reviews Esther Perel's book "Mating in Captivity."  Social and emotional intelligence are standard terms we hear about. However, Perel gives us much-needed insight into "Erotic intelligence," which is understanding what attracts a couple to one another, including how and why those couples grow apart.

In the Potpourri Segment, Paul expands on dating Truths 6-10, explaining why dating with purpose is so difficult, what the dating long game versus the dating short game looks like, and why we want to play the long game.

Please contact Paul at the email address below If you have any dating topics you'd like covered or have questions or comments. Of course, we'll keep your identity confidential.

Questions and Contributions: [email protected]

50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Have you ever heard of the Flannel Nightgown? It's our glossary term for this episode, and it explains the transition that develops in all romantic relationships.

I'll be reviewing the movie Sing Street, released in 2016. It will bring us back to the 80s when things were so much simpler. The film has a great message about taking risks in putting yourself out there and being willing to accept some levels of humiliation as you grow, learn and chase your passion. 

In the Potpourri Segment, I'll cover "Dating Truths," Part 1. These truths emerged out of repeating patterns and behaviors I began to pick up on when I started dating again in my early 50s regarding Soul Mates, Rejection, and how to test the dating waters effectively.

Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected]

50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/