Midlifing

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Simon and Lee talk tattoos and shame.

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Related links (and necessary corrections):

demob: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/demob
ASMR: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ASMR
mukbang: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mukbang
Simon's waffle podcast setup: http://skellis.net/midlifing/waffle
shame: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shame

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Introducing Lear B. Miller. Simon and Lee try to have a regular conversation but Simon's state of disrepair gets in the way. Eventually they talk about his blue wrist band of freedom. Confused? Yes, so are they.

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Related links (and necessary corrections):

• Frances Haugen (Facebook whistleblower): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frances_Haugen
• Yale Law conversation about Facebook Files with Shoshana Zuboff, Tristan Harris, Frances Haugen and Meetali Jain (who was the person Simon couldn't remember):  https://yalelaw.hosted.panopto.com/Panopto/Pages/Viewer.aspx?id=9fc9efdb-8a66-4278-81b4-adba00e954fb
• The Social Dilemma: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Social_Dilemma
• History of Facebook news feed (Simon got it pretty much all wrong): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/News_Feed
• Simon leaving Facebook (2017): https://www.skellis.net/blog/on-leaving-facebook
• Simon's blue band of freedom: http://skellis.net/midlifing/blueband
• MIQ: https://www.miq.govt.nz
• Vipassana: https://www.dhamma.org
• Nauli kria: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nauli
• jumping the shark: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jumping_the_shark
• Psychedelic Furs, Pretty in Pink: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pretty_in_Pink_(song)
• Voldemort's voice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5J1NXtfNUh8

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Simon leaves the Wild West and Lee leaves a party: COVID, isolation, and panic attacks.

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Related links (and necessary corrections):

• Feijoa Frenzy: https://www.newworld.co.nz/shop/product/5012429_ea_000nw
• MIQ: https://www.miq.govt.nz
• ET: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/E.T._the_Extra-Terrestrial
• ET lockdown scene (MIQ in NZ is not really like this, but you get the idea): https://cms-assets.theasc.com/ET-19476-copy.jpg
• Time it takes to get over jetlag: https://www.epainassist.com/sleep-disorders/how-long-does-jet-lag-last-and-ways-to-overcome-it-quickly
• Panic attack: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Panic_attack
• Flop sweats (Broadcast News scene): https://youtu.be/RR9TFbqAScQ
• Brene Brown describing shame (vs guilt): https://brenebrown.com/blog/2013/01/14/shame-v-guilt/
• MS Zenobia (capsized in 1980, length 172.2 m): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/MS_Zenobia
• Full image of MS Zenobia on its side: http://gloriaproperties.eu/admin/uploads/gallery_images/image1210.jpg
• Simon entering upper car deck of Zenobia: https://vimeo.com/621789944
• social awkwardness: https://online.king.edu/news/socially-awkward-symptoms/

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Simon and Lee talk about being caught between bureaucracy and grief when a previously imagined scenario becomes real.

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Related links (and necessary corrections):

• Rosemary Lee (choreographer): https://www.artsadmin.co.uk/profiles/rosemary-lee/
• Raymond Tallis: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Raymond_Tallis
• MIQ: https://www.miq.govt.nz
• Emergency allocation request: https://www.miq.govt.nz/travel-to-new-zealand/secure-your-place-in-managed-isolation/emergency-allocation-requests/
• The Midlifing episode when Simon says he wouldn't travel in such a situation: https://www.midlifing.net/1480717/9001033-you-could-be-in-new-zealand-or-you-could-be-around-the-corner

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Simon and Lee are asked to talk about conspiracy theories but take a long time to get to them, and then realise they have very little skin in the game (but for very different reasons). They end up at self-consciousness and not changing anything.

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Related links (and necessary corrections):

• sonhos: http://portuguesediner.com/tiamaria/sonhos-portuguese-dreams/
• Thames Path: https://www.thames-path.org.uk
• Dartington College of Arts: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dartington_College_of_Arts
• Marina Abramović: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marina_Abramović 
• The Pigs of Today are the Hams of Tomorrow: https://vimeo.com/431821098
• Lady Gaga meat dress: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meat_dress_of_Lady_Gaga
• Chemtrails: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chemtrail_conspiracy_theory
• regifting: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Regift
• groupthink: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Groupthink
• the scientific method: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scientific_method
• Conspiracy theories wikipedia page (not to be missed): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_conspiracy_theories
• Poor Gavin Williamson: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/gavin-williamson-reshuffle-education-boris-johnson-b1920642.html
• STEM subjects (mathematics, _not_ medicine): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Science%2C_technology%2C_engineering%2C_and_mathematics
• SHAPE (the away team): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_Sciences,_Humanities_and_the_Arts_for_People_and_the_Economy
• gadfly (but not sure this is what we meant, Simon was thinking more like a flibbertigibbet): https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/gadfly
• Lobotomy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lobotomy

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Simon and Lee try to talk about food and what food means.

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Related links (and necessary corrections):

• Curious about the Queen tweeting bit?: https://twitter.com/RoyalFamily/status/1436820368514338818
• Food poverty in the UK: https://www.bda.uk.com/resource/food-poverty.html
• La cucina povera: http://www.scordo.com/food/la-cucina-povera-the-kitchen-of-the-poor.html
• The Angel (Dartmouth): https://www.theangeldartmouth.co.uk
• Shrove Tuesday: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shrove_Tuesday
• Alice Waters: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alice_Waters
• Masterclass videos: https://www.masterclass.com
• Chez panisse: http://chezpanisse.com
• Anthony Bourdain and Alice Waters: https://www.elephantjournal.com/2009/01/anthony-bourdain-vs-alice-waters/
• Il tavolo and la tavola in Italian: https://www.italymagazine.com/featured-story/word-week-tavolo-or-tavola

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Lee and Simon talk about attitudes and habits towards the body in decline.

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Related links (and necessary corrections):

• winnowing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Winnowing
• picked up the ball and ran with it: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_Webb_Ellis
• gender theory: https://www.encyclopedia.com/international/encyclopedias-almanacs-transcripts-and-maps/gender-theory
• incel: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incel
• Jamie Lewis Hadley: http://www.jamielewishadley.com
• live art: https://www.tate.org.uk/art/art-terms/l/live-art
• José Limón: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/José_Limón
• gallstone: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gallstone
• biliary colic: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biliary_colic
• longitudinal (or vertical) axis: https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/guides/zxkr82p/revision/2
• Otago University School of Physical Education: https://www.otago.ac.nz/sopeses/index.html
• JFK magic bullet: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Single-bullet_theory
• interoception: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interoception
• ableism: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ableism

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Simon and Lee struggle with a question about who carries other people's emotions, who doesn't, and why this is so.

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Related links (and necessary corrections):

• Steve Jobs' 2005 commencement speech at Stanford (not his resignation letter): https://news.stanford.edu/2005/06/14/jobs-061505/
• Succession (TV Series): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Succession_(TV_series)
• Toxic masculinity: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toxic_masculinity
• Munchausen syndrome by proxy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Factitious_disorder_imposed_on_another
• The Revenant: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Revenant_(2015_film)
• Every Adam Sandler film he's every done: Perhaps look them up for yourself

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Simon and Lee talk about making things with love. Recorded using Simon's 52 year old mouth and listened to with his 53 year old ears.

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Related links (and necessary corrections):

• Pet Shop Boys 'West End Girls': https://youtu.be/p3j2NYZ8FKs
• Superman logo: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Superman_logo
• Michael Sandel 'The Tyranny of Merit' (TED talk, not the book): https://www.ted.com/talks/michael_sandel_the_tyranny_of_merit
• Jacob Wren 'Authenticity is a Feeling': https://www.cbc.ca/books/authenticity-is-a-feeling-1.4917181
• Franciacorta and green pancakes for breakfast: https://www.skellis.net/midlifing/franciacorta
• Burrata: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Burrata
• Italian word of the day (how to pronounce) Bruschetta: https://youtu.be/W3aHBqJkZfA
• How to make a wet martini (instead of knocking on Craig's door): https://www.leaf.tv/articles/how-to-make-a-wet-martini/
• Gaylords of Darkness podcast: https://www.gaylordsofdarkness.com
• Critical Race Theory: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Critical_race_theory

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Lee and Simon decide to run for parliament and spend the episode sorting out their political manifesto. Vote here.

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Related links (and necessary corrections):

• Source of the Thames: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thames_Head
• dogs are barking: https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Dogs%20are%20barking
• wicked problem: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wicked_problem
• strike me pink: https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/strike+me+pink
• The Extended Mind by Annie Murphy Paul: https://anniemurphypaul.com/books/the-extended-mind/
• Marcus Rashford and food poverty: https://endchildfoodpoverty.org
• The Cotswolds (UK): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cotswolds
• Absolutely Positively Wellington (video advertisement): https://youtu.be/UssWFaY9NyY
• Plymouth reddit site still maintaining The Spirit of Discovery: https://www.reddit.com/r/plymouth/
• Student riots in Otago (1990, not 1989): https://thespinoff.co.nz/society/28-04-2019/a-brief-history-of-dunedins-wildest-student-riots/ 

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