Mind Monkeys Welcome (Bananas Optional)

What if the voice in your head telling you that you’re not enough isn’t actually you at all?

Emma Devine is a mindset coach and author of 'Bliss'. A former chronic over thinker and worrier, she spent years trying to disprove her fear by working her way past it, before discovering something far simpler and far more powerful.

In this episode we explore:

• The moment that sparked the book: an accidental yet blissful shift in mood that made Emma wonder what it would feel like to live like that all the time
• Why the fearful voice in your head is not the enemy. It’s just a misguided protector. As soon as you notice that, you can let that voice go
• Meet 'Grumble': the power of naming your inner critic, giving it a funny face, and learning to say “not today”
• Making decisions from love rather than fear, and the simple question that helps Emma turn it around every time
• Bliss breathing, mindfulness, gratitude, nature and music: the techniques that actually work (and why one of them will always matter more than the rest)
• The flamingo: what you consume, you become. And the Peace and Joy Club launching tonight

Find Emma:

Website: ⁠⁠findbliss.subscribepage.io

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/emmald1

Bananas optional. Bravery essential.

What happens when the thing you find hardest to do for yourself is the very thing you help everyone else do brilliantly?

Sally Day is a marketing and engagement consultant, trainer and founder of Sally’s Non-Fiction Book Club. With nearly 20 years of marketing experience, she helps SMEs and charities find their voice, tell their story and show up in a way that actually feels like them.

In this episode we explore:

• "Plumbers have bad bathrooms": why marketing yourself is hardest when marketing is your craft, and what Sally does about it
• The cringe that stops talented business owners showing up online, and a two-pronged approach to moving through it
• The friend zone: the gap between being really liked and actually being hired, and how to bridge it without becoming salesy
• Why you don’t need to be everywhere, just somewhere that feels good and actually works for your audience
• The campfire vs the LinkedIn feed: why stories feel different in real life, and what that means for how we show up online
• Sally’s Non-Fiction Book Club, three years of quietly brilliant conversations, books in the woods, and why intimacy beats scale every time

Find Sally:

Website: ⁠https://www.sallydayconsultancy.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sallylouiseday/

Bananas optional. Bravery essential.

What happens when the noise of everyone else's opinions drowns out the one voice that actually matters?

Nicky Souch is a business strategist and mindset coach who helps business owners who feel stuck, overwhelmed or disheartened work out what needs to happen next.

With 20 years of corporate finance experience behind her, she works with both the business and the person behind it. Her philosophy: it's your business, your way.

In this episode we explore:

• Why so many talented, passionate business owners are being silenced right now, by comparison, self-censorship and the pressure to simply be louder
• Going back to basics: the surprisingly powerful act of asking why you started in the first place
• The question that stopped Mark mid-conversation before they even started recording: is this scaring me because it's new, or because it's wrong for me?
• Nicky's own origin story, the teachers who told her she wouldn't amount to anything, the corporate Myers-Briggs chart that said she was the opposite of the ideal person, and what she built from that
• Why confidence is not something you are born with. It is something you build, through action, one tiny step at a time
• Empowered Live: Nicky's hands-on day event for business owners who want to work on their business, not just in it

Find Nicky:

Website: https://www.nickysouch.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicky-souch-business-strategist

Bananas optional. Bravery essential.

A conversation that moves from a Bolton girl chasing someone else's version of success, to turning the traditional coaching world upside down and exposing the myths behind 'self-mastery'.

What happens when the version of success you've been chasing belongs to someone else's story?

Angela Cox is a Master Coach, author and founder of Paseda360, the coaching academy behind Mark's own Advanced Practitioner qualification. Creator of the Pretender Masks Model™ and Stop Being Stuck®, she has spent more than 8,000 hours helping people understand not just what they do, but why they do it.

This episode that starts by challenging the well-trodden stories of what we're told success looks like and explores the tension (and, ultimately burnout) that living 'someone else's story' creates.

In this episode we explore:

• The corporate career Angela was brilliant at but couldn't sustain, and the two decisions she made in the car on the day she resigned
• Why the self-mastery industry is selling a dream it can't deliver, and what a more honest and effective alternative actually looks like
• The difference between dismissing your mind monkeys and learning to acknowledge and embrace those micro moments of hesitation
• Landmines: the trigger points from the past that can explode in the present
• Why 'going within' and becoming congruent with your own truth, is the first step towards finding contentment.

⚠️ APOLOGIES FOR SOME OF THE AUDIO QUALITY ⚠️We had some issues with echo in a couple of places – the closed captions on this episode will be your friend

Find Angela:
Website: https://paseda360.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/angelacoxpaseda360

Bananas optional. Bravery essential.

What happens when the tension of living a life in someone's shadow pulls you too far away from being your true self?

David Oates (Dave) has lived a lifelong career of high-flying success in the tech sales industry. And yet 'chasing the numbers' has always felt like a lie – a tension created from someone else's version of success.

This is one of the deepest and most emotional episodes of "Mind Monkeys Welcome..." (and it is all the better for it).

In this episode we explore:

• A lifetime of imposter syndrome traced back to Dave's relationship with his extraordinary father: a big man born in the back streets of Salford, and Dave's hero in every sense
• How his father's success led Dave to measure his own journey by the wrong numbers

• Dave also shares his journey to sobriety and the serenity he has since found from that incredibly brave decision

Find Dave:
Website: https://www.yavica.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dpoates/

Bananas optional. Bravery essential.

What if the thing that makes you most nervous is also the thing you were most born to do?

Hannah Knowles is a keynote speaker, author and positive psychologist working with the Art of Brilliance.

Described as the 'Queen of Positivity', she helps schools, businesses, councils, the NHS and sports teams navigate change, uncertainty and adversity through simple, practical tools that bridge the gap between knowing and doing.

She is also a self-described reluctant keynote speaker. Which, as it turns out, is exactly what makes her extraordinary at it.

In this episode:

• The 16-year-old Hannah who nearly didn't go back into the English classroom, and what that moment set in motion
• Why passion is the only reliable cure for performance nerves, and what happens when you speak about something that genuinely matters
• 'Be the most interested person in the room': the story of two Prime Ministers and how they made a special someone feel
• The Batman effect: what Beyoncé, Kobe Bryant and Margaret Atwood all understood about self-distancing and why it works
• Why the wobble in a speaker's voice is often the most powerful thing in the room
• Sharing books such as "Love Notes" and "The Art of Focus", and why one simple takeaway from a page (or a speech), properly applied, is worth a thousand that aren't

Find Hannah:
Website: https://substack.com/@hknowles LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannah-knowles2988/Bookshop: https://www.artofbrilliance.co.uk/products/books/

Bananas optional. Bravery essential.

What happens when the thing you've trained your whole life to do stops being enough?

And the next step forward requires a completely different set of skills that nobody ever taught you?

John Blackburn is a coach working with people who make live entertainment happen.

A professional drummer and musical director for more than twenty years, he helps entertainment professionals think more clearly about their work and become deliberate about the opportunities they build.

He is also the host of Entertainment Matters, a podcast exploring how people across the entertainment industry think about their work and put that thinking into practice.

In this episode:

• The gap between technical brilliance and knowing how to lead, and why entertainment professionals fall into it more than most
• The 'practitioner to producer' shift: what it really means to move from 'being picked' to 'doing the picking'
• Why the familiar discomfort of staying put so often feels safer than the unknown discomfort of change
• Identity and craft: when your work is who you are, what happens when the work doesn't go to plan?
• The five resources of a producer, and how your proximity to each one predicts your success
• Why the employee-to-business-owner shift and the practitioner-to-producer shift are essentially the same thing

Find John:


Website: www.john-blackburn.com


Instagram: www.instagram.com/coachjohnblackburn

Bananas optional. Bravery essential.

What if the problem isn't that you can't speak? What if you've just been speaking with someone else's voice?

Alex Beeching is a public speaking coach, copywriter, author and professional "idea-volcano".

A former top ad-land creative with 17 years' experience, he helps founders, experts and leaders strip away the corporate noise, find the fire underneath, and start speaking with story, energy, humour and commercial clarity.

He's a TEDx speaker, shortlisted for Speaker of the Year, and a man who will never, under any circumstances, use the word synergy unironically.

If that changes, send help (the code word is monkey badger).

In this episode:

• Why most people aren't speaking with their own voice, and what it actually takes to find it
• How Alex is driven to help others find the light (based on his own journey through darkness)
• How creativity, properly understood and applied, is THE tool for escaping the prisons of the mind
• The hyphen as a metaphor: Alex is Anglo-Iranian. His upbringing was a prime example of 'connecting the unconnected': a route through which he now explores both storytelling and the art of attraction
• Weaponise your weird: why being different isn't just expressive, it's a business strategy
• AI as complement not substitute, and why outsourcing your creative thinking to tech is where madness lies
• Why being generous is not a weakness, even if your bank manager disagrees

Find Alex:
Website: www.clubspeak.co.uk

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/alex-beeching/

Bananas optional. Bravery essential.

What if the thing standing between you and your voice isn't a lack of technique, but a lack of safety?

Dave James is a speaker coach, two-times TEDx speaker (one Editor's Pick), and founder of the Brain-Page-Stage™ approach.

Drawing on a background in A&E nursing, mindfulness and stand-up comedy, he helps leaders, teams and professionals move from knowing they have something to say, to actually saying it.

In this episode:

• Why public speaking ranks above death in fear surveys, and why that research is actually flawed
• The difference between speaking 'technique' and knowing who you are, and why the former is useless without the latter
• Loaning people your belief: the idea of holding someone's confidence for them until they're ready to keep it
• Speaking from the scar, not the wound, and what happens on stage when the two get confused
• How stand-up comedy and A&E nursing all teach the same core skill: being present with another person
• Why what your audience remembers is rarely the thing you thought was the best bit

Find Dave:

Website: www.davethecoach.co.uk
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/iamdavejames

Bananas optional. Bravery essential.

What if the thing stopping you from changing your life isn't knowing what to do. It's not knowing where to start?

Sara Southey is a "sort your shit out" coach, author of the bestselling SOS Your Life, and co-founder of The Southey Way — a health and life skills company she runs with her daughter Jenny. This conversation goes to some real places.

This is one of those conversations that starts somewhere and ends up somewhere completely different. In the best possible way.

After choosing to pause her career in HR, Sara spent five years in the US to come back home with two kids and (by her own admission) a feeling that she was failing at life.

Depressed. Struggling. And convinced (by the stories she had grew up with) she just had to get on with it.

What followed was eight years of hard, lonely work. And then a single conversation that led to The Southey Way being set up within 24 hours.

She's been helping people sort their lives out ever since. Physically, mentally and emotionally. All three at once. Because none of them exist without the other two.

In this episode:

• Why fear of the unknown stops people seeking change before they've even started
• The A to Z of life. You don't choose A (birth) and you don't choose Z (death). But you do get to choose everything in between
• Guilt is a reaction to a story someone else is trying to create for you... what is your real story?
• Zero judgement, tiny sustainable steps and creating a journey in your own words – the secret to actually sorting your sh*t out

Find Sara: thesoutheyway.com
Book: SOS Your Life — available from all reputable booksellers

Bananas optional. Bravery essential.