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Have you ever wondered if your partner's opinion should dictate your wardrobe choices? Join me as I unravel this contentious topic, drawing on personal anecdotes and reflections from my own relationships. From discussing the psychology behind women's revealing clothing to examining popular culture examples like Keke Palmer's memorable concert outfit, this episode promises a thought-provoking exploration of fashion, self-expression, and mutual respect in relationships. Plus, get an insider's look at Kendrick Lamar's electrifying Juneteenth performance and my preparations for a big move to Houston.

Get ready for a deep dive into the impact of clothing choices on personal and professional perceptions. We’ll explore how attire can send unspoken messages and why it matters in contexts ranging from job interviews to social gatherings. Through relatable stories and cultural references, such as the movie "Soul Food," we’ll dissect how wardrobe decisions shape how others see us and influence our interactions. This episode challenges the notion that clothing is trivial, illustrating its profound role in communication and relationship dynamics.

As the discussion unfolds, we'll also touch on the concept of karma and the importance of staying smart and grounded amid life's challenges. Drawing inspiration from Minister Farrakhan, we reflect on the lessons learned from others' experiences and emphasize the importance of protecting oneself while enjoying life to the fullest. Whether you're navigating fashion choices in a relationship or looking to stay true to yourself in various settings, this episode offers valuable insights and heartfelt advice. Grab a drink, relax, and join me for an engaging conversation that spans fashion, relationships, and the essence of self-expression.

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Ever hidden an Amazon package from your spouse? You're not alone. Join us for a hilarious and heartfelt discussion on navigating household spending habits .Financial secrets can devastate relationships—so how do you tackle financial infidelity? We dive deep into the emotional and financial strain caused by hidden credit card bills and secret bank accounts. With personal anecdotes and humorous tales, we highlight the importance of transparency, trust, and communication in managing joint finances. Explore the gender dynamics at play, the necessity of mutual support, and the crucial need for setting clear financial arrangements to avoid unnecessary strain. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship through honest financial dialogue 

Curious about the wild dynamics of modern relationships? You won’t want to miss our juicy segment on bizarre relationship revelations, including a jaw-dropping social media post that will leave you questioning everything you thought you knew about love. We also celebrate the 30th anniversary of "Sister Act 2" with some nostalgic memories and a heartwarming reunion with Whoopi Goldberg and the cast. Plus, get the latest scoop on the Drake vs. Kendrick Lamar drama, and enjoy some lighthearted banter about smoothie moments with my wife.

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We Back, Mind on Matters family! Strapped in for a ride through the twisting lanes of life's grand highway, we're hitting everything from fatherhood sniffs to the potential big moves—Houston, you might have us soon. With Coach Keisha Williams catching waves on vacation (Happy birthday, Coach!).

Strap in as we punch through the cultural thunderstorm that is Kendrick vs. Drake, where bars aren't just dropped, they're meteorites shaking the scene. I'll share my brush with this epic showdown and pivot to a more grave tune, addressing the Diddy and Cassie Ventura drama with a dose of reality and a personal angle that hits close to home. Navigating the choppy waters of domestic violence, we're calling for transparency and reflection on celeb controversies and their ripples through our own experiences.

We aren't just about the beats and the tough talks, though—let's break bread over the sacred union of marriage. I'm laying bare the true grit of relationship communication, spilling tales from Reddit and my own diary that'll make you nod, ponder, or just plain holler at the sheer realness of it all. And before we part ways, I'm sending you off with a soulful note on spirituality's role in sticking to life's script—through the temptations, the trials, and the triumphs. Thanks for tuning in, and may your Memorial Day weekend be filled with remembrance and joy. Stay safe out there, fam.

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When love intertwines with the shadow of depression, the dance can be as intricate as it is unpredictable. Keisha, a beacon of professional wisdom, and J Optiks, who has first hand experience with being the depressed spouse, unravel the complexities of supporting a partner who's weathering the storm of mental health. Our candid exchange weaves through the delicate fibers of empathy, understanding, and the pivotal role of self-awareness, all while I share my personal strides in sobriety and the emotional journey of relocating homes. We're peeling back the layers of romantic partnership dynamics, illuminating the path for those navigating the murky waters of a loved one's depression, and emphasizing the importance of maintaining one's own balance amidst it all.

Venturing into the realm of dating safety, the conversation takes a sobering yet necessary turn. With my pre-show jitters dissolved by humor and a dash of Taurus-season charm, we confront the stark realities that cases like Harvey Weinstein's bring to the fore. Championing the cause of vigilance, we dissect the contours of consent and privacy, particularly in the star-studded corridors of fame. The intersection of high-profile relationships and personal security beckons a serious examination, and together, Keisha and Optiks chart a course through the treacherous waters of modern dating, anchoring our listeners with tools for safety and empowerment.

As the episode reaches its denouement, we turn our gaze inward, reflecting on the art of supporting someone through mental health challenges without the impulse to repair them. The intricate dance between respecting a partner's space and heeding their silent pleas for help becomes our final act. We invite you into a dialogue about the transformative power of being a steadfast presence in your partner's life, and the balance required to hold space for their healing. As we bid farewell, we leave you with a call to continue the conversation on our social platforms, hoping to foster a community where laughter intertwines with earnest support, guiding each step towards brighter days.

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Ever found yourself pondering the essence of leadership in the complex dance of relationships? That's exactly where Coach Kesh J Optiks, lead a thought-provoking journey—peeling back the layers on cooperation and personal dynamics. Our candid exchange unpicks the threads of traditional gender roles, as we weave through the narrative that impactful change doesn't necessarily require a colossal network, but rather the concerted effort of a tight-knit team. Sip on the insights as we toast to mental health during National Minority Health Month and Sports Awareness Month, and explore how self-leadership and service to others set the stage for success in intimate partnerships.

It's a vibrant mix of storytelling and robust debate, where we shine a light on the balancing act of leadership within relationships. Kesh champions the notion of shared direction, stirring up the dialogue against the backdrop of culturally ingrained expectations. We tackle the nuanced roles both men and women play, not shying away from the complexities of submission and the challenge of setting a respectful tone in communication. The road to a thriving partnership, we uncover, is paved with emotional intelligence and the courage to both lead and submit, pivoting as life's symphony calls for a different tune.

As we wrap up this explorative session, the spotlight turns to the keys of sustaining a dynamic relationship where leadership is a shared responsibility. We underscore the critical importance of self-healing and humility, dismantling the ego's barricades to foster a nurturing, responsive bond. Whether you're navigating the highs and lows of partnership or seeking to refine your own leadership compass, this episode promises a treasure trove of insights. So join us on this expedition of growth and healing, where your stories and feedback are the compass guiding our collective journey.

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Fifty episodes deep and there's no sign of slowing down—Jay Optiks here with Coach Kesh, and today's show is a toast to milestones and fresh perspectives. As I hit the record button without the haze of a drink to cloud my thoughts, I'm feeling a crisp sense of clarity that's as refreshing as the lemon water in my hand. We're peeling back layers on everything from the "soft girl era" in gender roles to the heavy allegations facing Diddy, all while basking in the Atlanta sun and relishing family moments that have our mental health meters hitting new highs. 

We navigate the complex interplay of masculinity and femininity in relationships, sharing personal arcs that have seen tomboy tendencies mature into a balanced embrace of softer sides. We're calling on men and women alike to take a hard look at the communication bridges we're building—or watching crumble—in our partnerships. Our candid conversation weaves through the emotional intelligence needed to foster a nurturing environment where vulnerability isn't just allowed but encouraged. And as we unpack the importance of recognizing non-verbal cues and doling out sincere compliments, I'm taking you on a journey through my own marriage, where accountability and wisdom have been pivotal in supporting a space for growth. 

We cap off our 50th-episode bash with a mix of reflective nostalgia and forward-looking excitement. Reminiscing about pre-digital days and the lessons from yesteryear sets the tone as we express heartfelt gratitude to you, our listeners, who've been with us through thick and thin. I'm eager to hear your thoughts on the topics we've tackled, from the seismic shifts in societal roles to the everyday acts of kindness that keep the flame of relationships burning bright. Let's raise our glasses—be it lemon water or your favorite brew—to the shared journey ahead and the stories yet to be told.

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Have you ever found yourself in a tug-of-war between sharing the sweet moments of your relationship online and craving the quiet sanctity of privacy? Grab your favorite drink and join us—J Optiks and Coach Kesh—as we navigate the complexities of modern love in a world where social media reigns supreme. We're pouring out our thoughts, from the pressures of documenting every date night to the quiet power of keeping some memories just for two. And with Coach Kesh dropping  some seasoned insights, this conversation gets as deep as it does lively.

Strap in for a raw look at the repercussions that come with fragile egos and public spats. We're not just sipping sangria and cucumber mint lime juice; we're serving up a discussion that might just hit home harder than you'd expect. From the heart-wrenching consequences of private pain aired in public to the wisdom of LeBron and Savannah's discretion, we cover the gamut of what it means to love in the limelight—and the shadows it can cast. 

As we wrap up this episode, it's all about finding that sweet spot in your own life. Whether you're single and observing or deep in the throes of partnership, we're here to remind you that the line between private joy and public spectacle is one that each couple must navigate for themselves. Let's raise a glass to the art of balance in love—celebrating without oversharing, and cherishing without hiding away. Here's to love, in all its complicated glory.

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Ever found yourself pondering whether it's the heady rush of being in love or the quiet comfort of loving someone that's got your heart skipping a beat? Season 4 of Mind On Matters is here with J Optiks  and Coach Kesh, together with the insightful commentary of our new co-host, unpack these layered emotions that often entangle our hearts and minds. Our candid conversations peel back the curtain on how our relationships are shaped by the stories we tell ourselves, the music we listen to, and the societal expectations we grapple with; all while we share a few laughs and personal tales over a drink.

In a world where the line between personal choice and responsibility seems ever-blurring, we turn our attention to the legal complexities of the Unborn Child Support Act. This legislation has us fired up, dissecting the ramifications for fatherhood and the balance of fairness in child support laws. We go beyond the headlines as we reflect on the nuances of sexual partner selection and the societal shift this controversial act could signify. And in true Mind On Matters fashion, we don't shy away from sharing our personal connections to the topic, adding depth to the debate.

Wrapping up, we're not just here to talk; we're here to engage with you, our cherished listeners. Consider this your open invitation to join our community conversation, whether through a glowing review, a heartfelt email, or a suggestion for future episodes. Your thoughts and feedback are the lifeblood of our show, and together we're crafting a space that's as inclusive as it is illuminating. So, let's keep the dialogue going and continue to connect, sharing in the madness and the wonder of this thing we call life.

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Ok so we got people out here who ae too good for certain restaurants for a first date it seems. So we discuss entitlement, going "all out" on dates and does a woman's attractiveness dictate where you take her.

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This pregame we politic about where to go and NOT to go for a first date.

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