Mind the Gap

In this episode of Mind the Gap, Michael Comyn explores the often misunderstood virtue of kindness, not as a soft option but as a core leadership skill.

Drawing on emotional intelligence and real-world leadership experience, Michael challenges the notion that kindness is a sign of weakness.

Whether it means offering honest feedback with compassion, setting boundaries without hostility, or treating ourselves with gentleness during difficult times, kindness reveals strength, not fragility. It fosters trust, earns respect, and creates an environment for others to thrive.

You’ll hear how kindness can be decisive, discerning, and quietly powerful in a world that often values speed and sharpness over substance. This episode is a reminder that real influence is not loud, but consistent, respectful, and deeply human.

What to expect in this episode:

• Why kindness is not the same as niceness
• The role of kindness in emotional intelligence
• How kind leadership creates resilient teams
• The Stoic view of kindness as courageous action
• Practical ways to lead without losing your humanity

If this episode resonates, share it with someone who leads with heart, or with someone who might need the reminder that kindness is a skill worth mastering.

In this pivotal episode of Mind the Gap, host Michael Comyn marks the beginning of Season Two with a thoughtful shift in focus, from the ancient wisdom of the Stoics to the modern science of Emotional Intelligence.

Why pivot now? Because life is constantly changing, so should our perspective.

Stoicism offered a powerful foundation, emphasising perception, control, and resilience. Emotional Intelligence builds on that with tools for navigating today’s fast-paced, emotionally complex world.

Michael revisits his discovery of Stoicism while running fear-of-flying courses, and connects that experience to the early science of Emotional Intelligence, pioneered by Peter Salovey and John Mayer, and popularised by Daniel Goleman.

This episode is rich in reflection, layered with personal anecdotes, and grounded in practical wisdom. It’s also the perfect bridge between where Mind the Gap has been and where it’s going next.

So if you've ever asked, "What do I do with all this emotion?" or wondered how to stay clear-headed and compassionate when life gets noisy, this season is for you.

Known as the teacher of Epictetus, Musonius Rufus was much more than a footnote in Stoic history. In this bonus Stoic Portrait, we meet a voice of quiet rebellion. Exiled more than once by emperors, Musonius insisted that philosophy must be lived, not just spoken. He taught that self-discipline builds strength, that discomfort trains the soul, and that women deserve an equal education in reason and virtue.

This five-minute reflection examines how Musonius applied Stoic principles to everyday life, including food, marriage, work, and hardship. His lessons remain startlingly modern and deeply humane.

What to Expect:

• How Musonius Rufus made Stoicism practical and lived

• Why he believed virtue belongs to everyone, not just philosophers

• A reminder that courage is often quiet and consistent

Listen now and discover a Stoic whose teachings still guide us in daily life.

He carried water by night and wisdom by day. In this bonus Stoic Portrait, we meet Cleanthes, the second head of the Stoic school and a man who believed action mattered more than eloquence. A former boxer and labourer, Cleanthes lived the Stoic life long before he taught it. His quiet endurance, devotion to learning, and hymn to the rational order of the universe offer a reminder that Stoicism is not about prestige, but persistence.

This short episode offers a reflection on how discipline, silence, and steadfast character shaped a philosopher we rarely quote, but should never forget.

What to Expect:

• The unlikely journey of a manual labourer who became a Stoic leader

• Insights from Cleanthes’ life and his famous Hymn to Zeus

• Why Stoicism values how we live, not just what we say

Listen and reflect, and discover what it means to carry both water and wisdom.

How do you live wisely in a world that rewards ambition but punishes honesty?

In this five-minute reflection, Michael Comyn explores the contradictions and clarity of Seneca, the Roman statesman who advised emperors, amassed wealth, and still warned us not to waste a single moment.

Through his letters, Seneca teaches not perfection, but progress. Not isolation, but inward retreat. His message is clear: life is short, not because of time, but because of how we spend it.

If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’ll get to that later,” this episode is your gentle reminder:

Don’t postpone what makes you whole.

Part of our Stoic Portraits bonus series, bite-sized wisdom from ancient lives that still echo today.

Is Stoicism just a cold refusal to feel? A productivity trend for tech bros? A philosophy of passive acceptance? In this thoughtful and personal episode of Mind the Gap, Michael Comyn tackles the most common criticisms of Stoicism and shares the story of how he first discovered it while helping people overcome their fear of flying.

From the turbulence of anxious minds to the quiet clarity of Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius, Michael explores what Stoicism offers: not detachment, but steadiness. Not indifference, but dignity. And certainly not an excuse to do nothing.

Drawing on ancient insights, modern psychology, and lived experience, this episode makes the case for a Stoicism that is human, grounded, and quietly radical.

What to Expect in This Episode:

– Why Stoicism isn’t about suppressing emotions

– The difference between passivity and purposeful action

– A personal story of fear, perception, and philosophical discovery

– Stoicism’s stance on compassion, elitism, and justice

– The problem with lion memes and cold plunges

– Why this ancient philosophy still matters in a world of uncertainty

Quote to Remember:

“It’s not what happens to us—it’s how we perceive it.”

Mind the Gap: Stoic Portraits – Season One

What does a Roman emperor write to himself when no one else is meant to read it?

In this five-minute episode, Michael Comyn reflects on the inner world of Marcus Aurelius—Stoic philosopher, reluctant ruler, and author of Meditations, a private diary that became a timeless guide to clarity, calm, and self-command.

As the world around him unravelled, Marcus turned inward, not to escape, but to anchor. This portrait reveals how his quiet discipline speaks across centuries, offering strength not through dominance, but through restraint.

For anyone navigating overwhelm, leadership pressure, or emotional noise, Marcus Aurelius reminds us:

Your mind is yours. Rule it well.

Part of our Stoic Portraits bonus series—five-minute meditations on ancient lives that still speak today.

Mind the Gap: Stoic Portraits – Season One

What can a man born into slavery teach us about inner freedom?

In this five-minute reflection, Michael Comyn explores the life and legacy of Epictetus—the Stoic philosopher who had no control over his body, his birthplace, or his master… but refused to surrender his mind.

From radical acceptance to the discipline of emotional clarity, this episode distils Epictetus’ most powerful ideas and shows how they apply to the noise, stress, and uncertainty of modern life.

Whether you’re facing frustration, doubt, or just a crowded day, this quiet portrait reminds us:

You can’t always change the world, but you can always change your response to it.

Part of our Stoic Portraits bonus series—bite-sized wisdom from ancient lives that still echo today.

We live in a world of constant pings, notifications, and endless scrolls. Yet for many, the phone doesn’t ring, the inbox is quiet, and the silence can feel heavy.

In this episode of Mind the Gap, Michael explores the difference between contact and connection, weaving in Stoic philosophy, emotional intelligence, and modern psychology to understand why so many feel lonely even while surrounded by people or devices.

Michael shares reflections on why he rarely feels lonely, the difference between solitude and loneliness, and how age, gender, and relationship status can shape the experience of loneliness. Most importantly, this episode offers gentle, practical steps for listeners who feel unseen and unheard, encouraging small acts of connection and reminding us that reaching out is a sign of courage, not weakness.

In this episode:

– Why contact isn’t the same as connection

– The loneliness paradox of modern life

– What the Stoics and Viktor Frankl teach us about loneliness

– Age, gender, and relationship status factors in loneliness

– Gentle steps to find a meaningful connection

If this episode resonates with you, consider sharing it with someone who may need it today. Because sometimes, the phone won’t ring until we decide to call first.

In this special bonus episode, we share the debut of Echoes from the Margin here on Mind the Gap.

We turn down the noise to tune in more deeply, exploring the quiet strength found in humility, restraint, and presence. Drawing from Stoic thought, Indigenous wisdom, and timeless traditions from East and West, we reflect on what it means to lead, to influence, and to live—not through force, but through quiet clarity.

Because sometimes, the most powerful truths aren’t shouted. They’re simply lived.

In this episode:

• Why true wisdom rarely seeks the spotlight

• The difference between being overlooked and being grounded

• A gentle invitation to listen with more than just your ears

Take a moment to pause, breathe, and lean into the quiet power that shapes who we are.