Relationships as Mirrors: What Love Is Teaching You About Yourself

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What if your relationships weren’t problems to solve, but portals for growth?

In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Mario Silot, self-love and relationship coach, and Anastassia Lover, devotional feminine guide and astrologer, to explore how love reflects our inner world with authentic honesty.

We dive into how relationships reveal our unconscious patterns, attachment dynamics, emotional capacity, and self-leadership... inviting us to meet ourselves more fully rather than seeking completion outside of us. This is a conversation about responsibility without self-blame, devotion without self-abandonment, and intimacy rooted in truth.

Love doesn’t come to save us.

Connect with the guests:

Mario Silot

Anastassia Lover

Connect with Aubrie:

Aubrie Pohl

16 years cancer-free... and this episode is about far more than being a cancer survivor, it's about being a cancer THRIVER.

It’s about claiming your voice.

In this episode, I share my thyroid cancer journey not as a story of loss, but as a moment of initiation, one that shaped how I lead, speak, and stand in my truth today.

When the very center of communication is challenged, something profound happens: you learn what your voice is really for. This conversation explores what it means to:

- Develop a voice rooted in self-trust

- Speak from alignment instead of approval-seeking Lead with clarity, presence, and conviction

- Express who you are without over-explaining or shrinking

I don't want to focus on what happened to me. It’s a reflection on what was forged through me.

Over the past 16 years, my voice has evolved. This episode is an invitation to examine your own voice: how you use it, when you hold it back, and what becomes possible when you stop negotiating your truth.

If you’re ready to speak more clearly If you’re ready to be heard without force If you’re ready to lead from authenticity instead of performance, this episode will meet you there.

Your voice isn’t something you find.

It’s something you decide to use.

16 years cancer-free... and this episode is about far more than being a cancer survivor, it's about being a cancer THRIVER.

It’s about claiming your voice.

In this episode, I share my thyroid cancer journey not as a story of loss, but as a moment of initiation, one that shaped how I lead, speak, and stand in my truth today. When the very center of communication is challenged, something profound happens: you learn what your voice is really for.

This conversation explores what it means to:

Develop a voice rooted in self-trust

Speak from alignment instead of approval-seeking

Lead with clarity, presence, and conviction

Express who you are without over-explaining or shrinking

I don't want to focus on what happened to me.

It’s a reflection on what was forged through me.

Over the past 16 years, my voice has evolved. This episode is an invitation to examine your own voice: how you use it, when you hold it back, and what becomes possible when you stop negotiating your truth.

If you’re ready to speak more clearly

This episode will meet you there.

Your voice isn’t something you find.

In this episode, Aubrie explores the psychology of coaching through the lens of perception, presence, and understanding. At the heart of meaningful change is the ability to recognize how people experience their own inner world... and how that experience shapes behavior, choices, and communication.

This conversation focuses on the skill of active listening as a form of perceptual awareness. By listening deeply, tracking language, and noticing emotional shifts, we gain insight into how someone understands themselves and their situation. From this level of understanding, change becomes accessible and self-directed.

How people communicate their inner world through language

The role of subjective experience in shaping behavior

Active listening as a foundational coaching skill

How questions guide awareness and support insight

Working within another person’s model of the world

Supporting change through presence, perception, and trust

This episode is for coaches, leaders, facilitators, and anyone who values depth, clarity, and meaningful connection in conversations that matter.

✨ When understanding deepens, change unfolds naturally.

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In this episode, Aubrie explores what a mental spiral really is, why it feels so automatic, and how NLP gives us practical tools to interrupt it before it takes over our nervous system. This is not about suppressing emotions or “thinking positive.” It’s about understanding how emotions function as energy-in-motion... meant to be received, interpreted, and redirected.

You’ll learn why the brain doesn’t distinguish between what’s real and what’s vividly imagined, how emotions can be borrowed from the past or projected into the future, and why repeated emotional patterns become faster and more intense over time. From a neurological perspective, spirals are a trained sequence.

This episode also introduces two powerful NLP interventions used to regain choice in real time:

The Swish Pattern, which retrains the brain’s automatic responses

State Anchoring, which allows you to access resourceful emotional states when it matters most

Together, these tools show how change comes from working WITH the way the mind and nervous system are already designed.

What a mental spiral actually is (and why logic alone can’t stop it)

How emotions become amplified through memory, imagination, and repetition

Why spirals feel uncontrollable once a state is activated

How NLP works at the level of imagery, language, and physiology

Practical tools to reset your state in high-pressure moments

How to move from emotional reactivity into choice and self-leadership

This episode is for anyone who wants to respond differently in the moment.

✨ When you can reset your state, you can change your response, and when your response changes, your life does too.

If this episode resonated and you want to learn how to apply these tools consistently, you’re invited to explore the next step.

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Why do smart, capable people still struggle to follow through on what they say they want?

In this episode, Aubrie goes beneath surface-level mindset work and into the real architecture of human behavior. Instead of asking “How do I get more motivated?”, we explore a far more powerful question: “How is motivation actually created?”

Drawing from NLP and applied psychology, this conversation reframes motivation as an internal state shaped by perception, meaning, identity, and nervous system safety... NOT willpower or discipline. You’ll learn why self-sabotage isn’t a personal flaw, but a protective strategy rooted in past conditioning, and how familiar patterns can quietly override conscious goals.

We also explore the idea of liminal spaces, the subtle moments between stimulus and response, intention and action, where real choice and transformation live. As Viktor Frankl famously said, “Between stimulus and response, there is a space.” This episode reveals why that space is where NLP does its most powerful work.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

Why motivation fluctuates and why that’s not a failure

How meaning and internal representation drive behavior

The hidden positive intention behind self-sabotage

How early programming can shape what feels “safe” vs. what’s actually aligned

How NLP helps you work inside the liminal spaces where behavior is formed

This episode is for you if you’re ready to stop forcing change and start understanding how change actually happens in yourself and in others.

✨ Insight is powerful. Skill is transformational.

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Your insecurities aren’t proof that something is wrong with you... they’re invitations.

In this episode, we walk the path from insecurity to inner security and explore why the things you try to hide are actually the clearest doorway to real confidence (not the “fake it til you make it” version, but believe it until you become it, feel it until you real it).

We’ll get into the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem, how your subconscious mind quietly cancels out your worth, and why you might discredit yourself without even noticing. You’ll learn how certain thoughts, stories, and comparisons can collapse your sense of value, and more importantly, how to build a mindset where your worth isn’t fragile or conditional.

By the end of this episode, you’ll start to:

Hit play when you’re ready to stop invalidating yourself, and start embodying the version of you that’s already enough. 💫

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This episode of Mind Your Lens: The NLP Experience is all about the power of your story, the one you tell yourself every single day.

We don’t remember our past just to hold on to it... we remember it so we can predict what comes next. But here’s the twist: your memories are always being rewritten. They’re flexible, and that’s actually a gift.

Aubrie unpacks the art of re-narrating your life, shifting “contamination stories” (the ones that start good and turn bad) into “redemption stories” (the ones where you rise from the ashes). You’ll hear how the way you make meaning out of your pain affects your emotions, your identity, and even your biology.

✨ In this episode:

If you’re going through a transition, a healing chapter, or just ready to upgrade your self-story, this episode will help you rewrite your internal script with more compassion, truth, and agency.

🪞 Watch, listen, reflect, and remember... you get to be the narrator.

✨ Stay Connected:

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In this episode, Aubrie explores key ideas behind Neuro Linguistic Programming; including how perception shapes meaning and how language directs thought. She also shares a personal life update and how these concepts are playing out in real time.

✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why awareness of your inner language transforms your external results

How NLP helps you break habitual thinking patterns

How to integrate personal growth even during life transitions

🎧 Tune in if you’re ready to:

Understand the deeper mechanics of NLP

Integrate mindset tools into daily life

Get inspired by Aubrie’s honest, behind-the-scenes reflections

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In this episode of Mind Your Lens: The NLP Experience, Aubrie Pohl sits down with Bradley Davie, a wellness leader, strategist, and coach who developed a practice called Intentional Life Blueprinting.

What started as Bradley’s way of finding clarity during a challenging season has evolved into a living framework he continues to redesign every few years! Refining his purpose, mission, values, and goals to match each new stage of life.

Together, Aubrie and Bradley explore how blueprinting can help you:

    •    Clarify your life’s purpose and align with your deepest values

    •    Redefine your mission from the inside out and the outside in

    •    Create daily rituals that anchor resilience and focus

    •    Embrace transformation as an ongoing journey, not a one-time reset

This conversation is an invitation to design your life with intention... to live by design, not by default.