Mindfulness Mode

Lance Cayko is a multi-talented serial entrepreneur with an architect's mindful life vision. He is also a lecturer and podcaster with a diverse background in architecture, construction, and real estate development. He is the co-founder and partner of F9 Productions Inc., a successful design + build firm based in Longmont, Colorado. His company specializes in single-family and multi-family residential and small commercial projects.Before earning a degree in Building Construction Technology from the North Dakota State College of Science, Lance worked in nearly every trade of construction. He then continued his education and earned a Bachelor of Science in Environmental Design and a Master of Architecture from North Dakota State University, culminating with him graduating at the top of his class and earning the coveted McKenzie Thesis Award for the most outstanding thesis project.After college, Lance worked in various architecture roles in the construction industry before co-founding F9 Productions in 2009 with his business partner Alex Gore. Since then, the company has grown a reputation for quality craftsmanship, innovative design, and exceptional customer service.

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Most Influential Person

Kanye West (Rapper)

Effect On Emotions

Mindfulness, to me, stems from a recent read, Holding the Calm. by Hesha Abrams. It's about embracing different ‘lives' within our lifespan stages—20s, 20-40, 40-60, and beyond.

I've reached my ‘third life' at 40, prompting a focus on becoming a composed figure amidst chaos, solving problems with a stoic calmness.

Thoughts On Breathing

Breathing used to begin with gratitude for that initial breath, but it's slipped away. Yet, hiking strenuous mountain trails redefines it.

A 17-mile trek for fishing at 11,000 feet or a seemingly easy 3-mile hike with my daughter. That is challenging for her but exhilarating for me. Climbing steep slopes, sweat-drenched, and panting, I pause, leaning against the mountainside, smiling despite the exhaustion.

My daughter wonders why. It's simple—the feeling of being alive in those moments. Breathing, in those hikes, signifies unequivocal existence. The intensity of physical exertion validates life. Every breath is a confirmation of being undeniably present, alive, and vibrant.

 

Bullying Story

My childhood bully, Jonas, fueled my drive. Instead of combating him, I channeled his negativity into motivation.

I held onto the vision of future success, using his actions as a catalyst. Keeping my focus on the prize—my success in architecture, construction, and personal pursuits—kept me driven.

It wasn't about fighting back; it was about harnessing that negative energy as fuel for my ambitions, letting it ignite a fire in me to excel and succeed beyond those bullying moments.

Suggested Resources

Book: Holding the Calm: The Secret to Resolving Conflict and Defusing Tension by Hesha Abrams

Book: Meditations by Marcus Aurelius

Book: The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey

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Adam Hergenrother is the author of The 200% Life. He is the Founder & CEO of the thriving $1 billion organization, Adam Hergenrother Companies. He  owns a national real estate company, an award-winning development and construction company, and a leadership training firm. He is passionate about using business to transform lives and believes that when you focus on leading yourself first, the business results will follow. When he's not leading and growing his organizations or working on his inner growth, you can find Adam in the Vermont mountains with his wife, Sarah, and three children.

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Most Influential Person

Michael A. Singer (Author)

Effect On Emotions

Number one is that mindfulness made me aware that I'm not my emotions. Therefore I have the ability to either touch them or don't touch them. That obviously gives me a lot more clarity in my life.

Thoughts On Breathing

I love cathartic breathing. How wonderful it is to take three deep breaths; you know, that's part of the relaxed release. Just drop your shoulders, it just releases and you know, the parasympathetic and sympathetic systems that are going through our bodies.

If we can reconnect those and align those in through breath. It's just that, by the way, it's really funny; breathing is the only thing that we can control, and then if we don't want to it controls itself. It's autonomous.

Breathwork is one of those amazing things that if you still want to pay attention to it, it breathes on its own. But yet, if you want to pay attention to it, you can breathe on your own.

 

Bullying Story

There's a situation right now with one of my daughters. She is caught in a bullying situation. I was just responding to this individual.

When I grew up, I was actually bullied quite a bit in a different way. We didn't have cyberbullying, which I think is even worse today. Because I explained to my kids who are 11, nine, and seven.

Back when I was growing up, if there was an issue, we unfortunately often got into a physical fight. But it was just different back then. Like it was at school where it happened, but then when we went home, it was it was done. We didn't deal with it anymore.

People were not writing notes and leaving them in your mailbox every day, right?

Now it's even more difficult because when a kid goes home, all sudden, the bullying goes to the social media networks.

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Book: The Surrender Experiment, The Untethered Soul. And Living Untethered by Michael A. Singer

Book: The Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle

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Cyrus Rustom teaches strength through struggle. He has been coaching nutrition, fitness, health and peak performance for 13 years. Prior to his fitness industry career, he served as Royal Marines Commandos for 5 years, including a tour in Afghanistan on Operation Herrick 2006. His style of coaching is tough love. Cyrus almost died in a life-threatening incident in Afghanistan and bounced back to grow a successful 15-year career in fitness. He opened two fitness facilities in his hometown of Dubai and also coaches mindset, discipline, fitness, and nutrition. His current business started during Covid and against all odds, has not just survived but thrived. His business now generates over $1,000,000 a year in revenue. Cyrus also works for the Royal Family in Dubai, UAE. Cyrus attributes his success to his ability to extract powerful lessons learned through massive trauma.

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Most Influential Person

My wife

Effect On Emotions

 Mindfulness has absolutely helped me deal with my emotions. This is something that I haven't mastered yet, either. I'm still reminding myself on a daily basis that I need to breathe and process things slowly.

Thoughts On Breathing

Wim Hof. Style of breathing is one method of breathing. It's actually quite fast. And it brings you into a certain state. But there are thousands of different ways to breathe. Wim Hof has one.

I prefer to slow breathe. And it would be a deep inhalation through the nose only.  Then it would be a long, slow exhalation.  And if you're listening to this right now and you've never really focused on your breathing before, I urge you to do 10 breaths like this.

In through the nose. Full deep breath. Hold at the top for two to three seconds. And  then let it out slowly.

And your goal is to try and exhale for 10 seconds.  If you do this,  not even 10 times, if you do this five times, you're going to be in a completely different state.  And that has helped me massively over the years.

And another method is box breathing.  I'm sure you're familiar with three seconds inhalation, three seconds hold, three seconds exhalation, three seconds hold.

Again, do that. I think with box breathing, you need a bit longer to feel the effects. But you will. Your mind will slow down.  You'll feel good, and you'll be able to think more clearly about the situation rather than just be wrapped up in the emotions of it.

 

Bullying Story

I've been bullied before,  but at the age that it happened,  I wouldn't have been able to have told you what mindfulness  was.

I believe that a lot of the things they teach you in school are actually very irrelevant to life.  So  if I had been mindful at the time and I had more awareness, they wouldn't have bothered me so much.  I wish they had taught things in school that were more usable in life, like mindfulness. And other things like how to manage finances, how to think positively, how to have goals, and how to meditate. Also, how to breathe properly.

Nobody taught me how to breathe. The first time I did a breathing session with someone, I realized this was so powerful. For sure I would have gotten through the situation if I'd known how to breathe and be a little bit more mindful,

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Book: The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman

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Roy Coughlan knows what it's like to lose everything and be grateful. He is a seasoned serial entrepreneur, and his portfolio includes over 15 successful ventures spanning five countries. As a dynamic podcast host and coach, Roy has established five podcasts, four of which have soared to the Top 0.5%, with the fifth currently at 1.5%. Leveraging his extensive experience, he now guides others in navigating the podcasting landscape, assisting them in reaching remarkable success.Roy's journey from a humble start washing cars at 9 to becoming a Distinguished Toastmaster in just three years showcases his remarkable transformation. Despite facing setbacks, including financial losses and personal liabilities, Roy emerged resilient. His podcasts, covering topics from self-discovery to language learning, consistently achieve top rankings, reflecting his dedication to quality content. Passionate about exposing global corruption, Roy combines insightful discussions with actionable solutions. With a voracious appetite for knowledge, he reads around 100 books annually, enriching his understanding and empowering those he mentors in the podcasting realm.

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Most Influential Person

My mother

Effect On Emotions

I've learned not to react impulsively, like that time when I was picking up my tired child from school. Initially frustrated, I realized his tears were fatigue, not disobedience.

That experience shifted my perspective, making me more empathetic. Now, in situations, even on the road, I pause before reacting.

I consider the unknowns in people's lives—maybe a rough day or personal struggles. Unless it's unsafe, I avoid honking or road rage. Understanding that most are just trying to navigate their own challenges, I drive calmly, prioritizing safety over frustration.

It's about seeing beyond the surface and acknowledging everyone's unseen battles.

Thoughts On Breathing

Exploring various breathwork sessions, I stumbled into an incredible journey. Witnessing people release trauma through breath amazed me. Encouraging others to dive in, I stress the need for skilled facilitators, not just online tutorials.

While I've tried multiple sessions and even courses, I don't feel compelled; it's about aligning with my needs.

Conscious breathing helps realign when feeling off. I've ventured into ice baths, inspired by experiences in Poland. From meeting Wim Hof to accidental swimsuit mishaps in freezing temperatures, the rush and energy from these experiences are unmatched.

Despite the initial chill, the exhilaration afterward is worth every shiver, encouraging everyone to give it a try.

 

Bullying Story

Growing up small in a tough neighborhood, I faced relentless bullying. Boxing helped, but I ended up becoming a bully myself at school.

It felt like fighting back against the torment. Yet, even as I faced bullying, I learned to fight back, realizing that not backing down deterred some attackers.

In one instance, eight guys set the papers I was about to deliver on fire, leading me to study martial arts. Through six years of practice, I grasped mindfulness, avoiding fights despite my ability. Confidence became my shield. I learned to defuse conflicts, standing my ground without aggression.

It changed me, sparing others the pain I once felt and rejecting the cycle of bullying I'd briefly fallen into.

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Kristof Morrow is an author and award-winning journalist. Second Sun Insights is the title of this episode. Kristof taught himself to write while serving in the military and later won two awards from Texas Press Associations. His debut book is called The Second Sun: Volumes I & II, and he contends the work is not only epic fantasy but also literature, seeking to uncover or elaborate on truths long felt and long considered. Kristof believes in Steinbeck's philosophy that ‘my whole mission as a writer is to help people understand one another.’

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Most Influential Person

John Steinbeck, Author

Effect On Emotions

Mindfulness is an important intermediary between action and forgiveness.

Thoughts On Breathing

This makes me think of meditation. I grew up in the South, so we used to hear people make fun of people who meditate all the time. So I came into it with a prejudice. But I did try it and it really works. Meditation is one of those things that you have to do every day like once a day; you can't just do it once.

 

Bullying Story

Well,  I was bullied pretty relentlessly, even in school, because I have a pretty severe case I think, of ADHD.  So that did not enable me to make friends my own age. And so when I was in school, I had a lot of difficulty cooperating with kids my own age.

So maturing was very deliberate because otherwise my life was filled with horror and terror and poverty. We were really poor for the first half of my life.

Suggested Resources

Book: East of Eden by John Steinbeck

Books: The Second Sun Volumes I and II

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Michael Feldstein helps people breathe better, live better. He is an air quality expert with a robust background in disaster recovery and home restoration. Transitioning from rebuilding homes to pioneering solutions, he developed a cutting-edge air purifier addressing the fallout of environmental catastrophes. His innovation offers a powerful defense against the invisible threats that compromise indoor air quality. Michael's commitment to this cause stems from a deep desire to transform post-disaster living spaces into havens of health and safety. Michael has witnessed firsthand how polluted air can damage people’s well-being. This is the reason he created Jaspr.

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Most Influential Person

UJ Ramdas; Author of The 5 Minute Journal

Effect On Emotions

I am quite calm in chaos. I don't know where exactly it came from, but it allows me, if I'm stressed out or feeling overwhelmed, I go for a very, very long walk or sit in the hot tub. That way I get alone time. No phone and just give myself an opportunity to think without the input of others.

Whether listening to a podcast, music or nothing. Just total, total silence to think through things. And then, when something's stressful, I ask myself, is there something I could do about it? If not, I move on. If yes, I do the thing.

Thoughts On Breathing

 I recommend James Nestor's book, Breath. I had a very obstructed airway for a long time. I got nose surgery. a septorhinoplasty in 2018 at age 28. It has forever changed my life. I can now breathe through my nose.

It's amazing. I'm way calmer. I sleep better. I can scuba dive. I can hike. Breathing slowly is good. Breathing through the nose is good too.

 

Bullying Story

I would say  I wasn't like a chronically bullied kid, but I definitely had confrontations. I would say I also bullied some kids at summer camp. Mindfulness would have made a big difference because it would have allowed me the moment to pause before I acted. I would have been able to take that moment to think whether there was ever a situation where I had a bullying event towards me.

It's actually funny. My daughter is three and a half. And the other day, I said, what did you learn at school? And sat in a little pose and she said, mindfulness.

It's great to see kids thinking about that. And they have this little angry corner. So if you're mad at someone, you can go there and hang out.  It's funny. She came home and she said a kid pushed her today and she cried and another kid grabbed her an ice pack.

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Book: Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor

Book: Living from a Place of Surrender by Michael A Singer

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Today’s episode details 5 Meditation Methods. I'll be talking about some types of meditation you've probably heard about. Maybe you've been curious about how they really work and how they differ. I'll go into some detail about each one and talk about the benefits. If you have any questions, send me an email at [email protected]. You may resonate with one or more of these types of meditation. Maybe you've had personal experiences that you'd like to share. Let me know. I may share your thoughts on my next episode.

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Mindfulness Meditation

Mindfulness meditation is a practice that focuses on being aware of the present moment. It is also about being non-judgmental as you observe thoughts, sensations, and emotions. This method of meditation is rooted in ancient Buddhist traditions. It may focus on the breath, bodily sensations, or surroundings. The practice involves acknowledging thoughts without attachment or reaction, allowing them to come and go. With Mindfulness Meditation, you will come to know a new level of acceptance and clarity.

Transcendental Meditation

Transcendental Meditation (TM) is the silent repetition of a specific mantra to promote a state of deep relaxation and reduced stress. If you’re practicing TM, you get comfortable in a seated position and you silently start repeating a personally assigned mantra for 15-20 minutes, twice every day. The mantra serves as a focal point, allowing the mind to effortlessly transcend normal waking consciousness, reaching a state of profound restfulness and inner calm.

Loving-Kindness Meditation

This method is also known as Metta. It focuses on having compassionate thoughts towards yourself and others. You would be guided to generate feelings of love and warmth towards yourself. Then you would extend these feelings to loved ones, acquaintances, and even those you might feel challenged to deal with. Phrases or affirmations can be used to help promote genuine feelings of kindness and compassion for all. The goal of this practice is to dissolve barriers and reduce negative emotions like anger or resentment. It encourages empathy and connectedness. Through consistent practice, you would probably experience increased emotional resilience, improved relationships, and a greater sense of inner peace and interconnectedness with the world.

Guided Visualization

Guided Visualization is about using mental imagery to cause relaxation and focus. This method is often led by a facilitator, but it can be a self-practice as well. You would settle into a comfortable position, following guided instruction to imagine peaceful scenes or environments. You may be asked to think of desired outcomes. Through vivid descriptions, you would visualize details such as sights, sounds, and sensations. This practice uses the mind's power to reduce stress, enhance concentration, and stimulate a relaxed state.

Body Scan Meditation

Body Scan Meditation is all about focusing your attention on different parts of the body. The method encourages you to notice physical sensations without judgment. For this method, you would lie down or sit in a comfortable position and then move attention from one body part to another, noting any tension, warmth, or relaxation. Body scan meditation encourages deep relaxation, mindfulness, and awareness of bodily sensations. This can help with stress reduction and promote physical and mental relaxation.

Suggested Resources

Book: The Science of Being and Art of Living” by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi

Book: Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life by Jon Kabat-Zinn

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Most Influential Person

My sister-cousin Deidre

Effect On Emotions

Mindfulness helps me because every day, I step into the space of love. My eyes are closed right now.  I shut down one of my senses and I just listen to everything that's coming up in my body.

Everything I do not filter, I do not judge. I let the messages come, come, come. And then I say, Hey, what do you want me to do? What are you trying to tell me? And I encourage myself to sit, to explore, and to act in a way that serves the truth in which I'm living in right now. That is love.

Thoughts On Breathing

Breathe with my whole being.  Our bodies can breathe in different ways. Our throat, we think of nose, but we can breathe with our entire being if we choose to.

And that quiet listening I was telling you about before, it just helps you to invite your whole heart to breathe in a way that expands it horizontally.

It sounds curious, but invites you to become more loving and connected in such a coherent way with your mind and your heart and your soul. That's never been taught to anybody, never been taught by me, by anybody.

I just discovered it through my practice. And I'm happy to share more if anybody's interested.

 

Bullying Story

I was a bully for myself. I bullied myself into believing I was not good enough. I was dirty. I was scarred. I was ugly. I was all these things. So I self-bullied myself into believing all the things that the emotions of discomfort and especially shame brought up.

Look at you. Look at how you look. You can't run away from this face. So I dealt with that personally, and through my self-healing, I learned to unravel that. But on top of that, I was bullied in school as well because I had a lot of scars from being physically abused. I have hyperpigmentation.

The scars do not heal quickly at all. It takes decades. So I had a lot of scars littered on my legs and people would point.

My Mother and Bullying

My mother would say to me, she'd hold my hands, her hands in my, her hands around my face. And she said, nobody's better than you. Don't listen to them. She said all the positive things, and that was so confusing to me, Bruce, because I was thinking, but you gave me these scars.

But within her somewhere inside of her, she had the capacity and maybe the compassion, the awareness, to see I'm doing something wrong. I don't know how to fix it. So there's some things in my life I have to clean up so that I don't give this inheritance to my child.

So I'm grateful that she did that because that instilled a little window of oh, I'm okay, I'm not ugly. I'm just different. And I have to figure out how to use a certain cream or she'd help me buy something to deal with it. But bullying is very harmful because it tempts you to believe that everything they say, you are.

And you don't have anywhere else to go but that state of being. So it's very difficult to get through that. For some people it's surrounding themselves with maybe their animals, their plants, or a community of other people. Or f

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Most Influential Person

Tommy Kramer (a talent coach I once had)

Effect On Emotions

Mindfulness has, in a sense, helped me discover that I had narcolepsy. Just discovering that that was creating some of the frustration was a big help. Emotions are a reaction to either what I'm generating or somebody else's.

Now, if I can go back to the source and take a look at the thing that is causing that thing. That helps me deal with the emotions. One shouldn't lead to the other. There's mess and stuff in the way. Emotions will cloud you and prevent you from making proper judgments.

So I try to use mindfulness to take a look and see what is causing this in me right now. How can I calm this and work out this problem? This helps me not only to solve the problem, but the emotion dissipates.

Thoughts On Breathing

Somewhere along the way, I broke my brain. I used to be able to meditate a bit, but I don't do that as well anymore. So my version of meditation is to go into a dark room. I lie down in the dark and count my breathing, five in, six out.

But one thing I do is I look at the inside of my eyelids and I know how goofy that sounds. But for a while, as I do that, my mind's racing and racing, but I focus on it for a minute or two. I start to see shapes, and I focus on those shapes.

And sincerely, this works for me. I started to see the ridges of the shapes and more definitions, and eventually, I found myself seeing these visual expressions. That's my version of meditation right now. Just count my breaths and become calm that way.

Just focusing on some of these lights that start to come up in the brain, and that gets me centered. And I do that for about 20 to 25 minutes and I'm right as rain.

 

Bullying Story

I grew up as a chubby kid with a Canadian accent in New Jersey, often becoming a target for others. This experience made me shy but also taught me the power of humor as a defense mechanism.

Working in television for two decades, I encountered bullying from high-profile personalities. I've learned that most of this aggression stems from their insecurities rather than genuine criticism. Instead of getting defensive, I try to understand their perspective, realizing they're often expressing their own anxieties. By doing so, I not only ease my own anxiety but also help them by adapting to their concerns.

It's a challenging process but one that brings understanding and resolution amidst the chaos of television's high-pressure environment.

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William Yeske is a combat veteran, author, and speaker who shares how he found peace, even in the valley. His book is called, Damn The Valley and tells of his experiences in the Arghandab River Valley in Afghanistan. Will served 11 years in the U.S. Army. As a serial entrepreneur, he has significant expertise in marketing, IT, and project management. He currently runs and operates a marketing company, No Limits Marketing Group (NLMG), founded to help small businesses survive the COVID-19 pandemic. It uses a combination of modern marketing techniques coupled with a non-lethal targeting framework learned in the military to provide clients with winning strategies. Will was also a founding board member of a Veteran non-profit, Rally for the Troops (now part of Racing for Heroes). Will is attending Columbia Business School while running current business projects, creating new possibilities for future endeavors. He is also parenting his two children alongside his wife, who is also a US military veteran.

 

 

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Most Influential Person

Andy Frizella (The MFCEO project)

Effect On Emotions

Anger. Yeah, definitely. Those anger spike moments and realizing,  you know, to do that breath work and realizing what's going on; hey, you're losing it, you're losing it.

And you're losing your self-control of the situation.  Take that breath, you know, back up, look at the picture of what's actually going on.

Thoughts On Breathing

Yeah. I mean, man, I have the book Breath by James Nester. I couldn't believe when I was reading through that phenomenal book, with just the different techniques and stuff. There are also so many apps out there these days.

There is also pranayama. Sometimes it's actually just called prana.

 

Bullying Story

I have talked to my kids about bullying. The nice thing for them anyway, is their mom is also six foot tall.

So both of my kids are head and shoulders taller than everyone else in their class. So I have tried to instill in them that they are probably stronger than most of the kids around them, and it's their duty to be a protector for others. I have tried to instill in them, rather than using their strength for bad, use that strength for good.

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Book: Bravo Company Ben Kesling

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