今天我们关注于13期的姊妹篇：Fear of Failure：如何克服“害怕失败”的心理机制？

Are you constantly held back by the fear of failure? That intense, persistent fear, (often called “Atychiphobia”) can cause you to avoid any activity or scenario that has the potential for an unsuccessful outcome, leading to procrastination or inaction. 

How could we overcame the fear of failure? 

• 1. Redefine the Failure 
• 2.Practice Self-Compassion
• 3.Develop a "Bias for Action"
• 4.Flip Your Script

By incorporating these mindset shifts and adopting a growth mindset, what feels like failure today can become a turning point tomorrow, building resilience and strength. 

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今天让我们深入了解一下为什么我们害怕被拒绝！- Fear of Rejection！

This anxiety is considered one of the two most common fears people experience, right alongside the fear of failure. 

本期我们深入两部分：

1. The Core Problem and Its Cost

2. The Path to Resilience

When you realize you are worthy irrespective of external validation, you gain the courage to introduce your authentic self to the world！

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下期我们关注于 the fear of failure 失败乃是成功之母？

你是不是也经历过冷暴力？沉默＝体面？或是沉默＝控制？

Stopped replying, not for hours, but days. It hurts, right? But sometimes, silence isn’t just distance. It’s power?

都说“幸福的人用童年治愈一生，不幸的人用一生治愈童年”，长大以后，我们还在安慰小时候的我。今天我们就来聊一聊：Inner Child Healing and Self Love

Inner child healing is the process of reparenting yourself by nurturing your emotional wounds and creating a sense of safety, protection, and love.

• Self-Acceptance: Nurture yourself with self-compassion and affirm that you are enough just as you am and always worthy.
• Healing & Freedom: Heal old wounds and feel safe to express your true self with kindness.

• Acknowledge and Identify: Listen to your inner child's feelings and recognize emotional triggers by tracing them back to childhood pain points.
• Restructure Beliefs: Use affirmations daily (such as Mirror Work) to replace negative thoughts with compassionate and supportive ones.
• Reparenting in Action: Give yourself the needed emotional response, set healthy boundaries, and make time to be playful and explore curiosities.
• Signs of Progress: You know you are healing when you can self-soothe, use healthy coping mechanisms, and act or react differently in conflicts compared to the past.

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从小我们被教育要做一个“懂事”的孩子，但是你有没注意到，“懂事”在很多时候已经忽略了你自己的感受。做个“懂事的“孩子，对吗？

Sometimes we say ‘懂事’ in Chinese — being sensible — but have you noticed how it often means ignoring your own feelings?

Why is it so incredibly hard to break the habit of people-pleasing? It’s not just about being polite; it’s driven by deep psychological and cultural forces that lock us into the "Good Girl" role.

The core psychological driver is external validation. For many, self-worth becomes entirely dependent on making other people happy. We live for praise, and if we don't get it regularly, anxiety can spike. This extreme need for approval often stems from childhood experiences where a person received either too little or sometimes even excessive validation. This can manifest as relentless perfectionism and a fear of judgment, criticism, and conflict.

Culturally, this behavior is reinforced by deep gender bias. Research shows women are socially conditioned from an early age to be "good," avoiding conflict and seeking approval. The desirable adjectives for women tend to be soft—like compassionate, warm, and loyal. Conversely, men are valued for being strong—including assertive, dominant, and decisive.

The "Nice Girl Trap" forces us into a rigid role where we feel compelled to conform and concede. This leads to the "disease to please," where we ignore our own needs, struggle to say "no," and ultimately get exhausted and burnt out. Breaking free requires recognizing that we are limiting ourselves and choosing authenticity over perpetual approval.

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在感情中，我们如何温柔地的说“不”，如何创建正确的Emotional Boundaries? Saying No, Protecting Your Peace, and Handling Emotional Immaturity.

Today we explore how setting limits is an essential act of self-respect and love, not selfishness. We discuss methods for establishing healthy emotional boundaries to protect your well-being and introduce a strategy for communicating with emotionally immature people (EIPs) who often struggle with accountability and view limits as rejection.

Key Takeaways:

• Boundaries are Bridges, Not Walls.

• Healing the Guilt of "No".

• Emotional Boundaries in Relationships.

• Understanding EIP Reactions.

• The EIP Defense System.

The CLEAR Formula for EIPs:

• Limit or boundary (keep it short).

• Explain the benefit.

• Assurance (reiterate commitment).

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今天我来聊 The Power and Practice of Self-Compassion

Today explore self-compassion, which is defined as extending the same kindness, warmth, and understanding toward yourself when you struggle, fail, or feel inadequate, that you would naturally show a close friend. Instead of harshly judging or criticizing yourself, self-compassion involves honoring and accepting your inherent humanness, recognizing that mistakes and suffering are a shared reality of life.

我们为什么要聊这个话题:

Thousands of research studies demonstrate that being more self-compassionate benefits both mental and physical health. Self-compassionate people are more likely to be happy, resilient, motivated, emotionally intelligent, and to engage in healthy behaviors (like eating well and exercising). They are less likely to experience shame, anxiety, depression, burnout, or base their self-worth on external approval.

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今天我们来聊一聊如何有效地调节情绪，让自个儿身心健康！豆哥豆姐发送来自新西兰的纯净关心给您。

Today we dive into the vital skill of Emotion Regulation (ER), exploring how we manage our feelings and reactions to maintain mental health and navigate daily life successfully.

ER is the ability to control one’s emotional state. It involves both down-regulation (reducing intense negative emotions like anger or anxiety) and up-regulation (amping up useful emotions like excitement.

Key Strategies:

• Cognitive Reappraisal: Changing the way you think about a situation (e.g., viewing a setback as an opportunity to learn) to change its emotional impact.

• Mindfulness/Acceptance: Fully feeling intense emotions without reacting in extreme ways, allowing them to pass.

• Creating Space: Temporarily removing yourself from a situation or using healthy distraction to gain mental distance before responding.

• Breathing: Using slow, deep, diaphragmatic breaths to ground yourself and step back from an intense flash of emotion.

• S-B-R-C Approach: A practical strategy to Stop, Breathe, Reflect on consequences, and Choose a positive response instead of simply reaction.

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真正的善良不是无条件的付出，而是有界限的温柔。当你敢于说‘不’，你也终于给自己说了‘是’。” 本期英文播客我们来聊：讨好型人格的心里机制以及如何改变？

We will explore the complex psychology of people-pleasing, defining the behavior, examining its deep-seated origins in childhood or trauma, identifying different types of pleasers, and providing evidence-based tools to help you reclaim your boundaries and prioritize your well-being.

Key Takeaways:

Establish Clear Boundaries (and Practice Saying No)

Increase Self-Awareness and Self-Compassion

Manage Requests Effectively

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喂牛吃巧克力的新西兰畜牧业有多神奇？人均4只羊的国家离，一个中国女孩的11年“出逃式转行”：

In New Zealand, where sheep outnumber people 4: 1 and ~80% of beef and lamb is exported, livestock isn’t scenery, it’s strategy.

From grass-fed vs. grain-fed to traceability (ear tags, health declarations, export compliance) and animal welfare (low-stress handling, smart pasture rotation), our guest, Judy, explains how steak goes paddock to plate—and why NZ’s “natural energy pack” reputation is earned.

Judy moved to New Zealand and rebuilt her career in marketing and supply chain for red meat. We also dig into culture shock: East Asia’s urgency vs. New Zealand’s calm. Judy shows how a Chinese woman wins trust in a male-dominated, rural sector—navigating jargon, tempo, and teamwork—plus buying tips on cuts, what “grass-finished” means, and why some markets prefer bone-in while others chase sirloin, ribeye, or tenderloin.

中文版本，请收听《南半球唠嗑局》第22期《喂牛吃巧克力的新西兰畜牧业有多神奇？人均4只羊的国家离，一个中国女孩的11年“出逃式转行”》