Minds Between

幸福感真的来自拥有更多吗？

金钱、比较、焦虑，当代年轻人几乎天天面临的问题，我们如何看待这些问题，如何处理金钱和幸福的关系？

We spend so much time chasing happiness — more success, more money, more approval. But what if happiness isn’t something we add to our lives, but something we stop chasing the wrong way?
In this episode, we explore what actually makes us happy — and what quietly takes that away.

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A good plan doesn’t control your life. It protects it. How to Plan 2026 strategically? 如何有效地做个计划呢？

Think of planning your year like architecting a skyscraper rather than just buying furniture. Traditional goal-setting is like picking out the chairs and paint (the "outcomes") before you have a blueprint. A "decision operating system" is the structural engineering; it identifies the soil quality (your past failures), sets the foundation (your ONE game), and calculates the load-bearing capacity of the beams (your personal time and energy) to ensure the entire structure doesn't collapse under the weight of daily chaos.

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If You Could Choose Just One Goal in the New Year.

Every year we make a list, and every year, we feel tired just looking at it, so we asked ourselves: what if we only chose one goal this year?

为什么“一个目标”比“十个目标”更有效？

有很多目标，其实不是“想要”，而是“不满意”吗？

那“一个目标”可以是什么？

Maybe growth this year isn’t about doing more. Maybe it’s about needing less from yourself.

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今天咱们来聊一聊为什么越在乎的人反而越容易伤到你？

As intimacy and trust grow, we feel safe enough to stop "censoring" our words. This lack of inhibitions makes it easier to unintentionally overstep boundaries or make thoughtless comments - this is the Trust Paradox.

Think of a long-term relationship like wearing your most comfortable pajamas at home. While you feel totally relaxed and yourself, you are also at your most vulnerable—meaning it’s much easier to accidentally bump into one another than when you are out in the world wearing stiff, protective armor.

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情绪稳定是种能力吗？为什么有的人情绪可以如此稳定？我们应该学习什么？

Is Emotional Stability a Skill or a Myth？

Do you shut down emotionally, or do you fly off the handle? Today, we explore emotional stability—the balanced state of mind that sits between emotional detachment and intense volatility. This stability is the key to being mentally resilient and handling life's stress with composure. 

We'll reveal the specific, learned emotional skills that help you move from extreme reactions toward a life of greater balance and consistent mental wellbeing.

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今天我们关注于13期的姊妹篇：Fear of Failure：如何克服“害怕失败”的心理机制？

Are you constantly held back by the fear of failure? That intense, persistent fear, (often called “Atychiphobia”) can cause you to avoid any activity or scenario that has the potential for an unsuccessful outcome, leading to procrastination or inaction. 

How could we overcame the fear of failure? 

• 1. Redefine the Failure 
• 2.Practice Self-Compassion
• 3.Develop a "Bias for Action"
• 4.Flip Your Script

By incorporating these mindset shifts and adopting a growth mindset, what feels like failure today can become a turning point tomorrow, building resilience and strength. 

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今天让我们深入了解一下为什么我们害怕被拒绝！- Fear of Rejection！

This anxiety is considered one of the two most common fears people experience, right alongside the fear of failure. 

本期我们深入两部分：

1. The Core Problem and Its Cost

2. The Path to Resilience

When you realize you are worthy irrespective of external validation, you gain the courage to introduce your authentic self to the world！

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下期我们关注于 the fear of failure 失败乃是成功之母？

你是不是也经历过冷暴力？沉默＝体面？或是沉默＝控制？

Stopped replying, not for hours, but days. It hurts, right? But sometimes, silence isn’t just distance. It’s power?

都说“幸福的人用童年治愈一生，不幸的人用一生治愈童年”，长大以后，我们还在安慰小时候的我。今天我们就来聊一聊：Inner Child Healing and Self Love

Inner child healing is the process of reparenting yourself by nurturing your emotional wounds and creating a sense of safety, protection, and love.

• Self-Acceptance: Nurture yourself with self-compassion and affirm that you are enough just as you am and always worthy.
• Healing & Freedom: Heal old wounds and feel safe to express your true self with kindness.

• Acknowledge and Identify: Listen to your inner child's feelings and recognize emotional triggers by tracing them back to childhood pain points.
• Restructure Beliefs: Use affirmations daily (such as Mirror Work) to replace negative thoughts with compassionate and supportive ones.
• Reparenting in Action: Give yourself the needed emotional response, set healthy boundaries, and make time to be playful and explore curiosities.
• Signs of Progress: You know you are healing when you can self-soothe, use healthy coping mechanisms, and act or react differently in conflicts compared to the past.

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从小我们被教育要做一个“懂事”的孩子，但是你有没注意到，“懂事”在很多时候已经忽略了你自己的感受。做个“懂事的“孩子，对吗？

Sometimes we say ‘懂事’ in Chinese — being sensible — but have you noticed how it often means ignoring your own feelings?

Why is it so incredibly hard to break the habit of people-pleasing? It’s not just about being polite; it’s driven by deep psychological and cultural forces that lock us into the "Good Girl" role.

The core psychological driver is external validation. For many, self-worth becomes entirely dependent on making other people happy. We live for praise, and if we don't get it regularly, anxiety can spike. This extreme need for approval often stems from childhood experiences where a person received either too little or sometimes even excessive validation. This can manifest as relentless perfectionism and a fear of judgment, criticism, and conflict.

Culturally, this behavior is reinforced by deep gender bias. Research shows women are socially conditioned from an early age to be "good," avoiding conflict and seeking approval. The desirable adjectives for women tend to be soft—like compassionate, warm, and loyal. Conversely, men are valued for being strong—including assertive, dominant, and decisive.

The "Nice Girl Trap" forces us into a rigid role where we feel compelled to conform and concede. This leads to the "disease to please," where we ignore our own needs, struggle to say "no," and ultimately get exhausted and burnt out. Breaking free requires recognizing that we are limiting ourselves and choosing authenticity over perpetual approval.

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