Has it ever seemed like you had blinders on about your world? I did for a number of years.  If I was in denial about my behavior, I actually couldn't see what I had done, although my actions were obvious to everyone around me.

Have you ever found yourself more comfortable if things didn't work out, than if you succeeded?  I was once told it looked like I was not afraid of failure, but afraid of success.  The statement rang true.

Have you ever felt like you had to hold on tightly because if you let your anger surface, it would just explode?   I was like that in my mid '30.  It was affecting my health, and I finally had to face how angry I was.

Have you ever had something traumatic happen, like a family crisis, and you found yourself just spacing out?  I would do that - be frozen to the spot and not able to take action.

Have you ever felt like your world rotated around someone else, and that person had the ability to determine your happiness?  For me it almost felt like a physical craving that I had to be around the woman I was involved with, and sometimes I would do crazy things.

Have you ever felt like a victim?  Like everyone was out to get you? I was hurt as a child, I was victimized.  No doubt about it.  But if I carry that mentality into adulthood, it's now a problem that I'm carrying.

Have you ever felt like you were too serious? That it was tough to let go and just have fun? When a friend asked "What are you doing for fun?" it used to bug me, because I couldn't come up with many examples of fun in my life.

Have you ever been frightened by an angry person? I'm sure most of us have at some point.  But for me being around anger brought up a deep terror.  Because I knew from growing up in an alcoholic household how anger could explode, and how dangerous that could be.

Have you ever felt like you just weren't being useful?  That your problems were so overwhelming that they became your whole world?  Yet there's a great deal of truth in that old saying, "you don't get it until you give it away."

Have you ever felt like you just didn't want to look at the problems that were plaguing your life?  I was like that for many years, and yet - it didn't make those problems go away.