This video is a powerful reminder of the importance of accountability—owning our emotions and how we show up in relationships.
It’s easy to blame external situations or other people when things go wrong, but the truth is, it all starts with how we handle our own feelings.

Whether with people or horses, our ability to recognize and take responsibility for what we’re feeling can transform the connection we share.

The speaker in the video walks us through a simple, practical process for addressing worry or overwhelming emotions. It’s about pausing, reflecting, and taking ownership so we can respond from a place of clarity rather than reaction.

This is especially relevant in horse relationships because horses mirror us so closely. If we’re worried, tense, or overwhelmed, they’ll reflect that back to us. The same applies to human relationships—our energy sets the tone for the interaction.

The Process for Handling Worry or Stress Here’s the process from the video, broken down step-by-step:

1. Pause and Check In • Stop and acknowledge what you’re feeling. • Ask yourself: What’s really going on for me right now?

2. Name the Emotion • Identify the specific emotion—fear, frustration, sadness, etc. • Naming it takes away some of its power tend helps you focus.

3. Ask “Is This Mine?” • Reflect on whether the emotion is truly yours or if you’re picking up on someone else’s energy. • If it’s not yours, consciously release it with the reminder: This isn’t mine to carry.

4. Take Responsibility • If the emotion is yours, own it. Ask: • Why am I feeling this way? • What story am I telling myself about this situation?

5. Shift Perspective • Reframe the situation by asking: • What can I do about this right now? • How can I move forward in a way that feels good and grounded?

6. Take Aligned Action • Decide on one small step to address what you’re feeling—whether that’s taking a deep breath, communicating with someone, or simply shifting your focus.

Relating the Process to Human and Horse Relationships • With Horses: • When you’re worried or frustrated, your horse feels it. They’re incredibly sensitive to our energy and emotions.

By going through this process, you calm yourself first, creating a safer and more grounded environment for your horse to connect with you.

• Think about how much easier it is for your horse to trust you when you’re consistent and steady in your energy.

• With People:

• Accountability in relationships means owning what’s yours—your feelings, your triggers, and your reactions. Instead of blaming or shutting down, this process helps you take responsibility so you can communicate clearly and show up with integrity.

Journal Prompts

1. For Human Relationships:

• Think of a recent situation where you felt worried or reactive. What triggered it, and how did you respond?

• How often do you own your emotions versus blaming external circumstances?

• What’s one way you could show up differently in your relationships by taking more responsibility for your emotions? 2. For Horse Relationships:

• Reflect on a moment when your horse seemed reactive or disconnected. How was your emotional state at the time?

• How does your horse mirror your emotions? What does that teach you about yourself?

• What’s one small way you can create a more grounded, safe space for your horse?

Thought-Provoking Questions

1. How does worry or tension affect your relationships—both with people and horses?

2. What happens when you take responsibility for your emotions versus when you avoid them?

3. How do you think your horse perceives your emotional patterns?

4. In moments of stress, how often do you pause and reflect instead of reacting? Exercise to Practice Accountability

1. Self-Reflection Exercise:

• The next time you feel worried or overwhelmed, take a moment to pause.

• Use the process from the video:

• Name the emotion.

• Ask if it’s yours.

• Take responsibility for it.

• Shift your perspective and choose an action.

2. Connection with Your Horse:

• Spend 10 minutes just being with your horse—no agenda, no riding, nothing to “do.”

• Pay attention to your own energy and emotional state. Take a deep breath and soften yourself. Notice how your horse responds to the shift in you.

This video is such a great reminder that when we take responsibility for our emotions, we open the door for deeper, more authentic relationships. Whether it’s with your horse or the people in your life, accountability creates space for trust, clarity, and connection. https://youtu.be/tqVuaq9JCDk?si=t2MkqvMFQUjYwlIE

Here is the link of the second video that was referenced at the end of the call!

https://youtu.be/mCncz83CU-k