Mission Imperfect: navigating life with coaches Kirsty and Kathryn

If you’ve ever found yourself getting majorly wound up by something you rationally know is ridiculously minor, then this is for you!

We discuss what’s going on when our emotions are not just on a different page to our logical minds, but in a totally different book (although we agree that stationery is worth getting wound up over), and offer some suggestions as to why on one day a cold cup of coffee is just an irritation but on another it’s a sure sign that the universe hates you.

This week’s question:

What last wound you up, and which of our suggested explanations was/were at play?

Find us here:

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com      

And on social media here:

Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball  

Last week we spoke about waiting for the right moment… which frustratingly doesn’t always come of its own accord. 

It means we have to sometimes make a move and face uncertainty to get anywhere.

We don’t like uncertainty but it is possible to move forward, with doubt, and reduce that discomfort as we go. 

We have 3 tips for you to help you ‘leave the waiting room’  - please do let us know how you get on if you try them!

Find us here:

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com      

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

And on social media here:

Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball  

Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

We’ve all found ourselves in situations where we are waiting for the right moment. Problem is, will that moment always just arise and announce itself conveniently for us? Probably not!

Waiting can be wise, keeping us from potential discomfort, but it can actually create discomfort of its own – and the longer it continues it can get harder to stop waiting! 

We discuss why we play the waiting game, what we are actually waiting for (it’s often not the moment, it’s a feeling), and perhaps we build ‘readiness’ rather than find it.

(And stay tuned for next week’s episode in which we share some tips on starting something, even with doubt) 

Today’s question for you to mull over:

‘Is there something in your life that you have been saying ‘not yet’ to, but the ‘when’ part doesn’t seem to be getting any closer?

PS Kathryn is no longer waiting to get a cat – in between recording and releasing this episode, one year old Nellie has joined the family!

Find us here:

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com      

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

And on social media here:

Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball  

Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

Making assumptions about what people are thinking and feeling based solely on our interpretation of nuances of behaviour and manner can lead to lots of wrong conclusions and misunderstandings.

So, following on from our episode on the perils of mindreading, this week - in a more or less bitesized episode - we’re offering you tips, tools and techniques to stop mindreading.

Find us here:

Kathryn: ⁠www.kbmindfulcoaching.com⁠      

Kirsty: ⁠www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk⁠

And on social media here:

Kathryn on LinkedIn - ⁠www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball⁠  

Kirsty on Instagram - ⁠www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/⁠

You may not think you have psychic powers, but the chances are that you’re doing a fair bit of mindreading.

Don’t believe it? Then join us for this episode to see if you recognise any of the ways of jumping to big conclusions on very little evidence - and the problems that doing so can cause.

As well as the important question “What the hell’s going on if Kathryn or Kirsty refuse a biscuit?”, we invite you to consider: 

In which area of your life are you most prone to mindreading - and how accurate is it?

Find us here:

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com      

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

And on social media here:

Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball  

Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

“No” may well be a complete sentence, but it’s a hell of a lot easier to keep giving a fake “Yes” than to suddenly switch to just saying “No”, isn’t it?

Following on from our episode on Thinking No, Saying Yes, this week we’re offering you tips, tools and techniques for Thinking No, Saying No - when you want to.

Find us here:

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com      

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

And on social media here:

Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball  

Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

How often do you find yourself thinking no but saying yes?

What makes you do it and does it get you what you want?

And how does this relate to cold water swimming and a viral Biscuit Appreciation Society?

Join us for this week’s Mission Imperfect to find out!

Today’s question for you to consider:

‘What most often causes you to say yes when you’re thinking no, and how do you feel about it?’

Find us here:

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.ukKathryn: ⁠www.kbmindfulcoaching.com⁠ 

And on social media here:

Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/Kathryn on LinkedIn - ⁠www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball⁠  

In this week’s special episode, coaching takes the biscuit! What’s as good as coaching, and loved just as much (if not more) by us? Biscuits!

We may have mentioned them once or twice in other episodes but we’ve decided they deserve a focused episode on their own:

• What makes a good biscuit?

• The downsides of biscuits (e.g. shrinkflation and ‘chocolate-flavour’ coating),

• Superior biscuits,

• To dunk or not to dunk,

• Eating etiquette,

• Quality v quantity ...

We’ve given it all some serious thought! Be prepared for strong views, passionately expressed.

Today’s very serious and important question for you to consider:

‘What is your top biscuit - and what does it say about you?’

 (If you don’t have one, we suggest you immediately start researching - maybe a coaching session would help…?!)

Find us here:

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com      

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

And on social media here:

Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball  

Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

What really is within your control - and what isn’t?

Tricky one, but luckily in this week’s coaching bitesize episode, we have the ‘spheres of control’ concept to take you through to help you decide and answer that question for all of life’s situations and challenges.

There’s more than we often think outside of our control, and it can be draining and frustrating to try and shoehorn more within our control than actually belongs there – as this exercise will help you discover. And Kirsty invents ‘the iceberg of control’ as an alternative view!

Today’s question for you to mull over when something is being particularly vexatious to you:

‘What circle does this really belong in? And are there any part of this issue that I can have in my innermost circle, if so, what next?’

Resources

Blog on the spheres of control - https://www.kbmindfulcoaching.com/post/are-you-really-in-control

Find us here:

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com 

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

And on social media here:

Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball  

Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

Control is one of those words that can invoke quite a strongreaction – neither  ‘control freak’ nor  being ‘out of control’ have especially positive connotations to them do they?

But we actually can benefit from accepting some of our lackof control, which we explore in this week’s episode. Our wish to have control often stems from a desire for safety and trying to manage uncertainty (completely understandable!), but there are downsides to trying to keep too much control.

Stay tuned for next week’s coaching bitesize episode when we explore the spheres of control to help you determine what exactly is – and isn’t – within your control.

Today’s question for you to mull over:

‘Is there something you are trying to control in yourlife in order to feel safe that perhaps you can’t (totally)?’

Find us here:

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

And on social media here:

Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball  

Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/