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Mistakes Were Made episodes

October 02 Shadow Alchemy: Season 6 Premiere! | Ep 80
Sarah and Alex delve into Jungian analysis and find out that sometimes it's our darker parts that bring us closer together with partners. If you've felt yourself struggling once New Relationship Energy starts to wear off, this might be the episode for you.

Mentioned in the episode:

Shadow (Jungian concept) | Midlife Magic cohort | Marie-Louise von Franze on the Shadow |

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1 hr 10 min
July 03 Ep 79: The 3 Phases of Opening a Marriage | Season 5 Finale
Sarah and Alex outline how opening a het relationship is experienced differently by men and women... based on meticulously collected and analyzed scientific data, of course :)

Mentioned in the episode:

When women choose non-monogamy: 'It's an opportunity for more integration' | The Ethical Slut | Is marriage a lousy deal for women? | Empathy - Psychology Today | Men need relationships more than women |

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1 hr 23 min
June 19 Ep 78: Coming Out as Poly with Tabitha Kirkland
It's Pride, and we're talking about coming out, parenting, and the nature of happiness, with poly psychology researcher Tabitha Kirkland.

Mentioned in the episode:

Geography of Bliss | Tabi's latest Substack: What do you want when no one is looking? | Tabi's Coming Out post | Sarah's Substack | Barry Schwartz: The Paradox of Choice |

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1 hr 10 min
June 05 Ep 77: Stop People Pleasing with Calvin Burnap
Therapist and 'Crush Coach" Calvin Burnap returns to talk about the dangers of abandoning yourself, the importance of internal boundaries, and why being ice cold in breakups is actually generous.

Mentioned in the episode:

The Crush Coach | The Crush Coach on Instagram | Dr. Devon Price | Relationship Anarchy | Gottman Institute | Nonviolent Communication | I thought We'd Never Speak Again | Joanna Macy

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1 hr 34 min
May 22 Ep 76: Is Opening up harder for men or women? Part 1
In this mini episode Sarah and Alex try to figure out who has a tougher time in polyamory.

Mentioned in the episode:

Melt Music & Mutual Aid Fair | When women choose non-monogamy: 'It's an opportunity for more integration'

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14 min
May 08 Ep 75: Lindy West was right
Now that we've actually read the book…there's even more to say about Lindy West's Adult Braces. Spoiler alert: it is extremely fucking good.

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57 min
April 24 Ep 74: Sarah's First Sex Party
Sarah and Alex explore the seven stages of playparties, from abject horror to skepticism to curiosity. And then Sarah recouts her first time getting in the mix.

Mentioned in the episode:

Sense8 | Eyes Wide Shut | They Will Kill You | What We Do in the Shadows s1e9 | Mixtape Memoir with Reagan Jackson

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1 hr 11 min
April 10 Ep 73: Relationship Care Plans with Karryn
It's like a prenup... for when your partner goes out of town. Poly therapist Karryn Satchell joins the podcast to explain how you can plan ahead for hard moments in a relationship, from fights, to life changes, to individual crises and even break ups.

You can reach Karryn at [email protected]

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1 hr 14 min
March 27 Ep 72: Lindy West's Adult Braces Instant Reaction
Lindy West is "setting the internet on fire" again with a new memoir tracing her rocky path to accepting a poly relationship with her partner. Sarah & Alex pick apart the flamey reactions, and start to wonder if polyamory is really the problem.

Mentioned in the episode:

Adult Braces | Harper's Bazaar Article | Loves Out Loud

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39 min
March 20 Ep 71: Love or Limerence?
Sleepless nights. Intrusive thoughts. Gushing adoration. Is that obsessive feeling true love? Sarah and Alex unpack experiences as givers and recievers of limerant feelings, and try to differentiate between limerance and new relationship energy, anxious attachment, and...Irish poetry? Happy St. Patrick's Day!

Mentioned in the episode:

Loves Out Loud | New Relationship Energy | Love and Limerence by Dorothy Tennov | Yumi Sakugawa Limerance Instagram

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Interlude music "Infatuation" by The Stevedore

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1 hr 18 min

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Non monogamy for imperfect people. Hosted by a queer therapist and her husband of 15 years. Sarah & Alex share their experiences opening their marriage, and interview guests about the struggles…