Happy New Year to you all! For our first episode of the new year, we bring you a remastered version of an older episode from back in 2016 about five mistakes newbies make in polyamory.

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Our initial list of newbie mistakes focused more on structural things, while responses from listeners on our recent Instagram story showed a deeper emphasis on internal work, communication nuances, and the psychological aspects of polyamory.

Based on this input, we've put together a new list of newbie mistakes, grouped into categories to cover both new and old ones, and we also discuss how we can all do better in our non-monogamous practices.

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Today we're tackling two listener questions about being solo polyamorous and wanting a more entangled or anchored relationships, either with existing partners or while seeking such a relationship. We'll talk about the feasibility of escalating existing partnerships, as well as making time for deeper, more entwined relationships while still spending time with existing partners.

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We're covering the topic of loneliness in today's episode. In 2023, the U.S. Surgeon General declared loneliness a public health crisis, and the physical health risks associated with loneliness are indeed staggering. We're going to dive into why loneliness seems to be at an all time high, pick apart some nuance regarding gender, age, and loneliness, and in the third part of the episode, go over some actionable tools on how to tackle loneliness. We'll talk about rewiring the brain, cultivating solitude, and how to become a social architect.

Sources and news articles referenced in this episode can be found on the episode's page at multiamory.com/podcast/559


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Today we're bringing back a remastered episode from way back in the day. We're going to be revisiting our first episode about jealousy, diving into the science behind it, why we feel it in certain situations, what's happening inside our bodies, and some tips on how to manage struggling with jealousy. We'll also be sharing a discussion about evolutionary psychology that previously was exclusive to our Patreon community.
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Today we're exploring rejection, specifically sexual rejection, and how it can affect our relationships. We'll first get into rejection itself and bids for connection, then discuss why we struggle with this. We'll go over Emily Nagoski's Dual Control model, and lastly, we'll talk about how to become pros at receiving no.
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Today we're tackling a listener question about sharing information within polyamorous relationships. We'll be talking about how much information is okay to share in relationships and how to make sharing it easier so everyone involved retains their autonomy.

2024 study by Dr. Sharon M. Flicker referenced: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38177605/

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We're thrilled to be welcoming back Brian G. Murphy as a guest to the show!

Brian is an organizer, author, and certified relationship coach helping LGBTQ+ and polyamorous people build thriving relationships on their own terms... without shame or "should"s.

Brian is also co-founder of QueerTheology.com, a resource hub, podcast, and online community, which explores how queerness and spirituality enrich one another.

He has spoken at colleges, congregations, and conferences across the country and his work has been featured in Vice, BuzzFeed, The Huffington Post, The Advocate, Upworthy, and NBC News.

Brian is the author of Love Beyond Monogamy, and co-author of Queers The Word and Reading The Bible Through Queer Eyes.

Throughout this episode, we'll be chatting with Brian about spirituality, rituals, and sacred texts, all through a queer and polyamorous lens.

Find Brian on Instagram, YouTube, and Threads @thisisbgm and be sure to check out Queer Theology and his books, all of which can be found at queertheology.com.
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Today we're talking about polyamory under duress (PUD). Being non-monogamous comes with its own set of challenges, and sometimes when external pressure or internal conflicts can make it even more stressful. Dealing with polyamory under duress can be very difficult for our mental and emotional wellbeing, so today we're going to discuss why someone might be feeling duress in polyamory and who might be vulnerable to it.

We'll also talk about how to recognize if you might be in a situation that qualifies as polyamory under duress, whether persuasion or coercion is involved in PUD, and how to bring a sense of equilibrium back to the relationship if you think it might resemble a PUD situation.

From Nonmonogamy Help by Lola Phoenix: https://www.nonmonogamyhelp.com/what-is-polyamory-under-duress-pud/
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We're excited to present a collaborative episode with Mr. and Mrs. Jones of We Gotta Thing podcast!

Mr. & Mrs. Jones are the hosts of the We Gotta Thing podcast. They are social swingers who place the highest importance on their primary relationship while seeking friendships and meaningful sexual experiences with others, together as a team. Their podcast chronicles their journey into and through this lifestyle over the last decade.

Everything they share is based on the perspective of their own personal preferences and experiences in the lifestyle. They believe there are many valid ways to approach non-monogamy that differ from theirs—they respect that even while sticking to and talking about what works for and appeals to them.

During this collaboration, we interview Mr. and Mrs. Jones about their experiences in the swinger community, and then they interview us about polyamory/non-monogamy, and to wrap up the episode, we have a discussion about new relationship energy (NRE).

Check out We Gotta Thing on Instagram and X @wegottathing, and make sure to give them a listen on your favorite podcast app!
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