ML Devitt’s "WellbeingWithin" Podcast

From childhood to early adulthood to full adulthood we go through a range of developmental stages. We learn to walk, talk, run and explore. We grow physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. And on paper, it can all seem so straightforward and simple. And yet it is more complicated than that. Learning to live our lives and be fully content with them, appears to be one of the challenges of our modern times. There are so many external stimuli, so many external influencing factors that can interfere with what should be an organic fluid path for each of us to achieve our true potential. There is the expression that we can spend our adulthood working to overcome our childhood, so we can discover who we are truly meant to be. So, if you are in that place of considering or asking yourself the question: am I truly living to my authentic potential? Is there something else I could be doing with my life? Is there more I could be exploring to live in my authentic potential? How do you navigate life in the here and now to help you live your life to its authentic potential?

In today's podcast, I talk about five different states that will help you settle into that “state of being” that will enable you to navigate towards and fully connect with your authentic potential.

Please check out my website to learn more about the journals I have on offer, my "lifetential" community and explore more of my blog posts. 

Until next time

ML xx

Are you trying to pace yourself and find a sense of direction in life? It can feel hard to get a clear sense of direction sometimes. Particularly when there are so many external influences that are advertising a perfect life, in the perfect clothes, perfect house and perfect partner, family etc. Getting out of the cloudy fog of misguided influence can take time. Getting some space and time to assess where you are and what you want in your life also takes time. Sometimes it’s no wonder that sense of “feeling lost” comes about. But what if you looked at your sense of “feeling lost” as a good starting point rather than something negative. It could mean that you are in the process of change, you are in the process of experiencing your own personal growth and evolution. You could be in the process of letting go of some old stories you have to this point lived your life by. And you are now working to put those behind you and are starting to create more uplifting self-affirming stories. That process takes time, and in the transition space, it is understandable to recognise that feeling of being a bit lost.  So, if you recognise that feeling, pause, and tell yourself that this is a good starting point to move forward from.

There are many ways to manage the “feeling lost” state. And what’s important is that you find what works best for you. Advice includes, not fighting the feeling, accepting it for what it is, not judging it, or seeing it as a negative. Take time to reflect on what is going on around you and within you that could be stirring up those feelings. Allow yourself to look at where you have come from and give yourself time and space to explore all the options and possibilities you would like to create and envision for yourself going forward. Wondering where you would even start? In this podcast listen to the 5 foundational considerations as a guide to finding your life direction, and focus. 

So, I wanted to check in with you and ask you this. Do you get to a point of overwhelm or life overload sometimes? How do you address this? What do you do to help ground yourself so you’re able to step back from all life can throw at you?

Through the process of exploring different strategies and habits that will help you feel more grounded and soul connected, work to find those things that work for you personally, that sit well with who you are and what you feel most drawn to. My rituals and routines help me to unwind, slow down, get grounded and feel more present in the here and now. Think about how you would prefer to be feeling, and what tools, rituals and routines will support you with that. So as a starting point for your own exploration process here is a few strategies and techniques to explore and consider.

The main principle is to find those strategies, activities and routines that help you slow down, decompress, get more grounded in yourself and be more connected to your own emotional, psychological, and spiritual needs. Pause and think about how you can create a grounding and deeper soul connection practice that will help to address your emotional state, calm your body, clear your head, and tend to your soul.

During today's podcast, I will talk through some rituals and routines that are worth considering. If you would like to read my blog click here. If you would like to get access to my new free workbook to support you with this click here.

“Not enough” thinking: an obstacle to your Personal Growth and Expansion.

“Not enough” thinking, some people say can be a big motivator to helping you strive to achieve what you wish in your life. And on one level, yes, sure that is possible. However, I've noticed that  “not enough thinking” and dwelling on this thinking daily can end up feeling like this massive obstacle you have to try to overcome every day. And the trouble with “Not Enough” thinking is that it will never slow down or stop unless you learn to face it head-on and start to create another frame of mind to motivate and inspire you. Shifting your mindset from focusing on the “not enough” to maybe a more curious “what would feel right for me?” is a good starting point. In this podcast we will cover some key points: 

Limitations of "Not Enough" Thinking:

Choosing more empowering thinking:

Self-Reflection and deeper connection to your heart’s desires:

Finding your own pace and life balance

Your personal growth opportunity

Learn to Create healthy thinking habits

If you would like to dig deeper on how to nurture your more positive thinking and build strong personal foundations, take that first step and download my free introductory workbook on the 6 “LifeLessons” to confidently and effortlessly embrace more authentic heartfelt living. 

Until next time. 

ML Devitt - Your intuitive Life Coach

Leaving the Social Media Shine behind

Scroll, scroll, scroll. On and on it goes….

We seek, feed on, explore and absorb from the external what in reality we can only find within in our deeper soul-self. So we can get pulled into comparing ourselves to the external world. But, believe it or not, this is a spinning wheel that you don’t always need to jump on.

When you look at those images on Social Media and feel yourself begin to self-judge and find yourself wanting. Stop, take a breath, and ask yourself this self-grounding question:

What is genuinely essential for me in my life? Take your focus off those external things and bring yourself back to taking care of yourself by developing your internal frame of reference for life.

Remind yourself to let go of the impression that everyone else’s life is better than yours. Remind yourself that things go deeper than an image that snaps a millisecond of someone else’s life. Remind yourself that there will be many other things behind that image that isn’t posted and won’t be as perfect.

Ask yourself if maybe it’s better not to be scrolling social media, but instead, put that time towards doing something for yourself. Is it a quick walk? Is it reaching out and connecting with friends? Or is it doing something that you may have been putting on the long finger?

Social Media images can offer the appearance of an ideal life. But, in reality, life is far from perfect. Life is a day to day process that each of us will experience in our way, with our perspectives and emotional response. Understanding that and staying grounded in that allows you to create your own shining life as you work through your life.

If you are thinking, “I am not sure even where to start”, we can offer you advice and support with that. If you feel it would help to have a conversation about your next steps – email me directly at [email protected] and I would be delighted to arrange a time to talk. If you would like to get access to my free download please click "Grounding and Deeper Connection" to get started. 

Crush Your Inner Critic – Part 1

Today we're going to talk about how to crush your inner critic and why it's so important.

It's so important because literally, it can change the way you present yourself in your day-to-day life it's a bit like pulling back the curtains of that inner critic taking those curtains away and giving yourself a whole new fresh outlook to base your day on.

We want to crush that inner critical thinking pattern because it drains us, it takes us to a place that most times doesn't exist. It's looking at facing that inner critic and finding those strategies and techniques that are going to support us in addressing them.

So in this podcast, we have covered the first of the five steps that I think are important in beginning to crush your inner critic. Tune in for my next podcast where I explore more deeply the second step in this process. Where I look at the details of how to begin to rewrite your story and how this helps reduce your inner critical thinking.

If you are thinking “I am not sure even where to start” in addressing my inner critical thoughts, we can offer you advice and support with that. If you feel it would help to have a conversation about your next steps – email me directly at [email protected] and I would be delighted to arrange a time to talk.

Stepping into Self-Acceptance is a gift you give to yourself.

The benefits of having a self-accepting attitude and the ripple effects this can create are limitless. So where do we start in developing a solid foundation of self-acceptance to grow and develop from. What is the first thing that we can do to begin to accept ourselves for who we are in this present moment? So that we can move forward with purpose and energy in our daily life?

Think about how you would like to build in a self-affirming and acceptance practice for yourself on a daily basis. Maybe create some me time to journal your thoughts, clear your mind and unwind. Explore the range of journal I offer on my website www.mldevitt.co.uk. Remember you are the creator of your own destiny. 

Until my next podcast

ML xx

Meditation is the key to your soul self.

I've often heard people say the following about meditation: what's that going to give me, I can hardly sit still for 10 mins let alone meditate on a regular basis? I don't think it's for me. Do those thoughts sound familiar?

So this is where I am going to say "hold your horses" and "don't be so quick to dismiss the practice of Meditation". You may well be talking yourself out of something that is in truth a true gift to yourself, in your endeavour to live a truly authentic and heartfelt life.

Am I overstating things or getting carried away, honestly, I don't think so. From my own experience and life, journey meditation has become a key element of my daily routine. That routine has enabled me to stay grounded and connected to my inner soul-self, which in turn has enabled me to live each day's experiences in a more heartfelt and authentic way.

What it has also given me is the increased capacity to stay in the present moment and get out of my thinking around things from my past, and thoughts and constant planning about the future. By staying in the present moment, I have been more able to be present with the day to day reality of my life, and get much more done.

So what has been my experience of meditation and why do a recommend it to you. Well here are just some of the reasons that I feel it is a valuable resource to have at your disposal.

Also, a good starter meditation is the Body Scan Mindfulness Meditation by Jon Kabat Zinn which is on YouTube and can be accessed by clicking here.

Let me know how you get on with stepping into meditation. And remember building wellbeing, supports you day to day to feel good within to deal with the world without.

So what are you waiting for?

Looking at the people around us, and comparing ourselves to what they say, what they are doing, what they have just bought or how far ahead they are, can eat away at us if we let it!! The habit of looking at things external to ourselves and comparing ourselves to those things can leave us feeling drained and demotivated.

We can end up putting a lot of “should’s” on ourselves as a result. We can end up thinking - I should be where they are, I should have what they have or I should be as outgoing as they are. When really, it’s much more important to take your eyes off others and bring yourself into focus. Instead of focusing on the “don’t have’s” focus on your “do have’s”. Conserve the time and energy you put into observing and pondering external factors, and hold onto the time and energy and save it for you.

It’s important to remember that it all starts with you. If you have a wish for things to be different in any way, think about what you have direct control over to initiate that change, spend time to get to know yourself more deeply, support yourself, love yourself and embrace all the potential you have within you.

If you feel it, believe it and nurture it from within, then anything is possible for you. Get grounded in truly giving yourself the full attention and focus you deserve. You have full control over how much time you can give yourself. Start now, choose one of these suggested questions and dive deep into what it is to be you.

If you are thinking “I am not sure even where to start”, we can offer you advice and support with that. If you feel it would help to have a conversation about your next steps – email me directly at [email protected] and I would be delighted to arrange a time to talk.

f you are interested in giving your life a reboot and refresh sign up to our 5 Day Lifetential Challenge starting on 20th September 2021 by signing up here.

Also, if you feel you need the benefit of a supportive community, why not join the “My Life to Shine Member’s Hub here or listen to “My Lifetential” podcast here.

How to Find Your Balance and Your Flow through Active Self-Care

Ever notice as you go through your day or week that you feel off-kilter, not quite centred, or a little off balance? Is it possibly because you are juggling too many tasks that week? Trying to do too many things in very little time? Or is there a lot swirling around in your head that it’s hard to know where to start?

Sometimes, depending on what’s happening around us, and what thoughts are going around in our heads, we can feel off-centre. We can also feel not very grounded and like we're constantly chasing our tails or on the back foot.

So, how do you support yourself when you notice yourself feeling like that? How long does it take to put your hand up and acknowledge that you are feeling off-kilter, maybe a little overwhelmed or chasing your tail?

To find your balance and your flow, take a moment, pause and do a self-check-in. Remember to be honest about how you are feeling. Think about what you need to support yourself. Don’t overthink it, or talk yourself out of giving yourself the support you need. Do put yourself on your daily priority list. Do be your own best supporter and best friend. Do let today be the start of your new proactive, self-caring routine and find your balance and your natural flow.

If you are thinking “I am not sure even where to start”, we can offer you advice and support with that. If you feel it would help to have a conversation about your next steps - email me directly at [email protected] and I would be delighted to arrange a time to talk. Or why not like my Facebook page here.