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It's not uncommon for grandparents to stand in as parents ("in loco parentis") when mom or dad are away, at work, deployed, or even in jail. But when the parents divorce and parenting time is split up, what rights do grandparents have to see their grandkids and continue their relationship?

It's a heartbreaking situation for grandparents with close and ongoing relationships with the kids. In this episode of the Modern Divorce Podcast, host Billie Tarascio talks with divorce attorney Heather Pelaez about her work to establish grandparents rights in court, influenced largely by her background and family experience. It's not an easy process,  but it's possible with the right steps, which she explains.

Jump to [00:13:47] for the beginning of the discussion about grandparents, but listen to the whole thing to hear what drives Heather and why she loves to argue on behalf of people who need an advocate.

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What influences relationship choices on a subconscious level and how can they lead to divorce?  In this episode of the Modern Divorce Podcast, Host Billie Tarascio talks with relationship sleuth and divorce coach Johanna Lynn of the Family Imprint Institute who specializes in finding and resolving emotional and relationship patterns that can lead to breakups.

Johanna was influenced by Brazilian colleagues who use a systemic approach to resolving conflict, even if it means moving forward without reconciliation. It's a novel way of finding - and fixing - the underlying reasons leading to a divorce by looking at the couples' family relationships and patterns that have helped build their approach to family and marriage.

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Has your ex lied about something in your divorce case? Lying in court poses a multitude of potential costs to you, your children and your future. In today's episode, host Billie Tarascio and "Win Without Law School" attorney Julie LaBenz talk about the most powerful ways to expose your ex in court.

While you don't want to focus your efforts on proving that your ex is a bad person, it is important to show a judge when the other party lacks credibility, so choosing which lies to focus on can be key. Being strategic about exposing lies is your strongest tool when it comes in winning in court.

WinWithoutLawSchool.com is the online resource for people who need to deal with a divorce without paying for an expensive attorney.  While Tarascio and LaBenz are Arizona attorneys, most of the strategic elements they share here can be used for people in any state.

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When there's abuse or other criminal actions that are part of a divorce case, how do you know what kind of attorney to get? And where do you even start?

In this episode of the Modern Divorce Podcast, host Billie Tarascio talks with Keith Evans, former military attorney and prosecutor who now, at Modern Law, specializes in dealing with cases that may deal with Arizona Department of Child Safety, abuse situations and juveniles. Keith is a recent addition to Modern Law who talks about those issues, along with his past in the military and how he loves to do battle with bully attorneys who try to "paper" the other party with endless motions and expensive moves in order to beat one side into submission.

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The world doesn't stop just because you're in the middle of divorce, right? But it feels like it, and you may just want to be left alone to recover your sanity.

In this Modern Divorce episode, host Billie Tarascio talks with Divorce Coach Karen Mahon about how to keep going, keep working, and stay at the top of your game during the divorce process. Karen advises high level executives how to maintain their career and their edge during what may be the roughest personal episode of a lifetime.

But there's hope, says Karen, and she shares her steps to reach the mindset that can make all the difference. To find Karen Mahon online, check out her website, and listen in on her podcasts specializing in high conflict divorces.

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Life changes after divorce, right? If your parenting plan just isn't working anymore and it's been more than a year since it was approved, it might be time to put together a new plan and make it official.

Not so fast. There are some serious pitfalls that may be lurking. A poorly made agreement could lock you into giving up things you don't intend to.

In this episode of the Modern Divorce Podcast, host Billie Tarascio and her Win Without Law School colleague Julie LaBenz, talk about all the valid reasons why you may want to make a change and how to do it yourself properly if you're not working with an attorney. 

Listen in if you want to learn how to get it done the right way, and how to stay out of trouble.

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If you split up with your ex because you couldn't get along, parenting time can still be filled with verbal war games, dirty tricks, and bursts of anger. How do some divorced parents still manage?

In this episode of the Modern Divorce Podcast, host Billie Tarascio talks with Certified Divorce Coach Tessa Noel of Kind Mama Divorce Coaching for some tools you can use to diffuse the anger with your ex, especially when it comes to co-parenting. Tessa features a weekly free support group, by phone on Wednesdays. The best part of these tools is that you are completely in charge once you put them to work for you.

Tessa found the path to her purpose as a divorce professional after her own divorce and custody battle in 2017. Driven to protect her two young children from divorce related trauma, she dedicated herself to learning how to create a stable, healthy environment for her family during the period of  transition.

And don't forget, if you or your ex is dealing with an alcohol problem that's putting those parenting time visits on the line, check out Soberlink.com/modern for a discount on using a court-accepted device to prove sobriety.

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Massive victories in divorce cases are rare, and there's almost never a landslide victory by one party. So who wins? Nothing can repair the loss of a betrayal from your Soon To Be Ex (STBX), and sometimes we look to the court to fix the wounds. But it can't. So what do you do?

When there are real dangers and real emergencies, there are legal avenues, but most issues don't meet that level of the court's ability to solve your problem

Listen in as family Law Attorneys Billie Tarascio and Julie LaBenz reveal what they see from the inside, and how to stop being triggered by your ex in a way that gets you the best results. (Hint: don't let your STBX drag you into their world.)

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Almost everyone who gets divorced struggles with the trauma and depression that comes with it. Plus, there's often a cycle of toxicity in the relationship that some people have a lot of trouble breaking free from. Today, with so many states legalizing cannabis, low dose psychedelics (we see you, Oregon), and ketamine therapy, people are finding real relief from the emotional triggers of their former relationship using these formerly taboo drugs.

Do you want to release your demons and patterns that drive you crazy? Listen up.

In this episode of the Modern Divorce Podcast, host Billie Tarascio talks with Seattle-based April Pride, who is blazing territory for divorcing men and women who are trying out cannabis, ketamine and psychedelics to deal with the emotional pain comes with an ugly break up and the loss of the familiar. She talks about her own experiences with these newly legalized resources and invites others to ride along with her, in her Seattle-based "teas" to get unstuck from the pain of a divorce.

You can find April online as the host of The High Guide, a podcast about women changing their lives thanks to altered states. Concurrent with her work at The High Guide, she is the CEO/Founder at Of Like Minds, a portfolio of women-founded companies.

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With so many helpful tools and apps out there, it was only a matter of time before something would come along which would help divorced parents figure out a fair way to split up their parenting time. Not only is it important to figure it out right the first time, which avoids vacation, school and weekend snafus, most people need a workable schedule that can diminish any unnecessary interactions with the ex.

In this episode, Shea Drefs of Custody Xchange, talks with Modern Divorce host Billie Tarascio about how to use the app that helps parents determine how to split their parenting time. The Custody X Change app helps single parents describe a schedule using the correct legal terminology, while also creating a professional-quality calendar you can present in court or negotiations to bolster your case.