Modern Dadhood | Unpacking Fatherhood + Parenting for Dads (and Moms!)

You might be known as “sir” to your subordinates, “doc” to your patients, or “officer” to the person you're handcuffing. But to your kids, you're just plain old "dad"... even when you're on the big screen opposite Luke Wilson or expertly throwing knives on The Island. In Episode 7, we chat with veteran actor Terry O’Quinn about his on screen roles, as well as the role he didn't have to audition for: Hunter and Oliver's dad.

In Episode 7, Marc and Adam commiserate about heartbreaking daycare drop offs and the importance of consistency and routine. They introduce guest Terry O'Quinn, whose storied career includes roles in The Stepfather I and II, The Rocketeer, Millennium, Heaven's Gate, Star Trek, The X-Files, Patriot, Perpetual Grace, Ltd., and of course, LOST.

Terry shares stories from his own childhood, growing up one of 11 siblings with a father who was also his school principal, and being a young actor raising two boys in Maryland. We learn what life was like for his sons both before and after "Terry O'Quinn" became a household name. Other topics we discuss include:

• Moving your family around the country for months at a time
• Going to see a movie that you didn't know your DAD was in
• Terry's parenthood advice for young actors
• The rise of "binge watching" and "watch parties"
• What NOT to say in the delivery room when you set eyes on your newborn for the first time

Keep you eyes on ModernDadhood.com for the full conversation with Terry.

The boys wrap up the episode with a rousing game of "Talkin' With Toddlers," and open it up to the dads listening to decipher the final sound byte. Dads, cast your vote -- [email protected]

Links:
Terry on Twitter
Terry on Instagram
Terry O'Quinn Filmography
Perpetual Grace, Ltd.
The Sea Captains' "You Were Wrong" (the song about Locke!)
Red Vault Audio
Izotope Rx7
Caspar Babypants

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Making your own way, seizing the day, putting yourself out there. Describe it however you like, but Peter Jude Ricciardi is here to tell you that if you put in the effort, step out of your comfort zone, and don't be afraid to "fake it 'til you make it," you can achieve great things. The best part? Your kids are observing and learning from your work ethic!

In episode 6, we discuss the merits of talking to our kids about pursuing their passions. Adam confesses his dream of once wanting to become a game show host (despite his aversion to being in front of a camera). Marc remembers he once wanted to be a cartoonist (despite his poor drawing skills). Spoiler alert: neither of those careers panned out. During the interview with Peter Jude Ricciardi, we learn that taking chances can yield excellent results and that sometimes you have to fake it 'til you make it — and that's okay. Other things we discuss include:

• How we talk to our kids about their future
• Instilling confidence in our kids
• Encouraging creativity
• Discovering what makes us passionate
• The value of hard work
• Failure to do anything on time anymore
• Explaining personal responsibility to a 6 year old
("YOU need to realize you have to go pee before we leave the house!")
• Our kids are watching us and learning from us all the time

Lastly, Marc takes yet another stab at saying "thank you" to the listeners — and you get to decide whether it's a success or failure.
 

Links:
Brandartica (website)
Brandartica (Instagram)
Woodstock Inn Brewery ("Daddy's Art")
PJR @ CreativeMornings (video)
Marc Summers
Double Dare
Radio Disney
Caspar Babypants
Spencer Explores the Universe

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Have you had it up to your ears with “Into The Unknown”? Or is your kid more of the “Shake it Off” type? Music can create memories, influence decisions, drive creativity, and can even become the lens through which you view the world around you. We thought someone who writes, performs, and produces awesome songs might possess unique insight into why certain music captivates our kids. Rapper (and dad of 4) Spose proved us right, and dropped some science.
 

In Episode 5, Adam shares a story of a close call involving his kindergarten-aged daughter's tongue and an icy cold metal mailbox. The remainder of the episode is dedicated to the discussion of music: why is it that our children are drawn to certain songs, artists, or genres? Is there a formula to writing a song that will grab the attention of a young person? Adam and Marc gush way too much over their mutual admiration of Caspar Babypants before introducing guest Spose.

From Spose's own studio, he and Adam discuss dadhood-related themes including:

• Kids music being associated with a story/characters
• The elements of a successful pop song
• The music of Frozen and Frozen 2, and composers Robert and Kristen Lopez
• The pros and cons of Alexa
• The ability for our kids to "DJ with their voice"
• Living in a world where there's instant access to any song
• Requesting songs on the radio
• Taylor Swift
• Songwriting specifically for film

Links:
Spose
The Spose Podcast
Pinecone Pete Is Not Impressed
Weezer "Lost In The Woods"
Bull Moose Music
Robert and Kristen Lopez
Caspar Babypants

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Some parents take their kids to Disney. Some visit Grandma in Boise every July. And some move their family into a small boat for most of the year. Justin Kelcourse, a real estate agent and father of two, shares with us how he and his partner manage to raise their family on a boat.
 

In Episode 4, Marc shares the top three most useful travel tips that he put to use on a recent family vacation with his wife and twin toddlers. Marc and Adam discuss vacation-planning strategies, what types of experiences may leave a lasting impression on your children as they grow, and which ones will disappear from their memory.

They welcome guest Justin Kelcourse, a successful realtor and owner of Kelcourse and Company, a division of Keller Williams Coastal Realty. Justin shares stories of his family's unique lifestyle that surely will result in lifelong memories: living for months at a time on a small boat in New England. In Justin's conversation, the guys touch on topics including:

• the allure of an alternative lifestyle
• financial security
• compact sized baby furniture
• living minimally
• encouraging and building self-reliance in your children
• building confidence and competence
• lack of technology/devices promoting more interpersonal connection
 

Adam and Marc round out the episode with a "The Grudge"-inspired installment of "So That's a Thing Now!" and continue to struggle with the proper send-off.
 

Links:
Kelcourse and Company
Beastie Boys "Ch-Check It Out"
Caspar Babypants
Spencer Explores the Universe

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Dads have emotions too, and sometimes those emotions make your eyes leak all over your face. It's nothing to be ashamed of, but it is something that makes you wonder: Are other dads out there letting their emotions all hang out? We chat with Christian Hayes, father of two, ex-rock star and current restauranteur star about emotional vulnerability.

In this episode of Modern Dadhood, Marc and Adam catch up about the stinkiest smells from their kids, and the things that make them emotionally vulnerable dads.

Guest Christian Hayes shares of his own vulnerabilities as the front man of hard rock band Sidecar Radio, as the owner of two businesses in a notoriously tough industry, and as a father of two young daughters.

The episode wraps up with Modern Dadhood's homage to "Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me!" in a segment called "Did I Just Say That Out Loud?" where Marc and Adam share stories about ludicrous exclamations that came out of their mouths lately in the presence of their kids.

Links:
The Garrison, Yarmouth, Maine
Sidecar Radio
Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me!
Diaper Genie
Caspar Babypants

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People have to work, no mystery there. What is a mystery, though, is how best to make sense out of busy schedules when kids are in the picture. Do you want to know who holds the key to that mystery? Us too! That's why we talked with Josh Cecot, someone who juggles an irregular schedule as the General Manager of a restaurant with being a husband and a dad of two.

In this episode of Modern Dadhood, Marc and Adam commiserate about the aches and pains that come with getting older, and about graduating from a crib to a toddler bed.

The podcast's introductory guest is Josh Cecot, and the three discuss the pros of having one-on-one time with your children when you're solo parenting, and the cons of having less time as a complete family unit than you'd like.  Additionally, we discuss:

•  the feeling of guilt when work prevents you from being with your kids
•  the importance of distraction
•  restaurant etiquette when you're dining with kids
•  staying at work a little later than you need to as a favor to your spouse 
•  the desire to take your children on adventures
•  the need for hand signals with other parents in public
•  the importance of letting it go-- (not like the song)

Josh Cecot proved his candidacy as a returning guest right away. He'll be on our short list... especially because he showed up with  80s movie references at the ready, and good craft beer.
 

Links:
York River Landing
Caspar Babypants

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Welcome to Modern Dadhood, an ongoing conversation about the joys, challenges, and general insanity of being a dad in this moment. Meet the hosts Adam Flaherty and Marc Checket, and enjoy the first installment of "So, That's a Thing Now!"

In our introductory episode, Adam Flaherty and Marc introduce themselves, reveal the inspiration behind starting Modern Dadhood, and set the stage for what you can expect from the podcast moving forward.
 

Links:
Anchor Line
Calypso Agency
Caspar Babypants
Spencer Albee
Spencer Explores the Universe
 

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