We absolutely have to be responsible for managing our own health, period. It’s obvious how no one will push us to slow down, not take on another task or say no. 

Instead, the demands around us will keep impeding on us, chipping away at an energy we may have reserved for ourselves.

We know you hear so much about self-care, probably too much. Our fear is that women will become numb to this reminder and begin to tune it out altogether. We absolutely, 100%, without a doubt, must move our own health needs to the top of the list. 

We polled over 1200 women in our amazing Facebook Community: Just Gen X Talking Business, Career + Life with Bold + Brave women about their self-care habits, feelings and practices. Today, we’re going to share their thoughts and ideas along with a few of our own.

Are you a part of our Facebook Community? If not, don’t wait! Meet other brave and bold Gen X ladies like you who are talking about all things business, career and life.

Join us at Just Gen X: Talking business, career + life with brave + bold women. 

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• Why self care is especially hard for Gen X women
• How self-talk can take you down 
• Why processing and feeling your emotions is a big piece of taking care of yourself 
• Some of the best selfcare tips shared by the terrific women in our Facebook Community 

What self-care isn't:

• Reaching for the glass of wine (or three) every night
• Binge eating
• Shopping to. make yourself feel better
• Keeping yourself busy so you don't feel what's really going on
• Scrolling through social media every down second you have

Want some great Self-Care Ideas? Check out Samantha Dazey's Self-Care List Here

Featured on the Show: 

Episode 66: Am I Drinking Too Much with Veronica Valli 

Episode 62: Busy Isn’t a Badge of Honor 

Episode 16: Watch Your Mouth! The Power of Language 

Dr. Joe Dispenza Walking Meditation

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Are you one of those ladies who find themselves a little emotional at work? Maybe some would even say over-sensitive? We understand and we know exactly what that’s like. Did you know there is actually a percentage of women and men that have a gene that makes you more sensitive? I didn’t. 

Today’s guest, Melody Wilding, author of the new book Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work is going to talk all about that and so much more. 

Melody Wilding, is an executive coach for smart, sensitive high-achievers and author of TRUST YOURSELF: STOP OVERTHINKING AND CHANNEL YOUR EMOTIONS FOR SUCCESS AT WORK. 

Recently named one of Business Insider’s Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, HP, Facebook, Netflix, Twitter, IBM, Citibank, JP Morgan, and others. 

Melody has been featured on The New York Times, The Oprah Magazine, NBC News, and spoken at Stanford University, Walmart, Adweek, Burberry and more. She’s here to help you break free from self-doubt and imposter syndrome so you can use your sensitivity as the superpower that it is. 

Strive Qualities to detect if you’re a Sensitive Striver:
Sensitivity: Heightened response to situations
Thoughtfulness: Highly reflective, self-aware and intuitive
Responsibility: Never let people down, dependable, hard-working people pleaser
Inner Drive: Look to exceed expectations in every aspect of life
Vigilance: Always on high alert, attune to changes, highly observant
Emotionality: Sincere and empathetic, feeling things with complex emotions attached

We, as humans, need to process. We need time to think and absorb what we are intaking around us and yet we find ourselves running from task to task. Sit with what you are learning or doing and decide what you want to take from it instead of running to the next task.

Physiological ways calm your central nervous system when stressed:
Box Breathing:
Breath in for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 4 seconds, breath out for 4 seconds, hold the exhale for 4 seconds.

THINK Technique: Targeting thoughts behind the emotions.
True: Is your thought true, do you have evidence or is this an opinion
Helpful: Move towards my goals
Inspiring: Does it move me positively
Necessary: Is it important that I focus on this right now?
Kind: Is it kind or is it harmful

Resources:

Melody Wilding’s Book:

TRUST YOURSELF: STOP OVERTHINKING AND CHANNEL YOUR EMOTIONS FOR SUCCESS AT WORK. 

Get Unstuck:  Instead of waking up every day feeling unfulfilled and thinking, “I should make this change,” take this one action to start you on the right path. Do you want to understand why you are stuck and then get the framework to get unstuck? Download our online course Get Unstuck so your tomorrow can look different than today. Don’t wait. Just $29.

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There is so much incredible content out there, you could spend days, weeks, years ingesting all of the professional development books and there’s still more to consume. Sometimes, books start to blend, blur, and sound alike, mixing concepts and ideas. 

But everyone once in a while you read THAT book, you know, the one that changes everything you think or believe and propels you to deliver and act on its empowering, smart, insightful nature.

In this week’s episode, we are sharing with you the books that CHANGED us and why. 

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Overwhelmed and confused building your online business? Download 3 Keys to Take Your Biz From Stalled to Profitable: Your Activation Plan. 

We’ll help you clearly identify your ideal customer, strategize on where they are and how to communicate to them, and then build your foundation for engagement.

Download your FREE copy here:  www.therestingmind.com/profitable

You’ll learn:

• Why you need to get the right people on the bus and why it's so important
• The Hedgehog Effect:—focus on what you’re good at and be very systematic in your approach and compound it.
• Presence really shifts your energy and allows you to tap into source energy.  Bring yourself back from subconscious state to conscious state to ensure you are making decisions that align with your goals.
• People are living an illusion based on someone else’s beliefs or past experiences of the stories we tell ourselves.
• Insights occur much more frequently the more relaxed and happy we are.  If you want to solve a problem or get through a situation,  get calm, let go and relax. 
• Why you can’t do it all and it doesn’t have to be perfect. 
• You have to know what you want in the big picture and then align your day-to-day accordingly. 

Featured on the Show: 

Good to Great by Jim Collins 

Your Brain at Work by David Rock 

You are a Badass by Jen Sincero 

Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu 

Breaking the Habit of Being You by Joe DIspenza 

Dr. Joe Dispenza Walking Meditation

The Cru 

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Gen Ladies, you know her, the woman who is a superstar at work. She gets the plumb assignments, the seat at the table, the promotion, and money. 

You’re happy for her because you know she deserves it. Heck you’re inspired by her and you’d love to be in her shoes… but you can’t seem to figure out how she’s done it. 

In today’s episode, we’re giving you the inside scoop on the 7 Habits for Career Acceleration. 

Speaking of accelerating your career, if you’re someone who is super motivated, driven, and still excited about your career but not clear on what’s next or how to tackle the next big challenge we are inviting you to the Accelerate Your Career Mastermind.

The investment is $699 -- don’t wait because we start on Monday, April 24th. Enroll here. 

The 7 Habits include:

HABIT 1: Knowing and  declaring what you want instead of letting your career unfold for you

HABIT 2: Making sure to understand and align with your boss’s expectations and your organizations’ expectations : Ask the right questions and know the metrics your success will be judged on

HABIT 3: Setting boundaries, prioritizing, knowing what’s important vs. urgent: The workhorse doesn't get promoted. Saying no shows your leadership and ability to prioritize

HABIT 4: Being a problem solver not a problem panicked Stay calm, get solutions-focused and don't add to the worry

HABIT 5: Making progress over perfection: Know what to spend your time on and when to let go. Don't let obsession stall your action

HABIT 6: Regularly building and nurturing your networking: Don't wait until you're looking for a job, stay connected with people, help them anyway you can, they'll return the favor

HABIT 7: Keeping a personal notebook and file of your accomplishments: Our brains only remember the most negative, the one thing we didn't do. Keep running track of all you do for this job, future careers and just yourself. You deserve it.

Ladies, none of this is possible without remembering to include time to recharge your battery. As Gen X women our needs tend to come last. The thread of self-care needs to weave through everything. 

Featured on the Show: 

Four Signs Your Expectations are Too High (blog post) 

What Self Care Is and Isn’t (blog post) 

Perfectionism Almost Took Us Down (blog post) 

Urgency, You’re Making the Wrong Thing an Emergency (podcast) 

Perfectionism Pitfalls (podcast) 

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Join our FREE masterclass on negotiating just for you it is happening on April 15th at 2 p.m. EST.  It’s going to change the way you see and think about negotiating. Save your spot here. www.therestingmind.com/negotiation
 
We start the interview process with an eye towards the outcome...getting the job. Instead of heading into the first conversation asking about salary, we go through three rounds before we even bring it up yet our male counterparts are 75% more likely to ask in the first interview.

We, as Gen X women, need to be empowered with knowing our worth and step boldly into our voice so we can articulate it.

In this episode, we’re talking all about how to do just that.

We asked over 1200 women in our Facebook Community, Just Gen X Talking Business Career + Life about their feelings around negotiating—the results were overwhelmingly negative! 

That is not okay because we as women need to know and know how to articulate our worth and stand up for it regardless if you are negotiating a promotion, a salary increase, or support for you to do your job.  If you own a business you absolutely have to negotiate your worth with clients and with vendors. 

“We need to be able to own our worth, know our worth, identify it and really be able to share it with the world. And do so without feeling cringy.” Jackie Ghedine

“It’s not that we need to learn to over ask but instead to just ask what we are worth” Mimi Bishop

“Knowing your worth is knowing when you’ve had enough.”

“Your superpower, truly is your uniqueness. You being you.”

In this episode, Knowing Your Self Worth, you’ll learn: 

• How to outline your worth and amazingness 
• Why as a business owner you shouldn’t give too much away for free 
• How stacking up your accomplishments in a notebook gets your brain to buy-in 
• How you can figure out the market’s worth of you : Don’t lose sight of your value

Featured on the Show: 

FREE WEBINAR: Sign Up Here for the Negotiation Webinar happening on April 15 at 2PM EST

Join our Facebook Community: Just Gen X Talking Business, Career + Life with Bold and Brave Women

Blog: Unapologetically Ambitious

Podcast: The Chicken and Egg of Confidence

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Wine time! Mommy wine club! Sounds like fun…. Until it isn’t. We know that more and more Gen X women are drinking more to cope and this was before the pandemic. 

If you suspect your drinking is more than, you are not alone. In today’s episode, we’re talking to Veronica Valli is a psychotherapist, recovery coach, level two EFT (emotional freedom technique) practitioner, MASC life coach, author of books Why You Drink and How to Stop and Get Sober Get Free, Author of upcoming book ‘Soberful’ and cohost of the Soberful Podcast. She has been in recovery for 20 years and has been working as a recovery coach and therapist for 18 years.

• Gen X grew up in a latchkey culture that normalized drinking, the lines between social drinking and normal drinking are very blurry for us 
• Veronica’s mission is to make not drinking as socially acceptable as not eating gluten or being a vegetarian 
• You don’t have to have alcohol to feel amazing, you can do all the things and have them be even better 
• Gen X women are so busy checking all the boxes and think that they will be happy when they’ve checked them all off, the only problem is we check them off and are unhappy 
• If your constantly thinking about drinking, thinking about not drinking, drinking or recovering from drinking you have a problem 
• Women are not reaching the extraordinary in their lives because they are spending so much of their energy and bandwidth on their relationship with alcohol 

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EPISODE RESOURCES

Why You Drink and How to Stop by Veronica Valli (book) 

Get Sober Get Free by Veronica Valli (book) 

Soberful Podcast 

Articles + Podcasts: 

Wine Moms Explained, The Atlantic (article) 

Free Resources:

Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x

The 8% Rule of Transformation
Warning! You CAN NOT let another year go by without reaching your goals.  Change can feel hard but we’ve got you. Download your FREE guide The 8% Rule of Transformation. 

We share the secret—backed by brain science and energy leadership—to create long-lasting and sustainable change so you can transform your life. Get it here. 

GET UNSTUCK COURSE
Get out of your own way and Get Unstuck, a self-led digital workshop. You'll learn:

• The who, what, and why of being stuck 
• The emotions of transformation 
• How to use the 8% Rule of Transformation—this is the step-by-step process w

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Gen X ladies, we know how much demand there is on your time, just with your day-to-day life. Forget it when you add in the layer of having a career or building your business to everything.  It seems like your to-do list gets longer and your days feel shorter.

What if we told you you could be working smarter not harder? Yeah, we know what you’re thinking… but stay with us. In today’s episode, we give you some scientifically proven tools so you can get more done. 

Overwhelmed and confused building your online business? Download 3 Keys to Take Your Biz From Stalled to Profitable: Your Activation Plan. 

We’ll help you clearly identify your ideal customer, strategize on where they are and how to communicate to them, and then build your foundation for engagement.

Download your FREE copy here:  www.therestingmind.com/profitable

You’ll Learn: 

• Why doing a brain dump frees up your brain space so that you can get more done 
• The tricks to planning your week and day 
• The power of post-it note planning, colorful and productive
• How a scarcity mindset around time can make you have less of it 
• How to use Energy Plotting to work with your Ultradian Rhythm 
• How to use our 8% Rule to get stuff done 
• Why multitasking really is a myth! 
• How chewing gum will increase your productivity 

Featured on the Show: 

Social Media and Mental Health with Social Media Expert Tracy Goodheart (podcast) 

Busy isn’t a Badge of Honor (podcast) 

Chewing Gum: Cognitive Performance, Mood, Well-Being and Associated Physiology (article) 

Why We Work Best in 90-Minute Segments (article) 

How Distractions at Work Take Up More Time Than You Think (article) 

Trello (productivity app) 

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Stuck is a term used by so many of us in so many ways but it is a universal feeling of not making progress, not moving forward, not being able to make your tomorrow look different from today.

What can be frustrating for you is when you know you’re stuck yet somehow you’re unable to make the shift you would like to see for yourself. 

In this episode, we want to talk with you about who is keeping you stuck, yes I said who, because ladies, your growth can trigger so many emotions within others and we want to bring awareness to it and share ideas on how to navigate it.

Addressing the WHO that’s keeping you stuck will not be easy. It requires an honestly about yourself with the relationships you have and how much control (consciously or subconsciously) you give these other relationships.

It also ins't about blame. It’s about understanding the people you surround yourselves with, and how they are impacting and influencing your decisions. 

Why your Who keeps you stuck: 

• They are threatened by you.
• They worry about how your changes will impact their lives
• They are concerned for your well-being and become overprotective
• Your progress reflects on their lack of progress and makes them feel bad

What happens if you decide to get unstuck yet someone really important to you wants to hold you back? Learn how to negotiate with your WHO. 

Outline your negotiation plan: 

• What do you want to ask for? 
• What are you willing to accept as the lowest common denominator? 
• Consider the objections 
• Consider the worries, fears and concerns that can come up 
• Think about how you can create comfort around those concerns 

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EPISODE RESOURCES

SAVE THE DATE / April 15th : Free Negotiating Masterclass 

Email Mimi at [email protected] to save your spot. 

Free Resources:

Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x Talking Business, Career + Life with Bold + Brave Women
 

The 8% Rule of Transformation
Warning! You CAN NOT let another year go by without reaching your goals.  Change can feel hard but we’ve got you. Download your FREE guide The 8% Rule of Transformation. 

We share the secret—backed by brain science and energy leadership—to create long-lasting and sustainable change so you can transform your life. Get it here. 

Get Unstuck The Course! 
Are you living a life of quiet desperation? Get out of your own way and Get Unstuck. 

Get Unstuck is a self-led, digital course. 

You’ll learn: 

• The who, what, and why of being stuck 
• The emotions of transformation 
• How to use the 8% Rule of Transformation—this is the step-by-step process we talked about on Today with Hoda and Jenna. 

All of this means you get the tools for true, life-long, and life-changing transformation for $29—the cost of a t-s

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Would you consider yourself brave? I bet you would probably respond to that question with a casual, “no,” however when we asked our amazing Facebook Community, Just Gen X: Talking Business, Career +Life with Bold + Brave Women, their stories of being brave were amazing!

Everything from leaving their corporate career to start their own business, to fighting cancer to skydiving, to divorce. You see, bravery isn’t about not having fear or a constant state of challenging your fears. Instead, bravery is about having courage. 

In this episode, we’re going to talk about chances are you are braver than you think and how your courage has always been inside of you. 

• “Courage is how you live a full life. Science shows women are terrible predictors.” — Jackie Ghedine 
  
  
• “Bravely step into your greatness”—Mimi Bishop 
  
  
• Our personality traits are part of the equation when we determine how much courage we have, however, the good news is traits only make up 50% of our personality and how we act. The other 50% is made up from past experiences and stories we tell ourselves. 

How to become braver and step into our courage:

• Think about how we can make uncertain situations a bit more certain. Analyze a situation to consciously recognize what the real risk is. 
  
  
• Develop a friendship with fear. Think of fear as the big brother that wants to protect you. 
  
  
• Flip your view, fear is giving you FOMO! Think about what you are missing out on because you aren’t being brave. 

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EPISODE RESOURCES

The Courage Quotient by R. Biswas-Diener  

Articles + Podcasts: 

From Mental Breakdown to Mental Breakthrough (podcast)
Walking with Fear (podcast) 
Why are we so Afraid of Fear? (blog post) 

Free Resources:

Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen X
The 8% Rule of Transformation

We share the secret—backed by brain science and energy leadership—to create long-lasting and sustainable change so you can transform your life. Free Guide: Get it here. 

Get Unstuck The Course! Only $29 Get it here.
Are you living a life of quiet desperation? Get out of your own way and Get Unstuck. 

Get Unstuck is a self-led, digital course. 

You’ll learn: 

• The who, what, and why of bein

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When someone asks you how you’re doing, do you always say, “oh, crazy busy?” If so, you aren’t alone.

There are so many reasons why we answer this way, everything from your mindset and automated response to positioning your status in the group. Maybe there is an undertow of needing significance or maybe you’re just the type of person who takes on a lot and just likes to share all that’s going on.  Whatever drives your need to wear busy as a badge we’re going to dive into it. 

In this episode, we’re going to take a look at why you’re really always so busy and show you that your life doesn’t always have to feel like you’re on the busy express. 

• Society puts value and worth on being busy. A study by HBR shows people wearing a Bluetooth hands-free earpiece were considered a higher standard than those wearing headphones. 
• Busy is an addiction, we’ve wired our brains to believe the busier we are the more successful we are. 
• Busy can cover the truth of how we are really feeling. The busier we are the more we can pretend life is great. 
• We have become a distracted generation. While our to-do lists aren’t any longer, the amount of concentration-time we can spend at once is VERY short. 

Tips to break the busy habit: 

• Learn to pass the torch of being the one that everyone goes to for the answers 
• Create a distraction-less environment, close social media, turn off alerts and your phone, close the door 
• Think beyond your to-do list -- focus on what you are working on right in this moment. 

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EPISODE RESOURCES

Articles + Podcasts: 

Why Americans are so Impressed by Business, HBR (article) 

Multi-Tasking Isn’t Making You More Efficient (article)

Conspicuous Consumption of Time: When Busyness and Lack of Leisure Time Become a Status Symbol (article)

Watch Your Mouth! The Power of Language (podcast) 

Take a Break Get More Done (blog post) 

Free Resources:

Join Our Facebook Group Just Gen x — The Resting Mind

The 8% Rule of Transformation
Warning! You CAN NOT let another year go by without reaching your goals.  Change can feel hard but we’ve got you. Download your FREE guide The 8% Rule of Transformation. 

We share the secret—backed by brain science and energy leadership—to create long-lasting and sustainable change so you can transform your life. Get it here. 

Course! 

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We're not just Gen X we're GEN neXt