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Here's the truth: you don't have to be overwhelmed with life!

In the past, I'd let overwhelm rob me of enjoying time with my kids because, instead, I would spend my time attending to my overwhelm instead of being in the moment with my kids. It also caused me to feel "stuck" in my life: with my business, my career, and with so many important relationships. This is because I had so many (and often competing!) thoughts about something that I felt paralyzed to make a decision or to move forward in an area of my life.

In this episode:

• I'm going to first teach you why tackling your personal overwhelm demon benefits both you and your child
• Then I'm going to open your eyes to the four important areas that you should be focusing on so that overwhelm doesn't come calling
• Then, finally, I'm going to give you 5 great strategies to use to keep overwhelm from taking over your life once and for all.

Ok. Are you ready to end your uncomfortable feeling of overwhelm? Then let's get started.

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Today's episode is on the topic of co-parenting.

I work with divorced, separated, or never-married parents all the time at Modern Parenting Solutions and I know that the co-parenting relationship can be a tricky one.

Some co-parents find a way to work well together, while others have to figure out how to parent with a contentious and difficult ex. That's why I say that co-parenting is a journey and that every co-parent's journey is different.

I'm also a co-parent myself. My ex-husband and I divorced when my kids were 10 and 7 years old, and today they are 24 and 21, and I think that my ex-husband and I did a pretty good job of peacefully co-parenting our kids. Now, don't get me wrong, there were a lot of ups and downs during our co-parenting journey, but for the most part, I believe that we were pretty successful co-parents. I used my Modern Parenting philosophy during my co-parenting journey which included:

• Prioritizing respectful relationships,
• Focusing on helping the kids discover and grow their natural talents and abilities, and
• Respecting my need to grow as an individual and to be happy (because I matter too!)..

Because of all this experience with co-parenting, I've put all my Modern Parenting strategies in my court-approved online co-parenting class. Many parents are court-mandated or advised by their family law attorney to take a co-parenting class as part of their custody plan, so I decided to create my own co-parenting class to meet this need. Now, there are quite a few co-parenting classes available online, but I wanted mine to be different in the sense that I wanted to address the topics and questions that I get from co-parents all the time when I work with them at MPS.

Questions like:

• How do I parent with a narcissistic or uncooperative ex?
• How do I discipline my kids if their other parent doesn't have any discipline at their home?
• How do I repair my relationship with my child if it has become broken?
• How do I communicate to my ex and to my kids when I don't feel like they respect me or care about what I have to say?
• And most importantly – how do I move on from an emotional breakup? How do I use this experience to become a better version of ME so I can enjoy life again?

I answer all these questions and more in my online court-approved co-parenting class. You can find out more information about the class by going to ModernParenitngSolutions.org/onlinecoparentingclass.

To give you an idea of what my online co-parenting course is like, and to start you on your co-parenting journey, today's episode is one of the lessons in my online co-parenting course. It's the lesson on the common stages of co-parenting.

I want you to get 3 things out of the episode today:

1. I want you to understand the common stages of the co-parenting journey,
2. I want you to be able to identify where YOU are on the co-parenting journey, and
3. I want you to feel confident and hopeful that if you are struggling in your co-parenting journey right now, that you CAN get to a stage in the co-parenting journey that provides you with peace, a good relationship with your child, and a great relationship with yourself too.

Ok. Let's dive into the lesson now.

The goal of the Modern Parenting Solutions podcast is to provide education, inspiration, and support for parents wherever they are on their parenting journey.

My Sunday episodes provide detailed education on specific topics, while my Thursday episodes provide the inspiration and support to implement the tips and strategies from the Sunday episodes.

In today's Thursday Thoughts episode, I provide a discussion that is meant to inspire YOU to think about YOUR definition of what it means to be a successful parent.

Everyone has a different definition of what it means to be a successful parent...AND THAT'S OK!

I also share the story of my parenting journey as an example of how I used my personal Passions, Values, and Beliefs (PVBs) to guide my parenting decisions. My definition

I hope that today's episode inspires you to develop your own definition of successful parenting in a way that influences you to be proud of the way you parent AND allows you to be the parent your child needs you to be!

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This episode is inspired by the families at the MPS office in Southern California because topic of sleep gets addressed there a lot.

The other therapists and I address the topic of sleep in most all of our patient cases because it's such a wide-spread problem for young kids, tweens, teens, and young adults.

If your young person is experiencing problems with sleep, then my goal for today's episode is for you to understand WHY your child is struggling in this area and to give you the parenting TOOLS needed to get their poor sleep habits turned around.

In this episode, I go over:

• The dangers of not getting enough sleep
• 7 Common reasons why kids develop sleep problems
• How much sleep each age group of young people should be getting
• The 8 strategies that work to get young kids and teens to develop better sleeping habits.

Got more questions about kids and sleep? Email me your question at [email protected]

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Oh, man...I know that feeling of wanting to give up.

At The MPS office in Redlands, California, I've talked to several parents over the past few weeks who have expressed to me that they feel so discouraged when they see little change in their child or teen's behavior - even though they've been putting in so much effort!

I totally get it, and I want to give YOU the same advice that I gave to these parents. This advice seemed to resonate with them because they expressed to me that this was the exact advice they needed to hear right now.

As parents, WE NEED SUPPORT AND VALIDATION TOO - and that is the goal of this episode.

You're doing a great job, Modern Parent - just don't give up yet :)

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There's nothing worse than seeing a young person struggle with anxiety, depression, or low self-esteem.

Over the many years of working with young people at the Modern Parenting Solutions office, I've found that the one thing that holds young people back from having a better life is their mindset.

Fortunately, though, parents can have a big impact on changing their young person's negative thinking bias, and today's episode is going to show you how to work with your child or teen at home to help them kick the bad habit of the negative thinking bias and to adopt a more positive and helpful outlook.

In this episode, you will:

• Learn exactly what a negative thinking bias is and how to identify if your child or teen qualifies for this
• Discover the 3 reasons why some young people default to negative thinking while others don't
• Understand why positive thinking isn't lying to yourself (this is a popular misconception I hear from kids and parents all the time!!)
• Take away the 4-step strategy to change your child's negative and unhelpful thinking into positive, realistic, and empowering thoughts
• Feel confident that you can use this strategy to improve your child or teen's emotions and behavior after listening to this episode!

This parenting strategy isn't easy – and it takes some time to become a new habit – but it's well worth it in the end.

When young people master the ability to change their uncomfortable emotions into tolerable ones, identify healthy and effective solutions to problems, and focus on the fact that THEY are in control of their emotions and behaviors, then they'll mature into happy and successful young adults.

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My Thursday thoughts episodes are very short episodes that address trends, research, or just Modern Parenting topics that come up during the week at MPS that I think would be valuable information to share.

In this episode, I discuss:

Trends: The other therapists and I are getting a lot of middle schoolers and high schoolers in the office complaining about being exhausted from the demands of academic work and extracurriculars.

We're surprised that this seems to be happening earlier in the year - usually, this happens closer to the Christmas holiday, so we're concerned that some of our young people aren't coping well with getting back into the groove of in-person school.

If your child is struggling already this year, I give you some good advice on how to handle this situation.

Research: Two new studies have come out in the last couple of months that provide insight into how taking short breaks from social media can dramatically improve a young person's mental health.

Listen to the episode to gain tips and inspiration about how to schedule short breaks from tech in order to build a better relationship with your child or teen AND how to use this break to improve your young person's mental health.

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Has your teen announced that they want to be an influencer as their future career?

Does your tween want to post make-up tutorials on Tik Tok?

Has your child asked you if they could sell their handmade jewelry on Etsy?

Does your son want to live-stream himself playing his favorite video game?

Today's episode is all about the pros and cons of allowing your child or teen to use Creator Websites.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What Creator Sites are
• How these sites can actually be a good thing for your child or teen
• How to protect your child on these sites
• What you need to be aware of in order to make this a positive experience for your child or teen
• My 6 Best Practice tips and strategies for getting the most out of Creator Sites.

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• Taming The Tech Monster online course
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• Episode #21 Notes

If you've ever wondered why your child or teen gets so angry while playing video games, then this episode is for you.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• What Gamer Rage is (and if YOUR child qualifies for Gamer Rage)
• What causes Gamer rage (the reasons might surprise you!)
• How parents can eliminate Gamer Rage in their household.

This episode has A LOT of information in this episode, so I've created a guide that explains all of the strategies and tips that I talked about in this episode (including the Gamer Rage Thermometer discussed in the episode).

You can download the Gamer Rage Guide HERE.

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• Taming The Tech Monster Online Course
• Episode #20 Show Notes
• Episode transcript
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What is The Tech Monster? It's that invisible enemy whose overarching goal is to steal your child or teen's most valuable internal assets: their motivation, energy, self-esteem, and interesting personalities.

And it does all of this by sucking your child in through its irresistible tech influences.

In today's episode, you'll learn all about the three areas where tech is doing the most damage - and you've probably haven't thought about these areas before!

The topic in today's episode draws from my many years of experience when working with young people in my office, as well as my personal experience with my own two kids.

This episode is a must-listen!

What should you do after listening to this episode?

• Download the free resource that goes along with this topic: The Tech Contracts Bundle
• Taming The Tech Monster online course for parents
• Download the free resource on identifying your Passions, Values, and Beliefs (PVBs): The Ultimate Guide to Making Better Parenting Decisions
• Visit the full transcript, show notes, and my full free parenting resource library at https://modernparentingsolutions.org/

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