Modern Self Protection Podcast

Today: Is a Truck Talk Tuesday.  Just you and me in the truck with a long drive talking about self defense and guns.

Today is all about Minute of Angle v Minute of Man, why one matters, and one doesn’t.  Which one you should work on, and which one you should ignore for self defense.  And it’s all about knowing yourself and your gear.  That is the only thing that will count if you ever have to use your firearm in self defense.

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Ben

Today:  Having a security mindset can keep you safe before you have to use any other self defense technique.  Setting up your life so you don’t have an actual confrontation that puts you, your family, or your home in jeopardy is the best way to defend yourself.

We discuss the different security mindsets from Law Enforcement, Military, Civilian, and a Security Professional’s point of view.  You make think they are the same, but they are very different.  Thinking one is the way to go may not help you.  Pick your source of information carefully.  I used security professional as a term because if I put security guard it has a negative bias to it.  But you would be surprised what a security guard knows about security that other professions don’t see.  As always there are crappie ones and great ones.  But you want to security your home, your family, and yourself like a professional security guard would not any other profession. 

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Outline:

People asking about Church stuff

Most People think of Security the Wrong way

• Military Mindset
  • Destroy anything that comes at us or near us
  • Going after the enemy
  • Fire Sucks
  • Leaning on what has happened in the past
• Law Enforcement
  • Catch the Bad Guys
  • Entrapment
  • Watch until bad guys do something against the law and then act
  • Can’t get them or stop them until they actually do something
• Civilians
  • Call the police
  • It won’t happen to me
  • I live in a nice neighborhood
  • Seen it on the news but hasn’t happened to anyone I know so it won’t happen to me
  • Just do what the neighbors do
  • Do what police tell me to, they are the experts
• Security Professional
  • Intervene early and often
  • Make it look uninviting to criminals
  • Just a little more security then other places so they go someplace else
  • Everything and everyone is part of your security
  • Intel on people and things is important
  • Continuously improve your position
  • Look from the eyes of criminals in the area and in the past
  • Look at any and all vulnerabilities
  • Start at the most likely and keep working at it
  • Never let things go stale, keep improving
  • Have plans for when things go wrong
  • If you go to your plans you have failed to secure your area properly

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Ben

Today:  Let’s Talk Bag Guns and Pistol Caliber Carbines (PCCs).  They are becoming more and more popular as time goes on and the guns are just getting better and better.  I really want one to make my bag gun that goes with me everywhere.

This episode we look at why a pistol caliber and what a bag gun would be used for.  What’s the ups and down of using a pistol caliber over a rifle caliber? What to look for In a bag gun?  And what gun am I looking at.

Including are three reviews of guns I’m thinking of making my bag gun: CZ Scorpion Evo 3, Ruger PPC Carbine, and Sig MPX.  All have great things about them and things that could be improved.

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Outline:

Definitions:

• Pistol Caliber Carbines PCC
• Small PCCs
• For Self Defense

Range Trip!

Advantages of PPC over a Rifle

• Lighter and Smaller
• Ammo is Cheaper
• Not as loud
• Same caliber as your handgun
• Maybe same mags as your handgun

Down Sides

• It’s not a rifle
• Limited Range
• Heavier Ammo
• The PCC is still being perfected

Why I want one:

• Bag Gun to carry with me places
• Same ammo and hopefully same mags as my carry gun
• Smaller Barrel and not as much noise
• Control out of the smaller gun
• Accuracy at ranges over the handgun

The Contenders right now:

CZ Scorpion

• Good
  • Price
  • Shooting was fun
  • Magazines are cheaper then most (except Glock mags)
  • Balance and Fell is really good
  • Magpul Stuff
• Bad
  • Trigger sucks
  • Not as many htings for them as I would like aftermarket
  • Accuracy was hard with the heavy trigger
  • Optic and sites offset is different then AR so options aren’t as good

Ruger PCC

• Good
  • Price is by far the cheapeast
  • Uses Ruger or Glock magazines
  • Runs like a 10/22
  • 16” Barrel
  • Been Doing it for a long time
• Bad
  • Breaks down for storage
  • Not a lot of aftermarket stuff
  • 16” barrel
  • Sites and optics not co witnessed
  • Weird Recoil Impulse

Sig MPX

• Good
  • Handles like an AR
  • Optics like an AR
  • Endless AR Stuff
  • Nicest Trigger by Far
  • Felt like an AR Trigger and Recoil Impulse
  • Extendable Brace
• Bad
  • Expensive
  • Mags are Expensive
  • Proprietary parts inside that look like standard AR
  • Folding Brace
  • Did I say Expensive

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Stay Safe,

Ben

Today: Do you have rights, legal or otherwise during a lethal encounter?  Should you? How can you create, demand, or gain those rights?

This podcast is more on how you think about things when you are in an armed conflict.  If someone is trying to kill you, or threatening to kill you, what should you be thinking about so you can save your life.  Rights during an armed conflict are an academic conversation that has no place when some monster is trying to kill you or your family. 

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Outline:

• There are no rights in a fight for your life. Once the confertation has become lethal everything you think about fairness or rights is out.
• Knew a police officer that hit someone in the head with a baton
• During an armed confrontation get rid of the thoughts on your rights, leagal authority, legal justification, or that’s not right or fair.
  • Don’t waste time thinking:
    • You Can’t do that
    • You have no right
    • That’s not fair
    • You can’t tell me what to do
    • That’s not legal
    • I don’t have to do what you say
    • Wait a second, let’s talk about this
    • The time for debate has passed
  • Guns make things right and give someone domain over another at that moment
  • Question on Mike Seeklander’s show (The American Warrior Show) about someone ordering them to drop their weapon during a shooting
    • Person not sure of what to do
    • Follow or fight, there is no thoughts on rights… see above

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Ben

Today:  I got the chance to shoot the M&P and Sig with different slide mounted dot sites on each side by side to do a comparison.  I still want a pistol with a dot, just not sure which direction I should go.

I really like the Sig and the M&P.  I’ve been carrying the M&P9 for about 5 years now and really like it.  Smith is trying to update the platform but not doing it fast enough to keep up with the market at this point.  They should be out with all the Red dots on top of them, but they are not yet.  I think it’s a marketing ploy that they are waiting to introduce the M&P 2.0 with slide mounted dot. 

The only thing keeping me from switching to the Sig 320 is money.  It’s an incredible amount of money to switch platforms, holsters, magazines, training time, back up gun, and the like make the endeavor way more than just buying a pistol and switching. 

Here’s what I found shooting them side by side:

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Why I like the Sig:

• Natural Pointing and Aim
• Good Trigger
• High Bore Access (Feels like shooting a 1911)
• Manual Safety Option
• Great Feeling Guns always liked the 250 when it came out
• Lots of Options

Why I like the Smith & Wesson M&P

• Great Grip Angle and Feel
• Shoot Straight
• Works better than a Glock for me
• Smith was going the right way with optics and then choked
• New M&P makes the old one better in almost every way
• Haven’t been able to break it… totally yet.

Optics

• RMR has been the standard for a while now
  • Never really like it
  • Battery issues
  • 2 Guys I know and respect went to them on carry guns and then got rid of them
• Romeo 1
  • Bigger then the RMR
  • Solves battery problems
  • Seems to be clearer to view through the window
  • Motion activated
  • Control Brightness

Shooting Contest

• 30 Rounds Each all at 10 yards
  • 10 Rounds slow fire off hand groups best I could do
  • 10 Rounds rapid fire to keep inside the 5” circle at 10 yards
  • 10 Rounds Hammer pairs trying to keep inside the circle
• Results
  • Slow Fire the Sig shot better Groups
  • Rapid Fire Group the M&P shot better
  • Hammer Pairs the M&P Shot better
• Conclusion
  • M&P is my gun and I should have outshot them all with it, but the sig outshot it on the slow fire group
  • I think it was the clarity of the optic over the gun
  • But I have outshot groups with the Sig over my M&P before
  • I will not be putting and RMR on anything, I will be buying a Romeo
  • If I had unlimited funds I’d probably switch to the Sig 320 pistols and just go with them… but I’ll probably be buying another M&P and putting a Romeo 1 on it

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Ben

 Because it didn't work the first time, so here is the rest of Episode 246.  I don't know why it broke.... 

PS I called a FN P90 a P10.  I don't know why I had P10 on the brain.

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Ben

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Today:  A review of Battlefield Vegas in Las Vegas Nevada.  It’s a range that lets you shoot machine guns and a lot of other cool stuff.  I chose to shoot an FN P10, FN F2000, STG 44, SAW, and a BAR.  All guns I’ve always wanted to shoot.  It was expensive but work it.

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Outline:

In Vegas for Bob Mayne’s wedding, congrats to my buddy over at Handgun World Podcast!

Gambling or Machine Guns?

Battlefield Vegas

• Because Humvee ride for free!
• First Impresions
• Standing in Line and found this:
• Signed up for Machine Guns
  • Lots of Funny packages to choose from, GI Jane and Navy Seal
  • Me:
    • FN P10
    • FN F2000
    • M249 SAW
    • STG 44
    • BAR (Browning Automatic Rifle
  • Walking around the museum outside, Tanks, Helicopters, Trucks oh my!

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Ben

Today:  This is a Truck Talk Tuesday.  Just you and me talking in the truck on a live drive.  This drive is all about traveling and your self defense.  I give what I’ve actually been doing the last couple months traveling for work and vacation.  This month I’ll be doing more traveling and this podcast is me talking to myself to keep my self defense when I travel top of mind.

You will learn tricks and tips that will help you stay safe while you and your family travel.

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Ben

Today:  SHOT Show 2019 ended a couple weeks ago and lots of new stuff came out.  Here I review the stuff that looks interesting, some because I “need” it, and some because, why would you make that?

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Podcast Outline:

SHOT Show 2019 put on by the NSSF, check it out at shotshow.org

Sig Sauer

• P365 w/ Safety, which can’t be found on their web site but I saw an article about it, and maybe vapor wear, but I still want one
• P320 with Full Mag and Short Barrel, what where you thinking P320 XCompact, and this changes all their Full-Sized/Carry/Compact/Subcompact sizing charts, drives me crazy

Glock

• G48 maybe the perfect sized carry Glock and I want to get my hands on one
• G43X why?, just to sell guns

Mossberg

• Concealed Carry Pistol MC1, might have to get one to try
• Crimson Trace Laser for Shock Wave, might want one

Smith & Wesson

• Ported M&P Shield M2.0 First the name still sucks, it’s too long… but this is under the why would you want one of these for self defense. I advice people not to buy a self defense gun with a ported barrel.  At least with the Glock G43X I say why would you want one, this one I say you probably shouldn’t own one for its intended purpose.
• Where’s my M&P 2.0 with a (Window) Dot?

Colt

• King Cobra – I think I need one of these. If I ever shoot ICOR or IDPA with a revolver this is the one I want to shoot! Maybe that will be my excuse to buy one.

Kel-Tec

• The CP33 .22 LR Pistol – I don’t know why, but it just looks cool, maybe for that reason I need one.
• KS7 Single Stack KSG? – I don’t know why I would want one. But maybe it would make a good bag gun, but then why the giant handle on top and no rail… I never know with Kel Tec.

Magpul Bipods – Because everything they make is pretty good, and I’m tired of my Harris Bipod I’ve had for 15 years, and want something else that isn’t $300!

Aimpoint Acro P1 I have to try one of these. It’s probably one of the first optics that was truly designed to go on a pistol.  I love the tube sights over the single window projection dot sights and would love to have one of these.

Crimson Trace Rifle Optic 1-8 5-Series.  Their web site will never sell one of these optics, you can look but someone needs to help them.  I’d love to get my hands on the optic to shoot though.

Primary Arms PCC – Been out for a while, but another I think I need one of these.  It would make a great bag gun and be cheap to run

Grey Ghost Precision GGP Combat Pistol Frame Compact – Been out for a while, but maybe the next evolution in a Glock and I may need one to go with the PCC from Primary Arms so everything runs the same mags.

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Ben

Today: Can you spot a predator before you become their prey?  We go through one of the greatest books about self defense in our modern world.  In my library there are only 3 books you need to read and re-read, this is one of them.

In Dangerous Personalities, former FBI profiler Joe Navarro shows readers how to identify the four most common "dangerous personalities" and analyze how much of a threat each one can be.  

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Podcast Outline:

Where this book fits 

• Gift of Fear - Use your fear when the event is happening 
• Left of Bang - Notice before the event happens 
• This book Dangerous Personalities - Notice dangerous people in your life before you can become a victim. 

Joe Navarro 

• First book of his I’ve read 
• FBI profiler 
• Lists he put together over a career studying people that hurt others 
• From the book
• • MY INTENTION Dangerous Personalities is my attempt to share with you what I know about those who will hurt you. Dangerous personalities are all around us. They may be your neighbors, friends, boss, date, spouse, relatives, or parent. They may be community leaders or professionals responsible for your education, money, health, or safety—and that is why we have to be particularly on guard. Evil, crime, or suffering comes at us in many ways, and rarely does it wave a flag or blow a whistle to say, “Get ready, I’m coming!”
  • The check lists 
  • 150 items or so
  • If that person checks over half of them you are probably in danger. 
• Different Personalities 
• • Narcissist
  • • It’s all about me 
    • “Narcissistic personalities care only for themselves, their needs, and their priorities. While you and I appreciate attention, the narcissist craves it and manipulates people and situations to get it. While you and I work hard to be successful, the narcissistic personality connives to succeed and may cheat, lie, embellish the truth, or scheme to get ahead, uncaring of how others are affected.”
    • Overvalued self and devalues others 
    • “Narcissistic personalities have an uncanny ability to identify weakness or insecurity in others and use it to put others down or make themselves look better.”
    • Never find true empathy only entitlement 
    • Rules and boundaries don’t matter or count for them but will be used against others to make them more 
    • Never do anything wrong it’s theirs for the taking and belongs to them 
    • “Narcissists often seek positions where they can control others. That’s why you tend to see more of them in jobs such as law, medicine, and politics or in high-level executive positions, where they can use their rank or status to take care of themselves.”
    • It may take a while to spot them for sure 
    • Eventually they will only move on when they take everything from that person 
    • Avoid them and creat distance 
    • Create boundaries and when crossed have serious reprocotions 
    • They need to want to change for themselves and it will take a lot of work 
    • Generally they don’t love anyone enough to change 
  • Emotionally Unstable
  • • This personality’s key traits are pervasive emotional instability marked by behaviors that affect their well-being, relationships, and interactions with others. Changeable as the weather and far less predictable, they careen from one end of the emotional spectrum to the other, feeling on top of the world or like a princess one minute and a victim in the gutter the next. They can be talented, charming, stimulating, and seductive, but they can also quickly turn hostile, impulsive, or even irrational. It is for this personality that the word mercurial was invented. They have an overwhelming need to be loved and to feel secure but little ability to nourish or nurture healthy relationships. Get too close and they feel suffocated; give them space and they feel abandoned. Tragically, their inchoate quest for stability can lead to harm for themselves and others.
    • People are drawn to them because on the surface and at first some of these attributes seems attractive 
    • Around people like this you will have a live of extremes 
    • relationships are all about intensity.
    • Hypersensitive about everything 
    • Needy and demanading without borders 
    • Use extreme emotion to manipulate 
    • Irrational all or non thinking 
    • They need professional help
    • Try to set strict boundaries, they will hate it but it’s your trigger to keep yourself safe 
    • If person uses threat of suicide call police 
    • Needs professional help
    • Set strict boundaries, will create resistance but can help for a while 
  • Paranoid
  • • “Paranoid personalities are consumed by irrational mistrust and fear. Their suspicions know no bounds. Their rigid thinking is impervious to reason and makes them judgmental, biased, and uptight. They see only the cloud around the silver lining. Do something nice for them, and they’ll suspect ulterior motives.”
    • Look around and you will see these personalities: ◼ The driver who thinks you cut him off intentionally, so he tailgates you with horn honking, headlights flashing, rude gestures, and cursing. He may even follow you all the way home. ◼ The man who thinks everyone’s hitting on his wife or girlfriend, so at parties he sticks his nose into every conversation she has, especially with men, and makes sure those men don’t loiter very long. ◼ The date from hell who considers you merely an audience for his Mr. Know-It-All act, argues with everything you say, or puts your ideas down (not surprisingly, you discover he has no friends). ◼ The relative who’s habitually trying to convince you of some pseudoscience remedy or has found yet another guru who sees the world just as he does. ◼ The fellow employee who frequently files grievances and then questions why others got promotions or bonuses and he didn’t. ◼ The complainer who shows up at government offices almost weekly to rant about issues or threaten to file a lawsuit. ◼ The anonymous author of an acrid online attack, accusing you of having a hidden agenda and knowing what you “really meant.” ◼ The reclusive neighbor who insists on telling you about the new world order or conspiracies or secret organizations that control the federal government. ◼ The former employee or ex-boyfriend who, angry about how he’s been treated, shows up at the office unannounced and armed. ◼ The brilliant scientist no one listens to, so he moves to a smelly cabin in Montana where he can warn us of the threat of technology by sending bombs (16 in all) through the mail that killed 3 and injured 23 (“ Unabomber” Theodore John “Ted” Kaczynski, PhD).
    • Hypersuspicious, Fearful, Secretive
    • Opinionated, Argumentative, Prone to Hate
    • Paranoid personalities select and distort facts and history, stringing together disparate events and ideas to fit their views and justify their actions—
    • Know a lot about very little 
    • Combine rigid thinking, a fixed ideology, and selective memory with irrational fear and you have the toxic broth of hate—not the dislike you or I might feel, but an uncompromising, dehumanizing hate.
    • If I kill enough scientists, I’ll stop the advance of technology. —“Unabomber” Ted Kaczynski, who mailed 16 bombs, killing 3 and wounding 23 If I blow up a building,
    • I’ll stop the FBI and do away with SWAT teams. —Timothy McVeigh, bomber of the Alfred P. Murrah Federal Building in Oklahoma City, killing 168 women and children and injuring hundreds
    • Collects Wounds and builds grudges 
    • Can seek Extreme Isolation (Randy Weaver Ruby Ridge)
    • Sometimes big in prepper communities 
    • Conversations tend to be one track always circling back to their one issue 
    • Looking for someone that sides with their oppinion in relationships with others, will move on from skeptics 
    • Will want to isolate you socially from everyone else (Ruby Ridge)
    • Most are functional but can make life difficult around them 
    • Always suspicious of everyone around them in any authority 
    • Smart, sometimes very smart
    • Can become School Shooters, Go Postal, or the like
    • "Joseph Stalin, Adolf Hitler, and Cambodian dictator Pol Pot were all acutely paranoid. They irrationally feared nonexistent enemies and required that their followers do the same. The cost in lives is so staggering that words cannot do justice to their crimes. One life lost is a tragedy. How, then, do we characterize the loss of more than 30 million (Stalin), more than 5 million (Hitler), or more than 1.2 million (Pol Pot)?"
    • Take care dealing with these people anywhere, they could see you as the enemy and then “snap"
  • Predator 
  • • Probably the worst for you, if the Paranoid personality comes into power anywhere they are the worst for society, but the one that will get you without a doubt is the Predator
    • People that have seen them call them pure evil, for me it was like staring into the eyes of evil 
    • "You can tell someone about evil; you can make scary movies; you can write about dangerous personalities. But until you’re in the presence of evil, you don’t really know it- not at a deep psychological level."
    • "At some point in life, everyone reading this book will encounter someone like this: a person not bothered by being arrested or by committing a crime, who seems untroubled by the suffering they cause others. Of all the dangerous personalities, the predator causes the most harm."
    • “Predators really have only one goal: exploitation."
    • "Predators really have only one goal: exploitation. They do what we can’t imagine, easily and repeatedly. They live to plunder, rob, victimize, or destroy. While most of us build our lives around relationships and achievements, predators focus on opportunities to use people, places, and situations for their own gain. This default setting governs much of their behavior."
    • "These individuals don’t think as we do. We care about others. They pretend to care or simply don’t. We see each other as equals. They see us either as opportunities or as obstacles in fulfilling their needs. If they need a car, they steal one. If they need sex, they rape you. If they need money, they go after your grandparents’ bank account. If you survive one of these individuals, a part of you still dies—be it trust, self-worth, dignity, or faith in others.
    • "While prisons are full of these individuals, far more walk the streets. You don’t have to be killed or raped to be severely harmed by predators. They beat their spouses, abuse patients, terrorize employees, embezzle money, prey on the faithful, corrupt public office, or, as heads of state, exterminate their own people. They carry briefcases, laptops, backpacks, Bibles, soccer balls, and babies. But they also carry knives, guns, machetes, ice picks, poison, and ropes. They may be your boss, your religious leader, your cube mate, your financial advisor, your child’s camp counselor, your mother’s caregiver, your babysitter, the next person you welcome into your bedroom, or your next-door neighbor."
    • "Predators are coldly indifferent. It’s why we liken them to reptiles and why so often at trial they seem impervious to emotions, in stark contrast to the grieving family of the victim. Notorious serial killer Henry Lee Lucas captured it this way: “Killing someone is just like walking outdoors. If I wanted a victim, I’d just go and get one.” Only predators think this way. For them, life’s a game of “how much can I get away with?”"
    • Many Urge, Few Controls, No Reflection 
    • "Expect predators to turn your life upside down and derail your dreams or aspirations, as they come first and don’t like people to get in their way. You may initially find them intelligent, charming, and interesting, but when you discover what they’ve done—or when they turn on you, which can happen at any moment—the shock and pain are indescribable. They’ll exhaust you because you must always be on guard, hiding what you treasure, trying to not antagonize, or struggling to survive."
    • These are the people Gavin De Becker talks about in the Gift of Fear and the worst movie bad guys you can think of. 
    • They will clean you out if you get into a relationship with them, physically, mentally, morally, emotionally, and financially.
    • Get away from these people.  They need professional help and may or may not change really.  They will pretend to change or be remorseful if it will get them what they want.
    • You will not change them and they will just victimize you
    • "We serial killers are your sons, we are your husbands, we are everywhere. And there will be more of your children dead tomorrow. —Theodore “Ted” Bundy"
• Last 2 Chapters 
• • Spotting multiple dangerous personalities
  • • More then one can be deadly 
  • Self Defense Against them
  • • Most these people will sneak up on you like the frog in boiling water 
    • Reality Check, realize you are in danger 
    • Gain Knowledge of people all the time
    • Don’t just look, see, and Observe 
    • Back to The Gift of Fear, go with you gut
    • Try to see the difference between a nice person and a good person
    • Control Space and Distance 
    • Control Time, slow things down 
    • Cut emotional strings and see what going on
    • • Get an outside opinion 
    • Assess How much/how often
    • Time and location always matter
    • • Stupid Things in Stupid Places with Stupid People John Farnim
      • Bob Mayne adds at Stupid Times
    • Be Univiting to Dangerous Personalities 
    • • Check them out
      • Create Boundaries
      • Be skeptical 
      • Set absolute limits outside of emotion 
    • Don’t Wait too Long 
    •  Catalog Behaviors 
    • Make Supportive Alliances 
    • Resist Isolation 
    • Avoid Manipulation 
    • When in Danger ACT
    • • Make a plan to get out
      • Alert your network, friends, neighbors, family, local police, everyone
      • Seek Professional Help
      • Plan your exit strategy 
      • Raise Escape money
      • Address Financial Matters 
      • Claim and Maintain Distance 
    • “Fortunately, most of the people you’ll meet and interact with in your daily life aren’t dangerous personalities. For the most part, people mean well and care. But I know that in time, you will run into a dangerous personality, because there are millions of them out there. When you do, please remember my final words to you: You have no social obligation to be tormented or to be victimized—ever."

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