Talking to Your Kids About Sex and Gender Without Fear | A Christian Parent's Guide
Host Michelle Barnett welcomes Amber Garrett Carroll, vice president of the Nashville nonprofit Equip and author of Ready to Talk: A Christian Parent’s Guide to Gender and Sexuality, to discuss how Christian parents can talk with kids about sex, sexuality, and gender without fear while staying rooted in historic Christian sexual ethics. Amber explains why parents are primary disciplers, outlines a biblical framework of intimacy within lifelong family through marriage or vocational singleness, and distinguishes temptation, sin, and brokenness, urging sexual stewardship and avoiding shame. They address identity language, assumptions about marriage and attraction, and practical guidance for starting early with age-appropriate conversations, including screen safety and pornography preparation. Amber offers counsel for responding to children disclosing same-sex attraction or gender incongruence, navigating pronouns with discernment, preserving relationships, and prioritizing the gospel, and shares a mom hack: use short car rides for hard conversations.
00:00 Welcome to Mommin Together
00:31 Why This Topic Matters
02:10 Meet Amber and Her Mission
04:42 Pain to Purpose Story
06:53 Parents as Disciplers
09:15 Gods Design for Intimacy
15:30 Temptation Sin and Brokenness
22:15 Identity and Language Nuance
30:39 Fearless Conversations at Home
32:22 Do It Scared
33:08 Many Talks Not One
34:48 Start Young Foundations
35:46 Screen Safety Basics
37:09 Porn Talks By Eight
38:49 Puberty Curiosity Guidance
40:37 Homes Without Shame
41:10 Drop Hidden Assumptions
44:46 Praying Without Idolatry
47:24 Talking LGBT With Grace
49:27 Beyond Language Debates
52:18 Pronouns As Hospitality
53:52 Trans Culture Context
56:34 No Blanket Answer
58:34 Mirroring Example Story
01:01:26 Discernment By Relationship
01:03:04 Jesus And The Outcast
01:03:41 Truth Versus Lying
01:04:18 Pronoun Compromises
01:06:33 Parenting LGBT Disclosures
01:09:06 Dos and Dont's List
01:13:19 Language and New Terms
01:15:40 Avoid Forced Choices
01:18:04 Guidance for Trans Kids
01:23:13 Adult Trans Child Repair
01:30:05 Resources and Book Info
01:33:09 Car Ride Mom Hack
01:35:53 Final Encouragement
Connect with Amber:
Amber Garrett Carroll is the Vice President of Impact and Parent Resources at Equip, where she helps Christian parents and churches disciple kids according to God’s wisdom for sex, sexuality, and gender. She is the creator of Equip’s comprehensive Parent Course, an eight-hour video curriculum featuring more than 50 age-specific conversation scripts to help families navigate today’s cultural questions with biblical clarity.
A former middle and high school teacher, Amber has spent nearly a decade researching, writing, and teaching on sexual stewardship, gender, pornography, and Christian formation. She regularly speaks for churches and national ministries on equipping parents for proactive discipleship, and she is the author of Ready to Talk: A Christian Parent’s Guide to Gender & Sexuality.
Amber lives in Nashville, Tennessee, with her two children.
Social media:
@AmberGarrettCarroll on Instagram
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Website:
ambergarrettcarroll.com
Book:
Available at ambergarrettcarroll.com/shop
Paperback: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GX5GRPQ1
Kindle: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0HBTYCRRS
Freebies:
Parents can check out https://ambergarrettcarroll.com/parent-prep-pack-downloads/ for free resources, including a book discount code, bonus conversation starters, and a free video teaching.
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