Moms Letting Go Without Giving Up

Before others can value us, we must value ourselves.

If you're taking responsibility for something your adult child has done, you could be falling in a trap. The GUILT TRAP. This trap will hack your energy and steal your time. You'l spend wasted hours worrying that your son or daughter's problem are your fault. We can't go back to change things, but we can go forward, reflect on the past, and change the future.

What are your gifts? What are you good at? Make a list. Ask family and friends.

Think about your child's substance use disorder. Do you have guilt about contributing to your child's trauma or your child's substance abuse?

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The questions on this day will help you make yourself a priority.

You must choose RECOVERY for yourself, even if your loved one can't.

What will you do? How will you promise to change and who will be your accountability partner?

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Watch TEDx YouTube video on ⁠HOW TO STOP THE STIGMA⁠

Lost time is never found again. -Benjamin Franklin

1. Pretend that your loved one is well again. In recovery. You receive a letter from him or her. Write what you want the letter to say. Hope for that. See this letter happening. Maybe your letter would say something like this:

Dear Mom,

Thank you for never giving up on me. I'm sorry for what I put you through when I was in active addiction. I said things I didn't mean. I did things I'm ashamed of. I am sorry. I love you forever. Your Son/Daughter

What will your letter say? Write it.

2. Pretend that you're living in your purpose and making your life meaningful by serving others, by bringing value to others using your 'sweet spot' or gifts. What could someone say to you to help you feel like it was all worthwhile? What would your letter say? What if it sounded like this?

Dear (Your Name)

You have changed my life by bringing me hope. You changed the way I used to think about addiction. Now I see my child, the one that I had written off. Together, we're building a better relationship, even though his substance use hasn't completely stop. I know now that if he should die, I will have no regrets.

Thank you, A Mom

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To learn how to LISTEN to UNDERSTAND: ⁠Watch my YouTube TEDx⁠

Watch TEDx YouTube video on ⁠HOW TO STOP THE STIGMA⁠

HOW WILL YOU CHANGE?

It's important to know the stages of change, so when our loved ones make comments about their lives, or their using, we can assess where they are in their motivation to change.

If we want to build a better relationship with others, it's important to manage how WE want to change too.

Are you motivated to change for the sake of your loved one? We want them to change, but what about us?

It's time to close the gap between havoc and hope and take charge of what YOU will do to change your reaction to him/her.

To buy the book: GO HERE.

To join our support group: GO HERE.

To learn how to LISTEN to UNDERSTAND: Watch my YouTube TEDx

Watch TEDx YouTube video on HOW TO STOP THE STIGMA

The Unhackable Series - Day 3: Identify Your Enemy

Who is your enemy? Who, or what, is getting in the way of you reaching your dreams, your goals?

Before we can change anything in our lives, we must be aware of what the problems are and where they lay so we can work to change them.

To buy the book: ⁠GO HERE.⁠

To join our support group: ⁠GO HERE⁠.

To learn how to LISTEN to UNDERSTAND: ⁠Watch my YouTube TEDx⁠

Watch TEDx YouTube video on ⁠HOW TO STOP THE STIGMA⁠

What is your deepest desire, your greatest ache, your truest longing? Find that.

When we focus on ourselves, and our interests, it helps take our minds off of our loved ones. We can't control what they do, but we can control how we spend our time, what our goals are, and who we serve.

Use your gifts to serve others and you will find a positive distraction that will bring others joy.

To buy the book: ⁠GO HERE.⁠

To join our support group: ⁠GO HERE⁠.

To learn how to LISTEN to UNDERSTAND: ⁠Watch my YouTube TEDx⁠

Watch TEDx YouTube video on ⁠HOW TO STOP THE STIGMA⁠

Day One: WRITE YOUR STORY

The greatest burden a child must bear is the unloved life of its parents. --Carl Jung

Is your addicted loved one sucking the life out of you? Are you wandering aimlessly without a healthy plan for yourself?

Start here with us.

We are Moms who have had (and still have) addicted loved ones. Let us bring you 20-25 minutes of hope for 30 days and a plan to recapture your life. Commit to joining us for 30 Days.

We can relate. We are here for you and want you to get well so you can join forces to help STOP the STIGMA and HEAL our children. They are worth our fight.

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To learn how to LISTEN TO UNDERSTAND your loved one, and NOT take responsibility for their actions, LISTEN TO MY TEDxTALK.

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This is STEP SEVEN in the book, Moms LEtting Go Without GIving Up, 7 Steps to SElf-REcovery

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"Leading is an honor. Leading from a healed space is how legends are born.

Jodee Gibson, PCC is an emerging expert on healing leadership. As a professional coach and speaker, she has created massive change and generated millions of dollars for her clients including Keller Williams Realty, National Institute of Health, the University of Michigan and the International Coaching Federation. Jodee has built award winning cultures and recently published her first book, Healing Your Map, encompassing developmental trauma.

Her book, Healing Your Map, can be found HERE.

The FIVE questions:

1. Who - Reveals process

2. What - Reveals content

3. When - Time recognition

4. Who - Reveals resources

5. Where - Reveals location

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