He needs space to feel safe. She needs connection to feel safe. No wonder you keep missing each other. In this episode, Michelle Hays explores the nervous system wiring that fuels the chase-and-withdraw dance so many couples know too well. With real-life insight and practical tools, you’ll learn how to stop making each other the enemy and start finding connection even when your bodies speak different languages. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove

Love without safety is love you have to perform for—and it will leave you lonely, even in the same room with your partner. In this episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hayes unpacks why emotional safety has become the modern must-have in marriage, what it really looks like, and three simple ways to start building it today.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove

What happens when you love your partner but don’t feel attracted to them anymore? In this episode of Monarch for Love, we peel back the shame and silence around fading desire. You’ll discover why loss of attraction is often about disconnection, not looks, and how rebuilding emotional safety, honesty, and curiosity can reignite intimacy. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com
📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove  

In this week's episode, we are unpacking one of the most common myths I hear from couples: “We just fell out of love.” The truth? Love doesn’t vanish—it fades when we stop choosing it. I’ll share how unmet needs, unspoken resentments, and quiet disconnection slowly erode intimacy, and how the belief that love should always “feel” magical keeps us stuck. You’ll hear parts of my own journey, the mistakes I made, and the shift that changed everything: realizing love isn’t about performance—it’s about presence and choice.

If your marriage feels distant, this is your reminder that love is always waiting for your return. You can start again. You can choose again. Because love isn’t just a feeling—it’s a decision, made one moment at a time. 

Website: www.monarchforlove.com

Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com

Instagram: @monarchforlove

In this week's episode, I speak to the woman standing at the edge—the one who wonders if walking away is the only way forward. Before you make that decision, I invite you to pause and ask yourself four life-altering questions. I’ll share pieces of my own story—multiple marriages, mistakes, and hard-won lessons—so you can see that leaving isn’t always the freedom it promises.If your heart is aching and you’re tempted to give up, let this episode remind you: sometimes the bravest thing you can do is stop running and choose to look inward. Because love is not about perfect people—it’s about never giving up.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com
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In this heartfelt episode of Monarch for Love, I sit down with Psychiatrist, Dr. Mariana Martinasevic, to explore how alcohol and other substances can quietly reshape the fabric of a marriage. From social drinking to dependence, substance use often creates emotional distance, hidden stress, and unspoken blame between partners. Together, we unpack when “use” becomes “abuse,” the toll it takes on intimacy, and why blame rarely leads to change.
If you or someone you love is facing this challenge, you’ll find both honesty and hope here. Dr. Martinasevich shares her insights from psychiatry, I share my personal experiences, and together we offer a way forward: protecting your emotional safety while supporting the one you love. You are not alone—healing and connection are possible.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com
📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove  

In this week’s episode, we’re naming something couples rarely admit out loud—feeling lonely in marriage. You said “I do,” you built a life together, and yet sometimes it feels like you’re miles apart under the same roof. Loneliness doesn’t mean your marriage is broken; it’s a signal that something needs attention.We unpack why loneliness sneaks into relationships—unspoken needs, distractions, fear of vulnerability, and misaligned expectations—and I share practical, heart-centered steps to bridge the gap. You’ll learn how to create daily “us” moments, spot each other’s loneliness triggers, pause with curiosity in conflict, and design rituals that bring you back together.

Loneliness doesn’t have to be a life sentence. It can be the wake-up call that leads you and your spouse into a deeper connection. Because love isn’t automatic—it’s a choice.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com
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In this week’s episode, I’m stepping into a season many couples both dread and quietly anticipate—the empty nest. After decades of parenting, the kids are gone, the routines vanish, and the house suddenly feels too quiet. It’s a season that can stir grief, relief, confusion, and the unsettling question: What’s next for us? I will be sharing personal stories, practical steps, and simple rituals to help you and your spouse move from loneliness to renewal.

Becoming empty nesters isn’t the end of your story—it’s the invitation to write a new chapter. One where you choose each other again, with fresh eyes and deeper love.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com
📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com
📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove  

Think sexy means lingerie and candlelight? Think again. In this feel-good episode, Michelle Hays and positivity powerhouse Instagram sensation Kelli Butterfly spill the tea on how playfulness, laughter, and choosing joy can supercharge your relationship. From cranky funks to contagious fun, we’re diving into why your energy matters more than your outfit—and how a little optimism can heat things up in and out of the bedroom. This episode is your invitation to flirt with life again.
Because love is a choice—and positivity is foreplay. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com
📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com
📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove 

In this heartfelt episode of Monarch for Love, host Michelle Hays gets personal and real about a common but often unnoticed relationship trap—the stories we tell ourselves. Whether it’s “He doesn’t care,” or “She never listens,” these inner narratives shape how we feel and respond in our marriage—but they’re not always true. Michelle shares candid examples from her own marriage, walks you through how to pause, reflect, and reframe those stories with love, and gives you practical tools to communicate your needs without blame. If you’ve ever felt unseen, overworked, or misunderstood, this episode will offer a powerful shift in perspective—and a loving reminder that love is a decision. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com
📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com
📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove