Money Mindset & Manifestation for the High Performer by Nichole Carlson

You may find that you have a lot of anger and frustration coming up - when you aren't even an angry person. And yeah, maybe you are tired... but a lot of times, it's because we aren't getting our needs met. This may mean we are self-sacrificing, not saying what we need to say and we are suppressing what we want or need. 

This happens a lot in our relationships and at work because we are trying to be nice or make other people happy. 

This can also come from past unresolved trauma. 

All that and more on today's episode! Tune in!

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How staying in a bad relationship or not healing from trauma in your life can keep you from money AND OR finding your purpose...

Our relationships have a HUGE impact on our work life, our income, what we think we are worth... Because our intimate relationships - if we cannot feel safe, loved, and respected THERE - that WILL play out in every area of our lives. 

My divorce was in '08 and I am STILL seeing self-worth issues come up for me in my life around work, money, my body, and all of my relationships. But I was strong, independent and I thought, "It wasn't that bad" - Uhhhh... When I hear people say that now, it's a RED FLAG. We keep programming ourselves to stay in situations that 'aren't that bad' us - but really these situations are just the slow silent death of our soul. 

LIVING is NOT staying in something that is 'not that bad'. Living is about being in a place in your life, work, relationship where you breathe deeply into your chest and fill up with gratitude. It's about feeling vibrant in your body and feeling connected to yourself and what's around you. 

A good friend of mine spent 2 years traveling the world and came back telling me all of these CRAZY stories... and he went into $20k of debt for it which is ridiculously low, I think. And he said to me, "You know Nichole, I've lived more in the last 2 years than most 80-year-olds ever have."

And really... what are you waiting for? I spent a year watching my mom die of cancer while I felt trapped in my marriage and software engineering career.

I BELIEVE... and this is sad... but I believe we need death to come knocking at our door in some form or fashion for us to really wake up to life. 

ALL your bullshit stops then. 

I mean WHAT are you giving your LIFE BLOOD FOR? Do you believe in the shit you are doing? Do you LOVE the person you are with? Are you connected to yourself? 

Question: Are YOU fundamentally living your LIFE the wrong way? 

And I feel like I get off course all of the time, but do you KNOW when you are off course? Can you adjust? THAT is the key. 

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#7: How to heal... Emotionally and physically from trauma..

How to heal...

Emotionally and physically from trauma...

Depression and anxiety...

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 In September of 2018, I had chronic crippling pain that kept me from sitting. I had to stop working out. Driving hurt. Sitting hurt. I basically was either doing physical therapy or at home lying down with my legs up and on heat or ice. 

It was devastating.  

I made little to no progress even though I had the best care and did all of the work. And then it occurred to me that this was emotional pain from trauma from 15 years ago. 

And what I learned to do was... to heal myself. And I want to share this with you.... 

How to go through the pain of healing...

Pain - bad relationship after bad relationship

Pain - trauma that happened in your business

Pain - losing money in your business or a big business failure

Pain - divorce, a broken relationship

Pain - physical pain brought on by past emotional trauma

Your pain wants you to heal..

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I went through trauma

When my dad left and my mom got cancer and died 

I didn’t think anything of it at the time

But that all coincided with the timing of my now ex-husband cheating on me 

👉I have to accept what’s available because being with someone who doesn’t cheat… That’s not realistic.

➡️And you can’t trust your desires… your desire to have the love you crave, the desire to be in a relationship with someone you trust, 

😞I ran to stay fit

😞I ran to let out my anger, my pain, my resentment

😞Every day I woke up angry

😞It was burning inside me

But I made my bed 🛏

💍I married that man who cheated on me

🤷‍♀️I “forgave” (which really meant I just shut the fuck up about what I wanted)

😤And I burned with anger… because he kept neglecting me, he kept leaving me every night when I went to bed and he stayed up working, he kept me last on his list…

But his words, I love you, you are everything, I couldn’t live without you….

I clung to them like they were drops of water in the desert… And they WERE!

I was living without the love I was craving and setting for the facade of love cloaked with a house… a career… a marriage…. “security”  - everything that WASN’T the thing I wanted, the thing I needed

➡️I was desperate to hold it all together…

I reached a tipping point…

And all I did was open my hand…🤲

And all the ‘security’…

All of the grains of sand…

Gone…

And the last 6 months…

The pain came full on after quietly sitting inside my body for over 10 years…

I couldn’t sit…

I would avoid anything where I would have to sit…

I couldn’t drive without pain…😥😩

And yes I did physical therapy every single day…

There were sessions with my PT that I would just cry…

Every day I woke up in pain…

My therapy made it more painful…

And the pain in my legs made me address the cause…

🔹The emotions…

🔹The running I did to escape the trauma…

🔹FORGIVING MYSELF FOR ABANDONING MYSELF IN MY DARKEST HOUR...

🔹FOR TURNING MY BACK ON ME...

🔹FOR PUTTING ME INTO A MARRIAGE WHERE I DIDN’T 🔹TRUST THE MAN I WAS WITH…

🔹FOR SAYING TO MYSELF, ‘NO, YOU DON’T DESERVE MORE THAN THIS’

So yes, these last 6 months have been hard for me as fuck,

But I believe that because I paid attention to my emotional healing,

this pain was my saving grace from my body telling me through a stronger message like cancer

This message is for you.

👉You have been through pain

👉You have been through trauma

👉Maybe you thought it wasn’t that bad or that you handled it well…

But it’s coming up as

📌Depression

📌Anxiety

📌Energy drains

📌Heath issues

📌Divorce

📌Relationship problems following you through multiple relationships

📌Sabotage

And I’m not saying that just because you have one of the things I listed above, that there’s something you need to heal from, but what I am saying is your body is capable of sending you messages from your soul…

And your body is capable of healing itself…

And your sabotage may be connected to a message that you need to take care of something that’s not being addressed in your life…

Just sit and listen to your body…

Maybe all it needs is to KNOW you are finally listening so that it can start the healing.💜

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#4: Blessed and Unstoppable - The hard road of success and failure with Billy Alsbrooks

I interview Billy Alsbrooks, we talk what it means to live our true identity and why we sometimes feel like a fraud. How do we keep going to close the gap from where we are to where you want to be. 

We also talk about how we can ask ourselves different questions and that will change one area of our lives and that will have a domino effect into every area of our lives. 

***MORE ABOUT BILLY ALSBROOKS***

Influencer Billy Alsbrooks is a former Billboard recording artist, songwriter, and hit producer who became a born again Christian in 2008.  After graduating from FCU, with a major in Bible Ministry, he’s now an Author, Thought Surgeon, Success Engineer, and Powerful Motivational Speaker. 

BlessedAndUnstoppable.com 

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#3: How to keep going after failure 

How do we keep going after we feel like we've failed? I talk about how I started manifesting pain in my body after my third bodybuilding competition and how devastating that was because I value my health so much. 

And I got to a point where I felt like I couldn't trust my own body and started asking, "How do you keep going when you are in so much pain?"

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#1: Stuck-ed-ness: How to stop being STUCK in your life and get into FLOW

From the LIFE CHANGING course... 

First I’m so glad you are here doing this course, showing up for yourselves, speaking up and asking questions. This program CAN change your life, but I can only give you the message you need to create a foundation to make the changes you need. YOU are the one who has to do the work. YOU are the one who has to do something LIFE CHANGING.

I know what I’m teaching you WILL change your life, but again, no one is going to come rescue you. YOU will have to show up for yourself.

Congratulations for doing just that in this program.

Last night I got a download for today’s LIVE. Why do we get stuck in problems for a crazy amount of time?

Why do we hire the coach to fix the problem…

then we don’t do the work…

then after a while we get down on ourselves,

feel frustrated,

and then we start thinking it you’ll never be able to do it.

But the problem is… The problem is that there is something we are hanging on to, that we would have to let go of…

In other words…

The problem is benefitting us in some way! (Crazy to think, right? I mean we REALLY hate this problem!)

But it’s true.

But back to your story… You start thinking you won’t be able to do it. Then you get scared and drop out of the coaching saying you don’t have the money or the time anymore, but is it really a money thing? Because we STILL really DO need to solve the problem… But maybe we just kind of give up and think, "well, I’m just a procrastinator or I’m just not that disciplined or I’m just too lazy.”

(Btw, these are also not true.)

Look. There is something going on inside of you that’s making you hold on. We just need to figure out why.

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#2: Lying is keeping you stuck...

From my LIFE CHANGING course...

Eeeek! Y'all are going to hate me! Where are you NOT being honest with yourself in your biz? In your relationships? with your health?

If you are saying, "It's not that bad." Or "I have to because..." LOOK INTO THAT. If it's not okay with you then you are out of integrity and no strategy will work.

Let's take a look at MY relationship patterns as an example. Oye... not again!

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