"Why did they wait so long to come forward? They are just looking for attention. It sounds like they had sex and then changed their mind."

People don't typically silence survivors by directly and outwardly saying that they don't care about violence. Instead, they often divert, invalidate, or question details or whole parts of a survivor's story. Gretchen Hunt has served survivors in many capacities.: as an attorney, an advocate, and even helped launch and lead a legislative survivor's council in the office of Kentucky's Attorney General. She joins us to discuss the common phrases and questions we hear. 

 

Mentioned in this episode:

 

Trauma and the Brain training video

The Undetected Rapist research

1in6

Dart Center For Journalism & Trauma

Credits:

 

Recorded by Jamie Sivrais

Voices: Jamie Sivrais, Gretchen Hunt

Music provided by Cloudkicker

Artwork provided by Aaron May

The Power of Storytelling

We hear that storytelling has power, but what does that really mean? Can telling our own story really make a difference in our lives? Does it matter how we tell our story? And furthermore, when we tell stories as a society, what are we really saying about people – especially people who have been impacted by trauma? This month we talk with Elissa Yancey about all these things and more. Elissa is the founder of A Picture’s Worth, a nonprofit information gathering tool for journalists, educators & non-profits.

Be sure to check out and follow A Picture’s Worth everywhere they are!

apicturesworth.org

Facebook

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A Picture’s Worth’s podcast can be found anywhere podcasts are found, including on Apple Podcasts.

Mentioned in this episode:

The Ladder of Inference: A general understanding

The Ladder of Inference: A deeper dive

Credits:

Recorded by Jamie Sivrais

Voices: Jamie Sivrais, Elissa Yancey

Music provided by Cloudkicker

Artwork provided by Aaron May

Decision Science is defined as "the collection of quantitative techniques used to inform decision-making at the individual and population levels." This month, Jamie talked with Michele Beaulieux, the creator of the Reservoir of Hope blog, and she is using decision science to create the My Choice Decision Navigator, part of the Our Choices Solution Facilitator.

Navigating Decisions

Decision Science is defined as “the collection of quantitative techniques used to inform decision-making at the individual and population levels.” This month, Jamie talked with Michele Beaulieux. Michele is the creator of the Reservoir of Hope blog, and she is using decision science to create the My Choice Decision Navigator, part of the Our Choices Solution Facilitator. She came on the podcast to help us understand how decision science can help survivors of sexual violence make sense of the options in front of them and get an understanding of what they actually want to happen. Read more about the Solution Facilitator here.

Special thanks to Khrys Styles and Jacqlyn Schott for providing voice acting for the sample dialogue. Khrys is the founder of The K.A.S.S.I.E. Project, a non-traditional healing initiative for survivors of sexual & domestic abuse. Jacqlyn is an actress who appeared on a previous episode of More To The Story to discuss her involvement in community theater. Listen to that episode here.

Mentioned in this episode:

Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture by Roxane Gay

Smart Choices: A Practical Guide to Making Better Decisions by John S. Hammond, Howard Raiffa, Ralph L. Keeney

“Weinstein existed,” she said, because, “it takes a village to rape a woman.”

 

Credits:

Recorded by Jamie Sivrais

Voices: Jamie Sivrais, Michele Beaulieux

Voice Actors: Khrys Styles (Miriam), Jacqlyn Schott (Liz)

Music provided by Cloudkicker

Artwork provided by Aaron May

In this first of two episodes we talk with 8 people about what communities they are a part of, how it has helped them grow, and what it has meant to them.

The second of two episodes we talk with 8 people about what communities they are a part of, how it has helped them grow, and what it has meant to them.

This is the second of a two-part episode dedicating to exploring community and what it means to different individuals. Give a listen to part 1 here.

Mentioned or referenced in this episode:

Learn more about unions

Cincinnati Rollergirls

Queersplaining – Callie Wright’s podcast

Chase Baechle’s music

Sovereign Being – Chase Baechle’s band

Credits:

Recorded by Jamie Sivrais

Voices: Jamie Sivrais, Erin O’Callaghan, Jacqlyn Schott, Callie Wright, Chase Baechle

Music provided by cloudkickermusic.com

Artwork provided by Aaron May at aaronbmay.com

Community (part 1)

The word “community” means different things to different people – sometimes it represents a geographic location. Sometimes it means a social club based on a hobby or interest. Sometimes it’s a group of people who find each other due to an identity, such as race or sexual orientation.

Whatever the definition we firmly believe that humans need other humans. We need our communities. The right community can make hard times easier, good times better, and can really become a home away from home. For this two-part episode we talk with 8 people about what communities they are a part of, how it has helped them grow, and what it has meant to them.

Already heard part 1? Find part 2 here.

Mentioned or referenced in this episode:

Mt. Healthy – Pinky and Jamie’s hometown, and the best little city in the world

LoveMustWin – A partner organization that Josh Kayes is involved with.

Bethany Ellen Artistic Imagery – Bethany Ellen’s photography

Total Power Move – Tyler Jones’ podcast

Credits:

Recorded by Jamie Sivrais

Voices: Jamie Sivrais, Pinky Anderson, Josh Kayes, Bethany Ellen, Tyler Jones

Music provided by cloudkickermusic.com

Artwork provided by Aaron May at aaronbmay.com

Jamie brings back La Shanda Sugg, LPC from Labors of Love to discuss how to ensure we can casually date while being sensitive to traumas that others have experienced.

Trauma Informed Dating

This month brings Valentine’s Day! We’ve spent a lot of time discussing how to be a good partner, but for this episode Jamie brings back La Shanda Sugg, LPC from Labors of Love to discuss how to ensure we can casually date while being sensitive to traumas that others have experienced.

Make sure to check out:

Labors of Love

Labors of Love Podcast

Labors of Love YouTube

Labors of Love Facebook

Also, learn more about Jean Baker Miller’s Mutually-Growth-Fostering Relationships (Five Good Things) here, and check out her book, Toward A New Psychology Of Women here.

You can listen to the first More To The Story episode featuring La Shanda here.

Credits:

Recorded by Jamie Sivrais

Voices: Jamie Sivrais, La Shanda Sugg

Music provided by cloudkickermusic.com

Artwork provided by Aaron May at aaronbmay.com