Motherhood Equipped

This episode is from the previous season of the podcast, focused on leadership and personal growth.

In todays episode, we cover why it's normal to want to fit in and belong, some of the reasons why we tend to feel this way, and ideas of ways around this issue of never feeling like we fit in. No matter how old we are, we all crave relationships, friendships, and connection with others, but can be met with feelings of hurt and rejection instead. 

Some reasons why we might feel like we don't fit in: 

• We can feel like we don’t belong as a result of things we cannot change, like physical characteristics or our appearance, but there are so many other (more meaningful!) ways we can connect with others.
• Having beliefs that are different from those around you can make it hard to participate in conversations, but there are ways around this as well.
• If we feel like we don’t belong just because our goals are really different from the ones our friends have, the answer is this: We can either keep our goals, have aspirations, and be ambitious, or we can change to fit the mold. That is 100% our choice.
• When we find ourselves growing in different ways or at a faster pace than our friends, we might not be interested in the same things anymore, but a little bit of patience will go along way here!
• With a little reflection, we might find that we aren't as inquisitive about others as we might think, and this can make it really hard for our friends to want to include us. So, next time you have the chance, ask your friends how they are doing and genuinely show interest! 
• Like the last reason, maybe we don't listen as well as we should, so try to be a little more open to your friend next time the two of you chat. 
• Making friends is hard and requires effort and patience, so don't give up if it just hasn't worked yet!

Listen to learn more! <3 

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This episode is from the previous season of the podcast, focused on leadership and personal growth.

As a tremendous amount of societal pressure is put on perfect plans and extreme success, how can we protect ourselves from that by having our own, solid understanding of success? How can we prepare ourselves for the best possible opportunities that could pop up along our journey? 

Your definition of success needs to be your very own, and hard work today is what will open the best doors of possibility tomorrow. That way, when life happens and plans change, we aren't stuck with living our "second best" life. We get to embrace the opportunity of change, because we are prepared! 

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This episode is from the previous season of the podcast, focused on leadership and personal growth.

Stephanie  Lanier — award-winning realtor, founder of The Inspiration Lab, and  trail-blazing mother to a son with special needs — is full of wisdom and  loving life in the little details. Her attitude of gratitude is  infectious, and her perspective given in response to our questions is  sure to give you food for thought.

Visit https://www.theinspirationlab.co/deets-on-peeps to download Stephanie’s mentioned “Deets on Peeps” PDF! It's my new must-have!
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This episode is from the previous season of the podcast, focused on leadership and personal growth.

Emotional leadership is an approach to leading that will put you head and shoulders above others in no time. That doesn't mean it is easy to cultivate, but it definitely helps to understand the building blocks that make it so unique.

Read more about the research that motivated this podcast episode here.

Basically everyone you come in contact with — doesn’t matter when or where or if you’re interacting with the most confident person that you know — everyone has a sign on their head that says “make me feel important, try to understand me, I want to be heard, seen, valued."

Or, as my husband likes to think about all this, everyone wants you to put a 10 on their forehead!

and this approach to interacting is, in a nutshell, what emotional leadership is all about, but there’s also much much more to it than that!

The four parts of emotional leadership are:

1. Self awareness

2. Self management

3. Social awareness

4. Relationship management

What are they and how can you work on them in your own leadership? Listen to learn more! <3

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This episode is from the previous season of the podcast, focused on leadership and personal growth.

Shannon Huffman Polson, a consultant, former military pilot, author, and speaker pulls from a wealth of personal testimony to train and educate on the topic of developing grit. She was in the first group of women to fly the Apache attack helicopter in the US army, an experience that gives her a unique perspective on topics such as leading authentically to who you are, rising above resistance, and staying connected with your core purpose. Shannon’s newest book, “The Grit Factor: Courage, Resilience, and Leadership in the Most Male-Dominated Organization in the World” walks readers through applicable and transformative exercises that solidify many of these hard lessons. 

Start reading her book: https://bookshop.org/shop/bestyoucanb

Meet Shannon: http://www.shannonpolson.com

Discover The Grit Institute: http://www.thegritinstitute.com/

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This episode is from the previous season of the podcast, focused on leadership and personal growth.

Sharing stories paves the way for empathy, but only if we share our stories with the heart of an others-focused leader.

Step 1. Ask yourself: Who am I sharing this story for? Am I sharing it to make myself look good or to benefit someone else? When we get into groups of friends and start exchanging those "remember when?" stories, it's easy to want to share a story for ourselves. As a leader, you should want to try and do the opposite: Share for the other person, and be okay if you don't even get to finish your entire story, because it turned into a back and forth dialogue instead!

Step 2. Share with humility. Share a story to benefit the other person even if it doesn't always show you in the most favorable light. Your vulnerability will open the door for them to grow and take away more impactful insights from your conversation.

Step 3. Share while listening to the other person. Observe his or her body language and other non-verbal cue that can let you know if what you are saying is resonating and helpful.

Next time you find yourself in a group conversation --- whether catching up with friends or meeting with coworkers --- asking yourself this simple question will help your stories resonate in a much more meaningful way!

https://www.bestyoucanb.com/post/share-your-story 

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This episode is from the previous season of the podcast, focused on leadership and personal growth.

Know the story of your life so that you can know that you -- as the star and main character -- play in it! How does knowing your story benefit you in your journey of personal growth?

• One: it places you within your right context
• Two: it makes you more confident
• Three: it will help you be a better leader! Plain and simple!

Listen for more in-depth descriptions, personal testimony, and a simple exercise to get you started off on the right foot! This exercise created a timeline in my mind that wouldn't get me get away with ignoring my accomplishments or diminishing the hardships.

For extended show notes, visit https://www.bestyoucanb.com/post/know-your-story 

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This episode is from the previous season of the podcast, focused on leadership and personal growth.

Jerry Roisentul, certified coach, speaker and trainer with the John Maxwell Team, joins us to bring personal testimony and understanding into the challenges of breaking through our limiting beliefs to be our best selves each day. He breaks down one of his most referenced quotes, "are you mastering your mindset or is your mindset mastering you?" and walks us through simple daily habits to put into practice that are applicable to reaching our goals. 

Visit http://championmentorship.com/ to learn more about the amazing business he has built and how it can help you reach your next level of personal development and breakthrough. 

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This episode is from the previous season of the podcast, focused on leadership and personal growth.

In this episode, we start with a brief definition of a strong mindset and discuss why it is so important for us as leaders to develop one. We progress into four different types of mindsets. Each of these four types of mindsets is on a spectrum, so you will get to see whether you fall more to one side, the other side, or if you are in the middle. 

These spectrums are based on research by authors Ryan Gottfredson and Chris Reina which can be read here: https://doi.org/10.1016/j.leaqua.2019.101373 

Notes on this episode: https://www.bestyoucanb.com/post/it-s-all-in-your-head-four-mindset-spectrums-where-we-should-land 

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This episode is from the previous season of the podcast, focused on leadership and personal growth.

We continue to lay the groundwork for a successful journey towards improving ourselves as leaders of others. But, before we can lead others, we must lead ourselves, and the very first step in leading ourselves is simply knowing who we are.

https://www.bestyoucanb.com/post/know-yourself-before-you-lead-yourself

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