Reviewed 3 kinds of boundaries: Protection, Safety, & Inclusion, and Boundaries in Service (Knowing what we HAVE and what we can DO). Discussed boundaries in conflict or discussions with others. Conflict vs. contention. How we can use the special skills to help us go from The Drama Triangle to the Empowerment Dynamic. Use our awareness to go from the victim to being a Creator. Use our Assertiveness to go from the Persecutor to the Challenger. Use our Listening and Problem Solving to go from Rescuer to Coach. Summary for success in conflict discussion is to stay responsible for your own self/actions, express confidence is another’s worth, and don’t take over what is another’s responsibility, and have intentions to grow not to be right.

Slides from this weeks' podcast

1-   Tuesday August 30th at 11am MT  Q&A with Ashly Leavitt on boundaries. 

2-   Ashly Leavitt is offering an awesome boundaries class starting in September. follow on Instagram  or YouTube 

or sign up to receive email notifications https://www.healingwithashly.com/contact

3-  Check out our LDDTF podcast channel where Ashley shares her 2-part story. Episodes 119 and 120.

4- Join us Tuesdays at 9am MT for our online Mom Power Live meeting. All women have mother hearts! We are currently linking arms in our open enrollment Mom Power training series. This self-paced class is free to all women. It offers an online live connection with other moms who are seeking for more peace, purpose and hope through Christ. Come connect with us

6-  One of the super empowering things offered at Mothers Who Know is Team Mom Power. Women are connecting weekly in small collaborative groups applying Mom Power principles, inattentive, powerful, heartfelt ways. We are stronger together! We are crushing the enemy of our souls when we defy isolation and power up with like-minded, Christ centered women. Your team is waiting for you!!

Reviewed Boundaries and the 1st stages of doing “boundary work”: noticing ourselves, breaking down old thought pathways, noticing boundaries around us. Boundaries in Service: Discussed and compared scriptures Mosiah 2:17 & Mark 8:35 to Matt. 7:4-5. Knowing yourself and what you have and what you can give. Went over 5 Myths of Service. Discussed the Anti-Nephi-Lehies as an amazing boundary story example. Shared take-aways on our head (what we’re going to think about), our heart (what touched our emotions), and our feet (what we will do).

Slides used in this episode:

follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ashly.leavitt/  or YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCH11bt4J1k3I_Iixbit-awQ

or sign up to receive email notifications https://www.healingwithashly.com/contact This will be the best way to receive updated information on the class as soon as it is available.

For those new to our Stay by the Tree series and Mothers Who Know, we would like to share some of our FREE resources with you:

Introduction to Boundaries: A boundary is a limit of what we can and cannot do. 3 Basic Kinds of Boundaries: Protection (all-encompassing, live all the time), Safety (based on the situation right now), Inclusion (your behaviors and what you will do.). Ways to help you develop Inclusion boundaries: Write a Personal Bill of Rights; Thinking & Identifying: feelings are your friends and give you good information. Acknowledge them & see what they’re trying to teach you; Identify Core Needs. Shared take-aways.

Please follow Ashly on Instagram or YouTube 

Slides used in this episode:

Ashly Leavitt is offering a Boundary class that will start in September. For more information  take a look at her website REJOICE and follow her on Instagram

Take a look at Ashly on her YouTube channel "Chatting with Ashly.

Check out our LDDTF (Like Dragons Did They Fight) podcast channel where Ashley shares her 2-part story. Episodes 119 and 120. 

For those new to our Stay by the Tree series and Mothers Who Know, we would like to share some of our FREE resources with you:

Ashly shares the tree types of boundaries, how we know when we need to implement a boundary, and assists many of the women in the meeting to consider their personal circumstances and how to best set up a boundary that will serve them and those they love.

Please follow Ashly on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ashly.leavitt/ or YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCH11bt4J1k3I_Iixbit-awQ.

Link to slides:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bbULBUNXIRnv-pb9eSBaWMtaj4b2c_k3/view?usp=sharing

Kim Davis comes to our 11am Warrior Mothers Who Know Meeting for a follow-up Q&A after her stay by the tree "it's all about connection" presentation. There are so many good nuggets in this, it's worth a listen! Kim shares how Satan is a sneaky magician using the Illusions and deceptions of smoke and mirrors.

The enemy subtly uses the situations happening in our lives to stir up emotional smoke and shift the mirrors to so they reflect our situation or people in the situation as the enemy.

Caring for ourselves emotionally is a big deal! Kim shares some release and restore tools to care for our emotions in her caring enthusiastic Style that makes you feel seen. We haven't had enough! We want more!

For those new to our Stay by the Tree series and Mothers Who Know, we would like to share some of our FREE resources with you:FREE ebook, "Momma Trauma: Now What?: Finding Hope When Your Child Battles Pornography or Other Challenging Issues", by Karen Broadhead, Second Edition - https://www.lifechangingservices.org/momma-trauma

TJ Rowden’s message today helps us see and understand that “The battle today, between Babylon and Zion, is being waged between the synapses of our brains.”

What exactly does that mean? It’s where the focus of our brain is. TJ teaches us that if we compare where we are now and measure it to the IDEAL, we will experience feelings of failure, frustration, disappointment, low self-esteem, and depression.

However, if we measure our circumstance from where we began to where we are now, we will gain feelings of Success, Fulfillment, Confidence, High Self-Esteem, Enjoyment and Optimism.

Sometimes it’s hard to see why 1% increase makes any difference. TJ teaches us the difference of Guilt vs Shame.

“Jesus had not finished his work when his body was slain, neither did he finish it after his resurrection from the dead; Although he had accomplished the purpose for which he then came to the earth, he had not fulfilled all his work. And when will he? Not until he has redeemed and saved every son and daughter of our father Adam that have been or ever will be born upon this earth to the end of time…That is his mission. We will not finish our work until we have saved ourselves, and then not until we shall have saved all depending upon us; for we are to become saviors upon Mount Zion, as well as Christ.”

-President Packer, October 1995, “This Brilliant Morning of Forgiveness”

“If for a while the harder you try, the harder it gets, take heart. So, it has been with the best people who ever lived… So keep loving. Keep trying. Keep trusting. Keep believing. Keep growing. Heaven is cheering you on today, tomorrow, and forever.”

-Elder Jeffrey R Holland

For those new to our Stay by the Tree series and Mothers Who Know, we would like to share some of our FREE resources with you:

Lisa has a true momma heart, especially as she shares some of her “big breaks”:  the disappointments and difficult challenges she has experienced with her children.  Before she shares the details of the circumstances, she wisely shares and gives us information about three different vessels. A Lachrymatory, or tear jar; a Herodian lamp, a lamp like what the 10 virgins might have used; and a broken bowl using the Japanese art of Kintsugi to repair it —the joining together of the pieces with a special kind of lacquer from the Urushi tree mixed with gold. The symbolism and the explanation of the different vessels is wonderful to know.

For those new to our Stay by the Tree series and Mothers Who Know, we would like to share some of our FREE resources with you:

Kim Davis’ message, “It’s All About Connection” is a hopeful message for all!  As a Behavioral Specialist for Daughters of Light, a coach for new mentor certification training for Life Changing Services, and as an Eternal Warrior coach, she has experience with connections. Especially with God and the Spirit.

Kim suggests what we can do to connect with ourselves, with God, with others, and why it is important.  The adversary seeks any opportunity to have us disconnect with others and Kim explains the enemy does so by tricking us with “smoke and mirrors”, like what a magician uses.  You’ll love her analogy and will begin to understand and see the “smoke and mirrors” the enemy might be using in your life too.

Kim encourages listeners to not see the people we love as the enemy.  Instead, behold your little ones, behold your spouse, behold yourself—open your eyes, see them, and have compassion.  Kim reminds us we are all fighting hard battles. Behold the little one in you and in your spouse or children.  God sees the mess, but He also sees the healing and infinite possibility within you.

Kim speaks of connection, love, sanctification, and exaltation. She also reminds us of this important and empowering truth she often says: “Fight the REAL battle! The REAL battle is to have the Spirit, to have the Spirit is the battle. When you win that battle, you win ALL the battles!!!”  It really is all about connection. Connecting with God through the Spirit is key.

You can learn more about Kim at https://daughtersoflight.org/ or she invites you to connect with her through email at [email protected].

We thank Kim Davis for her passionate message about connection!

“Fear not: for I have redeemed thee, I have called thee by thy name; thou art mine… I will be with thee… For I am the LORD thy God, the Holy One of Israel, thy Savior.”

Jamie Johnson, participant in the Warrior Women of Light program shares in vulnerability, her deeply sacred healing journey with Karen Broadhead, Director of Mothers Who Know and the Parent Support Specialist for Life Changing Services.

Sometimes it is impossible to explain why bad things happen to good, innocent people. “You are not defined by these terrible things that have been done to you. You are, in glorious truth, defined by your eternally existing identity as a son or daughter of God.” Elder Patrick Kearon

A wife, mother, therapist, musician, artist, lover of cats and bunnies, and brave survivor.

Jamie shares with such courage her story of long-suffering and journey of discovering how to apply the atonement of Jesus Christ to the healing she needed after years of abuse.  Her unique story is one we don’t want to believe is real. It hasn’t been an easy road for this sweet, powerful, warrior sister who developed Dissociative Identity Disorder to cope with her hardship.

Jamie desires to share her story because over the years she has come to recognize who she is in her story as she came to understand she was more than the bad things that have happened to her…SHE IS HIS!  She wants you to know that your story also matters. Her hope is that you will be inspired to fight to heal, even if your story is unique or unusual, by listening to her story.  She knows what it feels like to feel different.

“It’s okay if your story is not the typical story because Heavenly Father knows you. He knows your story. He knows you by name, and you matter. Your unique story matters!”

No matter how big and unique, or small and mundane your challenges seem, Jamie, thinks it’s important that you know,  you can get through this, it’s the same things that help, it’s not going to be easy and it’s not going to work alone. You can’t do it by yourself!

Jamie has come to trust the kindness and love she receives in Warrior Women of Light.  She also appreciates the accountability, the spiritual border patrol actions, and mindful tools. The approach of line upon line, small simple step learning has brought her more sobriety and greater self-compassion in her healing.

Jamie noticed that part of her journey to healing was to understand how to apply the Savior's atonement. She had been taught the steps of repentance but realized that she had never learned the steps of healing.   We don’t need to repent of things that are forced upon us, or things that are outside our control, but we need to fight to heal.

“Those experiencing abuse, violence, or oppression may ask if they are beyond repair or are eligible for the blessings of the Savior’s Atonement. Whatever has happened to you, He is not ashamed of you or disappointed in you. He loves you in a way you have yet to discover. And you will discover it as you trust in His promises…Our merciful Savior, victorious over darkness and depravity, has the power to right all wrongs.” Elder Patrick Kearon

Jamie references Elder Patrick Kearon’s General Conference talk on April 2, 2022, “He Is Risen With Healing in His Wings: We Can Be More Than Conquerors”  We also encourage you to also consider it if you have been abused and need the Saviors healing power in your life. https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2022/04/24kearon?lang=eng

Please be sure to mention the mental health month. We are sure you will agree with us that Crystal Tavenner's hope shines brightly before us, as you notice in her friendly, thoughtful, faith-filled voice that despite her mental health challenges, it is well with her soul. Crystal is an atmosphere angel and an expert in the mental health field because of her own journey. Mental health challenges are something she knows and has lived. Her courage to remember why she fights to live and doesn't give up is inspiring and such a gift to all who know and love her. We here at Mothers Who Know adore Crystal, and we are so glad she is here to strengthen and bless us.  Crystal has a gift for bearing testimony of our Savior whenever she shares her thoughts. This comes from years of relying on Him to ease her burdens and assist her in her mental health journey. Crystal currently serves as a class administrator in one of our four Team Mom Power groups, and as tech support for mothers who need assistance to level up in their tech savvy, so they can participate comfortably in our MWK resources. She has a beautiful mothers heart, a loving empathy for others, and she is a gifted, natural teacher.

She is a poet and creator of inspiring resources here at Mothers Who Know.  Please take a look in the show notes.

Hang on, fight, hope, never give up. You are not alone.  1 in 5 American adults experience a mental illness {National Institute of Mental Health} but hope is alive.  Talk to a doctor, connect with friends or family. Don’t be afraid to reach out…. there is light at the end of the tunnel.

“Don’t give up…Don’t you quit. You keep walking. You keep trying. There is help and happiness ahead…You keep your chin up. It will be all right in the end. Trust God and believe in good things to come.”

“Because Jesus walked such a long, lonely path utterly alone, we do not have to do so.”

“Fighting through darkness and despair and pleading for the light is what opened this dispensation. It is what keeps it going, and it is what will keep you going.”

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”  Philippians 4:6-7

Hang on, fight, hope, never give up. You are not alone.

1 in 5 American adults experience a mental illness {National Institute of Mental Health} but hope is alive.  Talk to a doctor, connect with friends or family. Don’t be afraid to reach out…. there is light at the end of the tunnel.

The semicolon has become a symbol of hope for those fighting the battle of mental illness ~ A semicolon is used when an author could’ve ended their sentence, but chose not to.

The author is you and the sentence is your life.

To see more of Crystal's beautiful creations click on the following link:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1EeAdWNOfDDI9Vamw1SQ5hii2ZMzS25JQ/view?usp=sharing