Mouthful with Beloved Sechele

I sit down with one of my best friends, Mamello Marite, and we discuss the complexities of friendships and romantic relationships. We talk about possessiveness, insecurities, communication, the role of our egos in how we relate to one another, and many other relational topics! All of this, coming from our varying perspectives - her, as someone in a romantic relationship; and myself, as a single body.

Enjoy!

Bouncing off of a rather controversial statement that a very well known gospel artist has made; this conversation is going to be on whether or not it is fair to classify women as hoes or wife material, the role that the church and other organized social structures play in such classification, the respectability politics that have a hand in such classification, as well as the standardization of marriage as an accolade.

I'd like to preface with a trigger warning. This episode is on beauty standards, pedophilia, pedophilic disorder, molestation and sexual predatory behaviours. There is great mention made of sexual violence and the like.

Should you wish to consult the sources that I made mention of, please follow the links below;

Cape Talk interview with Dr Eve:

http://www.capetalk.co.za/articles/261647/why-pedophiles-are-different-from-child-molesters-dr-eve-explains

Teddy Bear Clinic And Another v Minister of Justice and Constitutional Development And Another:

http://www.saflii.org/za/cases/ZACC/2013/35.html

Unpacking the 2-year age-gap provision in relation to the decriminalisation of underage consensual sex in South Africa:

http://www.sajbl.org.za/index.php/sajbl/article/view/594/576

Criminal Law (Sexual Offences and Related Matters) Amendment Act 32 of 2007

https://www.gov.za/documents/criminal-law-sexual-offences-and-related-matters-amendment-act

Behaviours of Sexual Predators: Grooming:

https://www.icmec.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Behaviors-of-Sexual-Predators-Grooming.pdf

This episode marks the debut of features, and does so with a very special guest. I brought along with me Samkelo Khumalo (widely known as JaysVillas) to have a very frank conversation about patriarchy and its affects on men. Tune in on the discussion on the detriment that the system bears to even those who greatly benefit from it. Don't forget to engage and enjoy!

There has been quite a peculiar response to Saweetie having presumably cut her hair. This sparks the premise of this episode's discussion around the relationship between black women and their hair.